When faced with difficulties and at a loss, how to regulate emotions and find your own direction?

The most important thing is to be clear about your goals, otherwise, it is easy to lose yourself and lose your way in the face of difficulties. As long as I know what I want, then I will have more ways to face difficulties than difficulties.

When we encounter difficulties, we must not panic, because in this way we will be in chaos, we must calm down and think about how to solve this problem rationally.

The first thing you need to do is calm your mind, then plan your goals and take action.

The first thing is to calm yourself down, tell yourself that only by calming down can you clear up the problem, and then after finding the key point of the problem, you must work hard to overcome it, and believe that you can find a better way and succeed through this effort.

It's time to calm down, figure out what to do next, and then set a new goal and start over.

You have to guide yourself correctly, tell yourself that everything will pass, and you can do something that interests you to help yourself.

I will calm down and think about my life, ask myself what kind of life I want, and then I will strive for that goal so that I can find my direction.

In the process of confusion, in fact, we have to find the life we want and find our goal.

1. When encountering setbacks, we should conduct a calm analysis, find out the causes of setbacks from the aspects of objective, subjective, goals, environment, conditions, etc., and take effective remedial measures.

2. We must have a dialectical view of setbacks, always maintain a confident and optimistic attitude, and realize that it is setbacks and lessons that make us smart and mature, and it is the failure itself that ultimately creates success.

3. Confide in others (friends) about your frustrations, unhappiness and future plans, change your inner depressed state, in order to relax physically and mentally, so as to look to the future.

4. Learn to comfort yourself, be able to tolerate setbacks, be open-minded, optimistic, work hard, and strive for success with confidence.

5. Compensation. If the original expected goal is frustrated, it can be achieved by other means, or the head of the bird can change to a new goal and achieve a new victory, that is, "the lost corner of the east, the harvest is ready for a few elms." This is a psychological defense mechanism of human beings.

Whether at work or in life, we will inevitably encounter setbacks in our lives, some resist setbacks, and they can quickly shake off their bad emotions to meet new ones. Some people will be immersed in bad emotions that will have a serious impact on their lives and work. How can I face difficulties?

In most cases, in the face of difficulty in stabilizing your mind, we can know what kind of problems you will face, then you do not hesitate because you know what kind of things are like this, why not be ready, keep asking yourself: are you ready for all kinds of measures? Do you have any idea what will happen?

Can you nurture what will happen in your head? By constantly asking yourself, you will continue to refine your strategy for excellence.

It's hard to come. When you are in trouble, people will always be like ants on a hot pot, but think about it the other way around, it will come together, why not make it easy and deal with difficulties positively. When you're scared, keep encouraging yourself, seek out your friends, seek out your elders, seek encouragement from strangers.

How can you get it, don't be depressed, because of the height of the threshold for success, tell yourself that self-confident people are not too bad. Listen, calm yourself down, and don't let yourself feel sorry.

It's hard to get into the difficulties after the difficulties. In the face of the joy of success, people will always release the corresponding happiness, but do not relax, the "enemy" may try to test your preparation and enjoy the joy after success, but also to examine yourself carefully. In the course of the difficulties of the battle, there was no relaxation until the last minute.

Turn back, taste your own experience, taste the sour and bitter, and suddenly find out, but the "paper tiger" is the "paper tiger". How you deal with the difficulty, it will also give the same **, fear to retreat or meet it, but between the ends, the end is a thousand miles.

Laughing at life, often under the temper, tenacious in difficulties, thinking about self-happiness, letting life bloom, making difficulties fearless. Good thing, every moment, life will give us a "surprise", but after going through these heavy difficulties, our life will be even more exciting. The ancients:

Faith in Changle". It's the right experience. Everyone should choose the needs correctly and meet the needs of the needs, meet the needs, and meet the needs of their own abilities and practical possibilities.

There is no need to expect things that are difficult to obtain, it is necessary to be satisfied with what you have. It is necessary to lose a lot of trouble.

Smiling is the best way to fight back against difficulties** and the best way to stop the spread of negative energy. Seeing the problem from a different perspective often gives you a different sense of gain and satisfaction

Then you should learn to enlighten yourself, and you can also choose to talk to your friends.

When encountering difficulties, we must learn to adjust our mentality and emotions, and also learn to let go, recognize the facts, and know what we want, and know what to do.

I think judging the importance of things with emotional thinking creates a lot of worry and anxiety. Because emotional thinking accepts or rejects things based on whether or not they feel oppressed, and important things are uncertain. So to get rid of worry and anxiety, you first don't believe in worry logic, because worry reasoning won't end well.

You should analyze the objective and real development process of things and their decisive factors through rational thinking, and formulate countermeasures to the causes. The end result of things may not be as good as it should be, then it is obviously a matter of cause, and any concern about the true objectivity of failure is superfluous. The only thing you can do is try to get the best result.

But your attachment to desires that must be fulfilled makes you swallow the poison of attachment. Your emotional thinking is completely deviating from objective inevitability, and it is self-inflicted, and it cannot be eliminated at all. Waiting for pie to fall from the sky after working hard is a rational and objective way of thinking, without any worries and worries.

Failure is very real and credible, there is no doubt that you use emotions to fight against inevitability. For the pessimistic hints of the moment, use positive hints to block and suppress them one by one, and tell yourself how to face them positively. After a period of accumulation of positive cues, pessimistic cues will be significantly suppressed, and anxious thoughts will be relieved and will come and go.

