Can you really be happy if you find someone who likes you immediately after a breakup?

This is a question that many people are puzzled about. The person I like can't be with me, I find a replacement that is good for me, will I be happy?

In fact, when you ask this question, you are looking for a sense of happiness, not the person who gives you happiness. But in reality, happiness is a very strange thing, a feeling that only the right person can give. 、

So I think that finding someone who likes you immediately after a breakup may not necessarily be happy. The point is, will you fall in love with this person who likes you? The feeling of happiness is the feeling that you can only get when you are in a mutual relationship, if it is only that he is good to you, very good, and you don't like him, the feeling he gives you can only be a kind of guilt that you have for him.

So why don't you ask in a different way, if I fall in love with someone else immediately after a breakup, will I immediately get rid of my previous relationship and fall in love with the current person? Of course, this question becomes a question that only your subjective feelings can be your own

This question is not necessarily, it varies from person to person, it can be said that what you think from person to person is very important!

There will be no happiness. First of all, this like yours should also measure whether he really likes you and will be good to you.

And you make me feel that your state of mind is in a more sad and hopeless time.

So, at this time, you think you like you, it doesn't have to be.

You haven't calmed down and seen it clearly.

Don't look for a substitute to comfort yourself, it hurts others and deceives yourself, and in the end you may not even be friends, and if you break up, you break up, and look at it, he's just a passerby in your life, and you come and go, and you will find your partner who really belongs to you.

Hello, I am a mental counselor.

People who find a new love soon after a breakup may generally have the following psychological states.

1. You have chosen the object you think is suitable, but you are not aware of it.

Under normal circumstances, women's emotions are more detailed and understand all kinds of hints and emotional changes, while men only focus on their own things, and their observation and understanding of women are relatively lacking. Therefore, in mutual interactions, you may find that some aspects of you are not what she imagined and needed, and she has been tolerating or acquiescing, but this tolerance will be reduced over time, and if there is another friend who is more suitable for you, you will have two friends at the same time. In the event of a conflict, he will not hesitate to dissolve the relationship and defect to someone else.

2. Revenge after a breakup.

After another breakup, the two parties in the world become incompatible enemies, they will form a new friend who contrasts with each other, and treats the other party in the way of showing the new friend, which is essentially a kind of revenge. In this way, you can prove your ability and provoke each other, and satisfy your own psychological balance.

3. Possible material and psychological weight.

In other cases, perhaps due to the pressure of parents at home or the strong material desires of oneself, choose friends with relatively good family conditions who can satisfy one's personal material desires, so that they can live the life they want. Of course, this may also be a reason for the breakup. In this case, it is generally possible that other friends have been pursuing the recommendation of the person concerned or the family, but the person concerned is not looking down on it at the ideal stage, and after a period of social work and life, he feels that life is very difficult, and he will turn back and make a choice.

There are two main aspects:

There is nothing to say about disorderly sex, who is left behind, who is unlucky.

Below, pay attention to the screening objects:

This has to be looked at from the details before the breakup, divided into several categories:

1. Before the breakup: cold violence forces you to propose a breakup Take the initiative to break up.

If there is a long-term estrangement between two people, the main problem is still in the case of the other party's attitude, and finding a new love in a short time after the breakup can almost be qualified:

The possibility of him splitting his legs is very high. To a large extent, you may have already found a home for the next home, or you may have been having an affair with someone else before you broke up.

Because he is an unreasonable party, or a thief, he will not take the initiative to break up, but provoke you to break up with cold violence; Or the thief shouts to catch the thief, avoids the important and trivial, and offers to end the relationship with various other nonsensical reasons.

2. Before the breakup: As always, there are no flaws in the passive breakup.

If you unilaterally propose to break up, and the other party can't keep it, it is very likely that finding a new love in a short period of time is just a way to temporarily forget the pain, or a kind of revenge that makes you "jealous".

1.There are potential objects for development around them.

Maybe there are girls around him who are ready to do something about him, but he didn't find the right time. coincided with your breakup, he was in a pessimistic state with nowhere to vent his anger, as long as the girl around him who was interested in him took the initiative to be courteous, he would have a moment of trance, feeling that this person could save him from fire and water.

With this glimmer of hope, he must try.

2.Simply cope with yourself.

Maybe this new love is not as suitable as you might guess, he is just looking for a temporary illusion to accompany his lonely soul, like using this person to numb himself.

3.Revenge.

And because he was broken up, and in the relationship, the person who was broken up will always see himself as the "abandoned party." So he instinctively finds another person as quickly as possible to prove his worth to you and convince himself to start a brand new relationship.

If you still can't figure out what kind of situation the other party belongs to from these aspects, we can also deduce from some details after the breakup.

Someone who finds a new love soon after a breakup, it is possible that the two of them know each other when they don't break up. I had already planned to be together, so I chose to break up.

Another is to get out of this relationship as soon as possible. That's why I choose to find my partner as soon as possible.

There is no other possibility than these two possibilities.

's object, the front foot just broke up, and immediately found a new love seamlessly, what does such a person think in his heart? Li Meow Meow will reveal the truth for you!

may not have a new love before breaking up, so they will choose to break up, liking the new and hating the old.

This kind of person may be afraid of loneliness, and soon after the breakup, he will find someone to accompany him, in fact, I really don't like this kind of person who finds a new love quickly.

It's definitely more hearty. And you can't take into account the feelings of others. Disrespect for others.

