The little couple quarreled, should parents care?

I think it still depends on the situation, but don't care about trivial things, even big things depend on whether the situation interferes.

In most cases, I think parents should not be able to manage it, after all, children's lives are wondering about their own, whether they live well or not is not something that parents can control, there is a saying that is right, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, so they should not be managed too much, just give a small amount of advice.

I remember when I was a child, my parents always contradicted my grandmother, and my grandmother always went to my father, so many years, my parents' relationship became more and more stable, but because of some of my grandmother's behavior towards my mother, they communicated less and less, and the relationship between my grandmother and my mother can be described as indifferent.

So I think when the daughter-in-law is right, you can help the daughter-in-law appropriately, if the daughter-in-law is wrong, or don't talk too much, so as not to lead to misunderstanding, in any case, the son was born by himself, and he will definitely not misunderstand that he doesn't love him, so it is still mainly to take care of less, after all, although young people have little experience in life, they still have to save face.

This best friend's mother-in-law did a good job, when she quarreled with her husband, her mother-in-law generally didn't care, but there were a few times when her mother-in-law was more in favor of her point of view, and in order to have a closer relationship with her, she united with her, which made her have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, like mother and daughter, she often bought all kinds of beautiful clothes for her mother-in-law, and after giving birth, her mother-in-law also bought her expensive supplements, and her mother-in-law also gave her a new one when her mobile phone was old.

Having said that, as an elder, they should all be from the past, and they should be able to understand that it is normal for all kinds of conflicts in the early days of marriage, who hasn't come through all kinds of stumbles? Most of the old husbands and wives who can be with each other for a lifetime are also tolerant and understanding, although they can't manage the feelings of the children, but they can share a good way to deal with conflicts in their lives in their spare time.

The little couple quarreled,As a parent, you should decide whether to care about it or not, if it's just a quarrel, I don't think it's okay; But if the problem is serious or the young couple can't solve it, the parents should take care of it.

One year when I was at home, my uncle diagonally opposite my house got married, and the two of them seemed to be a good match, and my uncle's parents were quite satisfied.

But soon after getting married, the young couple had a conflict and quarreled at home, and I heard movement and watched at the door. I saw that the two kept arguing, and then the uncle's parents were also attracted by the sound of the quarrel.

I listened to it for a long timeIt turned out that the two of them quarreled over housework, and the uncle's parents didn't care too much, let the two of them assign who will do the housework, and then they left, and the little couple did what their parents said to solve the problem, and the two stopped quarreling.

Once, when my uncle came home after drinking too much, his wife was very angry and quarreled with him the next day, and my uncle's parents didn't care about this matter, and in the end it was resolved by the two of them.

More than a year has passed,The little couple don't know how many times they have chimmed, but usually uncles and parents don't care.

Until one time, the young couple quarreled again because of buying a house, and the quarrel became more and more fierce, and they almost almost started.

The reason for the matter is that two people have different opinions, one does not want to buy a house in the county, the other insists on buying it (in fact, it is a matter of money in the final analysis), and in the end neither of them is convinced.

Later, it was the uncle and parents who came forward to persuade the young couple and gave them part of the money to buy a house, so that they could reconcile when they had the result.

So, I think it's normal for the young couple to quarrel with each otherIt is said that husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed, and parents don't have to care about small quarrels. If the parents take care of everything, not only will it not help the young couple, but it will be harmful to all of them.

But,There are always some things in life that the little couple can't solve or have great conflicts, at this time, the parents need to come forward to take care of it, and it is easier to help the little couple solve the problem with them.

