If so, is it okay to just discover your strengths? 20

As you can see from your description above, you feel unconfident, have low self-esteem, and have a phobia of communication. Finding your own advantages is that it can increase your self-confidence, but it is of little use, people with low self-esteem, introversion and lack of self-confidence will not dare to communicate with others at most, for fear of rejection, but your situation is more serious. It is recommended that you first enrich yourself, improve your abilities in all aspects, communicate with others online, improve your love for interpersonal relationships, and speech organization skills.

You are sick, and there is no psychology teacher in the school, so find a psychology teacher to relieve you.

Insecurity is actually a manifestation of self-confidence, watch more talk shows, save more jokes, making friends at this stage is nothing more than chatting, then don't be too easy--

This is a sign of unconfidence, you are introverted and sensitive and have low self-esteem, right, it is recommended to find a psychiatrist. In fact, it is indeed a good way to discover a little bit of yourself, but you can't just find out, you also have to show your strengths, and when your strengths are recognized by others, you will be confident and happy. You have to try to overcome your own psychology, for example, singing together, you have to think in your heart that I can sing well, don't be afraid of losing face, dare to behave, others will find out what you are, in fact, no matter what, others will not laugh at you.

1. The main reason is that you lack social experience, so you lack the eye to find the advantages.

Social experience is the crystallization of the experience you have gained in the social experience (including your own experience, including the experience of others, especially relatives, friends and colleagues, including the experience of others obtained from newspapers, books, television and other media), with rich social experience you can see deeper and farther, such as through a small behavior can analyze the things behind the behavior (such as the motivation of the behavior, the impact on the surroundings, and including the possible results), through a sentence analysis of a person's personality, style and so on.

This cannot be achieved quickly, it needs to be accumulated over a long period of time, many things cannot be obtained by reading books or television, and the most important thing is social practice experience.

2. The second possible reason is your lack of self-confidence. Due to the poor environment you have been subjected to for a long time (such as excessive pressure, etc.), you have a biased perception of yourself, thinking that you are inferior to others in all aspects, and you cannot see that some of your behaviors and behaviors can actually reflect your own strengths.

3. The third possible reason is that the angle from which you analyze the problem is not very proper, some behaviors are completely different from the positive and negative aspects, such as a humble behavior in competition, which can be regarded as a kind of politeness, respect for people, or a lack of initiative. This kind of evaluation depends on the perspective from which you look at the problem.

To change this situation, you can start from two aspects, on the one hand, read more books or newspapers with a good reputation (not comics, romance**, martial arts** and other fast-food literature); On the other hand, it is definitely not a good idea to maintain good communication with teachers, parents, classmates, colleagues, and close yourself off.

In fact, everyone has their own strengths, find a hobby of their own, and then say what they are good at. To learn more to show more, so as to discover their own advantages, as the saying goes, there is a sky outside the sky, there are people outside the world, there is no best then there must be a better than you,

Psychological guidance: Therefore, I suggest that one of the important things that you need to do well in self-psychological adjustment at present is to enhance your self-confidence and see more of your strengths, so that you will no longer worry about not being able to find your own strengths.

If you can't find your own advantages, then you should continue to work hard to improve yourself, let yourself slowly become perfect, and give yourself self-confidence, with self-confidence, there are advantages everywhere, and you don't need to deliberately discover it.

Self-evaluation Everyone will have a general understanding of themselves, such as "I think I am a hardworking person", etc., here, "diligence" is one of your strengths.

Everyone has one of their own strengths, if you don't find it, you can use your strengths, for example, you have a good personality and are very gentle, which is also an advantage.

I think you're very good now, maybe you want to be better, so you always like to compare yourself with others, you're really good, it's just that you don't find it yourself, but you make yourself better through learning.

Don't think about this kind of thing so much, everyone has their own advantages, doesn't they? I don't think you're so proud of yourself, you don't think you're better than others, that's a plus, it means you're more humble, just keep going.

I am born to use it, you don't have to be discouraged, everyone has their own place in this society, you can't do anything else, you will do others well.

What should I do if I can't find my own strengths? Sometimes, it's often a bystander, and the evaluation of people around you by the authorities must be able to tell you about your merits.

Be confident in yourself, believe that what you are good at must be very good, and you don't need to care too much about others, do your best.

If you can't find your own strengths, it means that you are too modest, and your strengths are not good at talking about them, so you feel that you have no advantages.

Strengths can create some advantages for yourself, and in this way, you will also become a perfect person.

If you can't find your own strengths, then no, maybe, because you have few advantages, you haven't explored your own strengths, and you haven't cultivated your own strengths.

If you can't find your own advantages, how can you not find your own advantages, what should I do? If you can't discover your own strengths, you can wait for others to discover your strengths.

At present, an important thing that needs to do a good job of self-psychological adjustment is to enhance self-confidence and see more of your own strengths, so that you will no longer worry about not being able to find your own strengths.

Gu Yun: "The one who says me is my teacher" Only by bravely accepting the criticism of others will you discover your shortcomings. When you were a child, only teachers and parents criticized you, and when you grow up, if you go astray

Insist on what is right, and change it if it is wrong. Be honest with people and don't do double-faced. Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Know how to be grateful, in dealing with others, I would rather be burdened by others than by others, do not take advantage of anyone, and treat others and things worthy of my conscience.

Even when I had just started a family and had no financial foundation and no one to take care of my children, I overcame many difficulties and it was really not easy to work and take care of my children at the same time. So I only need one child, and I don't add a burden to the elderly, and I can bring it if I can, and don't have it if I can't.

is good at housework, and his own clothes are never washed by his daughter-in-law, and he can't save dirty clothes when he is dirty. On weekdays, he likes to mop the floor, clean the glass, and cook. Keep your home clean and tidy.