Split the road of life and death with both hands, and cut the root of right and wrong with one knife. First love, five and a half years, long-distance relationship, less than a month after the breakup, she has a boyfriend, well, it's good, I want to kill her, but I don't have the strength, why don't you kill me.

The person who finds a new love quickly is generally because he or she needs a man or a woman, both physically and psychologically, no matter who the person is. It's not that he or she doesn't love the old man, maybe he loved it very passionately at that time, but the old man is gone, and the seat is vacant, so a new person has to fill it. For example, I love my phone to death now, and I feel that I can't do without it for a moment, but once it breaks or loses it, I will immediately buy a new one, because I love the phone, not limited to this phone.

If you say that after breaking up, you haven't found a new love, mainly because you are too homely, and your ex doesn't know about home.

The person who found a new love soon after the breakup, there is no problem, or he doesn't like it enough, and he finally gets rid of it, and he can't wait to find the next one; Either I liked it too much before and needed someone to help me get out; Either they are charismatic and there are many people to choose from, so it makes sense to be invited to join the company soon after leaving the job. After the breakup, I saw that the other party found a new love, and I kept feeling sorry for myself, sad and indignant, and even found a spare tire to show my affection for someone who existed in order to get out of my bad breath, and it is estimated that there is a bit of a psychological problem.

Because the person who mentions the breakup is a decision made after thinking about it for a long time, during this time he may have gradually adjusted his mood and can also receive the attraction of others, and this long period of consideration time is unprepared for the person who is broken up, so the person who is broken up needs the same period of time to adjust his mood after being mentioned to break up, and the person who is breaking up has already taken a step forward, and it is not surprising that he is in love.

I'm pretty much one of those people. I did my best when we were together, but I wouldn't take the initiative to break up if there was even the slightest hesitation, and I wouldn't take the initiative to leave if I could struggle a little longer. But at the same time, it also means that when I make the choice to break up, I am really emptying myself, and I really don't feel as desperate as before, because I have despaired, and after the despair, I have figured it out before I propose to break up.

So after the breakup, I won't have a refractory period, I won't still be nostalgic for the past, if the time happens to meet the next person who can make me feel willing to love, why not? Just because I just broke up? How old are you?

Because when everyone is in love, they will pay Sou Sui Sun some feelings, although the emotional effort is more or less, but in the end there is still some sincerity. The most painful thing for couples is undoubtedly the breakup, but some people don't feel his pain at all after the breakup, and quickly find a new love, as if they don't care about the breakup at all. Why can these people find a new love quickly after breaking up?

If you are also very confused, then you can try to understand him and see if he is due to the following reasons.

1. For the other party, breaking up is a relief. You must know that not all love is sweet and warm, and some people's love is more heart-wrenching. Although you like the other person very much and want to be with him, you don't feel happy with him.

If one party wants to please desperately, but the other party doesn't care about the relationship at all, the last party who works hard will be completely dead and will want to give up, so such a breakup is a relief.

2. The other party is friendly to you, not love. In a relationship, you are the only one who plays the right role, although he is ostensibly in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship with you, but he does not fulfill the duty of a boyfriend, because you feel that his feelings for you are friendship. Since they can't be lovers, why should the world chain continue to settle, it is better for the two of them to say goodbye and start again.

After breaking up, it is estimated that two people like this will soon be able to find a new love and start a relationship.

3. He met someone who is better than you. The reason why some people fall in love is just that they feel that they should fall in love, so they start casually. But when I was in love, I didn't give much sincerity, I just comforted each other together.

If he meets someone better than you at this time, and he likes the other person more, he will definitely break up with you, and he will immediately devote himself to the relationship with the other party after the breakup.

4. In order to be angry with you, I deliberately found a new love. If two people break up because of conflicts, and breaking up is a very common thing for two people, they will be separated if they don't agree. Then it means that these two people are more impulsive, and people will do a lot of nonsensical things under impulse, such as he will deliberately find a new love, and the purpose of dangling in front of you is to provoke you.

The above are the 4 reasons why one party quickly finds a new love after a man and woman break up. If you think that this relationship can continue, then find a reason to get back together as soon as possible, and if it really can't be recovered, then don't make any more useless efforts.

I think there are a few things that I think will follow.

The above is the psychology of most people.

People who quickly find a new love after a breakup are a kind of psychology that wants to find a new relationship quickly and forget the last relationship, which is actually a lonely psychology.

Either they don't love their ex-boyfriend enough, or they seek comfort in their hearts, or they are insecure and want comfort and companionship.

People who are not deeply invested in the previous relationship, or who have been in love many times and don't care about the breakup, can find a new love soon after the breakup. No matter what type it is, since you have broken up, you have the right to find a new partner.

Maybe you want to get out of the failed relationship as soon as possible in this way, or maybe it's just a big carrot with a heart, and you can see a kind of love for one.

YQ can't stand the psychology of loneliness, and when a relationship ends, he will immediately look for the next target

I think maybe they can come out of the shadows quickly and be stronger, and of course they may have been playing around.

People who find a new love soon after a breakup may be thinking about finding a new girlfriend quickly, forgetting the hurt caused by their ex, and at the same time not letting themselves look too depressed because of the breakup.

The person who found a new love soon after the breakup has a good personality, is not easy to be sad, and can see everything. They will think that the last relationship is not a big deal, just pass it in the past, and they will always meet the right person.