Do you know what kind of mentality the person who is against you?

Jealous of you, or hateful of you.

When you're angry.

If the other party really loves you, he will coax you when you are angry, but if the other party really doesn't love you, the more angry you are, the more angry he will be, and at this time we can find out that I am afraid that there is really no you in my heart. When you are angry, sometimes you say very mean, heart-wrenching times, if you love each other very much, then you should calm down, instead of piercing all the thorns deep into each other's hearts at this time.

When you are helpless.

When a person is helpless in life, he most hopes that someone will help him, at this time, if there is a person who not only does not help you but also falls into the ground, then you must stay away from this person in your later life. Always going against you at this time, in fact, it means that you are insignificant in his mind, or you give him the feeling of being bored, so he will fall into the hole for you, when we really like someone, the other party will definitely lend a helping hand when they are in difficulty.

When you don't understand.

In fact, in life, we get along with others to some extent, sometimes the words are not clear, we do not understand each other, if there is really this time, it would be good to make the words clear, but there are some people in life when they do not understand, the more he will sing against you. If you do meet such a person, then try to have as little contact with him as possible, so as not to make your temper worse and your life more unfortunate.

When you're sick.

People often say that when a person's body is sick, then a little pain will be infinitely magnified, in fact, it is really the case, when you are sick, if there is someone who always disagrees with you, then you will hate each other more in life. In fact, we can also imagine that when we have a physical problem, the other party is still constantly singing against you, which actually means that he really doesn't care about you and really doesn't like you, so you are insignificant to him.

When you're happy.

There are some people in this society who can't see you well, when you are happier, the more resentful the other party is, and even wants to pour some dirty water on you, this kind of person must stay away from him. The world is so big, there are all kinds of people, so when we are happy, try to get along with some friendly people, and these unfriendly people, try to stay away from them. When you have a choice, try to make some friends who are truly worthwhile.

When you are brave.

Sometimes we finally muster up the courage to do a certain thing, but the people around you tell you not to do it, what should you do if you fail, always give you discouragement, in fact, such friends are really not worth making, they don't have you in their hearts, so they won't give you courage, won't encourage you. A true friend will definitely help you and will change your life for the better, not discourage you when you finally have the courage.

Answer the first type, what is the difference in cognitive level from people with you? The cognitive level is different, that is, the other person's cognition is not on the same level as yours. Let's say you've already started learning to write an article in English, and the other person has just learned to write the English alphabet.

Because the other person has not learned your level, it is very likely that the other person will deny what you are saying about what he does not know, or will be suspicious of what you are saying. This difference in cognitive levels exists objectively. It's impossible to make other people's cognition reach the same level as you all at once.

The so-called "innocent of ignorance" is the least worth arguing with others in this case. The second type: arrogant and unreasonable people are easy to understand, they actually have no reason at all, and they can't even tell whether what you say is right or not.

When they argue with you, they are actually raising the bar. The reason why they do this is probably to attract the attention of others by creating a big movement. For this kind of person, if you still have to fight with him for right or wrong, it is precisely in the hands of others, and people can't ask for it.

For this kind of person who has no knowledge at all, seriously, you will lose. Third, people who don't know how to pretend to understand are actually very understandable, they can actually be said to be the kind of people who don't understand anything, and the reason why this kind of people will go against you is because they don't want to admit that their knowledge is shallow. That's why they're in a hurry to prove themselves in front of others.

Fourth, people who have a different position than you are, although they contradict you with their mouths, do not necessarily think that your views are wrong. The reason why this kind of person will go against you is simply because his position is different from yours. Just like two lawyers facing each other in court, there is always one who is at fault.

But why do he have to argue with the other party desperately about you? The reason is very simple, since you have received money from the client, you have to defend him from the other party's point of view. People's values are diverse, and existence is reasonable.

When you see the essence of this matter, all you have to do is to talk about these things as "light" and not engage in unnecessary disputes with these people. There's no way we can change people's minds.

Generally very selfish people, stubborn, a little cautious, can't get used to seeing others better than him, always want to take the top, what others say, no matter right or wrong, always give people back, always oppose, he is always reasonable, always against others, self-centered, never consider other people's feelings, nor consider whether others accept or not, he says it, he himself is happy, such a person, it is best to ignore him, it is difficult to get along, too self-ego, no one in sight.

Because it's you who think about it.

The angle of the problem is different.

The results are not the same.

So you think he.

It's against you.

Just learn to empathize.

You wouldn't think so.

No matter what.

It's all multifaceted.

Maybe you're right.

A person who sings the opposite tone feels that others are sorry for her, and feels that this society is sorry for him, he has to be different from others, and he has to screw his jaw, so this kind of person is very unlikable.

One is that your tone is wrong, the second is that he wants Mu Xiu to be in the forest, the third is to be jealous of your possession, and the fourth is to replace it.

In 2011, the introducer of Yizhou, Hechi, Guangxi, who introduced her hair naturally and looked like an actor An Yi, was the mentality of singing against me, I hated her, and having her in the Jincheng River range of Hechi, Guangxi was simply giving me a ?!!

So why don't you want others to disagree with you? It's all a truth. Let's talk about it, some people like to talk about how powerful science is and what kind of laws electrons are, but now science can't observe electrons (electrons are named electrons through some of the physical properties and influences it exhibits), etc.

