What do you think about funerals in the countryside? What are the details of a rural funeral?

Weddings and funerals are major life events that should be taken seriously. It is necessary for relatives, friends, colleagues and comrades-in-arms to say goodbye to the body one by one, and hold a memorial service or memorial service to remember the deceased. For those who contribute to society, it is also necessary to have a more solemn ceremony.

Funeral culture is a very important part of China's etiquette culture, all ethnic groups, regions and all walks of life, there are different customs, we should respect, in general, do not intervene, do not interfere, do not judge. It is not appropriate to have a funeral that is beyond financial means, or to be handled too hastily.

Rural customs and habits are too wasteful of money, waste of time, waste of human feelings, waste of emojis, waste of saliva, waste of mobile phone bills, waste of food, is a burial, but also pollute the environment, in short, it is a waste, but also a second burial, find a treasure of feng shui, a good place for feng shui master identification, hey, in short, it is messy, I propose to cremate the whole people, not burial, as if there are regulations in rural Guangxi.

There are many taboos in rural funerals, and each place is different, no matter what the form, it is a kind of mourning for the deceased by the living, and we should respect this. In rural areas, burials are generally used, and a special master is optimistic about the direction and measures the size of the tomb, and then the young strong man begins to dig the soil, and it must be carried out according to the size. I believe that no matter how many incomprehensible behaviors are in rural funerals, as a bystander, you must learn to respect them even if you can't understand them.

I think that rural funerals are a kind of nostalgia for the deceased, and it is also a reminder to future generations to honor their elders, which is a culture that we should inherit.

It makes no sense to toss the living, and what to do when a person dies. What's more, they are all relatively feudal and superstitious funerals with superstitious colors, which is really a waste of money for the people. A simple memorial service is enough!

China's rural areas are relatively vast, there are many ethnic groups, and the customs are different in various places, and there are many exquisitenesses, which are much more solemn than urban funerals. Four words to summarize the funeral in the countryside, "feudal superstition", and add a definite phrase "for the living".

I don't support the big operation, I hope that the first can implement the drone scattering of ashes business, come and go clean, dust to dust, soil to soil, and leave every inch of land for future generations.

Some time ago, I went to a rural funeral, the old man died, he should be allowed to go peacefully, his family invited a lot of singers, as well as singing, and set up a stage at night, the whole is very lively, I personally feel a bit like singing, for the old man died, the family didn't seem to be sad at all, the whole thing was changed. Child.

When this ritual first appeared, it must have been extremely solemn, and its purpose must have been to let go of the regrets of those who had gone and go all the way. It's just that today it has evolved into a farce for the surviving people!

Rituals are a form of commemoration of an event that has been handed down in China since ancient times, and it is often accompanied by some magical myths, for the older generation, the importance of this ritual is self-evident, and for young people who have accepted a higher and more open mind, the essence of the event is often greater than the form.

As a child during life, you must be filial to your ability, and after death there is nothing at all, and there is no need to waste too much

These are all customs that have been passed down from them, and I think you can understand it.

1. Crying spirits and guarding spirits.

After the death of an elder in the family, the children will dress him in a longevity coat and shoes, and then put an iron pot on the ground next to the bed to burn the paper money.

2. Burial.

There are large and small burials, the big burial is to put the dressed deceased into the coffin prepared in advance, and the small burial is to change the life clothes and shoes for the deceased. This must be done by the children of the deceased, and no one else can do it for them. If there are no children, they will be replaced by siblings.

3. Funeral.

Funeral is the most important part of the whole funeral. At this time, the children of the deceased, relatives, friends, and distant neighbors gather together, and the onmyoji recites the final prayer, and the children, relatives and friends kneel in linen and filial piety before the spirit, and cry loudly.

4. Burial.

The whole burial process is also very solemn, first the coffin is placed on the edge of the "golden well" dug in advance, and when the onmyoji arrives, the sutra is also recited.

Funeral elegy. The lyrics of the elegy include two chapters of "Pickle Dew" and "Artemisia Li", which were written by the disciples of Tian Heng in the Han Dynasty. At that time, Tian Heng committed suicide, and the doorman mourned him, so he sang sadly.

