How to politely refuse a good friend s unreasonable request?

Updated on workplace 2024-02-21
17 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think the way friends get along with each other is to say one thing and say the other, but you still have to learn to say no, and you can't do anything just because you have a good relationship.

    I feel like if it's a good friendHe will not make such requests to you that would harm youIn the case of taking into account himself, he will also weigh the issue of your interests, my friends and I are like this, although we can say anything, but we will still keep something, and we will not make reckless requests about those unreasonable requests, but as a friend, if I can really help him, I will do my best to help him.

    On the long road of life, we must learn to refuse, no matter how good your relationship with the other party is, but some things must also have their own bottom line, if they violate their bottom line, then we must consider whether to help him, if you don't want to help him, you can refuse himI feel that if you reject him as a real good friend, he will definitely not complain about you

    And, I think if you're turning down a person,Turning him down especially tactfully can be a sign of a bad relationshipIt's like dealing with someone I don't know very well, so the way I treat my bosom friend has always been straightforward.

    I have my own bottom line, and when I hear his request, I will also give him advice, because some things are the authorities' mystery, and it is impossible to watch my brother go astray.

    Therefore, in life, it is good to have more friends, but you must be a person with principles and bottom lines.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Just say that you have something to do, and I don't have time to help you do it. And if it is an unreasonable request, you can refuse it straightforwardly, and there is no need to grieve yourself.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    We must know how to refuse unreasonable requests made by good friends! But be strategic when refusing and don't hurt each other's feelings! Explain the reason, say what you think, and try to make your friends understand!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think if a friend's request is excessive, there is no need to beat around the bush, it is better to point it out directly, real friendship is very straightforward, both people are in a very comfortable state, and they will not turn their faces because of this matter.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I think that if you don't make an unreasonable request, you should refuse it in person, otherwise you will feel uncomfortable, and you should tell him that it is not appropriate to do so, otherwise if you don't refuse, he will continue to make unreasonable demands next time.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    When faced with an unreasonable request made by a friend, you should honestly tell your friend that you are not capable of helping him complete it, explain to him the adverse effects of such unreasonable demand, and ask him to correct it as soon as possible.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    We can legitimately refuse the unreasonable demands of some good friends. If you really can't pull down your face. You can just make excuses or something. Then just say it a few more times.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I feel like they're all good friends, there's nothing to be embarrassed to refuse, if she makes an unreasonable request, you have to say no in front of her, otherwise if you don't refuse, she will be even more serious next time.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Try to do what you can, after all, friends are hard-won, but if you can't do it, put forward your own views and difficulties with your friends, and I believe that your friends will understand you and will not force you to do things you can't do.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If we want to politely refuse a good friend's unreasonable request, then we should tell him that there are some things that we really can't do, because we have more important things to do.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    1. Be able to empathize. When dealing with people, the most important thing is to learn to empathize, if this happens to you, if you make a request to someone else, if the other party directly rejects you, how will you feel?

    2. Know how to advance by retreating. If we want to refuse his request, we can give him some due consideration, that is, let ourselves make some concessions, who made us friends, if it were not friends, he would not come to you for help.

    3. Take into account the feelings of the other party. The most important thing is to have a strategy, don't speak too bluntly, and be sure to take into account the feelings of the other party, especially when the other party has great hopes in this matter, we don't pour cold water all at once.

    4. Silence is also rejection. Rejection does not necessarily have to be clearly expressed, if we feel that the words of rejection cannot be spoken, we can also choose to be silent, not to express our position is also an attitude, and it is a clear attitude, that is, without consent, the other party should not force it again.

    5. The reason must be credible. When we reject others, we must involve the reason for refusal, this reason must be credible, don't find some untrustworthy reasons, make the other party feel ridiculous, such a refusal will directly insult the other party's IQ, and the friendship has basically come to an end.

    6. Learn to deliberately procrastinate. If we really can't do our friend's request, another way is to think about it first, don't refuse him immediately, you just don't take a stand, deliberately delay a little time, tell him that he wants to think carefully, and believe that time can dilute everything.

    7. Switch to other promises. If we have to refuse a friend's request, he will definitely be very unhappy, at least in his heart, and if we understand that he has other needs, we can try to meet other aspects as much as we can.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If you don't want to owe people family favors, you would rather lose yourself than give others enough face.

    I am most afraid of some sudden kindness on weekdays, which will overwhelm you, especially if the relationship is not so close, and you will not dare to accept their kindness. After all, favors are not like money that can be calculated and repaid.

    I think there should be two situations to euphemistically reject other people's kindness, one is that you are familiar with what you like and are willing to get close to, and the other is that the relationship is not so good, but you have to do a good job of superficial work. We can't treat everyone equally, everyone has their own wants to get close and want to keep their distance, and in my opinion, kindness should also vary from person to person when it comes to rejection.

    I think if it's the first case, when someone conveys his kindness to you, the first thing we think about should not be how to reject them, and don't be afraid to owe them favors. As long as it is not something particularly valuable, or something that is just a gesture for them, there is no need to thank or reject it too grandly. If you reject someone like this, you may owe them a favor, and he will feel that you have a relationship with him and hurt his heart.

