How can you tell if the two have entered an emotional lull?

In my opinion, the normal order of love is this:

Two people agree to be together - two people start to fall in love - hot love - low period - ready to get married - get married.

When two people are together, they will definitely get tired of being together, and two people will think about always being with each other, and they will always think about each other in their hearts, but if they want to judge whether they have entered a dull period, there are several phenomena:

1. Begin to turn more energy to your own life and work while not abandoning each other, when you are in love, everything is for the sake of each other is certain, but after a period of time, you will find that you are basically thinking about each other during this period of time, accompanying each other, and you will ignore other directions of life and work, but when you enter the dull period, both people will scatter some of their energy elsewhere.

2, began to face the future of the two people, I think that entering the flat period is not only the dull after the love, but the beginning of the love gradually rational, the previous love is just carried away by love, the bland formal rational time, the previous two people in the planning of their own future, are beautiful, but the dull period of the future, it is all realistic.

3, the two families also began to enter, at this time, the two families must also know each other's existence, and they also began to have some influence, such as the parents used to call ** only to themselves, but now if they can't find themselves, they will call their girlfriends.

Of course, the lull period I am talking about is actually the state after the love, not the prelude to the breakup, the lull period can be more rational to look at the love of two people, entering the lull period, is the formality of life, after all, it is impossible to be in love for a lifetime.

Maybe it's just about each other's attitudes towards each other.

First of all, during the period when two people are in love, it must be Qingqing and me, the two of them are lively, and they don't feel annoyed when they get tired of being together every day, but when they wait, he even thinks it's a waste of feelings to speak, that is the emotional dull period.

But for a relationship, the emotional lull period is also a very normal thing, first of all, two people have been together for a long time, there will definitely be a lot less etiquette things, and then after a period of time with each other, the two people gradually run in, gradually deepen their understanding, and finally cross a lot of obstacles, they will gradually have more etiquette and newcomers to each other, and finally manage a lot of things, after many run-ins, two people will still be together, because after all, couples who have experienced a lot of things together, with those, plain, Couples who have never experienced anything when you are together every day, unable to extricate themselves in the world of two, are completely different states.

Therefore, feelings are actually an extremely precious thing, and when you completely run out of patience, you will feel that there is no point in continuing this relationship. Probably the relationship is like this, you forgive again and again, in exchange for the other party's particularly ruthless indifference, dealing with the scumbag, it is like the story of the farmer and the snake, just him, it bites you, you are more, he bites you to death, not only does not know the gratitude, this said, it will not be better for you because of this, it will only become more ruthless to you, after all, the dog can't change the sentence of eating, it is really this kind of person, so, it is completely unnecessary.

After spending some time, then decide to be together, if you have been cold, it is not love.

Love will generally enter the emotional dull period after a year, after the relationship between these two people is stable, two people need to actively deal with emotional problems, and at the same time need to find a way for two people to live in harmony.

When two people first start together, because this time belongs to the period of love, two people may ignore each other's shortcomings and shortcomings. After the period of passionate love, the way two people get along with each other will change to a certain extent, and the attitude of two people towards each other will be different. At this time, two people need to learn to take the initiative to manage their feelings, and at the same time, they also need to solve all kinds of problems that occur when two people are together, so that the relationship between two people becomes better and better.

1. Love will enter a period of emotional dullness after one year.

At the beginning of a relationship, because the freshness between two people is very strong, two people will generally only focus on each other's strengths, and at the same time, they will ignore the possible contradictions between two people. After a year, if the two people can continue to get along, the relationship between the two people will become more and more stable, but it will also become more and more flat. <>

Second, the relationship in the off-the-slung period needs to be mutually tolerant.

No matter what problems occur, two people need to focus on solving the problem, never complain too much about the other half, and don't blindly blame the other half for personality or work habits. To a certain extent, there will always be all kinds of problems when two people get along, so two people need to tolerate and understand each other as much as possible, and never worry about small things. <>

Third, in the off-season, you also need to take the initiative to manage your feelings.

It is difficult for two people not to have any problems, once there are problems and frictions, two people need to have the awareness of actively managing feelings, and at the same time, they need to deal with all kinds of problems in the right way. From my personal point of view, we not only need to pay attention to each other's emotional needs, but also need to come up with ways to live in harmony with this one, and both of us need to work hard for a common relationship. <>

Generally speaking, after the second half of the year, it will enter a dull period, and after half a year, two people will spend a passionate love, and at this time they know each other very well, and the relationship becomes relatively dull. During the off-season, you should pay attention to some sense of ritual and create some surprises for each other, so that two people can still feel something different.

After about a year of falling in love, it will enter a period of emotional flatness; In the off-season, two people should understand each other, tolerate, trust, and care for each other, and they should also create a series of small surprises for each other appropriately, so that the other party feels loved, and care more about each other in life, and should appear by each other's side in time when the other party needs it.

Generally, after about two years of love, you will enter a flat period of feelings, because this flat period needs to be accompanied by a marriage, so you can maintain your relationship if you are willing to get married.

What does love look like to grow old? Many people think that the end of love is family affection, but in fact, there is not only family affection.

No matter how passionate love is, there is a dull day, which is a reality that many people can't accept during my marriage repair consultation.

When love goes from hot love to dull, it does not mean that love is over, but it means that a relationship should enter a deeper mental state.

It's just that many people will have some psychological changes at this time because of the emotional changes between themselves and the other party, and they begin to question love, not knowing whether this love has entered a cold period or the other party is not in love.

It is easy to tell whether love has entered a cold period or is not in love, and it is easy to see from the other party's mentality and behavior.

1.Whether there is a sense of dependency.

The relationship has entered a dull period, which does not mean that the relationship has disappeared. Since love exists, it means that the other party's dependence on you has not changed drastically.

On the contrary, because two people will establish a deeper communication after entering a quiet period, this sense of dependence will be deepened.

But if you don't love it, this sense of dependence will disappear, and the other party will begin to become independent, and when you can solve it by yourself no matter what happens, it means that the relationship may have moved towards the moment when love disappears.

2.Whether there is a sense of responsibility.

The sense of responsibility does not disappear with the end of the chemistry, and it does not change if the other person still has feelings for you.

He still wants to be responsible for your present and future, which is a normal state of mind between couples.

If the other party treats you very casually, then it also means that there has been some kind of transformation between you.

The difference between the cold period and not loving is still very big, and many people will carry out some self-deception in the relationship, for example, they know that the other party no longer loves themselves, but they will still deceive themselves and just enter the emotional dull period.

The two didn't have much to do with each other, and they went back at night to play their own games, and there weren't many topics.