How can you tell if you like him or rely on him? It s very vague, I can t figure myself out

Have you ever thought about him? For example, if he is injured, you will be worried, and you can't help but tell him everything you see that is good. I just want to spend the festival with him and want to do a lot of things for him, such as cooking, cleaning the house, and so on.

If you have this feeling, then you just like it.

Remember, liking and relying on are the difference between giving. If you just want to get what you need in him, it's dependence. If you think of paying for him, doing things for him, and starting to care about his mood, then you just like him.

How does he feel about you? If he just thinks of you as a sister, it's good to treat him as a brother. I've been in this situation as well. Dependency is not necessarily liking, but liking is bound to depend.

In reality, I'm like this There will be such a good brother, and it's not one, once because of my brother's girlfriend, I had a big quarrel with him, and I ignored him in my freshman year, but in my junior year, we had a party with several brothers in high school, and he also came, and that time he drank too much and said he was sorry for me in front of me Actually, I don't have that feeling of liking my brother, but I still have the feeling of being a landlord But maybe because of my brother, so this kind of feeling is normal for me, just put a good attitudeMy boyfriend is also full of understanding

I won't like the opposite sex who talks to you a lot, becauseI know I just"Habit"I can tell"Dependency"with"Like", the opposite sex may be in"Celery rents and casts a wide net of dry things"。

❤"Habit"It is possible to have it for a long time"Like"It could just be a momentary thing.

It's easy to form habits, but likes come by feeling.

Frequent chats can only explain and share common topics, but falling in love requires not only a common topic, but also a match for the family background and personality characteristics of the two.

Girls are more emotional and easy to mistaken"Habit"Dang"Like", like is something that needs to be exciting, not just enough to chat.

❤"Dependency"with"Like"are very different, and we need to make them clearer.

Dependence is actually too lazy to do it yourself, thinking about it yourself, and wanting someone to help you do it all the time.

Like me, I rely on my mom who always has my luggage ready for me to go to school. She bought my clothes, her my shoes, and my skincare because I didn't know anything about it. But,Now I'm out of fluid to start trying"Independence"Because I can't rely on my mom for the rest of my life!

Like is to think about a person all the time: think about whether he has eaten, drank, or slept.

This feeling is by no means with"Dependency"It can be compared.

That person of the opposite sex may just be enjoying the feeling that someone cares.

Some of the opposite sex are there"Cast a wide net", deliberately find some girls who want to fall in love and are not deeply involved in the world to chat, and then the girls will think that they like each other, and pay a lot for the opposite sex: make him a small snack, save money to buy him a more expensive gift.

As a result, the girl wasted her youth in vain, and the scumbag still lived a chic life!

I think girls need to recognize the person they are talking to, and even need to ask their own questions directly, and don't be stupid and pay silently, which is just wishful thinking.

The person you're chatting with, you can't be sure of what he's really thinking, don't jump to conclusions"Like"One needs to be cautious.

You can be separated from him for a while, then will you think of him, will you care about covering him, will you be sad after leaving him, if there is some behavior in this boring situation, let it show that you like him.

In fact, this state of trembling Qi Li shows that he is more confused, if he really likes this person, then he will appreciate everything about him, even if he will tolerate his shortcomings. If you don't like this person, it's just a short-term disturbance like sexual appreciation, and there is no need to last long.

In fact, everyone's feelings for the other half will be mixed with likes and dependence. If you don't mind his shortcomings and missing drafts, it means that you like him and rely on him to find things. If you mind his lack of liquid, it means that you are a little more dependent.

Hello, I am the emotional fairy sister, waiting patiently for me.

Questions. Good.

Isn't that a contradiction?

How will this man treat himself after he makes a mistake, if he chooses to forgive, it means that he likes this person, and if he does not forgive, he is dependent.

I think at this time you can try to disconnect with this person to see if you will miss it very much during the period of disconnection.

Like is when you see him, you will have a sense of joy in your heart. You're going to have a lot of fun with him. His every move will attract your attention.

