I want to stay at home for more than a month, but I don t know what my mother in law thinks.

First of all, there are two cases:

First, not living together.

Second, who will bear the various expenses of the family.

In fact, I personally suggest that you first figure out these two problems, but also be confident, and then do a good and effective communication with your mother-in-law, and tell her, you are an elder, I want to be filial to you, I have chosen not to go to work recently There are only two reasons, you have been busy all your life, and you have paid a lot for the family, I want to learn to do housework with you at home, share more household work, and take care of children, because children need to be accompanied by their growth. When you're rested, I'll choose to go to work later. Don't talk about your own physical reasons.

You should let your husband say it, so that there is room for manoeuvre. But I wonder why you don't want to go to work and have to get someone else to agree? Does your husband not want to raise you and your children? As long as he is willing to raise you and the child for a month, it doesn't matter.

Beauty, communicate well with your mother-in-law, your body is important, take care of yourself. When you get better, you have to go to work, and women have to be financially independent.

You can tell the truth and explain it clearly, and now there are jobs where you can make money from home.

My mother-in-law asked me to go out to work, and other people's mothers-in-law didn't do that. Why?

You have to be glad that your mother-in-law let you go to work, in this case, it means that your mother-in-law will help watch the children. You can go out to work, and if you are financially speaking, you can reduce the pressure on your husband. But on the other hand, the benefits outweigh the disadvantages for you.

This can be analyzed from these aspects:

1. A woman, who goes out to work and has an income of her own, will allow you to get along with your husband with more dignity and not have to grovel to her husband for living expenses. Of course, some men really love their wives and don't need their wives to have a good job. But I have an economic income, which is to make my heart steady.

2. If a person does not go out to work, only knows firewood, rice, oil and salt at home, does not know the state of social development, and does not understand the world, he will be out of touch with society. When your lover has troubles in her heart and needs you to enlighten you, you don't understand anything, so that the two have no common topic, which is not conducive to the emotional maintenance of the two, and of course it is easy to have a marriage crisis.

3. A person who comes out to work with brain cells.

Being active all the time is also helpful for educating children. Children grow up slowly, and without the well-behaved hours of childhood, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts, which requires the patience and education and enlightenment of parents. Especially when the child is in a rebellious phase.

It is a need to fight with children, life experience, and social experience. Of course, this is inseparable from the ability and means of parents to deal with things when they are working hard in society.

4. Alone, when you come out to work, you will talk to colleagues and friends more and more, and what you hear and see here and how to deal with it can make people learn lessons and learn from them, and when they encounter similar incidents, it will be easier to deal with them properly.

When a person doesn't go out to work and can communicate, the kind of gain is completely different. She is also a housewife.

If the horizon is not broad enough, it will be entangled in the interests of the small family. Or if you don't communicate with people, you will form a withdrawn personality and be prone to depression.

and so on.

When you are a daughter-in-law, you must be glad to have a mother-in-law who can let you go to work, this is the beginning of a happy life!

Mother-in-law asked you to go out to find a job, maybe he has his ideas, because he is still young and can help you take care of the children at home, so he wants you to work outside in peace to earn money, you should understand him, if your mother-in-law asks you to go out to work, then he must be watching his son work too hard, and you don't make money, he is angry, so let you share the responsibilities of the family together.

Every mother-in-law thinks differently. Some mothers-in-law may let you go out to work so that their son can reduce the burden. It's better for two people to earn money than to earn money for one person to support their family.

Some mothers-in-law may have better conditions at home at that time. Then there is his unwillingness to do housework, which is worth your doing. Anyway, every mother-in-law has different thoughts and ideas.

Maybe he thinks that you don't feel like you can help him when you stay at home, and at the same time he also thinks that only two people can take better care of the family when they work, and he thinks it's a pity for you to stay at home, and he hopes that you can find a serious thing to do, he can directly undertake family work, in fact, many times you can think from his point of view.

If your mother-in-law asks you to go out to work, then he must be angry because he sees his son working too hard and you don't earn money, so let you share the responsibilities of the family together.

Everyone needs to work, we can't stay at home for a long time, and if we can reduce the burden on our families, we should still take the initiative to go out and work.

Your mother-in-law values money more, other families may not lack money, and what is more important is to accompany the child and give the child a better growth environment.

Everyone's ideas are different, some people pay attention to raising children, some people value money, your mother-in-law may value money as higher and more important than children, but you don't want to be angry with her, just do your ideological work and be yourself.

Mother-in-law lets you go out to work because of someone else's family, mother-in-law is not like this, other people's mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to take care of her at home, then you are the wrong woman, you must have your own ability to survive, don't be attached to others to be toxic, your mother-in-law is doing the right thing.

Your mother-in-law may ask you to go out to work from her point of view because if you don't go out to work, the burden of the family will all be on your husband's body, and if you go out to work, at least part of the burden can be reduced.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and other people's mothers-in-law may not let their daughter-in-law go out to work because they let their daughter-in-law take care of the children at home.

Mother-in-law let you go to work is good for you, is to hope that you will not be in the society, the back is to walk in front of Tongshunde, is more able to make their own contributions to the society, cultivate their own ability, you should thank your mother-in-law.

It seems that your family's financial situation is not too good, and two people need to work to support this family.

Leaving your husband and mother-in-law aside, do you want to go to work?

In fact, I think work is also a part of our daily life, if your husband is at work, your daily communication partner will be effective after work for a few hours at night, then if you see something happy and novel, no one will share it in time

Follow yourself

Everyone has their own way of life, and maybe your mother-in-law thinks that you can support the family by going out to work, so everyone thinks differently.

