What should I do if my parents always arrange for me to go on a blind date?

You have to go on a blind date with your heart, and maybe you will meet the little prince in your mind.

Communicate more, 1. Tell them that you have to find it yourself and that you have the ability to control your marriage. 2. You can also tell them the requirements you are looking for.

For parents who always arrange a blind date without your consent,In this case, my advice is to communicate directly with your parents.

Chinese parents are always used to doing everything for their children, but as an independent individual child, they have the right to choose.

When I was 25 years old, my parents frequently arranged blind dates for me. But at that time, I had no intention of getting married and wanted to have a career, so I had an open and honest conversation with my parents: they raised all their worries, and I would give my own solutions and deal with them one by one.

In the end, we came to an agreement, my parents gave me three years to concentrate on my own business, but after three years, I also had to respect their opinions and take the initiative to find a boyfriend.

Now five years later, I now have a stable love interest, for thisThe parents were satisfied。Of course they also gave me time to tidy myself up, during these three years,I also did what I wanted to do

In fact, parents do all this just for your own good, more often parents are worried that you will miss the best opportunity to spend your best youth in the chaos. We need to take the initiative to communicate with them at this time, and if they really care about you, they will listen to you. We try to reach agreement as much as possible, not to blindly confront.

A win-win situation is the best solution.

Of course, if there is really no way to reach a communication, then we can first superficially follow our parents. But what should it actually do? You still have to have your own opinions, do your own life plan, so that you will not regret it in five years or ten years.

The premise of this is that you really know what you want and are not confused.

You only have one life, and if you miss it, you won't start again. My advice to you is to ask yourself three questions before making any decisions:

What will be the consequences for my life?

Can I afford this?

Will you regret it if you don't do it?

With the answers to these three questions figured out, you can make a bold decision.

Finally, I wish you the courage to take the first step in the new year and get better and better!

1.This problem is also the problem of the elders, and it is very direct that most of the elders do not have a clear understanding of the real interests of the younger generations when they introduce them to the younger generations, but only match them according to the very superficial one, family conditions and personal income, in fact, most people lack understanding of the two parties he wants to introduce.

2.In addition, many elders are not seriously introduced, but spontaneously, and when they talk about gossip with relatives, neighbors and even colleagues, they arrange blind dates as they wish. You must know that even professional matchmakers may not do a good job in blind date introduction, and they are introduced at will, of course, the success rate is not high.

3.There is another point, sometimes the blind date introduced by the elders may be deliberately arranged to fail. In order to get married to their children, many elders have also put a lot of thought into the blind date.

In the conventional practice, I will deliberately find a few people who are not suitable or have lower conditions than the child's vision, let the child feel a round of frustration first, and then arrange them.

2.The introduce's question.

The young men and women who are introduced to the blind date actually have some problems themselves.

Many people are singled because they have problems, or even problems with the opposite sex.

Of course, there are many people whose own conditions are not very good, and they do not recognize their own situation, and they have too high requirements for others, and they can't look down on them everywhere.

In addition to the above two points, it is also very important that many young people are more exclusive to blind dates, and many still have expectations for themselves to find a partner, of course, there are also people who do not want to get off the list, and they will not succeed if they are forcibly arranged.

Of course, putting aside these problems, it is not easy to find a partner by itself, otherwise everyone will not always say that fate is rare.

The blind date is actually a quick match of marriage, and when you fall in love, you will often find that there is no match and you will be separated and replaced, not to mention that marriage is a more prudent life event? The blind date itself is a quick marriage match, and it is naturally inappropriate, so it is normal to fail often.

If the child reaches a certain age and has not yet fallen in love, the parents will definitely be very anxious, so they will look for you to find a blind date, you can also go to meet, if there is a suitable one, isn't it just right, of course, there is no suitable one, and don't force it. If you really don't want to go, you can find a reason not to go on a blind date, and your parents will not force you.

When you reach marriageable age, parents may start to rush and arrange a blind date, and here are a few suggestions for this situation:

1.Calm down first: Before accepting your parents' blind date arrangement, calm down and think about your psychological state and whether you are really ready.

2.Communicate with your parents: If you feel like you're not ready, talk to your parents and express your opinions. In the process of expression, pay attention to the wording and try to avoid using words that are too direct or hurtful to the feelings.

3.Determine your criteria: If you're ready to start looking for a romantic partner, you first need to be clear about your criteria and expectations. These criteria and expectations may include aspects such as personal interests, personality, arguments, family background, etc.

4.Be active: When you decide to go on a blind date, be active, keep an open mind, and treat the other person with respect. Don't be too the other person, and don't expect too much from yourself. Dig Lao Kai.

5.Maintain independence: In the process of blind date, you should maintain independent thinking and judgment ability, do not blindly follow the arrangements of your parents, and do not be affected by external pressure. The final decision is up to you, and don't sacrifice your happiness for the sake of other people's expectations.

In short, you should maintain an open and positive attitude towards the blind date arranged by your parents, and at the same time maintain your independence and self-awareness. Only in this way can you truly find a partner that suits you and achieve happiness.

1. It has been arranged, and your parents have a very big stubbornness about the fact that you need to go on a blind date, so you can try to change your mentality. You can do this on two levels, and first agree with your parents to go on a blind date, then your parents will feel more stable and happy. Even if you agree, you have to do what you say, so at this time you need to be invited, but the vast majority of people have a state of resistance when they go to this process, and at this time everyone needs to change their mentality.