I like to read, this habit has been developed since childhood, although I have entered the ranks of the elderly, the habit of reading and learning still persists. Read a book whenever you have free time at home.

The people I am with have a good conversation, forget all their worries, and live happily.

1.Kindness.

Sometimes, when I see someone asking for help on the road, whether I really encounter difficulties or not, I will always religiously put some change, and I hope that my small gesture can make the heart of the person I don't know a little warmer.

2.In good shape.

All the time, the body has been great. When you are single, when others ask: what if you are alone, what if you are sick, who will take care of you?

I would look at each other in amazement because I didn't have any idea about being sick. The only time I was hospitalized in my life was a second-degree burn. Usually, if I have a headache and brain fever occasionally, I just go to a small clinic to buy some medicine.

I'm really grateful to my parents for giving me a healthy body.

3.Love and hate.

If you like it, you will try to get closer; If you don't like it, you will stay away; If you are not a person all the way, it is better that the well water does not interfere with the river water. Some people say: This doesn't work, now, sleek people can eat.

You have to smile at your enemies. But, I'm sorry, I can't. The enemy is the enemy, how can you laugh at it?

4.Not easily angry.

It's as if there are few things in life that can make me angry. In the eyes of my friends, I was the kid who didn't grow up and smirked all the time.

5.Able to entertain themselves.

Spending a day at home alone won't feel boring. Listen to **, read books, take a nap, write and write, and I feel very fulfilled and happy.

6.Independent.

When you are single, when you go out on a trip, some people will say: Aren't you afraid to go out alone? But at that time, I really didn't know what it was to be afraid. After getting married, sometimes, I would go to the movies alone and go to the hot springs alone, and I didn't feel how lonely I was.

7.Be sensitive to life.

Now, I will still cry because a leaf falls to the ground, I will be ecstatic because a flower blooms in the corner, and I will be in a good mood because of today's good weather.

8.Contentment.

I don't have money, beauty, talent, and I don't marry someone who is rich or good-looking or talented, but I still have fun all day long, immersed in a little happiness.

1. Be a low-key person and do things in a high-profile manner (low-key in mentality and behavior, not arrogant, not high-handed; is high-profile in mind, with the determination to break the pot and sink the boat and the perseverance to lie down and try the courage).

2. Self-motivated (never satisfied with the status quo, although I graduated from college, but I feel more and more pressure, I decided to take the college entrance examination, if the college upgrade failed, then self-examination for the college upgrade).

3. I am more affinity (it may be that I am born with a gentle personality and temper, and everyone thinks I am more affinity).

4. I like to challenge myself (I have always felt that I am lacking in language communication and interpersonal communication, so I have been changing, from the previous me who blushed when talking to strangers to now I take the initiative to chat with strangers;

I had never passed English before high school, but I chose English as my major after going to university, which was also a challenge for me. 5. Humility, I think that only by treating myself as an empty bottle can I fill more, and when the water is full, it will overflow.

6. Principled, principle 1: keep secrets; Principle 2: To achieve great things, you must be able to bend and stretch; Principle: 3 Don't take evil as small, don't take good as small.

7. Be diligent, I believe that "diligence can make up for clumsiness".

8. Have a strong sense of responsibility (I think if a person does not have a sense of responsibility, he will not be able to do things well, because only by doing it with such a serious and responsible attitude will he be more efficient and effective).

9. Have certain English skills (passed the English A-level test and the Band 4 exam, and are still preparing for the Band 6 exam).

10. The international knowledge is relatively rich, because this is my major.

One point, two points, three points, four points.

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The advantages are classic.

Hehe, why does the landlord want others to say the advantages?

Help you wait for the answer.

I think it's good to be open, active, uninhibited, simple, relaxed, happy, and unburdened.

It's all too easy for us to find fault with ourselves.

When we were studying, the teacher always emphasized that "humility makes people progress, and pride makes people backward", and the humility here is more about hoping that we can ask others more and correct our own mistakes.

The classmates around me, in order to make progress, keep finding their own shortcomings through others, as if this can show their modesty.

And if you have a certain achievement, you don't dare to change it, for fear of being said to be proud.

This will give birth to two states, either gradually inferiority, because there is a lack of ability to discover their own strengths, or they are inconsistent, they know that they are capable, but they don't want to say it, just understand it, and express it verbally, more to ask others about their own shortcomings.

In the process of asking for advice, no matter how many problems you point out, because you know your strengths, you will still keep room and feel that you can still do it.

There is nothing wrong with this, because people are the best at self-cultivation and self-deception.

But this seems to be a layer of fog, you are always hovering on the boundary between knowing your abilities and breaking through your own abilities, because inferiority and pride pull each other and hinder growth.

This is the impression I received from my recent flipped class.

Later, I made a bold attempt to not only give feedback on what is bad, but also what is good and attractive.

At this time, you will completely put yourself in an objective perspective to know the real self, and will not use your own subjective thoughts to build a dilemma and feel how good or bad you feel.

And the personality that really has an independent self-esteem system is to be able to perceive the self clearly and truthfully, even if the final feedback result is that there is nothing good to do, it is acceptable.

If this is my real situation, it only means that this is me at that moment, not all me, and I am constantly changing at every moment, as "Lifelong Growth" says, hard work can make you know the ability to change a person.

If this is not my real love situation, then it may also be the situation that the speaker feels, which is also very gratifying, because you have friends who love you and tolerate you, and you also have friends who are real and unpretentious, which shows that there is a real existence.

Therefore, in life, what we need is to understand ourselves objectively, not only to pay attention to those bad selves, but also to pay more attention to our own advantages, and love the self who is neither humble nor arrogant, not proud or conceited.