Friends who have passed the stage of love in college, come in

I had a similar experience with you, and then dragged on until she changed her mind. Yes, I saw through it at the time, but she insisted. However, after the breakup, I also understood that college love does not need to be fruitful, because when you go out into society, everything will change, including the future between you, so this should not be a reason for the current breakup.

After all, most college relationships are mainly due to getting rid of four years of loneliness and loneliness. If someone is with you you will make you feel fulfilled and happy, you should continue, if this relationship brings a lot of trouble to your life and study, you will end it sooner. I just kept dragging it out and missed a lot of things.

However, relationship problems vary from person to person, so if you have time, you should talk to her openly and honestly, and don't hurt each other by being reckless. Hope it helps.

Dude, as a person who has come over, I can seriously tell you that after graduation now, it is the most important thing to be based on society, and if you can't take care of yourself, you won't bring happiness to your lover, and when you're young, it's time to work hard, and it's a time to have a woman who is very cumbersome, just let it go, I wish you happiness.

Since you don't think everyone is suitable for each other, you might as well separate. Although it will hurt and reluctant when you first separate, time can dilute everything.

School and real society are two different things, and people will become realistic when they go to society. Reality will defeat all your former ideals.

Don't waste any more time, be resolute, it's fair to you and to her.

Oh, then don't insist, make a decision! My girlfriend and I also have different personalities, she has a bad temper, but I will follow her, for the sake of love, I can change.

It's really painful! I don't know how to tell you, I want to complain... I've been feeling like crying lately! I love her so much!

Now the relationship between the two places is fading... I love her so much!! But she's three years older than me, and the family wants her to get married, and we're under a lot of pressure... I haven't lived together for more than a year, but the relationship is really deep! ·· Just let me be complaining!

What a similar situation ... The difference is that I'm a college student and he's already working. It was also when we quarreled that we found out that the personalities were incompatible, and he wanted to give up and I wanted to persevere.

Slowly getting tired, he said that when he broke up, I also agreed. But he got angry and calmed down and reconciled with me again. This is before, we have all fallen into a strange circle, the more inappropriate the more we have to struggle to change and think about the suitable...

Now we are quite good, we don't quarrel anymore, we know that each other's principles are there, we will avoid them, and let each other go, of course, if the two people want to be together.

Personally, I think your girlfriend wants to insist because she cares about you very much, and now that you give up, it's hard to say that you can find someone who loves you so much People are alive and can be changed, I'm not talking about changing your personality, but changing your way of getting along. Let's change it from yourself.,You're in a depressed state now.,No matter what she does.,Right or wrong.,You're not comfortable.,You can't look down on it.,You just don't feel right.,Nothing is right.,It seems that breaking up is the exit.。。。

My suggestion is, you talk, calm down for a while, think about each other's good and bad, is it necessary to break up? After calming down, maybe her beauty will come to the fore

As far as I know, the first hazy period, such as the first time I see each other, I don't know each other, I want to know more, communicate more, and both parties have a good feeling, and I want to see each other anytime and anywhere. The second is the love period, at this time, both parties have begun to enter and exit the pair, like a shadow, the so-called day is not seen as if every other autumn, I only have you in my eyes, and you only have me in your heart. The third friction period, if this period is not handled well, it is the easiest to break up, there is a disagreement to communicate in time, give each other a small surprise at any time, life always needs some surprises!

The fourth is the lull period, when you enter this period, the relationship is almost stable, make sure that both parties are the other half you want, and finally enter into marriage and will live together.

I think most people will choose to start a relationship in college, and the stage they will go through is probably budding-hot love-bleakness-tiredness-breakup, if they can survive the fatigue period, I think the two of them will go on happily.

In the hot love stage, the novelty and desire for love, tired of being together every day, will be relatively cold later, look at love more rationally, will not be blind, and plan for their future.

Favor period. They are not so familiar with each other, and they have a sense of distance from each other. After the foreshadowing of the "good feeling period" in the early stage, you have completely changed from the initial good impression of him to the liking and attachment period. From liking him and her to slowly turning into an attachment.

At the beginning, it was a hot love period, which could last for about half a year, and after a long time, there would be a period of fatigue, and after the period of fatigue, it would return to the flat period, I think so.

It's normal to fall in love in college, and school doesn't have a lot of disincentives for romantic behavior like it did in high school or junior high school. Universities are very open-minded about students' love behavior, and some colleges will even offer relevant courses to guide us on how to fall in love correctly. Once we get into college, we are relatively free.

Everyone is free to pursue the person they like. But how to start a relationship, many people are confused. I, a senior sister, give tips to the little whites in love.

Take the initiative and participate in group activities. There are many ways to get to know the opposite sex, such as participating in club activities, campus activities organized by the department, and even participating in the department's social activities. However, it is important to pay attention to the ratio of men and women when choosing group activities.

Just like when I was a freshman, with the purpose of getting closer to the boys, I entered the ballroom dance club for the first time, and most of the members who participated in the club were girls, and I had no choice but to find girls to match in the pas de deux session. My roommate is very smart, decisively chose the football club, 1.5 meters tall, there is no advantage when chasing the ball, was selected by the coach to be the goalkeeper, a header cut off her interest in football, but gained a tall and handsome boyfriend. It's enviable!

2.Give full play to your strengths and show yourself actively. In the university, various faculties organize many competitions, such as Go, recitation, singing, etc.

We must seize these opportunities to show our talents, be good at selling ourselves, let more people see our good side, and at the same time be able to meet many people. In the process of communication and competition, you will find the shining points of the opposite sex, such as rationality, clear organization, and flexible mind. Gradually, you will like the opposite sex that attracts you.