As we've been married for ten years, we've come to you with this question, I thinkIt's best to make a little noise, after all, our parents are outsiders to our small family, unless the quarrel is big and we get divorced, let us solve it by ourselves, to give a few examples, you see:

My wife's best friend and her husband were angry and came to my house to tell my wife, the reason is very simple is that my girlfriend doesn't like to eat tomatoes and scrambled eggs, her husband likes to eat, and then quarreled, saying that every time I buy vegetables, it is tomatoes and eggs and the like, her husband said that there is nothing bad about this, because this is a cold war, and then her mother-in-law knew, so she said "humble to each other, you two" and then everyone sat down, came to a family meeting, in order to persuade the two of them for the purpose of conciliation, accusing the two of them of behavior, although in front of the mother-in-law, both of them said that they were wrong, But when I got back to the house, my best friend came and said, let your mother know everything, and said that I shouldn't have a cold war, is it my fault, and then the two started again.

Let's take a look at if you let the two of you digest it by yourself, and one day the husband or wife thinks about each other, apologizes and finishes it, and reconciles as before, no one knows, so that the mother-in-law knows and reprimands the two of them, weYoung people also need self-esteem and faceOh.

I quarreled with my wife, before, here is a brief description, caused by the first love **, and then I saw me with a female client, and then the pregnancy will not go, in the development of the mother-in-law's house angry, in the end the parents of both sides to help us solve this matter, this time if we don't care about the two, I estimate that the gap will definitely get bigger and bigger,When the quarrel escalates to divorce and separation, the parents should be in charge, if they don't care, the two will not be able to end

Parents meddle in us, we young people will definitely take it seriously, who is right and who is wrong, will check their own problems, but for small things, we will feel that some of them are on the line, and the little things will be over with each other, and we will not be on the line.

If the quarrel between the young couple is just an unprincipled trivial matter, the parents should care less and intervene less. It's really better to have more than less. It may be good not to interject, but interjecting may not be conducive to the conclusion of the contradiction between the young couple.

In fact, small problems, small contradictions, and small couples will solve them on their own. Naturally, it will slowly reconcile, as the saying goes: the little couple fights without grudges.

The usual little things didn't stay overnight, and the next day passed as if nothing happened.

Perhaps the inappropriate intervention of the parents has rekindled the fire of the already deflated party. Because parents originally wanted to say a few impartial and fair words on the basis of facts, but their children would definitely accept it, and there was no problem. I am afraid that if it is not the children's side, they will think that the parents are biased towards the children and bully themselves as outsiders.

This would turn the finger on the parents. Let the contradiction escalate in misunderstanding. At this time, no matter what the parents say, it has nothing to do with right or wrong, and the other party will think that they are intentionally partial.

Therefore, it is better for the parents not to get involved in the quarrel between the young couple and the little things. If you see it, if you dodge it as much as possible, say at most a sentence or two: What is there to be noisy, if you have something to say, say it well. And then they get out of the way whether they listen to it or not.

If it involves a major matter of principle, such as a quarrel to the point where the daughter-in-law wants to go back to her parents' house and wants to divorce. Or it is an emotional problem caused by the intervention of a third party. The parents must not stand idly by, and it is best to stand on the side of justice, and the mistakes made by their children will not be protected at this time.

Thinking of the law, praise the other party for being sensible, and then persuade the other party, at the same time, we must pull our own children to talk about things, and strive to make him admit his mistakes, in order to try to save the small family that is about to be broken.

When a young couple quarrels, whether parents should intervene or not, or when it is appropriate to intervene, this really varies from person to person and from family to family. But the principle and general direction are well grasped, unprincipled things, don't compete with outsiders (here refers to the daughter-in-law or aunt), the young couple can solve it by themselves, then they will never participate in it, and the big thing is not something that requires the parents to come forward, then it is really critical to say weighty words, do weighty things, the purpose and principle is to persuade and not dissuade away. If you really reach the step of breaking up, you must also convince people with reason, avoid trouble, and ensure that the interests of your children are maximized, while also standing on reason to speak and do things.

First of all, it is inevitable that there will be some quarrels between the two people, as people often say, how can pots and pans not collide at home! For both men and women, a rational face to the quarrels between husband and wife is the key to solving the problem.

Parents are not obligated to be influenced by their children's lives all the time, they should have their own lives. After getting married, you should adhere to the principle of living your own life and try not to interfere with the life of the elderly. Compared with foreign parents, Chinese parents can be said to have a very hard time disciplining their children.

