My boyfriend is too focused on me and I m tired

Updated on psychology 2024-05-25
19 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    The relationship between the two of you is not balanced, and the relationship is like a balance, and favoring too much to either side will lead to discomfort. Your boyfriend cares about you very much but he may not know you well enough and lacks confidence in himself, it is understandable that you feel tired, anyone needs a certain amount of space, and being too clingy to two people may not be a good thing for future development, but will make you feel tired. Your boyfriend loves you very much, but the way you love you should be changed, love someone more to love yourself, you can't lose yourself, otherwise tiredness will dilute your feelings for him.

    Talk to him and tell him that you need to change the way you get along, or you won't have the confidence to walk away from him.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Tell him, cherish him, be considerate of him. You're a good girl with principles, and he's a good man who respects your principles, but he doesn't know how to get along with them a little bit.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I think communication between two people is the most important thing, since you have so many questions, you should tell him, only by telling him, he will understand you, and then you find a way to solve it, to tolerate and understand each other.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    He really loves you and really cares about you, but you think he doesn't love in the right way. When you feel "entangled", you are tired, but I think you still lack communication, two people sit down and say anything, don't leave regrets to each other, don't let yourself regret it.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Be resolute and resolute, dump him, this kind of thing must be resolute.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Maybe it's because he doesn't have enough security for you, express your heart in your own way, let him know that your principles and true feelings, if you can, communicate with him to find out the way that suits you, maybe you can also make some agreements, what time belongs to you, what time belongs to two people, both sides negotiate, work hard to find, you can definitely find a way, after all, in this real society, there are really few people who want to find someone who loves themselves and loves each other

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Hehe. Too possessive. This kind of person will also be suspicious when he gets married in the future. Coordinate a little more.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Prove that he really loves you!

    He really cares about you!

    Of course, you are also really happy.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Talk to him well, I don't think he's the kind of person who doesn't understand.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I think you should communicate well with your boyfriend, don't let him be too confident, too macho, falling in love is not about himself, falling in love is a matter of two people, and he should also consider you everywhere, because you are in love with him.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I think it's also a kind of personality, so when you think it's not a good fit for you, you can also consider it, or if you have a good relationship, then be more tolerant.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Hello, according to your description, such a situation is difficult for you to change him, then you want to change yourself. In love, if you can't change others, then change yourself. If you change yourself and others still don't change, then choose another way out.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Everyone is self-centered, it's just that some people think about other people's feelings and some people don't. You should tell him what you think directly, so that he will be conscious to think more about your feelings.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It's what we usually call machismo, self-centered, self-respecting, only I am right, what others say is not right, such a boyfriend, don't make it.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    He can be properly reminded; Talk to him more, let him know more about what you have done for him, and tell him that you also need to be treated equally; See if he's receptive to your offer.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    The first way, it depends on whether you can tolerate your boyfriend, see how much you love him, if you love him very much, feel that you can tolerate everything about him, feel that he is too self-centered and can also show forgiveness, then you can only endure him, after all, you love him very much, reluctant to lose him, you fancy this person, compared to losing him, his shortcomings are nothing, because true love can endure everything, When I was a child, I watched TV dramas and didn't understand why some particularly bad bad people can also have a person who loves him very much, even if he has done countless hurtful things, but there are still people who will like him, and now when I grow up, I finally understand, what is the reason for liking a person and loving a person, falling in love is falling in love, maybe the person you love in the eyes of others is worthless, but in your eyes he is unique and valuable.

    The second way, if you are reluctant to part with him, and you can't stand his shortcomings, then you can choose a suitable opportunity, remind him in a tactful and appropriate way, so that he can be conscious, after all, two people together is a process of mutual progress and mutual improvement, everyone can not be perfect, who does not have a little shortcoming!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    When couples get along together, often the opinions and views of two people can not be unified and there will be contradictions, and this contradiction needs to be resolved by one party to compromise or run-in, the boyfriend is more self-conscious and will never give in, so the woman will give in on the basis of the contradiction between the two people, the boy will get a sense of satisfaction, and the woman's compromise on this incident will not have much of a problem, but every time the woman gives in, is it a bit excessive.

