Let s talk, why is the relationship between mother in law and daughter in law so bad?

The mother-in-law lives an empty life, wants to intervene in the life of her children, brushes her sense of existence, the daughter-in-law is not financially independent, relies on the mother-in-law to take the child to give money, and can't stand the mother-in-law's nagging, the son has no opinion, the economy is not independent, and he is purely a mother.

There is a factor that cannot be ignored is men, that is, the husband and father-in-law, the two men, it is because these two men do not play a role in the family relationship or even play a counter-role, that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to reconcile.

Because of the conflict between the daughter-in-law's outlook on life or consumption concept, the mother-in-law feels sorry for her son's hard work to earn money, and the daughter-in-law has to shop online all day long in addition to bringing the baby, which is simply a loser, which makes the mother-in-law feel very unacceptable.

Due to the differences in different ideological concepts and living habits, the methods and ways of dealing with problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are different.

The Chinese mother-in-law does not realize that since ancient times, it is a family to start a business, once your son is married, he and his wife are a family, compared to their small family, you and your husband are outsiders, you must understand the boundaries.

Chinese do not know what "distance" is, and are good at using moral kidnapping to deal with children, in fact, the core reason is 9 words, IQ, emotional intelligence, culture, quality, poverty.

Most mothers-in-law think in their bones that their daughter-in-law should be able to work hard when she marries into the family, and that laundry, cooking, and children are all trivial things, and they should pamper themselves and think that they are Buddhas. But when the daughter-in-law needs help, such as pregnancy, joy, childbirth, and childbirth, and the child needs to be cared for, she quickly separates the line with her daughter-in-law and treats her as an outsider. Whose daughter-in-law is not a baby daughter?

Most mothers-in-law rightly believe that their sons are a family with them, and their daughters-in-law are outsiders, which lays a "landmine" for the future mother-in-law and daughter-in-law war.

The domineering mother-in-law and the foolish husband, even if the daughter-in-law is reasonable, what about it? If you don't put yourself in the right position, you can't find your own role! I don't know where my mother-in-law came from to be unreasonable?!

How wrong is the mother-in-law, the foolish husband doesn't know how to say a sentence and a half, or even a fair word, so how can the daughters-in-law live?!The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is never a two-party affair, but a three-party affair, and the husband who does not act may be more responsible.

I think the key to the solution to the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in my husband, depending on his attitude, to know how he views this matter, he is the best mediator for your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

If the expectations of others are too high, the daughter-in-law hopes that the mother-in-law will contribute money and efforts without making a sound, and the mother-in-law hopes that the daughter-in-law will listen to her in everything, which is the battle for family rights, so the best way is to live separately, the young people solve their own affairs, and the elderly arrange their own lives.

The mother-in-law expects that there is no daughter-in-law, and if the pension is not done well, it is a big rebellion, and when she meets the mother-in-law who does not know what to do, she feels that she has more family members when she gets married, but now she thinks that the daughter-in-law is Uncle Lei Feng.

Two women who are not related by blood have to enter the same family, and both women love the same man in their own way, but the way of love may be very different.

Selfish. It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.

The mother-in-law naturally thinks that her daughter-in-law has to listen to her when she enters her house, and when she meets a mother, she can't live her life.

The public says that the public is reasonable, and the mother says that the mother is reasonable! In fact, they are all idle and have nothing to do, they all go to work, how can they spend the money they earn, and there are so many things to do?

Isn't it bothersome and why? Friends rely on friendship, family affection depends on blood, husband and wife rely on love, and there is no relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you can't enhance your relationship like a friend, then if you force yourself to be together, you can only become enemies.

However, any married individual can realize how terrible the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, the relationship between the family and the field is tense and depressed, and the marriage is broken down and the family is dissolved, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law largely determines the direction of the marriage relationship, and since ancient times, there is no particularly good way to resolve and avoid this contradiction. What's more, when the couple has children, there are more trivial matters, and there are many more troubles, and the mood of the two people changes faster.

Now many children are brought by the male or female parents, because the elderly in the way and concept of raising children and young people are very different, the intergenerational parenting in the concept and care of the differences and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions have been fierce, at this time, if the man can not well adjust, resolve the contradiction, can not appease the wife in time, then, between the husband and wife two days a small quarrel, three days a big quarrel will become commonplace, even out of control!

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually not the fault of one person, but the responsibility of the double potato banquet party, whether it is a daughter-in-law or a mother-in-law, once there is a conflict, it means that both people are problematic.

Some mothers-in-law are very strong, in this case, they will feel that the daughter-in-law is appropriate and outrageous, and some daughters-in-law on one side are very strong, no matter how good the mother-in-law is, the daughter-in-law is not satisfied, the son swallows his anger, and there are many mothers-in-law who have suffered all the grievances. So it depends on the situation, not that it is very strong, it depends on the situation. In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is often not the weak side, but the daughter-in-law is the isolated side.

1. Don't compare your mother-in-law with your mother.

Mother-in-law treats her daughter and son better than her daughter-in-law, that is nature, there is no need to be jealous. The mother-in-law is kind to other concubines, and the daughter-in-law can also understand it, because everyone has people who are inexplicably pleasing to the eye, which is normal. Mother-in-law is good to her husband's brother, that's more understandable, that's your husband's problem, it's none of your business.

Don't compare your mother-in-law with your mother, your daughter is the meat that fell from her mother, can she have no feelings?

Second, there is a kind of man who loves to avoid problems, loves and mud, on the surface no one helps anyone, in fact, it is to throw all the problems to his wife, let his wife suffer all the grievances, he has neither the courage to face the contradictions, nor the responsibility and responsibility as a man. Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting worse and worse, and the wife is becoming more and more aggrieved.

3. In fact, there is no bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in this world, only a husband who does not act. When every woman gets married, she wants to live a good life, but in the end, because of her husband's inconsiderate and distressed, she is forced to become a strong branch.

Fourth, as a husband, if you want a good relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and you want your wife to be gentle and considerate, then you must show your attitude, because the number of women after marriage depends on the attitude of their husbands. As a husband, when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he should stand on his wife's side without hesitation, but most men do not do this well, so it indirectly leads to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting worse and worse.

1. The relationship with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, it may be because of the problem of age, everyone knows that three years is a generation gap, so the age difference between the two is also relatively large, and the generation gap is also relatively deep, it is recommended that everyone empathize.

2. As a mother-in-law, she still loves her son very much, if you treat her son badly and often quarrel with her son, then your mother-in-law must have an opinion about you, because you don't respect her son, so she doesn't need to respect you, the relationship is mutually beneficial, and everyone should consider this clearly.

3. Some people think that as long as they treat their mother-in-law as their biological mother, they don't know that if they get too close, it will backfire, because sometimes they may touch the bottom line and then make mistakes, after all, their mother-in-law is not their biological mother and may not be able to forgive themselves.

Well, the root cause of the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is almost like this, in addition to looking at him personally, he should also have more contact with his family when choosing a partner, and after marriage, he must have a good run-in with the family.