Kindergarten, elementary school, middle school, high school, university, and later marriage are all completed under the guardianship of parents. Parents are heartbroken for their children. If they are constantly disturbed after marriage, then the parents' lives are completely trapped by their children.

Of course, if the quarrel between the husband and wife has progressed to the point where they are beyond their control, and it is time to ask the parents to reconcile the discord, then the parents must be invited to participate. The premise is that the parents have the ability to reconcile, and their bodies and energy are still competent.

In the end, it is fate for husband and wife to come together, and quarrels will quarrel with the friendship between husband and wife. As the head of the family, although there is a lot of work pressure outside, women are not at ease at home, and they are also very hard. When you get home, don't think too much about work.

Care more and help your lover more.

First of all, in my cognition, a quarrel between husband and wife cannot be just a contradiction between one party, at least it is a five-five conflict. Just like me, it is normal for my wife and I to quarrel, especially in the first year or two, and at the same time, they are accompanied by fierce conflicts. And I also have the stinky problem of throwing things off to vent my anger, which directly or indirectly destroys a lot of valuable things.

So as an experienced person, I have a few suggestions. First, when husband and wife quarrel, it is most taboo for parents to participate, and ten of them participate in eight separation. Second, when husband and wife quarrel, men are most annoyed by being suppressed and rehashing old things, and women are most annoyed by being yelled at and the other party's attitude.

Many times the quarrel is the case. The man thought to himself: Women really have a lot of things, messing around, distorting the facts, and using the facts to suppress and belittle me with the help of the facts after the distorted facts.

The woman thought to herself: This man is like a woman, why is he so serious about one thing. actually yelled at me, I can't live this day, I'm so fierce now, I didn't see such a fierce when I first met, you can beat and scold casually when you get married, you still make me single, and I return my youth.

To be honest, including me, I have never seen that couple quarrel, and it was for a specific matter, and they were all getting farther and farther away. So be cautious in marriage.

Young people will inevitably have a time when they are angry and quarrelsome, if the young couple quarrels and gets angry because of some trivial things, how should they deal with it as parents?

Do not pull the bias frame.

In other words, their own children hurt themselves. But when the young couple quarrels and gets angry, no matter which parent it is, they should not pull the skew, let alone protect the calf. On the contrary, if you are next to you at this time, you should go to the side who is not related to you.

That is, the father-in-law and mother-in-law are facing the daughter-in-law, and the father-in-law and mother-in-law are facing the son-in-law, only in this way can the heart of this party be calmed down a little, and they will not feel that the other party's family is having trouble with themselves.

Don't exacerbate the contradictions.

When you get angry in a fight, you will definitely say something very aggressive. When parents are present, don't add more fuel to the fire, for example, it is not worth rehashing some old things or trivial things. If you really want to talk about things, you must be in a calm state.

The most important thing to do at this moment is to put out the fire.

You may want to get away from the scene for a while.

Young people's affairs have to be handled by young people themselves. Sometimes, the presence of parents can provoke conflict. So, if you encounter this kind of argument, you can take your grandchildren away for a while.

Let the little couple calm down and handle their own affairs.

Don't say words that don't help resolve the contradictions.

When the young couple have an argument, they often hear one of their parents persuade them like this: "He is such a person, with such a temper, don't be like him!" "This seems to be a mediation job, but it is actually a very irresponsible statement.

Why can't you fix your bad temper instead of labeling yourself a "just like that" and trying to use it as an excuse?

The principle of far fragrance and near smell.

If there is an argument between the young couple, parents may wish to persuade them to be separated for a while and calm down. Young people sometimes act impulsively, like glue when they love, and the sky falls apart when they quarrel. Separate from each other, reflect on your own mistakes, and at the same time be more concerned about each other's good.

Do a good job of dealing with the aftermath.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world! What parent doesn't want their children to have a good life! Therefore, the young couple quarreled, and the parents were sad. It is better for parents to do ideological work separately, and after they have calmed down, they can preach and persuade them, and the effect will be better.