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1.Respect your father: Respect his opinions and decisions, and don't be vexatious or express your demands in an inappropriate way.
2.Reasonable requests: Make sure your request is reasonable and well-founded. If your request is not well founded, then your father may not agree.
3.Communicate clearly: Clearly express your request and explain why you think it is important to you. Make sure your father understands the reason behind your request.
4.Look for compromises: If your father is a little hesitant about your request, try to find compromises. For example, you can make alternative requests or reduce the size of your requests.
5.Rewards and gratitude: If your father agrees to your request, remember to express your gratitude and appreciation. If you can prove that your request is good for both you and him, then he may be more willing to agree.
Please note that every family and every situation is different, so adjustments need to be made on a case-by-case basis. Most importantly, maintain good communication and mutual respect.
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This makes Dad agree to your request:
1. First of all, don't ask your dad directly, but first maintain it to please your dad.
2. Secondly, let Dad feel full of love for himself.
3. Finally, tactfully put forward your own request to Dad, and Dad will agree to your request because he is happy and thinks that he has such a good child.
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The simplest and most effective way is to communicate with my parents: 1. I need to pay for the New Year.
Second, you must make it clear what you want to use your New Year's money for, whether you want to buy toys, snacks or save money, etc., otherwise there is no room for discussion with your parents.
3. If the parents do not agree, choose the party who is easier to talk to, such as the father, and communicate privately.
Fourth, if you still don't agree, you can talk about conditions, for example, if you give me New Year's money, I insist on exercising every day, washing dishes and sweeping the floor, getting a full score in math exams, and other conditions and conditions put forward by my parents. I often encountered this kind of problem when I was a child, but I didn't have any concept of money, but when I was in the fourth grade, I was very obsessed with playing games, and the game cartridge was very expensive at that time, and I couldn't buy it for a long time with my pocket money.
Because I was young at the time, I thought that someone else gave me the New Year's money, and my parents took it and thought it was unreasonable. In addition, it needs to be added: the New Year's money is not actually given to you by others, but because of the type of your parents.
I didn't understand this truth at all when I was a child, thinking that what others gave me was my own, in fact, others would give it to me for the sake of their parents' face, which involved the status of parents, resources, and factors of human sophistication. Children with good family conditions will also get more New Year's money.
Therefore, it is not correct to say that children will have New Year's money, and the ** of children's New Year's money is actually under the influence of your family. Children have little understanding of the concept of money, thinking that their parents will get money when they work, and they will not know that money is not easy to come by, such as saying that their father worked overtime, drank and socialized, was scolded by the leader, and did not go well at work.
Therefore, even if you get the New Year's money, you can't waste it, you can spend it casually, you must consume it in moderation, and you can't blindly compare, which will develop a bad habit of spending money lavishly. If the parents insist on not giving, they can't be too willful, resist the parents, think that the parents are not right when they were young or obediently listen to the parents, their approach is not necessarily correct, but the starting point must be good, and you will understand when you grow up.
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Your boyfriend basically meets your father's requirements for his son-in-law, so what else do you have to worry about, you told your father directly, maybe he can help you staff staff don't worry about your father will not agree.
It's already in college, it's a normal thing to fall in love, take the first step bravely, find an opportunity to clear up and tell your dad about it, and then you can take your boyfriend to your house and let your mom and dad check for you. Let them see if your boyfriend can take care of you in the future.
Parents will definitely think about their children and want you to do well, so you don't have to worry about what to be afraid of. Do what you think, sooner or later you have to tell your parents, maybe tell them, and they will be happy
Don't let your parents get involved too early in your responses.
Falling in love is a matter between you and him, you just need to handle the relationship with him.
Marriage is what really requires the intervention of both parents.
Many people fall in love with Jinghuai, and after only a year or even half a year, they take it back to see their parents, hoping to get their parents' blessings.
Whether the boy has the financial ability or not, whether the girl's family background is good enough, in the eyes of the parents, they who prefer blind dates will not consider whether your relationship is good enough, and the right door is the king.
Fight for the greater good of our own children, although, this is also for our good.
Why bother arguing with your parents when you are in love but have no financial conditions and no foundation, it will only add a lot of trouble and affect the relationship.
When you have enough strength and a stable relationship, it is more practical to talk about breaking away from your parents, or convincing your parents.
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Let's start with two perspectives:
First, first of all, it is understandable for you to insist on being with the person you like, although his life is not very good and his life is relatively bumpy, but we can't look at people with colored eyes because of this.
Second, as parents, they tend to have a lot more experience than we do. Often, some of our current views are ridiculous when we think about them 10 or 20 years later, and that is to appreciate how wise our parents were at that time. Therefore, the words of the fathers are definitely not entirely unreasonable old concepts.
