If life is as it first sees, can life really be just like the first time?

If life is only as first seen" This sentence comes from the famous Qing Dynasty lyricist Nalan Xingde (1655 1685, Manchu) "Mulan Ci Imitation of Ancient Decisive Words Cambodian Friends", which means ""Get along with the person you like, if you can't be as beautiful and indifferent as when you first met, and there is no later resentment and complaint, then everything is better to stay in the beauty of the first meeting." 》

However, people have seven emotions and six desires, and it is impossible to completely control their emotions, even if they are eminent monks, they cannot be completely indifferent to some things in the face of them, but just hide emotions such as resentment from being discovered by the world.

Probably the encounter is the most beautiful, because of the unintentional. But with understanding, many things will change, and we may say because of a small thing: It turns out that you are such a person, I really regret knowing you.

The speaker has no intention of listening, and the listener may inadvertently hurt others. The beauty at first sight is superficial, because everything is superficial, but if a person does not abandon you, then please do not easily turn your back on and hurt her.

There are too many things we don't want to face in life, and it is the wish of most people to hope that everything can be done again. But if it's useless, because it's only once, the memory of the first time will be more profound, and we can still retrieve the original from the complicated mind after many years.

Of course not. It's just a beautiful state that people imagine.

It would be nice if life was just as it first saw it, so there were fewer infinite worries.

That's what people want and aspire to, but it doesn't necessarily exist in reality.

It's okay to make yourself amnesia, haha.

It's about being alone all the way, then being lonely, and finally meeting a partner.

The true meaning of human life is to live a high-quality, happy life, that is, the pursuit of health. A happy, decent, dignified life. But it is not easy to truly achieve a healthy, happy, decent, and dignified life, which requires struggle, and life is originally a process of continuous struggle and struggle in order to achieve one's life goals.

It's for the sake of living for the process.

If life is only as first seen'' this poem has been widely circulated by people. This poem compares life to the first sight, and the first sight is a feeling of longing, hope, and vitality. I think people like this because they want their lives to be as good as they first saw them.

However, is it really good if life is only as it first sees?

When Zhang Dai went to the Huxin Pavilion alone to see the snow, he met a like-minded friend for the first time and said that he was a surprise after having this person in the lake. When Jia Baoyu met Lin Daiyu for the first time, she said: This sister seems to be confused and happy after seeing it.

The first sight is a wonderful, indescribably wonderful feeling. However, the limitation of the word 'only' makes people's lives lack a kind of profundity.

The first sight was the beginning of zero, and most of the time I was in a state of ignorance and ignorance. Many people say: ignorance is a kind of happiness. But is that really a kind of happiness? I don't think so, it's just a state of ignorance, unconsciousness, and unconsciousness.

In my opinion, true happiness should be the contemplation of the choices you have made about yourself after knowing that you have been enlightened. And contemplation is a kind of open-mindedness to suffering.

Therefore, for me, life should not be just a first sight like a dragonfly, but a kind of profundity after a long struggle. This kind of profundity needs to go through the baptism of suffering and the precipitation of years. I don't want to praise suffering, but I feel that there is a great spiritual power behind the tragedy of suffering.

Compared with the first meeting, reunion is also a kind of beauty. After a short or long separation, reunion is precious because of its rarity. After the end of The Shawshank Redemption, Andy and his friend Red are reunited after a long absence because they finally choose to believe in the power of hope.

People need to experience not only the beauty of the first sight, but also all kinds of joys and sorrows, and so on. After realizing this, now I no longer look forward to the unattainable beauty of life if it is only as I first saw it, but I hope that I can have half a life and return like a teenager without forgetting my original intention.

If it's just the first time you see it, how can it be unforgettable. Without happiness, how can you know heartache. One word: value, !

If life is only as beautiful as it first seems, there will be no later hatred, love and hate.

If they are only as beautiful in each other's hearts as they were when they first met, then there will be no later changes in people's hearts....

If life is only as it is the first time, there is no resentment when you see old age.

First of all, when we meet for the first time, in order to give each other a good impression, we often show the best side of ourselves, and hide the side that we think is not very good, so the first meeting in life is often better, unless there is a special situation.

When we meet for the first time in life, there is a special term in psychology called the first cause effect.

The first cause effect was first proposed by the American psychologist Locs.

It refers to the impression left by people in their first interaction, which forms and dominates in the minds of the other person.

That's what we usually call first impressions.

This impression is stronger and lasts longer than the information obtained in subsequent contacts.

The first impression mainly relies on words and deeds, clothing, facial expressions, etc., to judge a person's inner quality and personality characteristics.

Therefore, in social activities such as making friends, job hunting, and negotiations, we often pay attention to the effect of first impressions, show our best side, and lay a good foundation for in-depth communication in the future.

Therefore, if life is only as it first sees, it is really a beautiful thing.

Second, if life is only as first seen, that is, we have just met, we don't know each other's history, and we haven't had too many interactions. So we are relatively speaking, each other only has this moment, without the sadness and heaviness of history.

If life is only as it first sees, especially if the first impression is particularly good, you will have a psychological preparation in your heart to accept and understand the other person, and you will not have too many requirements for the other party.

If life is only as it was when we first met, we will keep an appropriate distance from each other.

In this way, in line with what psychology says, the appropriate distance can produce the proposition of beauty.

In the early years, Western biologists did an experiment to study the living habits of hedgehogs

On a cold winter's day, put a dozen hedgehogs into a cold outdoor clearing.

Because the weather was cold and there was nothing to shelter from the wind and cold in the clearing, these hedgehogs shivered from the cold.

The instinct to survive makes them lean against each other, but they are forced to separate because of the long thorns on each other's bodies.

The good memories between people are stuck in the way they were when they should have started to meet, and there are too many twists and turns and sufferings behind them, and people just want to stay in the best time.

Because when two people first meet, they show their best side to others, so when they first meet, what they see is the good of others.

If life is only as it was when we first met, we will retain the beauty of the first meeting, there will be no messy troubles, and we will not see or find any shortcomings in the other party.