Why didn t I find the feeling of being willing to give everything for her in love?

It takes a process, human nature is selfish, we like someone at the beginning just so that we can be happy in the future, just treat her as one"items"There is nothing to be ashamed of, unless you are a saint from the beginning, but then you can be sublimated, from selfishness to selflessness, at that time, even if she follows someone else, you will not be sad, because her happiness is your happiness, even if you have no partner in the future, you will not regret it, it is true love; Fulfillment, dedication.

Because you didn't put her in your heart! How can you swear an alliance as soon as you fall in love...! It takes a process!

When there is no room for anything between you anymore, you can no longer part with each other! At that point, you ask yourself, "Are you willing to give everything for her?" "The archives are for sure!

Because it takes a while for a boy to enter a relationship, a truly mature relationship requires a process to slowly enter. So when you love her more and more in the process of getting along, you will be willing to give more and more of yourself.

Because you're calm, it's good. You just need to love your lover well, care about her, love her, it's too big to give everything, no one but your parents is worthy of you to do this, it's like a well-known problem, who do you save when your mother and lover fall into the water together? The answer must be mother!

But you must not care about your lover, that is a matter of character!

That is, deep down you don't like her at all...

If this question really makes me think about the problem from my own point of view, then I must be unwilling. Mine, of course, is based on my denial of "everything". At any time, it's not worth it to switch from one thing to another, and it's definitely not worth it to yourself anyway.

For "uncertain love", I divide it into two types.

The first, typical unrequited love. In fact, it's just that you like others, and although others can't say that they hate you, they just treat you as an ordinary friend and associate with you. However, this often creates a misunderstanding that you will interpret as an opportunity.

Like this, it is generally only unilaterally good to people, and this kind of love is often fruitless. That is, finally. You give everything and get nothing.

Actually, that's what we usually call licking dogs.

Second, there is a lot of uncertainty about the future of two people. In fact, for college love, even if two people love each other, such a two-way love may not be fruitful. Why?

First of all, in terms of geographical location, the students in the university are all from all over the world, which is different from middle school, where the previous classmates are basically from the same place, so they can get together to play even if they are on vacation. And there are not many universities that can meet a city, let alone the same county. Moreover, the pursuit of two people may also be different, in the face of their own pursuit, you may not hesitate to choose love, but the other party may not necessarily.

That's the problem, you can't guarantee that the other person will give as much as you do.

No matter when, no matter who you are dealing with, you can't choose to believe 100%. Remember, there is a difference between 99 percent and 100 percent. As the old saying goes, "If a man is not for himself, the heavens and the earth will perish", no matter when, think about yourself.

Of course, after all, I am single for 10,000 years, and I do not deny that the old man of heaven and earth really exists. If you choose to trust the other person, then I don't have a problem with that.

You don't have to give everything to love someone, you have to learn to keep your principles in love, at least your love won't bring too much harm to your family.

Don't be afraid to give everything you have, as long as you still have the courage to start over and don't humble yourself. After all, feelings aren't everything.

There is no uncertainty in a relationship and no value is worth it.

The uncertain future is what everyone feels like this It's the same whether it's worth it or not If you love, love it If you love it, you can love it only once Only when you have been hurt When you reach your bottom line, you will know the answer.

If you don't choose to try, you will regret that you didn't stick to it in the first place, and if you choose to try, it's nothing more than three conclusions.

1.Choose the right person and make a private decision for life together

2.Choose the wrong person, go on your own, and deal with other feelings selectively

3.I chose it, but I chose to give up because of a lot of friction in the middle

To face it rationally, see if that person is worth your everything, the "value" here is not to say how much he loves you, but his personality, love a person does not need to give everything, you must learn to keep your own principles in love, at least your love will not bring too much harm to your family, after all, you should leave some emotional space for yourself to give your relatives to your friends, be kind to yourself, love yourself and others will love you. Now everyone will yearn for the beauty of love, and everyone's psychological pursuit in this life, because when material things are satisfied.

There are many ways to love someone

Aunt Qiong Yao once said: No one is worthy of your tears for him, and he will not let you do this if you are worthy of your tears for him. So, here we can say the same.

Many people think that to love someone is to give everything and love without reservation. We can't deny this statement, but there is a limit to giving everything.

If loving this person will cost you a lot and a lot of pain, then it is necessary to re-evaluate whether this person is worth your love. In my opinion, if you truly love someone, your body and mind should be happy.

The love that is not announced by Zhengda Guangming is not worth nostalgia, and the sure things are all hoped to be known to everyone. It's just that there is no result, and it will be difficult for everyone to end up after everyone knows it, and there is no sincere love in the relationship, so don't do it.

No one should say who is realistic, after all, nothing is constant. Love – the most uncertain factor, because love is ethereal.

The right way to pay is to pay effectively, in fact, each of us is different emotionally, expressively and perceptually. And their own efforts may not be right, many people only think that as long as they are good to this person, they will definitely be able to transform this relationship into a positive relationship. But such a "good" is only defined by oneself, and uncertain love is like a flash in the pan after all, because the twisted melon is indeed not sweet.

