It was I who proposed to break up, and now I want to redeem it, and the man wants to break up

Honestly, I don't even want to comfort you. As a girl, it's like this because of your birthday, it's good for you to be angry and play a tantrum, why do you always talk about breaking up. Who will stand this?

Your boyfriend is also a self-respecting person, you say it's divided, why should you listen to you when you say that you are reconciled? Think about it, if you have been like this before, maybe your boyfriend has put up with it for a long time.

You're giving him more time to think about it.

Why bother, a little ambition is good? Divide is divided!!

You'll meet even better!

As the so-called good horses don't eat back grass, boys and girls who go out of their way change with him will not be perfect in their lives in the future.

Wearing sandals to feast on the scum can be on the street, and the matching is also very comfortable.

A pair of sandals with cropped pants and a casual t-shirt will look good.

Hello! There is no need to feel aggrieved and sad about this kind of thing, blaming your girlfriend for being unfair to yourself is better than hating yourself for being incompetent, and it is not very useful to others, so it causes others to alienate yourself! Work hard to improve your ability and strength, they are naturally unwilling to alienate you, and even slap you!

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Let it be. Start over by yourself, the new doesn't come to the old. I'm a shooter man, and I have my own inner thoughts.

The key is to figure out why he shouted points before, and why he wants to get back together now, be careful of hidden feelings, and self-esteem is a trivial matter.

Helpless. I'm not sure what I want. Apathy, evasion, and ignorance are all manifestations of dissatisfaction and distraction.

What do you think, make it clear in person. It's good for yourself and for others.

It's not good to be ambiguous. Be clear about what you think, and say it clearly.

He should be angry, so he will ignore you, and it is recommended that you can ask your friends for help, because breaking up will definitely hurt one person for two people, so you must learn to deal with it correctly.

Because of knowing is the courage.

I want the girl to ask for his sense of security, to prove his ability and hints.

You downstairs don't understand, when this situation appears, there are nothing more than two situations, one is that he still loves you very much, and he is friends with you because he wants to know if you are doing well in the future, and he does not contact you because he is afraid that he can't help but contact you every day, annoying you, and even hating him. The second is that he really doesn't have you in his heart, being friends with you is nothing more than face, machismo, as for why he doesn't contact you, I don't need to say it. If you like it, give it points.

I don't think it's irreparable. In the big picture, it is always said that there are no more than two kinds of breakups, one emotional and the other decidative. The former are mostly fake breakups, and the latter are mostly real breakups.

The difference is that an emotionally induced breakup is only a temporary impulse. Even if a person says that he does not love, he will regret it afterwards and cannot let go, that is, he has love in his heart.

However, if the breakup is decided by reason, it is a deliberate choice that shows that he really doesn't love, or that love is so small that it can be completely controlled by reason。Many people fall into the word "love" after a breakup, always wondering if he still loves me, and I am often asked if I still need to save it if he doesn't love me. In fact, this idea is very stupid.

Especially in a real breakup, the premise of your recovery is to accept the fact that he no longer loves you, and whether you want to recover or not depends entirely on how you feel about him, whether you are suitable for being together, whether you can have a future, and whether you are willing to adjust your thinking and put your energy into something impossible. It doesn't matter if he still loves you or not. From the moment he decides to separate from you, you should be clear that he doesn't love you.

However, not loving Him does not mean despair, since the process of redemption itself is the process of rekindling His love。One thing that must be understood here is that love is not an eternal attribute, but an ever-changing state. He wasn't born to love you, he had to love you.

He is attracted to you when he first comes into contact with you and starts to like you. And then in contact, for some reason, it could be that you're doing too much, you may not see hope for the future, and so on.

This love slowly fades away, and when it reaches zero, he proposes to break up. Although love is consumed, if you handle it properly, you still have a chance to attract him to establish love again as you did at the beginning, and this is our recovery process. As a result, many people constantly grasp the word "love" in the process, emphasizing that they love him very much, asking him if he still loves him, and talking about sad memories.

This is mostly a meaningless act. However, the restoration of true separation has only one purpose, and that is to attract the other person again. So it's not necessarily irretrievable.

I really can't reconcile, so I let go happily, and there is no point in barely leaving a body by my side. Pain can sometimes bring out the best in a person.

Because he becomes a better you, but not for him, there will be a better one waiting for you ahead!

Don't keep thinking that there will be surprises every day.

It's irreparable.

It depends on how much he loves you.

