How to be a good self in a relatively poor environment?

Interest and persistence, put these two together, because I think it's hard to stick to it without interest, and persistence when there is no interest is not very meaningful. Why? Persistence is not about simple repetition.

Everyone may have heard of the 10,000-hour theory, but this theory has a premise: the difficulty and intensity of the practice need to be constantly improved, in other words, the practitioner needs to keep breaking through himself. If it is enough to become an expert just by reciting 10,000 hours without a brain, shouldn't each of us become a language expert before the age of 20?

In fact, simple repetition can improve proficiency, but it can't really improve skill. In the course of 10,000 hours (about 10 years based on 3 hours a day), I thought about how to challenge myself to break through every moment, and if I didn't have interest, I couldn't stick to it at all. Or if you stick to it, you just make those actions, and your mind is not in it at all.

Explore the deep self of the heart, firm goals, firm beliefs, and enjoy the process of love. Plan every minute every day, make life more fulfilling, and prove yourself with actions. The night before the first day to write down what you want to do in a notebook, and write down the estimated time, the next morning to start action, before going to bed at night to see how much you have completed, to complete the value of the reward you want, you should give yourself the corresponding punishment if you do not achieve it, and then make a plan for tomorrow's things, and after lying down, you should think about what you did all day.

In this way, life will be fulfilled, but it is not more important to persevere.

After having a stable job, I thought that life might be like this, going to and from work every day, watching TV and playing games, and then finding something I liked better, watching the Internet**, and being very obsessed. After several years, life did not improve much. Later, I seized a great learning opportunity and communicated with my peers to know how far behind I was.

I don't know how to use Alipay, I can't scan the code on WeChat, etc. Well, I'm starting to quit gradually. It's difficult, because a habit has been formed for many years, and I can't help but look at it when I'm free.

I thought of another way, to find some hot articles to read, to listen, to have a look in my free time, to understand what is happening in this world, and the various ideas and opinions of people who are at the forefront of the times. Now, I only watch ** occasionally when I need it too much, empty my mind, and the rest of the time, basically quit. I can use the time to listen to more famous classics, or choose one or two good English songs to learn.

I didn't succeed, I just shifted my focus, but I did feel less decadent and my life came alive.

In psychology, there is a word called motivation, it is an important factor that promotes the production of all behaviors, it can also be said that it is necessary to ignite action, a person wants to become better and better, inseparable from specific behavior, and behavior comes from motivation. Therefore, in order to make yourself better and better, you must first find your motivation to become better. The difference between the two is that the former becomes excellent in order to make others like themselves, while the latter becomes excellent in order to make themselves like themselves.

In other words, my excellence is not for others to see, but because I feel that I should be better, and I can improve myself more if I work hard.

My impression is that I should learn more and become good at learning through learning, so that I can establish a correct (or at least correct) worldview, values, and outlook on life. The three views are clear, the purpose and meaning of life and the pursuit of life have their own basic judgment, and they are not confused by the world, let alone swayed by human words, so their own ideological realm and spiritual level are significantly improved, so as to make themselves more excellent. I am better, and I naturally have my own opinions on what success is.

Wanting to be better is actually something that you don't feel like you fit into a lot of people's discussions. First of all, you can learn a talent and let everyone see you. Read more articles to increase your knowledge, and go out more to increase your horizons.

When you know or see more things, people think you are excellent.

Make yourself better, this is a long process, not overnight, and it takes time to precipitate and slowly accumulate yourself, so that when you reach a certain amount of time, you will be good enough, of course, in this process of making yourself better, we still need some efforts.

Life needs to be experienced, but how long it takes depends on yourself, the sixth ancestor Huineng once understood the Buddha's mantra, and Fahai has a big beard, and he is still entangled in the love between Bai Suzhen and Xu Xian. The secret recipe of the palace is called "boiling", and youth is boiled in the clear water of time, and slowly and naturally emitting the fragrance of medicine.

In an unsatisfactory environment, to keep progressing, you need to:

1. Stick to the original intention and keep the mission in mind. The environment is unsatisfactory, and it is not something that can be easily changed by yourself. In this case, it is very important to stick to the original intention, keep the mission in mind, and be indomitable.

No matter how bad the environment is, we can't forget our original intention and mission. We must believe that the environment will definitely become better, and do not affect or even hinder our progress because of the unsatisfactory environment.

Second, the outer circle and the inner square, pay attention to strategy. Unsatisfactory environments also need us to deal with. Although sometimes you feel that "everyone is drunk and I am sober", if you don't adopt some strategies, don't pay attention to methods, and directly confront the unsatisfactory environment, it is often an egg hitting a stone.

In an unsatisfactory environment, it is a wise way to be round and square inside. Paying attention to the methods and art of struggle can not only protect oneself well but also achieve one's own goals in a harsh environment.

3. Innovative ideas and hard work. Thinking determines the way out. In an unsatisfactory environment, blindly complaining and complaining will not only not help, but may also cause big things.

Therefore, smart people will constantly adjust their methods and ideas according to the situation. There is no endless road. Sometimes avoiding the real and finding another way can often receive the effect of "the mountains and rivers are full of doubts, and the willows and flowers are bright and another village".

In short, in an unsatisfactory environment, as long as we stick to our original intention, keep our mission in mind, be round on the outside and square on the inside, pay attention to strategy, strive to innovate ideas, and work hard, we will be able to maintain progress!

