Is it reasonable for the woman s family to ask for a high bride price?

I don't think it's reasonable, you're not selling girls, asking for such a high bride price may make the man's family famine, and besides, don't you have to pay it back if your daughter marries? Isn't this also a pit for my daughter?

It makes sense, although it is said that love should not be linked to money, but it can also be seen that you are reluctant to pay the price for this relationship.

Yes, the princess whose parents have worked hard to raise her in the palm of her hand for more than 20 years is about to become someone else's family, and the bride price can also be used as a guarantee for the girl.

There is some truth, after all, it is very hard for them to raise their daughters, and they should want the bride price money to support them.

It makes sense, people have worked hard to raise their daughters, and they want to go to your house to serve your parents and give you children, so you can't give them a bride price.

I think it makes sense. Because the daughter will definitely be very sad to marry and become a parent, and there is no way to determine whether the man will be good to his daughter. Therefore, of course, it is natural to receive the bride price money.

It makes sense, life is inseparable from firewood, rice, oil and salt, and human contacts, so you can't have no family background at all, not to mention that the woman also brings a dowry.

Bride price, dowry, three from four virtues, three wives and four concubines, from one to the end, daughters do not have to provide for their parents, these words should be connected, right? Why is it only about the bride price now?

A proper bride price is fine, but a high bride price is not reasonable.

Show my sincerity to me, I think I will marry him, I am not afraid of poverty, I am not afraid of hardship, I am only afraid that he is not sincere, but if their family is not poor to the point that they can't afford a penny of bride price, then how much will be paid, our family never cares about the amount of bride price, what we care about is an attitude, if you can afford 1000, you can afford 1000, you can afford 10,000, you can afford 10,000, as long as we can see that their family really values me, I am willing to marry.

My in-laws' family is quite poor, before we graduated, my in-laws didn't save a penny, and then we talked about marriage, my in-laws saved a little money, in addition to the expenses required for the wedding, out of 30,000 yuan, of which 17,000 is the bride price, 10,000 yuan is three gold, 3,000 yuan is the change of mouth fee, we did not dislike less, my parents also married 30,000 yuan, we happily tied the knot, so what I wanted was never a bride price, what I wanted was an attitude, if their family was poor at the beginning, I don't want to give a penny of bride price, and I am confident, I take it for granted, I think that if I have to ask for a bride price, or because of this, I will not marry, it is vanity material, I don't like the poor and love the rich, then I will never marry, I say something unpleasant, as long as his parents are well fed, it is impossible not to take out a penny, even if there is only 1000 yuan on the body, but Huai Lian is willing to take out a few hundred yuan from the 1000 yuan to give me a bride price, that is also a sincere attitude I want.

If two people really want to go on, they really want to get married, and the two families really want to fulfill the happiness of their children, then the man's family should do their best to give the bride price, and the woman's family should consider the situation of the man's family, ask for less bride price, or let the man's family decide the amount of bride price. Under what circumstances does the woman's family ask for a bride price only if they sell their daughter? I think it's because the woman's family asked for a high bride price, but she didn't want to give a penny for the dowry, or the dowry given was far less than the bride price.

If the woman's family wants as much dowry as they want, and the family does not take advantage of the man's family, no one is qualified to say that they sell their daughters, and no one is qualified to say that they want a bride price.

The woman's family wants a bride price, and I am quite disgusted by this problem. You can't sell your own girls for money, it's inhumane to do so. Marriage is a bedrock fortune for two people, not simply a matter for the man.

1. It is essentially short-sighted for a woman to ask for a high bride price, but it is precisely because of this that this custom is unbreakable.

How can a short-sighted person understand what losses his short-sightedness will bring?

If you really have the brains to make long-term plans, it can't be called short-sighted.

A person's cognition is shaped by his or her environment, education, personal experience, etc., and no one can transcend their cognitive limitations.

Short-sighted people don't see the future, lack the ability to delay gratification, and care less about the well-being of the next generation.

When parents do not have the ability to read people, the only thing they can understand about their children's marriage is naturally money.

For them, as long as their daughter marries someone who is willing to give the bride price, the other party is a good person and it is naturally better to live up to her daughter.

Under this short-sighted logic of thinking, it becomes inevitable to ask for a high bride price.

2. The more girls with superior family conditions, strong individual ability, independent capital, and no dependence on others, they will not ask for a high bride price, but pay more attention to whether their partners are the right people and have the same talents.

Such a family is not short-sighted, they know that they can save for their daughter with the little dowry, and what they can't give their daughter is a partner who can accompany and support her for the rest of her life.

Forward-looking parents will examine the young man's original family quality, personal ability and character, whether he is stable and decent at work, whether he sincerely cares for his daughter, and how much he values his fiancée's ......How much the other party can pay for the bride price is the second of the second.

Indeed, many people are not accustomed to such a bride price custom, and the state has been introducing policies to try to curb such a trend, but with little success.

After all, parents who understand the truth don't need you to repeatedly emphasize that they themselves understand, while elders who don't understand will only be stubborn no matter what you say.

As for the question of whether the woman should ask for a bride price when a young person gets married, I personally think that from different perspectives, there should be their own reasons, so I personally believe that a direct conclusion should not be made, but it should be viewed on a case-by-case basis.

First of all, the custom of getting married to Caifeng has been passed down for a long time, so as a woman to ask the man for a bride price when she gets married, as long as it is not a lion's mouth, it is within the range of the man's bearing, then I personally think that there is nothing unreasonable, of course, the most important thing is whether two or two people can really recognize this relationship in the process of getting along, whether they really recognize each other, if it is just for the bride price and get married, then such a marriage is meaninglessIn the case of Dump Jishan, there is no need for the man to give the woman a bride price, because such a marriage itself has changed its taste, and it is impossible for him to get any happiness and happiness from this marriage.

From the boy's point of view, if his economic conditions are not very allowed, if he meets the bride price conditions proposed by the woman, then his and the woman's future married life is very difficult, in this case, you should communicate well with the girl, get the support and understanding of the girl as much as possible, and then the girl will do the work of her parents, after all, whether it is the man's parents or the woman's parents, they all hope that the marriage between the two people can be loving and happy in the future, and the bride price is just a form. This form should not be taken too seriously.

Nowadays many people are an important reason for hindering young people from getting married. **bride price and hate,Think that some women's parents accept **bride price** is equivalent to selling their daughters,Although this view is a little too extreme,But I personally think there is a certain truth。

Although some parents charge the bride price from the man on the issue of their daughter's marriage, the original intention is not to say how much money they can get, but to let their daughter's future life have a certain material security, or because of the face factor fear that the bride price will be less, and they can't raise their heads in front of other relatives at home, but they don't realize that such a practice is likely to cause their daughters and their future sons-in-law to encounter great obstacles and difficulties in their relationships. Even this practice is a typical stick beating mandarin ducks, I personally think that as a woman, parents should be more open-minded, as long as it is their daughter looking for a marriage partner, is a real character balance, self-motivated empty boy, then they should actively support, should not let the sky-high bride price become a stumbling block to prevent two young people from falling in love.

Of course, for those parents of families with many children, the reason why they have to receive a bride price when their daughters get married is because when their sons get married, they also have to give other women's families a high bride price, otherwise their sons will not be able to get married, but even so, they should not ignore their daughters for the happiness of their sons and the major events of marriage, after all, the palms and backs of their hands are meat, and parents should still try their best to achieve a bowl of water. Of course, in order to solve such a problem, it is fundamentally necessary to let more female parents realize that it is very wrong to receive a bride price, and compared with the bride price, the happiness of the daughter is always the first place.