Why do I always hurt my friends

In fact, sometimes, don't pay too much attention to what they think, everyone is a friend, and since they are friends, they can understand each other. Often we care too much, but it will give people an unpleasant feeling, and others will think that you are a bit fake. And being too careful, too careful, is sometimes more likely to make mistakes, isn't it?

Are you too kind? There's no need to take everything so seriously. A true friend won't care about that.

What's more, you are unintentional, even if you have any mistakes, your friends will tolerate them. On the contrary, if you are so cautious in every way, it will make your friends uncomfortable at some point, so let go a little. Don't ask for anything from yourself, believe not"Injuries"to a friend's.

My wife is the same way, no matter what you do or talk in the future, you have to think about whether what you do or say will hurt others, and don't say something that others don't want to hear.

As long as you do things and pay attention to what you say, it will be much better.

Because you're in love with your friend, you're doing things that go beyond your friend's reach.

Making a choice will always hurt one of the parties, but you have to make a choice. It's annoying, it's good to be like when you were a child, but it's so annoying when you grow up.

Because you care about their feelings and don't want them to be sad or anything, but you don't help!

On the one hand, it shows that you are a straight-hearted person, and on the other hand, it also shows that your friends are not careful.

The relationship between yourself and your friends should be intimate. But in the process of socializing with friends, some of my friends will compare themselves with themselves without any scruples, or belittle themselves from time to time. This behavior of a friend will hurt you and you need to deal with it properly.

Specifically, when you encounter a friend who compares with you and deliberately belittles yourself, you can take three situations: understanding and tolerating and laughing at it, seeing the essence of the other party and keeping a distance from the other party, and carefully choosing a real friend to break up with someone who is not suitable for being a friend.

1. For the ridicule between friends, you should understand and tolerate it, and laugh it off.

Friends are very close to each other, so they will be more casual in their speech and behavior when interacting with each other, and sometimes some words from friends will cause some harm to themselves. ...Old imitation....For this situation, you should understand and tolerate it, choose to treat it generously, and laugh it off. In this way, we can maintain a good relationship between friends, so that the friendship between Hui Hanji can be maintained.

2. You should see the essence of your friends and keep an appropriate distance from ordinary friends.

Everyone has friends, and these friends will have a different relationship with themselves. ......For those close friends, you should carefully maintain the relationship with each other, and for those ordinary friends, you should maintain an appropriate way of interacting with them. ......Those who compare or belittle themselves in their speech are often ordinary friends who have an average relationship, and you should pay attention to keeping an appropriate distance from them.

3. You should carefully choose real friends, and you should cut off friends with people who are not suitable to be friends.

Some of our friends have been friends for a long time, but as their relationship develops, at some point, they are no longer suitable to be friends. ......At this time, the relationship between yourself and the former friend will become very poor, and the other party may compare yourself or deliberately belittle you. At this time, you should learn to choose your true friends correctly, and for those who are not suitable to be your friends, you should immediately break off their friendships, so that you can find true friends and get real friendships, so that you can really benefit yourself.

Judging from what you have told, the friendship between you and Li Linqing's cousin for more than ten years seems to be very long, and it stands to reason that the relationship should be very solid, but in fact, from a long time ago, when Li Linqing and his cousin blindly demanded and emotionally kidnapped you, the seeds of both defeats had been planted. As one of the few people who can choose to build a relationship with us, friends should at least respect each other, and then talk about understanding, trust, and tolerance. However, from your statement, Li Linqing acts domineeringly, speaks hurtfully, and always suppresses, openly and secretly sarcastic, yin and yang weird, he is not happy or uncomfortable, and when he is sad, he chooses to hurt you and make you feel painful to seek psychological balance, in order to deceive himself.

His cousin is the same, as if you deserve to be paid to him, and even accuse you of not being careful, hurting his brother, and beating him up.

The management of a relationship must run in with each other, not easily touch the bottom line of the other party, and inevitably need to make certain changes and compromises. Li Linqing knows that he has many shortcomings, but he knows that he does not change, but he wants you to be tolerant all the time, which is not advisable. As long as he is in need, he wants you to accompany him and absorb his negative emotions, don't you have your own business?

Don't have an emotion you want to vent? Selfish and arrogant. Staying away will not make you better, but will feel breathless, uncomfortable relationships, and when you break it, you will break it.

Although it was a little inappropriate to end this friendship by transferring money in the end, which is why you will feel that you hurt your friend now, but this is the disappointment accumulated over the years on the premise that your friend hurt you first, and in the end, it came to an end. The good nature of people needs to be a little sharp, otherwise, people will live a lifetime and be wronged.

In addition, please don't want the denial of others, just fall into low self-esteem, your family is very good, maybe the material foundation is not rich, but your parents will raise you with the correct three views, full of responsibility, kind to people, the rest of the way has to rely on your own efforts, step by step to achieve a goal in life. Cherish life and stay away from friends!

It felt like the relationship had broken down.

You and your friends are both a little wrong.

When a good friend hurts you, the easiest way is not to worry about him, just keep your own mentality, because there is no need to quarrel with him about such a situation, sometimes it is great wisdom not to argue, let alone put such things in your heart, everything must change with the change of time, because after a long time, your friend will feel inferior, and even have sorry thoughts for you.

Not everyone in life can be regarded as a good friend, in the face of friends who are not the same, you must always keep a sense of distance, don't get too close, because friends are helping each other, understanding each other, if you hurt you behind your back, that's his fault, to have a gentleman's frank, villain and long-term mentality, don't care is the best response. Doing so can make our hearts more broad, and it will also make our hearts stronger.

Sometimes everyone will feel very sad when they encounter such a thing, in fact, there is no need to be like this, after all, it is your friend who has done something wrong, don't have too much contact with him in the future, if he encounters difficulties, as long as he finds a proper reason to shirk it, don't let him think that you are very good at talking, sometimes it is too easy to promise others things will be not cherished by the other party, especially when you meet people who hurt friends behind their backs, they are not worth your attention, we should seriously face our own life status.

There is no need to cherish such a friendship in the face of it, maybe it is in your heart that you feel good, in fact the other party will not care too much about you, at this time you must readjust your friendship principles, because the bottom line between friends is not to hurt each other, or we can't help each other don't bother each other, therefore, you think that your good friend may not be what you imagined at all, we should face the things in life well, and after this experience, we also hope to be able to find our own true friendship, because it is enough to find a confidant in this life.

If a friend hurts you, I think the best way to do that is to communicate with him.

Since it's a friend, you shouldn't hurt you, it's not right for him to do so. But if it weren't for the fact that you were badly injured, I would have ignored him.