What does the tragedy of Hu Lijuan in Double sided Tape tell us?

You must love yourself, even if it is a woman, don't sacrifice yourself for the sake of your family, be a little more open, don't see love and marriage as so important, you are the most important.

This incident tells us that a woman must not marry a phoenix man, and she must also depend on how the other party's family is, then it will only be herself who will suffer if she marries in the past.

The tragedy of Hu Lijuan tells us the necessity of "the right family", the right family does not have to be the financial status of the two families, but more about family education, living environment, ideology and three views, such a marriage can be lasting and happy.

Love has a bottom line, loving a man is precious, but loving yourself is more important.

The heroine of this TV series, her life experience tells us that marriage is a matter of two families, not two people, and we must keep a distance from each other to our in-laws, and we must have our own bottom line.

Women are not ruthless, and life is unstable!

Wu Lijun, a Shanghai girl, sticks up to the house and money, and also takes care of all kinds of trivial matters of her husband's family and relatives. But in the end, she was beaten to death by her husband because of irreconcilable conflicts in the family, and her father died shortly after learning the bad news, and her mother is still in a mental hospital.

The prototype incident of the TV series "Double-sided Tape" is a tragic story, Hu Lijuan's prototype is that Wu Lijun, a Shanghai girl, graduated from East China Normal University, and the male protagonist graduated from the Network College of Jiaotong University. It was originally the beginning of "Heroes Save Beauty", but I didn't expect the tragic ending in the end.

Specific analysis. Hu Lijuan blurred the boundaries between her mother's family and her mother-in-law's family, and made her mother-in-law take it for granted that the woman's family should contribute to the man's family.

At the beginning of getting married, the woman's family who bought the house made a big head, which opened the man's appetite. Later, my sister suddenly had an urgent need for money, and the man once again targeted the woman's parents. Any man who has a little backbone may not let his wife go home to get money, and he still helps his sister.

Here, Hu Lijuan once again expressed her innocence and stupidity. The man flickered casually, she really felt that this was all a family, so she should help. If the man's family really knows gratitude, it's nothing, and it's not difficult for anyone's family.

The key is that in the man's opinion, there is no need to use it in vain, anyway, your family is such a daughter, and sooner or later your money will not be mine, mine will be our whole family.

This is a typical "Dou Mien Shengmi Hatred". This is the prototype, in which the man even asked the woman to subsidize his younger brother to buy a house, and when he was rejected again, he angered them and was killed.

I don't think I'm wronged, both of them are at fault. <>

Trick your parents into getting pregnant before marriage. When Hu Lijuan and Li Yaping.

The first time Li Yaping went to Hu Lijuan's house, he was opposed by Lijuan's mother, on the grounds that he had no car, no house, no savings, and was a foreigner. Hu Lijuan didn't listen to her mother at all.

She thinks that Li Yaping is tall, handsome and manly, completely different from those little Shanghai men. Seeing her mother's strong opposition, Hu Lijuan made a killer move.

Lie to them that she is more than three months pregnant. <>

As a daughter-in-law, parents give the most when they get married. Li Yaping's own sister lost money, Hu Lijuan went to ask her parents for money, Li Yaping was sick, Hu Lijuan also did what she should do, but Li Yaping's family was not grateful. In fact, the moment Li Yaping jumped up from the sofa and grabbed Hu Lijuan's neck, there was no love between the two of them.

The back of Hu Lijuan's head was slammed against the wall, but Hu Lijuan did not resist. Fortunately, Li Yaping saniently defeated hatred this time and did not strangle Hu Lijuan. But domestic violence.

There are only zero times and one time, Hu Lijuan is really brainless, and she doesn't know how to stop the loss in time. After a sentence or two of coaxing by Li Yaping, Hu Lijuan forgave her husband again. <>

I don't think I'm wronged, both of them are at fault. There are many examples of domestic violence in everyone's real life. Hu Lijuan didn't realize her risk at all, and stupidly felt that Li Yaping was very good to herself and would not hurt herself.