It's quite possible that he did something sorry for you.

First of all, as a man, there is nothing more worrying about him than his career.

A man in love may temporarily break away from his career and simply fall in love, but once something touches him, or when the relationship reaches a certain level, once something unpleasant happens, such as "I proposed to break up, in fact, I just wanted to try him at the time", but at this time, the man may think, is it appropriate for me to fall in love now? Maybe the woman "started to think that he was looking for it again, but no, but he just didn't pay much attention to me", at this time, the man, I think, is ready to shift his focus on one of his "work", that is, his mind is not on this love. Let's just say that the timing is wrong!

I feel that the man is more ambitious, and if you can accept other aspects of him, then he is indeed a person to rely on.

Secondly, for a person who doesn't want to spend his mind on love, we should have no other way than to wait for the opportunity to grab his heart again.

So what you said, "I don't want to force him during this time", I also strongly agree, but will it happen, for example, after too much time, his feelings will really fade, of course, it is completely possible. There is no best way to recover such an "abandoned" relationship, it depends on whether it is suitable or not: first, you continue to show that you care about him, of course, provided that you still cherish yourself and can live confidently.

Maybe one day he will come back to value this feeling. The result should be what you want to see. However, it may also be that your behavior makes him feel bored, at this time, if you are still interested, if the relationship is still there, you can still maintain your unique love, of course, it is also possible that you will reflect on yourself, it is not worth it, then, you will take the initiative to give up this relationship.

The second is that you jump directly into the threshold of not caring about him and not paying attention to this relationship, you choose to give up first, still live a wonderful life, and wait for the arrival of the second true love. However, it seems to be a wise approach, but it may not be easy for people to accept at this juncture of feelings, so there are always people who say that in the world of feelings, there is no saying who is right and who is wrong, only you are attentive!

Hope it helps!

The moment he tells you to break up, I believe that your heart is almost broken, and you don't even know what you did to cause such a result. At this point, you may be confused, what to do next? How can I go back in time? How can you get him back to you?

Before this, you may have tried kneeling, licking, pestering, or even threatening, and found that it had no effect, or some effect, but it was minimal.

When he breaks up with you, it means that there have been problems between you for a long time, and most of the problems are on you. Maybe you knew there was a problem, but you chose to avoid it, maybe you didn't know what the problem was, and he gave you a lot of opportunities to find out, until you finally lost patience.

So, when he is determined to leave, how do we redeem it?

Clause. 1. You have to change your impression of him.

Review what he pointed out about your shortcomings, such as whether your temper is princessy, or you are lazy, and you are reluctant to dress up when you go out, and you are unwilling to do housework at home. If you have these deficiencies, pay more attention to those who have a bad temper and practice controlling their emotions; Discover your beauty, improve your taste, and appear in front of him in a new image that will dazzle his eyes.

Clause. 2. Turn grief and anger into motivation.

Don't let your mind dwell on the grief of a broken love for too long, it's understandable that a broken love is uncomfortable, but you have to set yourself a time period for sadness and then pick yourself up again, usually one to two weeks, and you can find an appropriate way to vent your emotions during these two weeks. But remember, don't harass the other person or their relatives and friends so as not to put pressure on them.

The first is to recover and release the negative prediction and pressure of the other party later, and the second is to let the other party know that you can live well without him, and not let yourself fall too cheaply in front of him.

Clause. 3. Expose your needs appropriately.

There are strict standards for the control of this process, and it is generally not recommended to do it yourself. Because once you expose too many needs, it will cause psychological pressure on the other party, so as to avoid or even block you, and once you expose too few needs, the other party may not understand your intentions.

Clause. 4. Admit mistakes and correct them.

Since you broke up and the fault lies with you, what we need to do at this time is not to justify, but to admit our mistakes honestly, and seek a solution to let the other party know your determination.

Therefore, redemption is an art, and if you don't learn and refuse to ask for advice, then you can only keep repeating the mistakes of the past. Want to understand the pitfalls that tend to occur in recovery? Want to know why your boyfriend broke up with you? Want to get your true love back?

Wanhuimiji** "Redeeming the Standardization Process" book. There are many detailed techniques for saving love (such as the law of freezing, the three-three-three chat method, the puzzle theory, etc.), as well as knowing how to get along with the object more harmoniously.

will apologize to you, say good things, make you happy, and apologize if you don't know it, then the plenary meeting will be right.

Then try to redeem it, and pull it down if it doesn't work.