If he's happy, you'll be happy. When he is sad, you are inexplicably followed by the difficult nuclear socks, and your emotions will always change because of him. You'll be happy to see him, and you'll miss him if you can't see him.

Dependency is when you are not completely independent emotionally. There is dependence on him. Or they can't face their own independent filial piety in life.

You need him to be there to help you and guide you. But whatever he does, you may only be grateful to him. And there is no real liking him or really falling in love with him.

You're used to him being around you. And he can also give you a sense of security by being around you.

But he can't give you happiness. That's the difference between liking and depending.

It's very simple, if you like it, you will want to pay for each other, and if you are dependent, you will only enjoy each other's love.

We say that liking is mutual, when you like a person, you will unconsciously think about him (her), your eyes just want to see him, you want to be with him, no matter what you do, you are happy, even if you are a little tired, as long as you can see each other, it is also sweet in your heart.

When I like it, I can't help but want to do something for the other party, for example, when I see him sweating like rain when he plays, I want to hand him a bottle of water to wipe his sweat; In winter, I wanted to give him a scarf to keep warm. This feeling of thinking about the other person is called liking.

Dependence, on the other hand, is more selfish, and the general situation is to enjoy the care of the other person and not want to give. For example, I know that the other party is very tired from working overtime, but I feel very bored and lonely, and I want the other party to come over to accompany me. Or they know that the place where they sell things is far away, or they need to queue up, but they still willfully let the tired other party buy them.

If you really like it, you will feel sorry for the other party, and you just want to provide convenience for yourself.

Whether it is a boy or a girl, when choosing to be a couple, they will always value each other's advantages, and when they pursue the opposite sex, they are always willing to pay for each other. However, in the world of love, not every effort is rewarded, some people will be moved by each other and gradually like each other, while some people will only enjoy the convenience of this pursuit, but they will not refuse if they don't like it, rely on each other, and use it as a spare tire.

Therefore, when we choose a couple, we should keep our eyes open and recognize the character, although there is nothing wrong with pursuing the person we like, but it also depends on whether the other party is worth your pursuit.

Like someone is the most beautiful thing. You will treat him as if he were yourself, and even care more about him than you do. I think about him in everything, and his joys, sorrows, and sorrows are always implicated in the changes in his feelings.

When he is happy, you are willing to laugh with him, but when he is sad, you are willing to force a smile to soothe the fragility in his heart. So I think it's especially great to like someone and even love someone.

However, dependence is a certain sense of sustenance and security that a person has in your heart. In many ways, you won't have much thought baggage, anyway, you have his presence behind you, so don't worry too much, this is a person's dependence psychology.

However, in my opinion, there is a certain difference between liking and depending. If you are dependent on someone, it proves that he is important in your heart and that you like him and even love him. But if you like someone, then the affection for him is not just dependence, but more about sharing together.

But at some point, when you encounter something that you can't solve or are difficult to deal with, if you blindly push everything to him, but never care about other people's feelings, then he may only be a useful friend in your heart, so I think it's not really liking, but just a pure dependence.

Distinguish between likes and dependencies? This should be for the relationship between men and women. In my opinion, whether it is a boy or a girl, they should have their own independent space, that is, learn to be independent, although couples in love like to be greasy and crooked, but do not restrict each other's freedom too much, and in love should also distinguish what is like, what is dependent.

If you like it, it is the love in the relationship, you are willing to be with each other, each other can accept each other's advantages and disadvantages, the biggest difference between this and dependence is whether there is freedom. I remember when I was in college, my dormitory roommate had a boyfriend, and it was good at first, and the girls were all doing activities with us, including eating or other activities, all of which were participated together, but slowly, I felt that the girl was separated from us, and after going out at 7 o'clock in the morning, I couldn't see her for a day, and I didn't come back until 9 o'clock in the evening before the lights went out, and then I was busy washing, washing clothes, sleeping, and there was not much communication in the middle. And, for example, if one of the boys has something to go out for a few days, or if he is not with her, the girl will seem bored and will not dominate her life at all, and this affection directly affects the independence of the other party.