If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like explosives, then Hu Lijuan is a lighter. Moreover, in my opinion, Hu Lijuan's biggest problem is that she doesn't know how to stop losses in time.

She was very wronged, her husband treated her very badly, and she didn't divorce her husband in time and didn't get herself out of the predicament in time, which led to her tragic death.

It was more wronged because she was deceived by the other party, and the violence that the other party carried out against her was very horrific, and these acts led to her death.

I don't think it's wronged, because she didn't grasp her life well, and she blindly connived at her husband's mistakes, so she wasn't wronged.

The heroine is not wrong at all, she is completely a victim in this matter, in the final analysis, it is caused by the gap between the rich and the poor, especially after knowing the ending of the original book, which made me sad for a long time.

It's because two people don't trust each other and don't understand each other, I think Hu Lijuan is wrong, because no one can be absolutely right in a thing.

Hu Lijuan's mistakes before marriage include: working against her parents and not listening to her parents' good words; As the saying goes, if you don't listen to the elderly, you will suffer in front of you, and in marriage, it is a big taboo to work against your parents; rushed to stick to men, and when Hu Lijuan got married, she took a lot of money from her parents and brother to buy a house; lied and deceived her parents, in order to get married, Hu Lijuan lied to her parents and said that she was pregnant.

didn't listen to his parents, didn't listen to his parents' advice, had to marry his boyfriend, didn't see the essence of his boyfriend clearly, he was a mother's boy.

First, work against your parents and don't listen to your parents. Second, lying and deceiving parents. The third is to rush to stick the man upside down. That's why she ended up so badly.

The mistake is too simple, you should find out the differences in each other's family backgrounds before marriage, and you should be clear about them financially. Both of these Lijuan want to be simple.

Hu Lijuan in the double-sided tape TV series, the main mistakes she made before marriage were: 1. Working against her parents and not listening to her parents' good words; 2. Lying and deceiving parents; 3. Rush to stick a man upside down.

I think there are several points at the root of Hu Lijuan's tragedy: first, the two people are not in the right household, and there are huge differences in living habits and values. One is a local girl in Shanghai, who is not rich and noble, but a girl who grew up in the metropolis has an instinctive habit of carrying it clearly.

She understands that the most important thing in life is to live a good life in her own small family. Yaping is the old man in the Northeast, who can't figure out everyone and the small family, and has the idea of male superiority and female inferiority in his bones. There is a detail in the TV series, Yaping and Lijuan talked about the patriarchy in their hometown, saying that someone knocked on the door, if only the woman is at home, then there is no one at home.

As an intellectual, who went to university and came out, he didn't feel that there was anything wrong with it at all, but had a little smug attitude. When two people are in love, the relationship is deep, and sweetness will dilute the difference in values. Life is implemented, little by little, trivial, feelings are diluted, these differences are more prominent, and problems arise.

If you don't get a good solution, if you accumulate too much, there will be big problems. Second, when the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, the husband, as the middleman, does not take the initiative to solve the problem, but escapes with the mud. After my mother-in-law came, there were many problems due to differences in living habits and other things, which led to mutual dissatisfaction.

But Yaping didn't think of a good way to fundamentally deal with the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Instead, he coaxed his mother and his wife at the same time, and the result was that both sides were not good at coaxing. Wu Zhihong said in "Why Does Home Hurt People":

The core of the vast majority of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships is not the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, but the son and husband who are caught in the middle. This person caught in the middle always thinks that either the wife will be more respectful to the old man, or the mother-in-law will be more painful to the daughter-in-law, and then the problem will be ok. But he rarely thinks that the key to solving the problem lies in himself.

In order to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, the person must take responsibility and work hard to coordinate this triangle. Obviously, Yaping did not take this responsibility, which led to the deterioration of the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and finally the tragedy. Third, after getting married, your small family is even more important.

