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Because men are rational creatures.
Differences in brain structure determine what men and women do when they're unhappy
Men's feelings focus on solving problems rather than talking, while women's feelings focus on talking first and then solving problems. So when a woman feels unhappy, she needs emotional support. And when a man is distressed, the best way to be loving is to give him space.
If the little couple on the earth knew and made full use of this secret, it is estimated that there would be a little less smoke and war.
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The most difficult project in the world is to transform people's inner world! People must be able to take it, and they must be able to put it down. Affordability is survival, and letting go is life; It is the ability to take it, and it is wisdom to let it go.
Some people can't take it, so they don't care to put it down; Some people can afford it, but they can't put it down. If you can't afford it, you will be mediocre; If you can't let it go, you'll be exhausted. There are many things in life that need to be let go.
Only by letting go of those unnecessary burdens can we move forward in style.
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Because you can't use your hands, you can only move your mouth.
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Men are more rational in themselves, even if you are lovers, when you encounter problems, he will still rationally find out the key to the problem and find out the cause of your conflict. The essence of men like to be reasonable is that they like to solve the problem fundamentally, if in a relationship, your contradictions can never be resolved, every time there is a contradiction, kissing and hugging will fool the past, but it is not conducive to the sustainable development of the relationship, men like to be reasonable, that is, they want to solve the root of the problem, but women see men like to be reasonable as he does not understand you at all.
Second, in fact, no matter how much a man loves you, he can't help but want to be reasonable.
No matter how much a man loves you, he will want to reason with you without holding back, holding back his words, it is too uncomfortable, and he will feel relaxed when he says it. In fact, compared to men who like to talk about filial piety, men in the Cold War are more overwhelmed by you, and they like to reason with you to prove that he is still patient with you.
3. The love that men want is actually equal, not to lower their dignity to please you.
What a woman wants to find is a man who will coax her to hail, who will lower her dignity to protect her, and praise her even when they quarrel, but what do men want? Men's ideal love is equal, and there is no need to lower their dignity to please.
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One: I hope you understand the cause and effect and avoid making mistakes again and being hurt.
But any person with a complete personality and can love himself will not ask his partner to tolerate and spoil himself unconditionally and unprincipledly, unless it is a lack of love, unable to love himself, which refers to the inability to give himself love, then there will be excessive demand for the other half, in order to meet and balance his lack of love defects.
But a healthy relationship must be mutually progressive, and you can get positive energy from each other.
Coaxing you, on the surface, satisfies your emotional value, but in fact it indulges you and puts you at risk of making mistakes and being hurt again, which is not positive energy.
If it is a contradiction between two people, then he will say his opinion, and he also hopes that you will know what he thinks, which will also help to shorten the distance between the two and find the best way for the two to be mutually exclusive.
Therefore, when you know that you are angry, you have to be reasonable if you don't coax people to be poor.
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Men are more rational than emotional, so they must say a truth in everything. This happens to be the opposite of women, so don't talk to girls about anything, you can tell you if you care about it.
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Probably because I'm a little arrogant!
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Many girls are emotionally frustrated, in fact, in many cases, it is the result of inherent feminine thinking. To sum up, it is that men and women think things from different angles and do things in different ways.
What we want to talk about this time is why men always like to be reasonable.
Men like to be reasonable, this is the norm; And couples often quarrel with each other because of this matter. In fact, to put it bluntly, it is because girls feel that boys care about themselves or are not patient enough, so they have been trying to get boys to come over and coax themselves, and boys are always concerned about what they have done wrong.
Why is this so?
Because it's caused by the man's thinking pattern, and you don't know that well, you don't know what's going on in the man's mind in that situation. In fact, from a man's point of view, if I want to reason with you, it's not a bad thing, and it's not what you think. If I reason with you, I just don't love you anymore and don't tolerate you.
There's a word called unreasonable, which is what boys use to describe this scene.
And in the hearts of boys, it is precisely because I care about you that I want to use reason to convince you of your unreasonableness.
Many girls think that it is irresponsible for boys to reason with them and argue right and wrong. In fact, for many men, he reasoned with you just to calm your anger, but it was just a method he used that you didn't understand.
Man is a rational animal, when he solves a problem, his instinctive reaction is to find the reason for the occurrence of the matter, and then solve it fundamentally; This is also a normal mode of thinking for men to do things.
