Do you know how your parents got together?

I know, my dad was selling kitchen knives at my grandmother's side at that time, and he was already an older youth, and my mother was not very healthy, so he and my grandmother and grandfather made a guarantee that they would take care of my mother, and my grandmother and they would naturally be together if they allowed it.

When my mom was listening to the matchmaker introduce her at home, the matchmaker said my uncle's name and asked my mom if she knew him, and my mom said no. Later, the matchmaker said my dad's name again, and asked her if she knew her, and my mom said yes, because my dad and my mom were classmates. Later, they got married.

I know, when I was a child, I heard my mother say, at that time my dad was discharged from the army and went home, at first someone introduced my mother but did not agree, and then my dad went to my mother's house every day to find my mother, at that time the conditions were very poor, and my dad wore bells and whistles to find my mother every time became the focus of the village, it was a little trendy, and then every time I went to my grandfather, he said that he was dressed like a hooligan, and after a long time, my mother was chased by my father.

My mother's aunt married in my father's village, my mother picked a basket of eggs to see her aunt, passing by my father's door, my father was deeply fascinated by my mother, crazy pursuit, in the middle of the night to ride a bicycle to my grandfather's house to propose, said that my mother did not agree, he would not leave. He also withdrew the betrothal introduced by the matchmaker. My grandfather saw his sincerity and agreed.

When my mother was young, she was super beautiful and many people chased her, I heard that at first my dad and his friends bet that they must catch up with my mother, and then they fell in love more and more, my mother talked to the boy, and my dad chased the boy afterwards, and my dad chased my mother super considerately, and my mother worked the night shift during the Chinese New Year, and my father did not go home for a reunion dinner to accompany my mother.

My dad is 186, my mom is 168, and my mom said, "Your dad is just the right height, and he has genes in the family." So there is me, a stupid girl of 1.7 meters.

My dad fell in love with my mom at first sight, and then my dad found someone to introduce my mom to him, and then we came, the youngest was me, and I was fined 6,000 ...... at that time

My dad fell in love with my mom and was embarrassed to say it, so he borrowed my mom's bicycle and didn't pay it back for a month, making my mom so anxious to find him every day.

I listened to what my dad said: my mom works in a coal factory, and my dad went to buy briquettes one day, because the girls in the factory are darker, and my dad suddenly saw my mom and thought that this girl was a little whiter, so he hooked up. As a result, I fucking gave birth to my huge black, ......

College classmates! When I was in college, my mom was late for class every day, slipped to the last row, my dad always sat in the last row and met her, my dad had a good relationship with the teacher, missed some questions before the exam, he tutored my mom to do the questions, and found that every time my dad talked about the questions would be examined, after graduating from college, taking the train for two days and two nights, my dad ran more than a dozen times, and finally took my mom home, so that I always believed that the feelings of the student days can last for a long time

My mother couldn't break the apple, so she said to my father, if you break it, I will marry you, and then I have my ......

My dad went to work in other places at the age of 18, and met my mother on the bus, and the quilt my mother brought at the time was lit by a cigarette butt thrown by whom, and it happened that my dad brought a large pot of water and doused the fire, and the two of them were together ......

At that time, my mother was with the children of a landlord's family, and my grandfather did not agree to send my second and third uncles to beat my mother every day (I wondered if the landlord of that family was in financial decline at that time?). The main thing is that my grandfather is the chairman of the trade union and can't look down on the landlord's flamboyant tongue), so the old lady ran away from home and went to live with an aunt for a few days, my dad next door to a certain aunt has a stable job, 1.8 meters old, fair-skinned and moderately handsome, and my mother got married ...... in order to anger my grandfather

Dad's mom and your mom belong to the mother-in-law relationship.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law refers to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a family, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law need to pay attention to many issues in getting along. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been complicated since ancient times. With the reform and opening up, affected by various foreign trends, the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have also escalated.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a kind of interpersonal relationship. It is also a special and difficult interpersonal relationship to deal with. Because, first, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law coexist in a community of economic interests, and there will be contradictions between economy and interests, and second, both parties want to let things be controlled by themselves, and contradictions will inevitably arise.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son plays a very important intermediary role. If the son's intermediary role is played well, it can strengthen the emotional connection between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, otherwise, it is easy to become the focus of contradictions, and the dilemma of "being attacked on both sides" appears. Despite the deep love between mother and child, it is difficult to avoid the fact that this relationship becomes complicated after marriage.

The correct ways to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are:

1. Mutual respect and understanding. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have lived together for many years, and it is inevitable that some incongruous things will happen, and it is even more necessary for both parties to understand each other. The so-called "understanding" means considering the issue from the other side's point of view.

If both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can put themselves in each other's shoes and understand each other in getting along, not only will there be no major conflicts, but also will develop as close as the parent-child relationship.

2. Avoid quarrels. When there is a disagreement or conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both parties must keep a cool head. Even if one party loses his temper, the other party should restrain his or her emotional reaction and wait for the other party to calm down before discussing the problem.

3. The combination of material and spiritual. As a daughter-in-law, if you want to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, in addition to material filial piety, you should also pay attention to good emotional exchanges with your mother-in-law to eliminate psychological barriers. Only by communicating with each other in a timely manner will the psychological distance between the two sides be shortened.

Therefore, as a daughter-in-law, she should often ask her mother-in-law for warmth on weekdays, and whenever the elderly are unwell, they need to be taken care of carefully, so that the elderly can be comforted spiritually.

4. Give full play to the intermediary role of the son. The son can help the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law communicate psychologically. The so-called "communication" is the psychological and emotional return between people.