    The good thing about this state is self, and the bad thing is that it is too selfish, never taking care of each other's feelings, and after a long time, the woman may lose confidence in this relationship, and the boy may not know about it, or don't care. It's more tiring to get along with selfish people, because you don't care about the return of the effort, what you want in exchange may be just a simple response, if the other party can't feel it, then you will only get frustration.

    First of all, you have to try to communicate with the other party about the problems between you, you can tentatively ask him, do you feel that the relationship between us is dominated by a certain party, tell him that you are dissatisfied with this state, you may lose confidence in the relationship after a long time, you must be gentle in communication, even if it is a joke, let the other party know that his ego makes you uncomfortable, maybe he will start to pay attention to these bad habits of his own, and may also recall what he has done with you before, He realizes his mistake and he will definitely change it.

    If the above methods don't work for him, you need to come up with a little clever trick to make him realize the source of the mistake. The next time he does something more self-conscious, tell him how you've done it to me, and I'm not happy with what you're doing. Personality is a gradual process, and even if he knew at the time that he might be lacking in this area, he couldn't become a new him the next day.

    Every time he reminds him after making a mistake, after a period of time, you will be surprised to find that he is improving, this is a way of emotional running-in, but pay attention to this way of communication, and since it is communication, it is necessary to show a calm state, the voice is big, the emotion is high, the content expressed is different, you have to tell him in a patient and gentle way that you are not doing it right, I believe he will accept it.

    If you hope that the other party can correct after listening to your words, you must put away your dissatisfaction, take out your gentle attitude to talk to him, this way is easier for people to accept, at this time, after listening to your persuasion, realize his mistakes, and also feel gentle you, he will definitely be willing to change the bad things for you, because your behavior will make him feel worthy of doing this for you.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Every woman wants to find a boyfriend who is good-looking, knowledgeable and educated, and then good to herself. But in real life, such boyfriends can only be said to be rare. Some boyfriends are lacking in manhood, some are too macho, and some are too self-centered.

    I also wanted to have the perfect boyfriend, but unfortunately my boyfriend was the last one.

    Let me give you a simple example, whenever I have dinner with my boyfriend, he never asks me what I want to eat, but takes me directly to the place where I eat. Although the restaurants are still quite good in terms of environment and taste, I still feel that they are too self-centered. Even if I politely ask what I want to eat, it's okay, but he just doesn't have that kind of awareness.

    Once or twice I can still accept it, but after a long time, I also have to express my own opinion. After that, I will express my thoughts first and let him understand what kind of food I want to eat today.

    In fact, my boyfriend's self-centeredness is not only reflected in the problem of eating, but also in some other details of life. He usually asks me out at a time when he has more free time, but he never thinks about whether I have made an appointment with another friend. Although I also enjoyed the time spent alone with the two of us, I still felt that he should respect me.

    If it's only an occasional situation, I'll tolerate it. But after a long time, I will still be disgusted in my heart. It's the same with him when it comes to buying gifts, and to be honest, the things he gives away aren't what I like.

    For example, I like more fashionable clothes and accessories, but he prefers to see me wear ladylike clothes and outfits. So I would often receive ladylike dresses and ladylike hair accessories that he bought, and I accepted them out of politeness at first. But over time, I also get a little bored.

    Some people may say that it's good to endure it, but I still think that the relationship between two people still needs to be discussed, and mutual respect can go on for a long time. When I told my boyfriend what I thought, it made things better.

    Although on the surface these things are not too big a problem, I have to say that I still want to feel respected. I also know that it's not good to point out to his face that he's too self-centered, but if you continue to acquiesce to his behavior, he won't be able to realize his problem. After thinking about it, I decided to tell him in a tactful way what I really thought in my heart, and I hope we can get better and better, bless me.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    I think he should be taught to be centered on you, not himself, and then you will be unhappy.

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