In fact, your mother-in-law can let you go out to work, you don't have to take care of anything when he takes the children to do housework, he rests after work every day, and spends as much money as he earns.

Work is a good thing, don't you have more face when you have money?What's so good about being at home all day?Take people's money and look at people's faces, why don't you pay for it yourself?Mother-in-law is good for you!Wouldn't it be better to have money at home?Really!:

Your mother-in-law is good, and she thinks about you. Most people don't want to be housewives, but it's better to have a job.

Everyone's thinking is different. Let's not speculate about another person's thoughts.

Women have to have their own independence, earn their own money, and everyone in the family will take you seriously.

Maybe your family's economic conditions are poor, and you need to go out to earn money to support your family.

Mother-in-law will inevitably have a gap under the same roof, you can say that you have something to deal with, and you can come back to visit your mother-in-law when you have time.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are people of two eras, and if they live together for a long time, there will only be conflicts, and an appropriate distance can alleviate the conflicts between them. I don't want to stay at my mother-in-law's house all the time, I always find some reason to leave, in fact, I just want to have a little personal space and not have to be noisy all day long. When you don't want to stay at your mother-in-law's house for too long, you can tell them tactfully in the following ways.

First, find a job to keep yourself busy so that she will understand your difficulties.

Second, give your mother-in-law a living allowance before leaving, so that she will feel that you have her in your heart.

There is actually a reason why your mother-in-law doesn't want you to move out, she is afraid that you will forget her after a long time, so you might as well give her a living allowance at this time, and then give her a little pocket money every month. As long as you let your mother-in-law feel your filial piety to her, she will have a sense of satisfaction in her heart. I will give my mother-in-law 500 yuan every month for living expenses, although it is not much, but it can alleviate the conflict between us, and the whole family can be happy.

Third, the husband is the bridge between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and if you have any conflicts with the mother-in-law, the husband can pass it on.

If you don't want to live with your mother-in-law and don't want to communicate directly with your mother-in-law, you might as well tell your husband what is in your heart. The husband will generally reconcile the conflict between the daughter-in-law and the mother, so that the mother-in-law will understand what you mean. But as a daughter-in-law, you can't snub your mother-in-law, and remember to contact your mother-in-law after you move out.

In short, even if you don't want to live with your mother-in-law, you must remember to communicate often, and often go home to see when you have nothing to do, so that the family can be happy.

I feel very uncomfortable at my mother-in-law's house, so if I don't want to stay, I can go back to my house early for the reason of work.

Just say that you are very busy at work and have something at home, and then you have to go home and refuse your mother-in-law with this attitude, and then you can go home naturally.

You can tell your mother-in-law that you have a job to deal with, or you can make an appointment with your girlfriend to do things together, in short, you have to find a reason.

This matter is a state between many daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law now. If you want to tell them tactfully, you can only say that the company still has something. My colleague still has something to do. Go first.

Personally, I think that if we don't want to stay in my mother-in-law's house for too long, then we can tell our mother-in-law that we want to go back to our mother's house and miss our mother more.

For many married people now, in fact, they do not live with their mother-in-law's family, because after a long time, even if the relationship between two people is very good, it is easy to have a lot of conflicts, so the vast majority of people will not choose to live with their mother-in-law.

1. Find an opportunity to get out

We can find one of our friends, and then call ourselves a ** within a time frame we specify, and ask ourselves to arrive immediately, so that when the mother-in-law sees such a situation, she will not leave herself at home compulsorily, but more to tell herself to do what she has to do, so that it will not affect the relationship between herself and her mother-in-law.

2. It's getting late

When we don't want to stay at our mother-in-law's house for a long time, we can also gradually get into the topic when we sit down and chat after eating, but the premise is that we must pay attention to our tone, don't let our mother-in-law feel that she has any prejudice against her, or even unwilling to return to this home, but tell your mother-in-law that it is late, and there is a distance on the way home, and you have to go to work the next day, and come back next time to stay longer, so that your mother-in-law will not keep you.

The above points are some of my personal suggestions, and I hope they can be helpful to all of you. At the same time, I also hope that when you get along with your mother-in-law's family, you must stand in their position to think about the problem, so that we can get closer to the relationship with your mother-in-law, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very difficult to get along with, so we must deal with such a relationship, so that it is more conducive to the harmony of the whole family, I hope everyone can pay attention to it, and such a concept, and then go to the specific implementation, to see what the effect is, Then make adjustments accordingly.

And tell them a white lie. For example, I am going to work, or my parents miss me and I want to go back.

Find a tactful excuse, such as if there is something you need to deal with yourself, don't say this kind of thing directly, otherwise it will hurt people's hearts.

It can be said that due to my work, I have been busy with work recently, and I may go home less often, I hope my parents can understand, and I will come back to see you when I am not busy.

You tell them that you need to go back to get ready and come back next time, so that they don't miss you too much, just say what is in the heart of the car.

I wish you a husband who is willing to support the family.

What is the reason why he is holding you back?

What is the environment in which you will be working?

People have to have their own income at all times, and you are right to work. You can discuss doing it for a month or two months first, and then talk about the next step.

If you have children, place them securely. Don't give it all to your mother-in-law.

Even if you have a part-time job, you have to continue to do housework, which is inevitable for women.

If all his wages are handed over to you and his life is passable, you don't have to force yourself to work, it's not good for each other to be too tough.

If you are struggling to make ends meet, it's a different story.

The family values harmony and focuses on consultation, even if he is unreasonable, he must be kind and pleasant, and discuss it straight until it is through. (It's not that there is an old saying that a good man can't stand up to Lai Han, and Lai Han can't stand up to grinding Han).

I wish you a harmonious family!!