2. Spend more time with your parents and listen to their voices. There may be a variety of reasons behind the act of urging marriage and arranging blind dates, and the original intentions of the parents may be different. Young people need to cherish the time spent with their parents, spend more time listening to their parents' voices, understand the reasons behind their urging marriage and arranging blind dates, understand the stories behind their behaviors, and get into the hearts of their parents and stay close to them.

When anxiety is shared, there is only half of the anxiety left; When happiness is shared, it becomes double the happiness. "3. Don't have conflicts with your parents when you go on a blind date. Many children do not go home for the Chinese New Year and holidays for the sake of their parents, and often quarrel with their parents, so that their parents do not care about themselves.

Based on the vivid cases of friends around me, I don't think a marriage arranged by my parents will be happy. If we are marrying for the sake of our parents, then our marriage is destined not to last long, and the husband and wife will not be happy.

In a marriage arranged by the parents, both parties have each other's salary cards because of emotional problems. Although many people envy couples for having a house and a car, on such days, either party is tormented every day. Only a year has passed.

People couldn't stand it, and her parents urged her to have children, so she chose to divorce because she really didn't want to, ending her unhappy marriage.

I believe that a good marriage is built on the foundation of love, and then slowly love from the lead to love the other person to love the relationship, from you and I to live into a whole us. Any marriage needs a foundation of love, if you don't love two people, it is difficult to be honest with each other, not to mention empathy and mutual understanding, even if you enter the marriage, you will not be happy in the future. Because the marriage arranged by the parents has no emotional foundation, there will definitely be an estrangement between the two people, and they will naturally not get along too closely, and there will be no expectations for the future days.

If you don't meet the right person, don't marry at will, there is a saying that a marriage without love is irresponsible, if two people have no emotional foundation, it is difficult to stay in a marriage for a long time.

In short, it is a great pity that the marriage arranged by the parents did not wait for the so-called true love, and chose an inappropriate person. In such a marriage, it is a blasphemy against one's own happiness and irresponsibility to oneself.

Generally speaking, you won't like what your parents choose for you.

But Yu Zao is the same, generally speaking, if parents can agree to it, there will be no major problems in the end.

So you'd better go to the ones you like and your parents agree with.

The more mature the person, the more acceptable the blind date is.

In fact, at the beginning of the relationship, everyone put many of their conditions on the table to discuss, which is more real and reliable.

Some couples, when they are in love, love the sea and the alliance, in the end, they will quarrel because of the bride price of tens of thousands of yuan, or because of whose name is written on the real estate certificate, but they don't think about ruining the line, so they will be put on the face from the beginning.

There is no shame in caring about material conditions, but what is shameful is that you obviously care but don't say it, you have to flaunt your nobility, and finally tear your face in front of reality.

The people who will come on a blind date are not necessarily character defects, poor looks, or bad conditions, but some are simply narrow interpersonal circles and have less contact with the opposite sex.

Among these girls, there are many who are very worthy of interacting, because they are self-respecting and down-to-earth.

When you really walk into their lives, you will find that they actually have a lot of advantages and a lot to like.

The reason why many people can't find the object is because they have a deviation in their own positioning.

is obviously average-looking, but he feels that he looks more than 8 points; Obviously the family conditions are not good, but I feel that I am a girl, so the family is not important; Obviously his income is not very good, and he has always thought that the income of boys should be several times higher than that of girls.

They will never find the right person until one day they recognize themselves or meet someone they care about.

There are many people who come on a blind date and say that their parents let them come, and most of them are girls.

But don't take it too seriously, because they're just trying to hide their embarrassment.

Blind date. There are some things that must be said in advance.

If some things are not said in advance, in the end, this love and marriage will be a waste of time.

Since you are here for a blind date, you must have the right mentality, or you simply don't come.

Two people just choose each other, whoever doesn't look down on everyone is normal, don't feel that your superiority is bursting if your conditions are good, and your mentality will collapse when the other party doesn't look down on you.

The condition of kindness is often overlooked, but in fact, this is the bottom line of the bottom line.

No matter whether your three views are the same or not, whether your final marriage is happy or not, as long as the other party is kind, there will be no big problems.

So be sure to observe more.

People with low emotional intelligence, whether they are on a blind date or in love, will suffer.

People with high emotional intelligence, whether in temperament or dressing, will perform just right, not only to reflect their own strength, but also to make others very comfortable, and they will not give up any opportunity to improve themselves, such people will generally regularly study, fitness, travel, no matter which of them, as long as they persist for more than a month, temperament and emotional intelligence will improve a lot, and even have a very different performance.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, which parents don't want their children to be good? You should correctly understand your parents' minds and not misunderstand them.

In order to reassure parents, you should communicate with them more often. You can take the initiative to tell your parents about your positive thoughts, so that they can understand that you have indeed put your life's major events at ease, and let them know that you have indeed put into action, so that they can rest assured of you and will not frequently urge marriage.

For blind dates arranged by parents, they should actively cooperate. Even if you don't want to, you have to pretend to be very open-minded. If you are not satisfied with the other party, you don't have to make compromises, just explain the Nai Li to your parents, and when your parents are more stubborn, you must have the patience to talk to them in detail and try to persuade them.

Knowing that blind dates are also beneficial, some people can't step out of that hurdle in their hearts, and feel that they are incompetent when they go on a blind date. I just want to prove that I can do it, and I can find someone who is satisfactory on my own.

This kind of idea is good, there are many people who have this idea, but the reality is very cruel, and few people can get their wish.

The reasons for this are none other than the following:

a.Lack of initiative, bias and fate.

b.The circle of life is narrow, and there is little contact with the opposite sex.

c.The criteria for choosing a mate are too high to find a suitable one.

d.The other party is too good, and he doesn't have the confidence to chase it.