Because I can t speak, my interpersonal relationships are very poor, what should I do

In fact, you are too sensitive, others don't think of you like this at all, you think too much, and even look for answers on other people's expressions, have you asked them how they feel? Just say what you feel in your heart when you speak, you don't have to think about it, and you're afraid of saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, and you have too much guilt, you are living for others, and it's not good to go on like this. The root knot is lack of self-confidence.

You yourself have a big problem, seize and learn how to get along with people. I recommend you read a book - Speech and Eloquence.

You and I may be a little bit the same, I'm also a bad verbal person. Well, even if we can't speak, then we have common characteristics, and I'm here to leave mine. Let's be friends!

I suggest you take a look at those friends who are left and right! Look at how they communicate. In addition, you can read more books on this subject, sometimes take the initiative to say hello to friends, and occasionally send a few humorous short messages.

Isn't that good? When your friend is unhappy because you said the wrong thing, you can take the initiative to admit your mistake to him. Sometimes you can be thick-skinned and don't have too much self-esteem.

What you learn in the book, you can also put it into practice.

Chat is an art and a form of wisdom.

First of all, reflect on yourself, why is it that you speak so badly? Is it to speak by yourself? Or uncover other people's scars. If you don't get the other party's pain points, then the communication can still continue (so don't expose other people's scars).

Communication definitely requires skills, such as politeness, humor, etc., but skills are based on content. For example, I chat with you, I graduated from junior high school, you are studying for a bachelor's degree, I talk to you about my life after marriage, talk about my work in society, talk about pornography, etc., then communication is definitely not good, although it is the same age, there is also a generation gap. Or are we both undergraduates, I'm confused, and you're going up every day, so I'll talk to you, talk about games, and skip class?

So effective communication is built on content, and that's when it comes to content.

There is poetry and books in the belly, so read more books.

Read more books and talk more with the noble souls of mankind. Reading really improves one's cognition and the way one interacts with people.

Learn social skills: If you don't have any physical problems, then you can improve your ability to interact with people by learning social skills. Consider taking a social skills training course or seeking professional help such as psychological**.

Find support: The person's family and friends can be a great resource to support them in building social skills and enhancing their ability to interact. They can provide support and encouragement to help the person adapt to the social environment.

Get along with people and communicate more. The hot one loves life and does everything positively. Participate in social activities such as friends and family gatherings, and share happiness with friends, etc., to improve one's comprehensive ability.

First of all, we must take the matter of speaking in perspective. Whether it is at work, at school, between friends or family, the purpose of speaking is to communicate: communication at work, emotional communication, and learning communication.

And being able to talk is not a lot of words, some people talk a lot, and the whole is twittering, but everyone hates it. And some people don't talk much, and from time to time they say some classic words, and everyone will think that this person is very powerful. Therefore, the purpose of speaking is not to see how much is said, but to see whether there is effective communication.

Secondly, you must take a correct view of the fact that you are stupid and can't speak. The reason why you are stupid and can't speak does not mean that you are worse than others, because everyone has their own good side, don't completely deny yourself because you are stupid and can't speak. Stupidity and inability to speak are often caused by the growth environment, when we are children, we can't choose our own growth environment, but when we grow up and become adults, we have to be responsible for ourselves.

Before the age of 20, we are determined by our parents and the environment in which we were raised, but after the age of 30, we are determined by ourselves. Therefore, you in your 20s should start to actively change yourself from this moment.

Thirdly, it is necessary to correctly understand the real reason why the mouth is stupid and cannot speak. People who are stupid and can't speak often don't suddenly become stupid and can't speak, but have been stupid and can't speak for a long time. Those who are stupid and can't speak lose the opportunity to learn to speak because they have little communication with people since they were young and don't like to talk.

And those who can talk tend to be more talkative from an early age, the so-called practice makes perfect, so when they grow up, they can also talk. Therefore, the reason why the mouth is stupid and can't speak is because I say too little, communicate too little with people, and have less knowledge, so I feel unfamiliar with the matter of talking, and I naturally don't know what to say when I meet people.

Finally, let's take a look at what to do if you can't speak. As mentioned above, there are two reasons why the mouth is stupid and can't speak: less knowledge and less talk.

So, we need to get the right medicine. First of all, you must build self-confidence and dare to change yourself. You can read more books, cultivate some of your hobbies, participate in more activities, and experience more things to increase your knowledge, and the more you know, it is often easier to talk to people.

Moreover, in some activities and social occasions, you can also see that others are talking by themselves, the so-called once born and twice cooked, and you can also learn from others next time. Again, you need to think a little about yourself when you speak, and don't say things that hurt others, so as not to cause misunderstandings.

Then learn to respect, learn to be courteous, and enrich your knowledge.

Try to accept him and reflect on yourself, in fact, it is not very difficult to communicate, and seriously go to a psychiatrist.