Break. The first thing you have to do is break your daily plan, which can keep us stuck and unable to innovate. It's up to you how you want to break the mold, but even small changes can help you adapt to new things, so don't be afraid to start.

Be optimistic. Having negative thoughts about our abilities and surroundings can make us shy about gaining experience and seizing opportunities. So stop constantly complaining about yourself and instead remind yourself of all your strengths.

Stop thinking only about the bad in others or focus only on the bad things in life, and start focusing on the good things.

Keep your emotions in check. Don't let negative emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, or jealousy ruin your life. These emotions sometimes arise naturally, but you can't let them dictate your every action, it's unhealthy and can also reduce your quality of life.

Train yourself to calm down and then focus on the good things.

Broaden your horizons.

Sometimes we forget that we have a lot of good things. At this time, please look around you, maybe they are worse off than you. Then look back at your life and you will find the good things in it.

Did you find a lot of examples? Then look for more! You can study how other people live by reading, watching TV shows or documentaries.

The most important thing to do to be better in a bad environment is self-discipline.

But due to environmental factors, it is no easy task to do so. A few suggestions I can think of are:

1.Find people who share your interests and communicate, supervise, and learn from each other. One chopstick is easy to break, ten chopsticks are held in a group, and everyone works together to make difficult things easier;

2.Keep exercising and protect yourself. The most important thing is that it takes time and energy to jump out of a bad environment, and we must protect our body, so that we can have the energy to discover new opportunities;

3.Keep learning and get in touch with new areas.

Sometimes, we can't get out of a bad situation, probably because we don't have skills in one area. Therefore, we must continue to learn and get in touch with some new fields, so that we can be more clear about how to jump out of the bad state and in which direction to find possibilities.

First, you have a deep desire for change and a better version of yourself. Only when we have the desire to become better will we reflect on the shortcomings of the current situation, think about our own shortcomings, and realize that we can be better. Desire is very important, and if you just want to be content with what you are, and you will still be in that state after so many years, you will not know that you may be able to become a different person.

Only when you feel that you are inadequate, will you do everything possible to find a better circle, and only by constantly working hard can you be able to build an upgrade ladder.

Second, be a creative person. This creativity comes from forward-looking vision, independent thinking, and rich knowledge. If you don't know enough, then your vision and pattern will be small, and then you won't know what kind of environment is good for you.

Only with sufficient judgment can you make the right choice. This is not easy to do, and it is a long-term goal. In the final analysis, it is to read more, think more, and experience more.

Third, if you have realized your own shortcomings, you can use behavioral treatment and slowly correct them one by one. For example, I am surrounded by people who are not self-motivated, and I am lazy, so I can set goals for myself, I can also enroll in interest classes to learn new skills, I can use my free time to study my field of interest, and you can do a lot of things to enrich yourself. For example, my work has not allowed me to grow, and there are no elders and bosses around me who can learn from me, but what I want to say is that if you change your perspective, observe and learn from a small angle, and ask yourself to learn something new every day, you will gradually grow.

If you live in a poor environment, you must not follow the crowd. You must have a firm belief in your heart and admonish yourself at all times.

Because the greatest use of faith is to guide oneself in the direction of the way, so that you will not get lost on the way. When doing things, you need to be calm, you can't blindly do what you want to do, you must think through the brain before doing it.

I plan my day on my phone, down to the minute, and I have to stick to it. In this way, you will not be affected by changes in the external environment. You must stick to the bottom line and principles of the Lord's heart, do what you think is right and not be disturbed by others, believe that your lifestyle is the most suitable for you, do not doubt your choice, and always strive to stick to one place, and finally become a gentleman out of the mud.

If the growth environment is relatively poor, then we should go out for a walk more often to relax our mood, which is very important, when a person's mood improves. Then he will not care about the external environment, and at the same time, although the growth environment is important, it also has its own ideas.

Strengthen ideological cultivation. People's self-control depends to a certain extent on the quality of their minds. Generally speaking, people with lofty ideals and aspirations will never be emotionally impulsive and misbehave for trivial things.

Therefore, the most fundamental way to improve self-control is to establish a correct outlook on life and the world, and maintain an optimistic and healthy mood. Improve cultural literacy. Generally speaking, a person's cultural literacy is directly proportional to their ability to bear and control themselves.

People with relatively high cultural quality are often able to have a more comprehensive and correct understanding of things, understand the relationship between themselves and others, and consciously exercise self-control and self-improvement. Use reasonable venting, attention transfer, relocation and other methods to vent and release the emotions that will trigger impulses, maintain emotional stability, and avoid impulsiveness. Self-awareness should be strengthened.

When encountering problems, you should be calm and calm, use your own brain, eliminate external interference or hints, and learn to make decisions independently. It is necessary to completely get rid of the psychology of relying on others, overcome low self-esteem, and cultivate self-confidence and independence. It is necessary to intensify practical training.

On the one hand, it is necessary to strengthen study, accumulate knowledge, broaden horizons, arm and enrich oneself with knowledge, improve one's ability to analyze and solve problems, and expand one's ability to make decisions by learning from the experience of others; On the other hand, it is necessary to actively plunge into the practice of military life, exercise assiduously, constantly enrich experience, and enhance one's ability to adapt to the situation. It is necessary to strengthen the strength of the will. It is necessary to cultivate the good quality of independence of will in one's own character.

Be highly conscious of what you are striving for. As long as you have identified something through your own practice, you should go on without hesitation and try your best to achieve the desired goal. You don't have to strive for perfection in everything.