What are the customs of rural engagement? What are the particulars of engagement

In many rural areas, the custom of engagement is still preserved, and engagement means that both men and women affirm the marriage. There is an old saying in the countryside that "ten miles of different winds, a hundred miles of different customs", which shows the great difference in the customs of various parts of the countryside.

So, what are the customs and habits of getting engaged in the countryside? Let's introduce you to our local area, I am Xiangfen, Jinnan.

In the countryside, to be honest, we still have a lot of folk customs here, and there are big differences.

On the day of the engagement, in our countryside here, the man has to make up ten things for the woman, which means "perfect". The things that the woman "returns" to the man should include ten packets of wheat bran mixed with salt.

And these ten packets of gluten salt should be sprinkled separately for the future in-laws and concubines.

On the head, it means that everyone is blessed (bran) and destined (salt). But it's rare to do that now.

In other rural areas, on the day of the engagement, the woman will go to the man's house accompanied by relatives. When returning, in addition to giving the girl a certain amount of money, the man also has to send a bundle of cotton, which is called "sticking to the cotton", also called "sticking to the flower", indicating that from then on, the friendship will continue.

I have a friend who is Wenxi County.

In the countryside over there, I heard him say that in the countryside over there, the man gave the woman a dowry.

In addition to all kinds of clothing, gold and silver jewelry, wine, meat and candy, there are also many flower buns. The woman's return gift, in addition to clothes, shoes and hats, also has dozens of flower buns. Both men and women cut the flower buns into thin slices and distribute them to relatives, friends and neighbors, which is called "scattered happy buns".

With the development of the times, these ancient customs that have been passed down have now disappeared in many rural areas, and those who know and understand are some old people in the village, and young people are almost ignorant of it. Nowadays, many rural engagements are in pursuit of simplicity, and the simpler the better.

Here, I hope to share these folk customs and habits with you through this opportunity, if you are in the countryside has different customs, welcome to leave a message below, we will exchange and discuss together, so that the folk culture of the motherland.

It can continue to be circulated and carried forward.

When we get engaged in rural areas, we need to meet the families and parents of both sides for a meal, and the boy has to prepare a proposal ring for the girl, and the parents of both parties have to give red envelopes.

First, in the morning, the whole family will be organized to eat together.

Second, couplets will be pasted in the direction facing the sun.

Thirdly, a balloon gate will be made.

Fourth, the parents of both parties will discuss the bride price.

Fifth, men and women will buy clothes.

The engagement customs in each village are different, and in my hometown, the parents of both men and women meet together to discuss the bride price, and then give about 20,000 yuan of engagement money, as well as a ring money, and buy some clothes.

Betrothal, also known as marriage contract, according to Chinese folk customs, there is usually an engagement ceremony before marriage: making a marriage letter, exchanging gifts, or setting up a matchmaker, etc. However, according to the current laws of our country, engagement is not a necessary procedure before marriage, and a marriage without engagement does not lose the validity of its marriage.

1. Engagement ceremony According to traditional customs, the degree of attention and ideas of the two families will be different depending on the region of origin and the two families, but the two parties can reach a consensus in advance. No matter which method is adopted, it is mostly streamlined in rituals and customs, and the preparation of six rituals, ancestor worship, sweet tea, and ring wearing. All the way to the basic process such as the engagement banquet, it is still the most common engagement ceremony process content for ordinary people at present.

2. Engagement rings, when the engagement is underway, the ceremony of wearing the ring at the same time as the dowry is of course indispensable. Since the wedding ring wearing ceremony is an important ceremony to symbolize the marriage of the couple and call on relatives and friends to share this joy.

3. After the engagement banquet is completed, the woman will generally set up a banquet to entertain her.

1. Deposit: also known as gift money (commonly known as engagement money), according to the different economic conditions of each family, the gift money is different, and the number is about to please a good lottery. Generally starting from 10001, the bride is a good daughter-in-law who is one in a million, and the like is inseparable from auspiciousness and wealth; Now the more popular is 31800, which pays attention to saying "three families send together"; There is no cap on the top of the mountain, and it is all determined by the economic conditions of both parties.

2. There are six kinds of engagement gifts (commonly known as small six samples): six catties of meat (one-size-fits-all), six fish with a lin (generally with yellow croaker), six bottles of wine, six catties of sugar (six boxes can also be used), six catties of vermicelli (tied up with red thread), six catties of dim sum (six boxes can also be used).

Each of the above bride price (except for meat, as the saying goes, the girl is the meat on the mother's body, and she is reluctant to give it to others) Generally, the woman's family will return some to the man's family, two or four copies of each.

3. Jewelry: According to the fashion trend, the bride chooses it in advance.

4. The inside and face of the padded jacket: In the past, it was to make a padded jacket, as the saying goes, "the mother-in-law's jacket is passed on to the old"; Now no one wears a padded jacket, so they send the inside and noodles, and the emphasis is on "reason and noodles", so even if the bottom of the box is pressed, it is also sent.

5. 2 red envelopes and 2 red belts, the meaning of festivity, auspiciousness, and avoiding evil spirits is similar to the red belt of the natal year.

When the day of engagement comes, the groom and his parents bring the bride's house with a dowry, and the bride's family should prepare tea, snacks, fruit or dried fruits for the reception. On the day of the engagement, find a third party to officiate, preferably an experienced and expressive person to adjust the atmosphere.

Before noon, the man's family will arrive at the woman's house, and everyone will chat, then the bride and groom will change their words to call their parents, and give tea to each other's parents and change their mouths, at this time, the parents will give the prepared red envelopes (also called the change fee) to the groom and the bride respectively, depending on the economic situation, generally ranging from 600 yuan to 2000 yuan.

So what should the woman do?

1. The woman's family should prepare a new pair of shoes for the man (called Zhangren shoes).

2. The bride's family should go to a hotel with a better grade and environment to book a banquet in advance and invite the man's family to dinner.

3. When the man returns home, the woman will give the man 2 copies of each of the six small samples (except meat) sent by the man; It is also necessary to give the man a certain deposit, which is the so-called return gift.

Finally, the man is to return to his home before sunset. This is the end of the engagement ceremony.

Engagement customs vary from place to place, and each place has its own local customs. Of course, the most common ones are the three gold and the bride price. The three golds also include rings, of course, rings are primary, only rings are a symbol of marriage.

If the ring is good, maybe the bride price will not be needed, and the girl will follow you, hehe. That's what my colleague did. This kid made a Lel Vils diamond ring with his real name on the net, which means "in the name of my L, crown L between your fingers, a lifetime with L, a lifetime L with L", the style of the ring is not bad, and the price of Lel Vils is also good.

His girlfriend wears this ring and dangles in front of us every day, and her happy appearance is enviable. It really made this kid pick a big bargain. ~~