Through the son's communication, the mother-in-law can more easily remove the psychological barrier and enhance the relationship. For example, if there is a good thing about the mother-in-law at home on weekdays, the son can ask his wife to come forward more, and the mother has a birthday, and when he buys something, he asks his wife to come forward and give it to the elderly. These strategies all contribute to the emotional communication between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

I think the biggest difference is the difference in living habits, I am relatively not particularly frugal in life, my parents are very good at life many times, they are all budget-conscious.

Unlike parents, who don't choose to throw away leftovers every time, they choose to throw away leftovers every time.

This should have a lot to do with the fact that their parents are older, they have suffered a lot in the past, in their opinion, it is very bad to do such a thing, and they are gradually changing the bad habits they have, or they should save food.

In terms of ideology, some of my views are unacceptable to them, they are more feudal, and I am a bit avant-garde, and when we have conflicts, I think about who is right and who is wrong.

My parents are more conservative in their ideology, while I am more open-minded. I have a different view of things, my parents are more realistic, and I am more impulsive.

The most obvious difference should be the personality, my parents are more extroverted and lively, like I am more introverted and quiet.

My parents were very frugal. And when I spend my own money, I have to spend it. They rarely buy themselves new clothes, and I like to buy myself some clothes regularly.

Ideological aspect. I have the ideas of the new era in my head, but my parents may still have the ideas of the older generation deeply rooted in their heads, such as girls to marry a good husband, have a stable job, or something.

Height, appearance, preference and character. My dad was more violent, and I was quieter. Mom is more verbose, while I prefer to talk less. It's not the same as what they like to eat.

Appearance and personality, dealing with people. Appearance and personality are determined by nature, and behavior is determined according to the acquired education. Also, the upbringing experience is different.

There are so many similarities between me and my parents. There are many similarities in appearance, personality, and dealing with people. In terms of dealing with people, Mom and Dad are the kind of people who can endure and forbear, don't want to conflict with others, and are more tolerant of people.

Of course, I think kindness and enthusiasm are very similar to those of parents. However, some of them didn't look like their parents, but the more they grew up, the more they resembled, maybe subtly.

Their concept is different from mine, and their concept of employment is also different from mine, the main thing is that the concept is different.

When I was a child, I never thought about how they were together when I saw my parents, but now that I have grown up, I want to talk more with my parents and talk to each other. In my opinion, most of our parents' generation have no love between them, and they are all on blind dates or close to each other. Then, not long after getting along, they went to get married.

In fact, it is not easy for my parents' generation to think about it sometimes, and it is not easy for them to be together on the basis of no love. Unlike now, where we can fall in love for a few years and get married when it comes naturally, we can look at it for a long time. But my mom and dad's generation couldn't, they just met a few times and then they lived together.

My mom and dad also met through introductions, and it is not easy to have a pair of free love people in any era. The first person my mom liked for the first time wasn't my dad, but my mom's first love was someone from the same village as her at the time. My grandfather used to be the secretary of the village, and at that time, the conditions in the secretary's house were still relatively good.

The two of them are in free love, but my grandfather wants his daughter to live a little better, and he doesn't like my mother's first love. At that time, they went home together, and then my grandfather said a few words about the man, but he couldn't stand it anymore, and then he left directly. My mom couldn't get angry either, so she decided not to go to him anymore.

In this way, they were not far away, but they did not contact each other, and then they were estranged from each other.

It didn't take long for someone in the village to introduce my dad to my mom, who was shy and had a good personality. As soon as we met, he liked my mother, and then he went home to prepare for the next step, and my grandfather saw it, and he also thought that my father was very reliable and liked it. That's it, my parents are together, and they've been together for so many years.

There were quarrels and sufferings in between, but the reality was happy, and that was enough.

Fate is still very important in the relationship, and if the time is right, the love you meet is beautiful. But there is such a thing as fate, in fact, everyone will have it, don't worry, your fate is just not there yet.

In the era of my parents, most of them should have been introduced to each other by matchmakers, usually from the same village or neighboring villages, and this is how my father and my mother were together.

My father and mother are in the same elementary school, and our home is a neighboring village.

My mother told me that her previous impression of my dad was that he was dark, skinny, dirty, and didn't speak, like a fool. When I was of marriageable age, my mother's uncle introduced my mother to my father.

My mom said that the first time my dad went to my grandma's house, it was my grandfather who took him. That day, my dad and grandpa had just come back from farm work in the fields, and their whole bodies were very dirty, and they didn't wash their hands or faces, and my dad had been sitting there since he went, listening to my grandfather and grandpa, and my dad didn't say a word. The first time I saw my dad, my mom thought to herself, hey, why is it so dirty, he doesn't speak, he is stupid.

Later, after my dad and grandpa left, my mother was unhappy, she looked down on my dad, and felt that this person was not handsome or clever at all.

Later, it was very funny that my mother chose my dad because my dad looked for my mom, lowered his head and said, if you don't want to, forget it, it's okay. My mom thought my dad looked pitiful, so she was embarrassed to refuse, and finally got married, yes, my mom just looked at my dad pitiful, pitiful ......

Every time my mom talks about it, she says, "Your dad will pretend to be soft-hearted."

Hahaha, didn't you open your eyes at the beginning?

Although my parents were introduced by matchmakers and got married in a hurry, my mother was very good to my father, and my father was very tolerant of my mother. Mom and Dad will also quarrel, especially when they are young, but even if they quarrel again, they will not separate, and the relationship is still very good.

Sometimes I still envy the love of my parents in that era, once it passes, it will be a lifetime.