When they hear that your boyfriend is with some people in society, they may not know him as a person, but it is also relatively normal for them to be disgusted by this group.
As you said, your friend is nice and has a job, so I suggest you can do both jobs. Let your parents give him some time, and at the same time you have to let him gradually get on the right track (after all, society is mixed, and it's not good to be mixed together), so that parents can see his grades and your persistence. Take your time and trust that if your boyfriend is who you think he is, your parents will agree with you.
But don't rush it.
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If your parents still dislike him, it's a problem with the older generation's mindset that can't be easily changed.
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Time is the best medicine.
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When you write a letter to him, you must first write objectively, because you yourself are the person concerned, don't write any of your feelings into it, I think he will only be angry when he sees it.
If you want to write a letter, your purpose is nothing more than to get him to agree, then the best way is to start with yourself, introduce him to your situation, tell him how you and your girlfriend met, it is best to be tactful and detailed, for example, how you came here, how you were with your girlfriend, how you got love from your girlfriend, and what kind of mood you have for your girlfriend during the time that the two of you have supported each other together.
Because what he understands about your situation is from your girlfriend's mouth, he doesn't know you either, at most he only knows a rough idea, according to the current parents' thinking, you are just a stranger to him, you and his daughter have not come to the step of talking about marriage after all, he has no need and is too lazy to understand you so much.
So since he doesn't know you and doesn't know you well, of course, he only depends on whether your external conditions are suitable for his daughter, and you don't have to complain, this is what all parents naturally think.
If you want to go on with your girlfriend, then you should try to write more articles on the love between you and your girlfriend, let him know your love for your girlfriend, let him know your efforts and make efforts for your life in the future, so that his daughter can live a better life in the future, I think in this way, even if the first letter can't move him, then after a long time, it will definitely be good.
You don't need to write any of your opinions about him or their family, the first letter introduces your situation and your situation with your girlfriend, and the future only needs to write about your recent situation and your girlfriend, how to work hard, and have some thoughts of your own, and write relatively tactful and humorous.
He's not your enemy, he's motivated by his daughter's good, and you're not in a position to blame him, right? After all, you are just a junior, and you have to marry the heart and liver that he has raised for decades, do you think he can not have some opinions about you.
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Is it necessary to write a letter? Personally, I don't think it's very necessary, and there are two reasons why you wrote one is far away and the other is out of town, and the field doesn't include far away? Analyzing it, I still think that you are far away, it is normal for the conservative older generation to have this mentality, and now it can become the real reason No, even foreign countries can't fly for a day, the point is what kind of happiness can her daughter enjoy with you, what kind of filial piety can you give to their old people, and where can life be good now?
What can prove that you have this strength depends on your own weight. You have to let your future father-in-law see that you are excellent, and that an excellent person will not be rejected by anyone, do you think?
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Whether you can be together or not is a matter for the two of you, and it has nothing to do with anyone. The main thing about whether the two of you can get together is your girlfriend.
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Wrong, if you want him to believe in you, you have to have practical actions instead of talking on paper.
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As long as you have a sincere heart, writing letters, calling ** and meeting are all good means of communication. Her father disagrees with you, mainly because he is worried that his daughter will suffer in the future if she is with you again. Therefore, you should write a letter to dispel the old man's concerns about this, and let the old man know that you are sincere, responsible, including sincere care for his daughter, and at the same time let the old man know your filial piety.
Of course, if you say it is not the most important thing, the key depends on your actions and implementation. When you usually have the opportunity to meet them, you must reflect your filial piety and care, and your care, care, tolerance and sense of responsibility for your girlfriend in your actions, so that the elderly can rest assured.
The old man's heart is actually very soft, the reason why he seems to be short-tempered, everything is that he hopes to find a good family and hope that his daughter will live well. This is the wish of parents in the world, please understand and be considerate.
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Tell him that his daughter is already yours, both hard and soft.
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Let's take a chance to meet us. Sincerity is important. Don't have a fluke mentality... I'm busy preparing for the same thing as you. Let's work together. Hehe.
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Tell him to join you and give birth to a baby, the elders will be more reasonable, what are you afraid of, big man.
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Mainly to express your ability to be good to his daughter and respect for his second elder.
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Same as at home! My dad didn't agree with my husband either, but I thought that if I persevered, I would succeed! Don't give up at any time.
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Writing a letter is not a good way to communicate, but if you can only write a letter, it is recommended to focus on respect, and slowly impress him with your sincerity, your filial piety and your commitment to his daughter.
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