I can't keep my own small family, and everyone can't be good. Yaping in the play just didn't understand this truth at all, and constantly squeezed his small family because of family affairs and various messy things of relatives. always sacrifices his small family in exchange for the peace of his original family.

After a long time, Lijuan will also feel that she is not as good as before in Yaping's heart, and the hearts of the two people are getting farther and farther apart. In short, although it is easy to fall in love, marriage is difficult, and both parties need to advance and retreat together, with the same goals and steps.

In this work, Hu Lijuan's tragedy is caused by family relationships and his own growth environment, influenced by the social relations at that time, coupled with his own character, to cause such a tragedy, people with this kind of character can also be avoided, but in life to learn to communicate with others, learn to share.

In "Double-sided Tape", the tragedy of the heroine Hu Lijuan is, of course, caused by the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in real life. They can't face up to the contradictions and conflicts in their lives. It cannot be solved by proper and effective methods.

So in the end, it can only lead to a tragic result. It's also called self-reaping. I think Hu Lijuan is a woman who puts love first.

Hu Lijuan's mistake was that she didn't stop the loss in time, or that she was a stupid woman who was carried away by love. Now that things have come to this point, the conflict between her and her husband has reached a point where it is irreconcilable, at least when her mother-in-law is with them. But when she obediently went back after listening to two sweet words, it caused the final tragedy.

In fact, I think this kind of tragedy can be avoided!

Hu Lijuan's tragedy was caused by family relationships and his own growth environment, influenced by the social relations at the time, coupled with his own character, which caused such a tragedy, and people with this kind of character can also be avoided.

The tragedy of Hu Lijuan, the heroine of the TV series double-sided tape, I personally think it is caused by many reasons, not only his values, but also its own personality, which causes the sharp confrontation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in fact, this can be avoided to a certain extent, communicate with your mother-in-law more.

I think the root of Hu Lijuan's tragedy in "Double-sided Tape" comes from the completely different growth environments of the two families. There is a saying that there is a mother who must have children, but that what kind of parents there are, what kind of children there will be. What kind of circumstances a person grows up under and what kind of education he receives from his parents will contribute to a person's character, character, behavior habits, etc.

Hu Lijuan and Li Yaping in the play are typical examples, in fact, many things can be avoided.

The door is not the right one. Hu Lijuan and Li Yaping are not in the right household, Hu Lijuan is the daughter of Shanghai, and Li Yaping is just a poor young man in the Northeast. At the beginning, she pursued Hu Lijuan a lot, but she fell in love with Li Yaping, a young man from the Northeast, and thought he was good-looking.

Li Yaping is a mother's treasure. Li Yaping is a mother's treasure man, every time Hu Lijuan and her mother have some conflicts, he always stands on her mother's side.

Hu Lijuan doesn't know how to stop losses in time. The reason why Hu Lijuan's marriage became a tragedy is also due to one of her own reasons. After her mother-in-law came, there were all kinds of problems in her marriage, and later even Li Yaping would beat her, in this case, she didn't stop the loss in time, and continued to live with him, which can be said to be very confused.

A family of relatives who can't be carried. The reason why Hu Lijuan and Li Yaping's marriage failed was also related to a large family of relatives who couldn't figure it out. First his parents-in-law, then his sister, and his brother-in-law came last, and there was a nanny.

In the middle, none of them regarded Hu Lijuan as their relatives, and jointly bullied Hu Lijuan inside and out, fortunately Hu Lijuan was stronger, otherwise she wouldn't know what it would be like to be bullied in that marriage.

How did the tragedy of Hu Lijuan in double-sided tape come about?Can it be avoided?Actually, I personally think.

She was just carried away by love. And there is nothing bad about being a woman who says whatever she has and has no bad intentions. is also a child who is spoiled by his parents.

Actually, he and. The conflict between the husbands has reached a time when it is impossible to reconcile, even when the mother-in-law is with them. things.

So. But her husband said a few nice words. He'll go back anyway.

So that's how his tragedy was made. So tell the woman in this TV series. It's useless for a man to say it just by his mouth.