I participated in a singing competition in my freshman year, and the girl in first place and the boy in second place were together, talented and beautiful, and attracted to each other.

3.When you're away from home, pay attention to your personal image. According to my observation, many of the girls who wear makeup and dress up in their sophomores and juniors have taken off their singles.

People who are sloppy will lose a lot of opportunities, such as themselves. A personal experience, when I was a freshman, I went to the cafeteria with my roommate, and my roommate wore a bandeau dress, small high heels on her feet, and a lipstick before going out. I kept laughing at her on the way, we were going to dinner, not dating, why did it be so grand.

The roommate smiled and said nothing. As a result, as soon as I arrived at the location at the door of the cafeteria, my roommate was asked for WeChat by the student on duty at the door. Looking down at himself, in line with the idea of simplicity and convenience, he went out without changing his pajamas and wearing slippers.

This time, it is really a good job of green leaves. So personal image is important.

College students can find their satisfaction with the object in the interaction of classmates, and then find a reason to get close to her, slowly contact, through understanding and feelings, if satisfied, you can establish a normal love relationship.

From a course, from a self-study, from a retrospective, from the accumulation of time, from the gradual heartbeat.

It feels like it's almost time to have dinner and go to the park. After a few times, both sides tacitly found an opportunity to find out.

College students are studying during the period do not fall in love, so analyze the analysis, you study.

How do college students start a relationship? Then it's up to you, if you meet your friend of the opposite sex and fall in love at first sight, you can talk to him first, and then slowly ask her out to play, or study together, so that the two of them often read books together, learn to fall in love, and so on.

What is the stage of the love development of college students: the stage of transition from the yearning period for the opposite sex to the period of love and mate selection

1. Improve emotional intelligence, mature earlier, and promote growth.

Falling in love can improve your emotional intelligence, and when you get along with another person for a long time, you will become more considerate, gentle, and more responsible, which can promote your own growth and maturity faster. Besides, love is a tour or an important part of life, and after work, due to factors such as busy work and age, it may not be possible to have a good relationship without thinking about anything, so college should have a good relationship.

2. Learn and progress together, and become excellent together.

Falling in love in middle school can affect your studies, but that's not exactly the case in college. There are countless examples of academic couples getting scholarships and going to graduate school together. In fact, as long as it is used properly, college dating can indeed promote the progress of learning.

Because since I entered the same school, most of the ability levels are about the same, and I may have common topics and common goals, so I usually ask the library to study together, and then progress and become excellent together, which I think will be a beautiful experience.

3. Enrich the daily life of the university.

Universities are generally based on the dormitory as a small group, and everything is done in a dormitory together, but because there may be more people in the dormitory, there will always be some small conflicts when a group of people are together, and sometimes it is difficult to reach a unity, so although they are together, they naturally cannot reach the point of intimacy.

And if you have a partner, the object can become your close friend, two people who are in harmony with each other, you can usually talk to the object about anything, there will be one more person to share for yourself, far away, and one more person to take care of yourself. During the holidays, you can also watch movies, eat, and travel together, which are very good for Cha Zheng.

<><What is the right run-in?

1Why do some couples quarrel endlessly? To put it bluntly, he has been venting his emotions and has not made rules, because of the same problem over and over again, and in the end, he couldn't move, so the believers chose to break up.

So got it? In fact, the run-in of feelings is to learn slowly and grow slowly, no one is born a master of love, everyone should learn how to deal with problems in love and the ability to communicate with lovers.

2Do you know why you always quarrel? Why is it getting harder and harder to run in the relationship in the end, and it is becoming more and more wronged? It will even make you suspicious of this relationship, and you will feel that each other is not suitable?

In fact, the answer is very simple, it is because most of you have misunderstood the true meaning of running-in. You either think that running-in is patience, sacrifice and compromise, or you think that it is to transform each other in the name of "loving each other".

But the real run-in is not actually asking two people to forcibly change their bottom line, but to reach some kind of consensus with each other, based on the fact that both parties want to manage this intimate relationship better, which is a kind of growth, not torturing each other. So what is the right way to run in?

3* The first key point is the way you communicate.

Remember, run-in communication is not about throwing angry words to the other party, but about learning to speak well and express them correctly.

When a couple quarrels, the woman's emotions are very unstable, and her object happens to be an avoidant type, which leads to every time they encounter a problem, they must be a crazy venting emotion, while the other keeps avoiding, and then the two people are constantly caught in the whirlpool of emotions, unable to communicate at all, and quarrel as soon as they communicate. Gradually, both sides felt that he didn't understand me, and I didn't understand him, so they each stood on their own ground and entered the Cold War, and then broke up.

So you see, if two people don't know how to deal with their emotions correctly, either vent indiscriminately, or hold the problem in their own hearts, how do you let the other person understand you?

4* The second key point, learn to solve problems.

Many times, the more you run in, the more tired you become, essentially because you don't have the ability to solve problems. The old problems have not been solved, and new problems continue to arise, resulting in more and more contradictions between the two people, and in the end, they will naturally not be able to go on.

Therefore, one of the most important points in the run-in period is to learn to solve problems, and create a rule that can make each other comfortable in a disorderly intimate relationship, so that two people can maintain themselves and tolerate each other.

For example, if you want to eat hot pot today, and the other party wants to eat snail noodles, you can quarrel over this matter, but after the quarrel, you must reach a consensus to solve the problem. For example, stipulate to each other, what to eat in the future, listen to you, and listen to each other. Then such a quarrel is meaningful.