What does it mean that it is better to treat others with oneself than to push oneself to others?

It means that it is better to judge oneself with one's own mind or speculate on others, than to speculate on oneself with the mind of others.

1. "It is better to push yourself and others than to treat others with yourself" is a relatively common old saying, "it is better to push yourself and others than to treat others with yourself" means that it is better to measure or speculate on others than to take other people's minds to speculate on yourself.

2. The truth contained in this is to use one's own subjective position to guess others, and it is inevitable that there will be the possibility of spending the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain, but change a position to speculate on oneself from the perspective of others, and you can understand the situation you are facing by looking at the problem. "Treat others with yourself" literally means to measure others by your own standards, while "pushing yourself to others" is to experience the feelings of others from your own experience and put yourself in the shoes of others.

It is better to use one's own mind to judge or speculate on others, than to use other people's minds to speculate on lead and oneself. The main point of this sentence is to emphasize the importance of empathy.

To use one's own heart, the heart of others, is to use one's own thoughts to speculate on the minds of others. Many people's self-centeredness is to "treat others with themselves", and any performance or idea that is inconsistent with themselves is eager to extinguish it, but in fact, they close themselves off, and everyone respects them.

I heard a story about Hua Tuo, Hua Leak Lu Tuo's medical skills were excellent, which attracted the attention of the Eastern Han court. In order to thank Hua Tuo for curing his illness, Gao Shun of the imperial court privately promoted Hua Tuo to become the official of the Taiwei Mansion. He found Hua Tuo and said:

You have suffered for so many years, and when you become a real **, you should also enjoy it. This is my dream goal to enter the Taiwei Mansion! Hua Tuo shook his head with a smile and said

What you ask for is not what I need. What I am good at is medicine, and it is not my goal to maneuver around officialdom. There is one less good doctor among the people, and there is more mediocrity in the officialdom, isn't it a good thing?

Hua Tuo flicked his sleeves and left, Gao Shun was bored, so he had to give up.

Hua Tuo's story tells us that we should always reflect on ourselves, whether we forget to experience the feelings of others because of selfishness, and whether we take self-centeredness and judge others for granted. Don't treat others with yourself, don't easily define others, measure others by your own standards, be good at thinking in a different position, jump out of your own small circle, stand in the situation of others to look at other people's words and deeds, and have more understanding and appreciation of others, which will increase your personality charm.

Don't force others to accept your ideas with your own thoughts and wills, you can put forward opinions, but don't force others, because everyone's perspective and time are inconsistent, and the ideas generated are not the same, and it is appropriate not to force them.

It is better to judge or speculate on others with your own thoughts, than to judge yourself with the thoughts of others.

It is easy to use one's own subjective position to guess others, and it is inevitable that "the heart of a villain will be spent in the belly of a gentleman". From a different standpoint, if we look at the problem objectively from the perspective of others, it will be easy to understand the situation we are facing.

For example, when one of the husband and wife happens to be in the emotional outburst period, the person who has a negative emotional outburst can only listen to the words of the person who stands at the same angle as her.

And if this bystander happens to give her an idea unintentionally, maybe the person who just wanted to vent his emotions will make a decision in a moment, thus burying the hidden danger of regret.

By the time the decision-maker has tasted the consequences of an impulsive decision, there is no remedy. At this time, half of the blame for her suffering actually lies with the bystanders, who gave her advice at the time to accelerate the process of her impulsive decision-making, which led to the tragedy.

Bystanders can't help the decision-maker bear the consequences, they only help more and more. Once the decision-maker bears unsatisfactory consequences, they will feel that half of the blame for the change in their lives is to the bystanders. At this time, the original friendship between the bystander and the decision-maker will also be affected.

So, as a bystander in someone else's relationship, we need to try to put ourselves in the shoes of those who are venting their emotions, and sometimes all they need is someone who can listen to them patiently.

synonyms: judging the situation.

Assessing the situation means carefully studying and estimating the characteristics and changes of the situation.

Source: Ming Shen Defu "Wanli Ye was edited by the Township Trial Encountering Water and Fire": "Liu wants to finish the ceremony, judge the situation, and get to the point. ”

Translation: In order for Liu to complete the canon, he must have the ability to assess the situation, which means to carefully study and estimate the characteristics and changes of the situation, which is reasonable.

[Interpretation]: It is better to use other people's minds to measure or speculate on others, than to use other people's minds to speculate on yourself.

Truth]: "Treat others with yourself" is easy to guess others with your own subjective position, and it is inevitable that you will "spend the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain". From a different standpoint, if we look at the problem objectively from the perspective of others, it will be easy to understand the situation we are facing.