What do you think about the phenomenon that the funeral must be lively?

I think it is very undesirable to see that the funeral must be lively, and the funeral should be more solemn, and then solemn and quiet, so I think this phenomenon is a spread of a bad social atmosphere, and it should be stopped in time to avoid a worse impact.

On top of the funeral, it must be lively, this phenomenon first reflects a cultural mentality of our Chinese, many times life actually means death, death also means life, after a person dies, but also let him send him away as lively as before his death, so that he can get a kind of rebirth in the future.

The funerals I have come into contact with are not very lively, maybe it has something to do with local customs, anyway, there is nothing that must be lively in my family, you should be to send the old man or a friend for the last time, it should not be to make it as if it was very happy, it should be a little sad, a little heavier.

Chinese pay attention to joy and mourning, for traditional Chinese, these 5,000 years of cultural precipitation have made people have a deep-rooted idea, that is, when a person dies, let him go happily. Don't let him still have nostalgia for the world and be reluctant. This is another form of respect for the deceased.

There was no excitement at the funeral I attended, at least I don't think there was any excitement at the funeral, and if that happens, I think it's also a disrespect to the family of the deceased, after all, the deceased is the greatest, and if that happens, it should be the last wish of the deceased.

I think the customs of each place are different, some places like sadness, some like lively, maybe the perception of the customs of each place is different, I respect the customs of each place, each other's local habits, there is nothing to exclude this thing, and there is nothing to 100 million, because the places are different, 56 nationalities, 56 flowers, 56 languages, and 56 habits.

After all, filial piety comes first, and filial piety was used to rule the world in ancient times, so it is necessary to use a more exaggerated way to let the people who come to participate in the white event clearly feel the grief for the deceased. If you don't say a word, even though you have sadness that others may not feel, you will guess that you are not so filial.

1.The traditional ideas of the older generation.

2.In order to show others their "filial piety".

It's not about doing anything, it's just that the neighbors help each other, hoping that the deceased can go to another world safely, and the marriage is also very lively, but it is not lively in the village, but goes to the hotel.

This is the traditional culture left by the ancestors, everyone is like this, it feels abnormal if you don't do it, some people like to do it very grandly, this is just for the sake of face, so that the living people feel that their family is doing well.

All funerals are more lively than happy events are in these situations: first, the old man is old, and the natural death is also a kind of happy event; Second, the children have a successful career and want to send the old man away; 3. Comparison psychology.

Of course, they are the face of the picture, or there is a heavy comparison at the beginning, of course, many of them are because the deceased is older, and if the funeral is grand and lively, it will reflect that these children are more filial!

What is the picture, the picture is money, not only is it lively, the food is no worse than the happy event, the coffin is expensive, the food and drink are good, and the money collected is also more.

I am afraid that such a scene is only fashionable in the current Yellow River Valley.

To put it bluntly, it is to die to save face and suffer crimes, some borrow money to do a big job, to put it bluntly, they are afraid of not making other people's jokes. But I want to know why bother yourself, who laughs at what you do, do you have nothing to do when you are full? Jokes let jokes go, is it illegal?

If you don't break the law, you are saying that the state also advocates simple handling, but it is just that rural people cannot accept the state's policies.

When I got married, my daughter-in-law proposed to get married on a tour, but it simply cost less money, and people in the countryside couldn't accept it at all.

You must know that the thinking of rural people is that they have to live by everything, so they don't care about the state's policies, and they have been eliminated by society the most.

Since ancient times, funerals are more lively than joyful ones, proving that life is the last thing to take over and send the old back to the mountain.

Funeral customs generally have the following steps to eliminate suspicion: 1. Family members participate in the funeral; 2. Family members burn incense and worship; 3. Family members offer flowers; 4. Family sacrifices; 5. Family members attend the funeral; 6. Family members participate in the wake; 7. Family members attend the farewell ceremony; 8. Family members attend the memorial service; 9. Family members participate in the sacrificial ceremony; 10. Family members participate in the ancestor worship ceremony; 11. Family members participate in the annunciation ceremony; 12. Family members attend the burial ceremony.

As follows:

1. Clothing: shiny dark clothes are not allowed to be worn, evening dresses, sportswear, casual clothes, stool rest, and dresses are also not serious enough clothing, so they cannot be worn. Men and women should wear dark clothing such as black or blue, men can wear white shirts or shirts in dark tones, women should not wear lipstick, and scarves in bright tones should not be worn.

2. Jewelry: Try not to wear jewelry, if you need to wear plain jewelry, you can consider plain jewelry or try not to leak, do not wear it exposed, this is a great disrespect to the deceased.

3. Wording and actions: At the funeral, we must pay attention to the wording, and do not appear words that make people think of misfortune such as "death" and "tragic death"; Solemn mourners at the funeral should be restrained and refrain from high-minded talk. If you are with children, don't let them laugh and play, keep your voice as low as possible, and behave gently and steadily to show sincerity.

4. Condolences: care and comfort are very necessary for the relatives of the deceased, some excessive actions such as crying should be avoided as much as possible, and attention should also be paid to the wording, as a condolence message can generally be said like this: "I am really sad when something like this happens, please mourn" or "This time the incident is too sudden, please take care of your body".