So no matter what, I still can't observe the electrons. But why do many people think they can see electrons? It is the same as your question ...

Stay away from contrarians who are annoying.

What should you do when you meet someone who is against you?

Difficult to deal with, the status quo should be published from a good point? Just take the incident as a problem? ...... for a good atmosphereSometimes it's the opposite?

When you quarrel, when you are angry, when you want to buy something, when you are with friends, when you praise yourself, when you are praised, if someone sings against you to relieve your desolation, it shows that this person does not have a bridge in his heart to quarrel with you.

When you are cautious and angry, when you are helpless, when you are sick, when you are not understood by others, when you are happy, when you are brave.

When you are hurt, when you are wronged, when you are bullied by others, when you encounter difficulties, when you are particularly helpless.

As the name suggests, it is people who like to raise the bar, they don't know how to respect others, no matter how good you shoot, no matter how good the content you say, they can always deliberately find out your shortcomings, and then infinitely magnify them and go against you. From a psychological point of view, the so-called "bar spirit" is actually an adversarial personality. The characteristics of this kind of person are that they are unwilling to let themselves lose, they are unwilling to be denied, they only want to win, they only want to be superior to others, and they have to find ways to highlight their differences.

The reason why they are barred is not that they like to debate and seek truth, but a manifestation of narcissism, which is a means for them to brush up their sense of existence and highlight their differences. In fact, a person who is rational and rich in heart, Gen Bizao does not need to brush up on the sense of existence in the outside world, because they are confident and self-aware because of their wisdom, but those who are carrying the bar everywhere have serious deficiencies in their hearts, and even have unsound personalities. From a psychodynamic point of view, the "bar" is actually a kind of self-defense, and human beings have a total of 101 defense mechanisms, and the defense mechanism refers to the psychological mechanism that maintains our psychological balance in order to avoid this interference when we are disturbed.

The use of the "vicarious defense mechanism" is simply to replace their own defects with other things in order to alleviate the pain caused by such defects. Another characteristic of "bar spirits" is that they do not have the ability to think logically and analyze at all, nor do they pay attention to the truth of facts, but blindly stand on their own position and constantly question and deny. No matter what kind of point of view you put forward, no matter how reasonable and well-founded it is, they will come when they open their mouths", wrong, not like this" They are used to grasping other people's loopholes, shortcomings, and then entering the first line of the cluster to lash out, they like to take things out of context, distort the facts, and at critical moments they can't put forward any constructive or valuable views.

So how did this "adversarial personality" come about? Every "bar spirit" may have a childhood full of flaws and trauma. Each of our personalities is formed in the family of origin, and our initial relationship with our parents is the prototype of various interpersonal relationships in the future.

Feel like you're targeting him or his friends.

Hello, I don't know why you have a different opinion from others, and your behavior is characterized as a preference for contrarian and contrary opinions, at least in the description of your question, I don't see that you have to sing contrarian tones and find trouble. If you feel that there is, you can give an example to illustrate, sometimes it is really difficult to analyze when there is little information. You like to be different, like to be different from others, this is indeed different, most of the people like to conform to the herd, dare not behave differently from others, worried that the wood shows in the forest, the wind will destroy it, and also feel that what others do will follow the good of it, so that the probability of error is the smallest.

People who always do this often suppress their true thoughts, can't highlight themselves, and can't really stick to their ideas. What I want to come back to you is, what is the reason for you to emphasize the difference between you and others? Is it out of your own true thoughts, or is it just to go to the left for the sake of being different, or is it because you are angry about the relationship and want to get into trouble with others, or maybe you feel uneasy and want to preemptively ......I don't know exactly what your reason is, and I don't give you any more advice, although you mentioned exclusion at the end, so I think you have experienced what it's like to be excluded and not included.

But there is still no way to explain that you took the initiative to choose the minority first because you were worried about being excluded by others, because at least this is what you chose, hope.

There are many reasons for this, it may be your usual personal habit of talking or liking to be able to chat with others, or it may be your own reasons, habits, etc., I hope you will correct it and try your best. Swift to hear slow to speak.

It's not a good thing to always go against others, commonly known as raising the bar, you like to raise the bar, indicating that you are not satisfied with others, always questioning what others say, always feel that you are right, if you meet people, people are not bad, they will not be with you in general, if you meet not ordinary people, sooner or later you will suffer.

This is related to personality, and I like to disagree with others because I want to be different and stand tall. It's a show of personality, and it's good, as long as it's not malicious and others mind.

You'd better take care of this problem, it's not a good thing to always go against others, commonly known as raising the bar, you like to raise the bar, indicating that you are not satisfied with others, always question what others say, always feel that you are the right point of view, if you meet people, people are not bad, they will not be with you in general, if you meet not ordinary people, sooner or later will suffer.

There are many reasons for this, such as you are not confident and always want to do something special to get his attention. Also, you don't like him, so you have to go against it.

Generally speaking: because you have a bad relationship with someone and take a different position, there are always negative arguments.

Or: You're on a good relationship with someone, just kidding. Ordinary people, you don't bother to pay attention to him.

Another is that I am not too confident, in order to prove that I am capable.