Keep trying, and eventually positive thinking will become your gut feeling and **. Anxious thinking is a state in which a lot of pessimistic hints accumulate until the end and cannot be stopped. Then, if you do the opposite, you can get out of anxiety by starting to change your mindset from now on and accumulate a lot of positive cues.

It's useless to watch too much chicken soup, because people who haven't experienced this kind of thing can't empathize at all, so I'll briefly talk about my previous methods of overcoming it.

1.Don't let your brain sit idle.

Once you are idle, you will be cranky, especially when you are in a bad mood, you will feel that the world is against you. The best way to do this is to get busy and shift your focus to what you need to do.

2.Exercise more and release stress.

This one is really super easy to use, whenever you feel upset or confused and anxious, go for a few more laps, the feeling of prostration after exercise will make you ask for negative emotions, and at the same time, in the process of jogging, it can also make your brain more active, more agile, and able to think through a lot of things.

3.Watch sad tear-jerking movies to vent negative emotions through tears.

People are like a battery, when the negative energy is full, it must be released, and it is responsible for the backlog, and in the end, the battery itself will be damaged.

Whenever I encounter something wrong, I will hide in a quiet corner or under the covers by myself, watch the tragedy with headphones on, and then cry by myself, and after crying, you will suddenly become physically and mentally relaxed.

4.It is also a good choice to keep a journal and write down unhappy things and vent them by writing words.

Once you've written it down, you can choose to destroy it or keep it, and writing it down will give you a sense of relief.

5.Find someone to talk to and ask for advice from others.

Talking is really a very good way, if you are afraid of society, you can add some activities similar to tree holes or ***, and spit out all your thoughts and worries.

There may be many other ways, but there is always one that will work for you.

Calm yourself down first, conduct a complete self-analysis of yourself, analyze your current state and the environment you are in. Then find a friend who you "put your heart to" to him or her and tell him or her about his recent situation. The first thing we need to do is to pour out all our "confusion and anxiety" and empty ourselves.

Then find the cause of the confusion and anxiety, and start with the root of the problem. For the problems encountered by themselves, they must be dealt with in a timely manner, and there can be no "delay" at all. For those who are confused and anxious, the best way to self-regulate and help is to decompress yourself.

In the face of these bad emotions, we must learn to vent in a timely and reasonable manner, such as listening to the relaxed **, confiding in others and traveling.

Since it is deep in confusion and anxiety, it means that self-regulation is unsuccessful. It is recommended to find a professional psychological counselor for psychological counseling to help you analyze the causes of confusion and anxiety, understand your work, study and living conditions, and guide you to gradually get out of the psychological dilemma.

You can first put aside work or some things that make you feel anxious and confused, give yourself a vacation, go out for a walk, such as traveling, climbing, climbing, etc., basically getting close to nature can be a good way to alleviate your bad mood.

In fact, I sometimes feel very anxious, that is, when you are anxious, you try not to think about things that make you more anxious, such as if you have not completed something, then you will complete it, instead of being anxious, it is better to act on the contrary, anxiety can not bring any change to yourself, it will only make you very unhappy, so let go of anxiety and learn to face it calmly.

When you are confused and helpless, pick out something to do what you like or that makes you feel fulfilled, listen to **, watch movies, run and exercise. It is recommended to go for a walk, it feels really good to sweat profusely.

I have met several clients who have graduated with a bachelor's or master's degree in art and design, and are also interested in art work, and after graduation, they are also engaged in design work. Matching interests, competent, and professional, according to common sense, such a job is extremely perfect.

However, in the real work, they encounter great troubles: they are in pain in the process of work, and they feel that it is a kind of torture, especially when thinking about the design plan, they often think hard and work hard, and they cannot get a happy plan.

They can only search for a large number of cases and see how to imitate them on the basis of others. And even if they successfully designed their own plan through imitation, they did not feel a sense of accomplishment at all, and felt more like they had escaped from a painful bondage and suffering. Even so, outside of work, they still express a love for art.

Interest is just a façade. The deeper reason for the interest depends on playing to your strengths and ensuring that you get enough positive feedback from your work. Therefore, it is very unwise and even wrong to find a job based on your interests (especially when your interests are not clear, or when you are hot for three minutes).

Buddhism has a view of death, the view that oneself has died and is lying in the grave, turning into a pile of dry bones, this is the final destination of everyone, I used to meditate like this, when I feel worried and depressed, since this is the destination, think about my own future, others will be like this in the future, what else is there to worry about? You can also do the concept of impermanence, visualize all kinds of grievances and grievances in history, heroic deeds, and now it is going to ** again? I didn't know before, I haven't seen it, but I just read the ** history books to know that today's World War I and World War II post-war disputes, people at that time fought to the death, including the current Russia-Ukraine war, will also disappear, all of them are just passing clouds, like dreams and bubbles, like dew and electricity.

First do what you like to relax, such as listening to ** or reading a book, calm down, and then think about why you are confused, weigh the pros and cons, and make a wise decision!

How can I self-regulate my anxious emotions when I am deeply confused and anxious? First of all, since it is mediation, since it is your own heart, you must let go of yourself, you already know that you have this kind of emotion, then you are actually the most capable of yourself. How you want to unravel it is in your own heart, not in the advice that others give you.