In our lives, in the end, each of us will face death, but we will also be very afraid, and it is difficult to imagine that when we die, we will go to **, so we are worried about all this, and even do not want to have such a day.

Therefore, when we go to a funeral, we should avoid the following:

1. Don't say too sensational words, so that the family will be more sad.

Whether it's our own family, friends, or relatives, when one of them dies, we are actually very sad in our hearts, and we don't want to touch such a fact, as if he was still there yesterday, but today he is separated. Therefore, we should not bring our emotions to the funeral site, which will not make the deceased feel at ease, and when the family sees it, it will become more sad.

Funerals2. Pay attention to your own attire.

When we go to the funeral, we must not wear too flowery clothes, and we must not be too beautiful, so it is best for all of us to wear black clothing, which is also a kind of respect for the deceased, and it can also let others see that we are very important.

Attire3. Pay attention to your expressions.

Although it is a joy and mourning, but still can not avoid some sadness, although we must not laugh when we are in such a situation, we must be serious and dignified, so that people seem to be a kind of remembrance of the deceased, so that when they appear in such a scene, they will not appear to be very conflicted, on the contrary, and more respectful.

The above points are some of my personal opinions, and I hope they can be helpful to all of you. At the same time, I also hope that when you go to the funeral, you can pay attention to the above points, so that it is a kind of respect for the deceased. Life is like this, each of us will go through all kinds of tribulations, and we will all face death eventually, so we should all look at it differently.

Joy and mourning means that the old man dies at an advanced age, and when participating in this kind of funeral, you should be careful not to have a happy expression on your face, do not talk nonsense without scruples, and respect the atmosphere of the scene.

Etiquette to pay attention to when attending a funeral.

It is very important to grasp the etiquette when invited to participate in the "red and white ceremonies", but the difference between the two is that when participating in the wedding, most of the small negligence of the genus will be diluted by the festive atmosphere, and the solemnity and sad atmosphere of the funeral itself require people to be extra cautious in their words and deeds, if the slightest lack of attention to the details may cause physical and mental harm to the family of the deceased, so do not dare to slack off.

So what is the best way to attend a funeral? In a word: be cautious in what you say and do.

You should keep in mind the following rules: when participating in funerals or condolence activities, men and women should wear dark clothes such as black and blue, men can wear white or dark shirts, women should not wear lipstick, do not wear bright scarves, try to avoid wearing jewelry, if necessary, consider white pearls or plain jewelry, avoid wearing**; Care and comfort are necessary for the relatives of the deceased, and some excessive actions such as wailing and crying should be avoided, and attention should also be paid to the wording, as a condolence message can generally be said, "This incident really grieved me, please mourn by the way." "This time it was too sudden, I would like to express my condolences from the bottom of my heart, please take care of your health.

When mourning, it is taboo to use words such as "death" and "miserable" that remind people of misfortune; The funeral venue is solemn, the words of the mourners should be restrained, high-minded talk, laughter and play are disrespectful to the deceased and their families, speak low voice, and behave gently and steadily, in order to show your sincerity and demeanor.

More than ninety, the end of no illness is a joy and mourning. To attend the funeral, you should wear plain clothes, not showy, with a solemn and serious expression, and no laughter.

The death of an elderly person over the age of 90 is a happy funeral, although it is a happy funeral, it is still necessary to have a sad expression when attending the funeral.

Hello friend, after the death of people over 90 years old in rural areas, it is called a happy mourning. The most important thing is to talk less, after all, joy and mourning are also funerals, and people must have lost their loved ones.

The so-called happy funeral generally refers to the death of the elderly, and there is not much difference between attending such a funeral and an ordinary funeral, do not wear bright clothes, do not be elated, and do not speak loudly.

The old man died of a long life"Joy and mourning"One said.

The number of funerals is not much different from ordinary funerals, except that the juniors who participate can dress relatively casually.

Generally, when a 90-year-old man dies, he says"Joy and mourning"。When attending a funeral, you should not be elated and should not talk much.

Joyful funeral refers to a kind of funeral when the elderly die, the family is very relieved, thinking that this is a relief for the elderly, and when attending the funeral, it is still necessary to follow the local customs and follow the local customs.

In just a few decades, although we are all afraid of death, death is inevitable. When someone in the family dies, a funeral is held. If there is a very old person in the family who has passed away, such as a person in his 90s, or a centenarian, etc., the family will hold a funeral.

If you go to this kind of funeral, you have to pay more attention.

One: Pay attention to your language. Two:

Be mindful of what you attire. Three: Pay attention to your expressions.

Therefore, when going to the funeral, you must pay attention to these points. At the same time, I believe that many people will have a little more understanding of life after attending the funeral. Cherish your time now.

Joy and mourning are generally situations in which the elderly are too old to die naturally. It is generally believed that the old man is going to another world to live a life without pain, which is not a bad thing, so it is called joy and mourning. When attending a funeral, avoid loud noises and laughter, and stay serious.