The meaning of the lyrics is that people are like the dew on the shallots, which are easy to dry and perish, and they think that the soul of the person is dead and returns to the artemisia in the south of Mount Tai. So there are these two chapters.

Original text: The elegy, the joy of mourning, and the voice of harmony among those who hold on to the scarf. The elegy has two chapters of shallot, Artemisia Li.

Hantian Hengmen people. Horizontal suicide, people are injured, sad songs, words: people are like shallot dew, easy to dilute; It is also said that when a person dies, the soul returns to Artemisia.

Therefore, there are two chapters. ("Sou Shen Ji").

In our case, if the old man dies, the people of the village, whether male or female, basically go to pay their filial piety. Of course, they are all adults, no matter the elders or the younger generations, they basically have to kneel and kowtow. That is, the saying that death is great, when the steward spends the paper, who is ready to kneel, the filial son standing on both sides will immediately be entangled, not allowed to kneel and kowtow, of course, kneeling is also a kind of etiquette, which is unavoidable.

Basically, they don't kneel down, and then when they bow.

After entering the coffin, in the memorial ceremony, it is basically three bows and nine kowtows, that is, nine kowtows. If there are young people, those who don't know the way to come, those who don't know the customs, and those who invite guests will let them be simple, pour three cups and sprinkle them, and knock the four heads of the tomb at any time, and also call the four kowtows. If it comes to the old truth, then it will be troublesome.

That's twenty-four knocks.

Twenty-four knocks, not many now, but there are still some, basically three bows and nine knocks. In rural funerals, the most common is three bows and nine kowtows, and the uncommon ones are four kowtows and twenty-four kowtows. Of course, in China, no matter which province, in the rural funeral, there will never be three kowtows, of course, when paying tribute to the ancestors, three kowtows will be formed, the same as worshipping the Buddha, Xie Pi Qi Xie.

A person with a big pattern has a broad vision and a broad mind. On the contrary, people with a small pattern have a narrow vision and a not very broad mind.

Tomorrow is the day of the funeral of my husband and grandfather, and according to rural customs, important guests will go to mourn and pay tribute on the first night of the funeral. On this day, the affairs of the host family are more complicated, but despite this, greeting the guests who come to pay their respects is the hospitality of the host family, and must not be ignored.

I have participated in countless funerals, but today it is an eye-opener.

My husband's grandfather had a total of five sons, except for the second son, who died early more than 50 years ago, and the remaining three sons are all by his side. My grandfather had already arranged the aftermath many years ago, the eldest and fourth grandmother (who had passed away for more than 30 years), and the third and fifth grandfathers. Due to the death of the fifth child, the father-in-law of the third in line became the general person in charge of the funeral, contributing both money and effort, while the eldest and fourth were only responsible for coming to the wake and eating and drinking, and did not care about the rest.

My father-in-law is an unreasonable person, who is stingy and troublesome on weekdays, and blurts out at every turn that he wants to cut off contact with so-and-so. Because of his nature, his relationship with many relatives and friends is also very weak, and his prestige in the village is not high.

I don't think it is normal to think that from tonight's events, my father-in-law is a small person after all. The guests who came to mourn, the father-in-law only picked the warm greeting of acquaintance, and the rest simply turned a blind eye. After the guests finished mourning and offering incense, they went to the ceremonial shed to eat, and he didn't know how to greet them one by one, and do their best to be a landlord.

The host is still so lazy, let alone others snubbing the guests. Therefore, many guests turned around and left after eating, and they wondered why no one greeted them.

As a younger generation, Brother Zhao and I tried our best to make up for my father-in-law's mistakes, but after all, we were negligent because we didn't know many customers.

On the way back to school, Mr. Zhao complained that his uncle and fourth uncle did not care about the funeral and only knew to come to eat and drink. I advised him not to worry about the affairs of the older generation and the younger generation, and to go our separate ways after the funeral.

My father-in-law is narrow-minded, calculating, and always blames others for the fault, how can such a small person take on the responsibility of a harmonious family?