The beginning of love is emotional, but in the process of falling in love, we also need to let our rationality slowly attract it, to choose, to judge, to make decisions, so that our future has more possibilities for happiness. When we judge the relationship and feelings, we can't blindly decide whether to give everything for this relationship.

Whether you are happy in this relationship or not, happiness is one of the components of happinessIf you always feel unhappy in this relationship, is it possible to give up everything despite yourself?

In this relationship, do the two people have the same goals?

If you decide to give up everything in order to go hand in hand to the future, this is the most important reason for the relationship to need, because it is related to the alignment of the goals of each of us in life in the future.

Frequent conflict already means that in this relationship, both parties already have some qualities that cannot be exhausted, stop and think before deciding.

Do you trust each other - trust is a very important thing in a relationship, and cultivation is in the small details of life.

If they don't give you a full sense of security, and they will always make you scared, then you can't overturn everything.

For this kind of uncertain love, giving up what we have worked so hard for, we can't take so many risks because of our youthfulness. Because love is not the whole of life, it is only a part of our icing on the cake.

I think that no matter who asks this problem to come, as long as the concept of love is normal, it is basically unwilling.

No one can be desperate for each other, first of all, human nature is selfish, this love is uncertain, why do I have to start putting everything for it, no matter who needs to think about their own future, don't think about themselves, then in the end it will fall into an empty ending, only their own grief, even to the extent of self-s, the consequences are like this.

There is also a possibility, that is, this love is uncertain because, I don't know what the future is like and very confused, if the two love each other, then I want to say, I can't say whether I want to, but two people work together to fight for the future, if one of them doesn't love, it's not worth it, don't be deceived by clever words.

Give up the relationship and learn to love yourself a little more.

In a relationship, only two people will be happy if two people work together, and if only one person is happy, then this love is not complete. Only when two people care for each other and give to each other can they achieve love, otherwise this relationship is not complete.

In a relationship, if only one partner is giving and the other is taking, then don't waste time. A person always wants you to be good to him, and he always doesn't care about your efforts, this kind of relationship is not okay, because you are not valued in a relationship, so there is no need to waste time in such a relationship, no matter when, who needs to be loved, not ignored.

Girls want to find their own place in love, they can't blindly give their feelings, they must see whether others are worth their own efforts. It's the same with boys, they don't need to waste their feelings on people they don't care about. A person's feelings need to be respected, otherwise there is no need for him to exist in this relationship, you love someone who loves to die and live, but in turn he is indifferent to you, such a lover, will you still love him?

Sometimes we need to know what we want, and only then will we get love and not two people who are friends with nothing. A boy loves you, he will take time to accompany you, but a boy doesn't love you, even if he falls in love with you, what he thinks about is not you, sometimes we can't even get through our own hearts, and we have to worry about whether others love themselves or not.

Girls love themselves more, and then they love others. Don't waste your best time with someone who doesn't love you at all. Then you won't be happy.

In a relationship, only two people who are similar in all aspects will live happily. If two people don't know how to accommodate, then this kind of relationship will not last long.

If you feel that you are giving too much, it probably means that you don't think it's worth it, and his dedication and love for you are not equal to your dedication and love for him, maybe you don't love him as much as before.

In love, when you start to think about giving, either the other person doesn't love you that much, or you don't love the other person that much.

You can think carefully about whether you feel happy with your partner, if you are happy you are worth it, if you are not happy, then talk to your partner about it.

If you feel that you are the only one in love, you need to tell him that love is something that two people need to pay together, not one person.

Be yourself, love can allow you to grow rapidly, and when you are good enough, you will naturally know whether to continue or break up.

In this case, you have to tell your partner that you should communicate well with the other person if you have any problems in the relationship, and communication can solve most of the problems.

When you feel that you are the only one who is giving in love, you should let go, because the other party's non-payment will make your love more and more difficult.

Then relax a little bit and make yourself less proactive, so that the other person will realize that the situation is not right and come to you.

Decisively end this relationship. One person's loneliness, two people's fault. Why do such a futile thing?

Communicate with the other person, let him realize that he may not have given enough in the relationship, let him make some changes, and if he can't do it, then you can consider breaking up.

Capricorn is the kind of person who is particularly self-respecting, they always feel that they are all right and the other party is wrong, and in love they are selfish and only want to be cared for and loved, but do not give.

Cancer, Cancer attaches great importance to feelings, hoping to get each other's return while paying, the concept of love is very extreme, and it needs to be balanced in love, if you don't get the same return, then in love, it will become difficult to get along.

I think everyone in love will give, because the interests are two-sided, and only in this way will there be a good result, but there is still no constellation that is only willing to get something that is not willing to give.

I think if you really love someone, you don't care about paying, you don't care how much you get, if you are only willing to get and not willing to give, this kind of love does not exist.

I think that in love, selfishness only wants to be cared for and loved, but does not give, maybe it can be for a while, but if you want to last for a long time, this kind of love will definitely not work.

Sometimes giving is in return, and some people give without expecting anything in return. So for different payment goals, some people don't care about the gains and losses, and the original intention is to pay for each other, which is also the most trustworthy and reliable choice. And some people are just the opposite, and they will be very careful about everything they give.