In such a situation, it is dependent.

You may say, isn't it all like this? After a long time, they will rely on each other, inseparable every day, tired of being together every day, isn't this very happy? Actually, think about it from another angle, is there only your other half in your life?

Don't you need a little space to organize your life? It's not good to say, if your relationship doesn't stand the test and separates halfway, have you ever thought about what advantages you have in life at this time, how you will arrange your future life, and be strong to face the future. Really, liking is not the same as dependence, and I personally feel that it is better to be independent, especially women, who should learn to be independent.

Nowadays, when many people look at a relationship, they often can't tell what is dependent and what is like. It's just that we've been together for a long time, and we can't define our feelings clearly. I've had this experience before.

I used to be in a relationship in high school, and it's been almost two years. I used to be very happy when we were together, thinking that we should stick together all the time, and sometimes I felt too unbearable to be separated for a day or two during the holidays. But later, because of many, many things, the hearts of our two lovers were consumed, and we became quarrelsome because of a little thing, and the original patience and confidence became worn out with time.

We tried to break up a lot of times, but I felt like I couldn't let go. I thought I still liked him, so I let myself be separated from him many times. It wasn't until the last separation that I understood, it turned out that I was really relaxed, I didn't love anymore, I didn't like it anymore, I refused to let myself go just because I felt that we had been together for so long, so I would form a dependence on him, as if having him by my side was a habit.

In fact, if you don't like it, you can't deceive yourself. Looking back now, it turns out that I didn't like him that much back then. You can't deceive others in your heart.

Sometimes I feel that he contacts me too often and hates this feeling of being bound, and sometimes I begin to resist some intimate behavior and contact with him, it turns out that I don't love anymore, and the physical behavior really can't be deceived. After spending a long time together, it will become a habit and dependence. So sometimes we stubbornly make this dependence a habit.

Sometimes we really have to get to the bottom of our hearts.

It's not difficult to distinguish between liking and dependence, leave each other for a while, separate each other for a while, go and experience something alone, if you leave him, you can also be on your own, not because of something to get him, but you still can't forget him, which shows that he may be someone you like.

If you really like someone, then you will be willing to do a lot of things for him, and if you rely on a person, then you will just find another spiritual comfort.

At the beginning of an emotion, whether it is a story of love at first sight or a story of long-term love, I think that the first thing is to have the feeling of liking the heart, and then there will be a feeling of dependence. Just like getting along with friends, from not knowing to knowing, to understanding, to acquaintance, to believing, and finally to trust, and even to indispensable, it takes a time to foreshadow, emotional investment, and the possibility of going from liking to dependence!

Like is just a feeling, rather hazy, some people think that liking is a pretext, a kind of euphemistic refusal that does not want to continue to go deeper with the other party. And love is more of a responsibility, a kind of giving, all the time, everything you do, any decision will take into account your feelings and thoughts. Because he is afraid that he will not be able to protect you, he is afraid of losing you, and he doesn't want you to suffer any grievances or injuries!

So I think in a relationship, if you rely on someone for everything simply because you like him, it is irresponsible, you just think from your own point of view, and you use others to save your own efforts, and there will always be an imbalance in such a relationship.

Because at first you may be moved, you will be gratefulBut when this kind of behavior of relying on others to pay becomes a habit, once the other party does not do what you ask in your heart, you will unconsciously have emotions in your heart, you will complain, you will be dissatisfied, you will lose your temper, and finally lead to two people with resentment and dissatisfaction with each other.

I think the correct dependence should not have any utilitarian intentions, nor is it the dependence of some people's "shortcuts", the combination of two people has played a 1+1 equal 2 effect on their own growth, or their respective careers, or family happinessBut each other can be independent, if one party is in need, the other side can stand up, like comrades-in-arms, in the same boat. I think if you can figure out what kind of emotions you have for the other person, it may not be difficult to distinguish whether you are dependent or like!