For example, if the two of you are arguing and your boyfriend sees that you are angry, his first reaction is to think about how I can calm your anger. And according to his line of thinking, I want you to calm your anger, and the most direct way is to find the reason for your anger, and then I will solve the problem for you according to your reason.
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Men are more rational than women, while women are more emotional.
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Whether girls are in love or married, they hope to meet a boy who is more gentle and considerate and good to them. Although it is inevitable that two people will often quarrel and contradict each other when they are together, whenever this happens, girls hope that the other half can tolerate them, instead of reasoning with themselves and preaching to themselves with a condescending attitude. A man who loves to be reasonable is really scary, if the girl's personality is not docile enough, she will only be discouraged when she meets such a man, and she is unwilling to continue to associate with him.
1. He doesn't love you enough
Those men who like to tell you big truths and preach to you at every turn, on the surface, in the name of caring about you, say that he will treat you like this because he cares about you, but as everyone knows, such a man does not really love you at all. Because a man who truly loves you, he will be patient with you, treat you gently, and will be willing to tolerate you, but he is also afraid that saying the wrong thing will hurt you.
2. He is very self-conscious
Men who like to preach to their other half at every turn in life often live more self-consciously, and this kind of person has a kind of machismo in his bones. No matter when he always feels that he is right, as long as the girl does not obey his own intentions, he will feel unhappy, and he will want to preach to the girl.
3. He has a strong desire to control
Men who like to reason with girls and use long speeches to lecture girls at every turn are also very controlling. A girl is actually not happy at all when she falls in love with this kind of man, because what he needs is not a girlfriend who truly loves him, but a puppet tool man who is obedient to him and can be manipulated by him.
4. He is hypocritical
In reality, many reasonable men are actually very hypocritical. Don't look at him always pretending that he is very sincere and cares about you to teach you to be a man, in fact, many of the big truths they just say, they can't do it at all, I have to say, this kind of man should not be too double standard. When a woman encounters such a hypocritical man, there is no need to be docile to him.
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Reasoning should be the inherent rational thinking of men.
Men and women have different ways of thinking, men are rational thinkers, and women are emotional thinkers. When they quarrel, the boys are focused on the problem itself, while most girls care more about the other party's posture and pretense. Often, the more the boy speaks, the more angry the girl's heart becomes.
But girls should understand that the man is willing to take the time to reason with you, which shows that he is a normal man, and the scumbag who has plans for you will obey you unconditionally. Boys should also keep in mind that a sentence of "I was wrong" is a panacea, no matter who is right or wrong, these three words will immediately soothe the anger of girls, and can also reflect gentlemanly demeanor.
No matter how good the relationship is, couples and couples will quarrel, because a little trivial thing negates that the relationship between the two is not worth it, and mutual understanding and frank communication can last for a long time.
Reasoning is the premise for two people to go further.
If your girlfriend is a girl with a positive outlook and a sensible attitude, you can coax you when you are angry. Because even if she did something wrong, she knew that she was wrong, but she was a little unable to get off the stage or had a lot of face, she could coax, and she also knew that I was accommodating her and understanding her.
If your girlfriend's three views are not correct, and she knows that she is wrong and will not admit it, she just wants you to coax, or she doesn't know that it is her own problem at all, then you have to be reasonable. The process of reasoning is also a run-in of various concepts between two people, which can make both parties better understand each other's three views, and can better judge whether two people are suitable.
Reasoning is the premise for two people to go further, blindly coaxing, just like drinking to quench thirst, is to temporarily suppress the problem and accumulate it.
I'm very disgusted by people who say that it's okay to talk to their girlfriends about what they do, and that people who say that they are either very naïve, have lost themselves, or are discriminating against women.
Healthy gender relations should be based on the premise of equal communication, rather than one party always making compromises. And the girls who keep asking their boyfriends to make changes and compromises are either pastoral feminist princess disease or quite selfish people.
Boys who love to reason with you must love you super much.
The boy who loves to reason with you must love you very much, although you don't like to listen to the reason, but he is all for your good, I hope you will not make mistakes in the future, and will not be sad because of this, and the boy who loves to reason must not have experienced too much love and hatred, relatively speaking, it will be more straightforward, maybe you don't like to listen to many things, you think it is chanting, but he must love you.
If a boy doesn't reason with you, doesn't analyze with you, no matter what you say, he will coax you directly and don't ask you why, it means that he doesn't care much about this matter, and just wants to get you done quickly, and has the potential to be a scumbag.
The guy who loves you likes to be reasonable, so don't bother him, cherish it.
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