    Anyone I like to be close to, so do I. I just want to share with you what I like to eat and what I think is good, and I don't ask you to give me anything in return. And I won't want to be polite to you, eat when you should eat, take what you should take, if you feel that you owe me a favor, then I also owe you a little good, but I won't let you pay it back to me, and I won't want to pay it back to you, so I owe it back and forth, and in the end I can't figure it out, I don't know how to pay it back.

    I think that's how true friends are made. Some of my friends were owed by me in such a dead face, and they said, "I was embarrassed that you always ate my food at that time, but you were so welcome to see that you ate my food, and then I thought about it and forget it."

    I don't like euphemistic refusals, it feels a bit hypocritical, and it's better to have less contact with people you don't like.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    This is still quite difficult, as the saying goes, if you can't get a treat, the two families are ashamed. It is undoubtedly a hurt to really want to help the other party, but to be ruthlessly rejected by the other party. Therefore, rejecting the kindness of others is really a skill, and the slightest carelessness will hurt the other person.

    In the city where I went to college, there was a male high school classmate of mine who worked here and asked for my school address and came to me. From the beginning, I treated him like a good friend, and it seemed like he was like me, so I didn't think much of it. But since we met, he called me almost every night, and slowly I understood what he meant, but I didn't know how to say it.

    Until the second time he came to me again, brought a lot of delicious food, and even took the initiative to ask to see my roommate, I didn't agree, in fact, I didn't want to accept snacks, I really don't know how to speak, to be honest, I was afraid of hurting him, after all, a friend. At this meeting, he actually took me to the jewelry store and asked me to help him choose a necklace for his sister, and I was relieved to hear it, so I chose one for him.

    On the third day of his departure, I received a bouquet of flowers and the necklace, and yes, he gave it to me by courier. I was helpless and frozen, but my mind was clear, and I wanted to tell him right away that I already had a boyfriend. I took the necklace and went back to the dormitory to call him **, told him the original story, and then sent the necklace to him.

    Undoubtedly, my actions hurt him, and my previous embarrassment caused him to hurt later. If I had been given another chance, I would have told him tactfully, or I would have told him that I had a partner, but it would be too late to say anything. I learned to tactfully refuse the kindness of others, communication is very important, and don't hide it.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Sometimes others are kind and want to help you when they see that you are in trouble, but sometimes they just don't dare to accept it and don't want to trouble others, so you have to refuse tactfully, after all, people are also kind, and direct rejection will give people a bad impression, and maybe others will refuse to be sentimental.

    Wasn't there a typhoon some time ago, the wind was very strong, 14-16 magnitude, I sat in the office, I could hear the sound of the wind whistling, it was terrifying, and after a while, it rained heavily, the wind accompanied the rain, and the destructive ability was greater.

    In order to ensure safety, after the morning shift on the holiday, I am so thin, walking alone on the road with big trees on both sides, it must be very dangerous, I have a colleague has a car, and wait for the typhoon to go out with him on the road to wait for the bus.

    At more than 2 o'clock in the afternoon, I went out to the bus stop, he put me down and went home, I was waiting for the bus, but there was no car for half an hour, not even a taxi, the typhoon was blowing, the branches were swaying painfully, and the garbage on the ground flew up.

    What should I do, no car, how to go back, only later did I know that the bus was suspended, miserable, where did I go out, I was in a hurry to walk back and forth, a private car stopped, honked the horn, and signaled me to go over.

    I was close to his car window, I didn't know him, could it be that you want to make money with the help of the typhoon, he asked me where I was going, I said to go to the south of the city, he was going to Tanzhou, he saw me so pitiful, so he told me to get in the car, said to send me back, and didn't have to charge my money.

    The good Samaritan finally appeared, should I accept it, but I don't know him, who knew that he drove me to **, I thought about it, others may have good intentions, but I can't just take a stranger's car, and he said to send me back if he didn't stop by the way?

    I smiled and said to him: "Thank you, let's not go by the way, I have already called ** to call my boyfriend to pick me up, he should be on the way, sorry, or you can take your car".

    He said to me that it was okay, and then drove away, it seems that his calculation was wrong, maybe he was not malicious, but I also politely rejected his kindness, which can be regarded as worthy of his kindness.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    In addition to no, how to refuse others tactfully.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Summary. If you don't want to be friends with others, don't get too close to others, stay away, and keep in touch less. Don't be too enthusiastic with others, get along less and reduce contact, like a familiar stranger, because you rarely talk to him, and he is not a friend.

    Let's just say that I have a lot of things to do, and I am very busy, so I don't have time to interact with him. Even if he talks to you, you have to tell him that he is too busy, say sorry to her, sorry, less contact, less time with each other, and you are not friends.

    If you don't want to be friends with others, don't get along with others, don't get too close to others, stay away, and have less contact. Don't be too enthusiastic with others, get along less and reduce contact, like a familiar stranger, because you rarely talk to him, so you are not a friend stupid. said that he was very filial about things, and he was very busy, so he didn't have time to interact with him.

    Even if he talks to you, you have to tell him that he is too busy, say sorry to her, sorry, less contact, less time with each other, and you are not friends.

    In this way, you can politely refuse a person, and say that you just want to be friends with him: you are a very good person, I also trust him when talking about trouble, I let the bends of the world can be very good friends, as long as two people have similar interests, they don't have to be boyfriend and girlfriend, and it is good to be an ordinary person who has nothing to say.

    If it's a confession of the opposite sex, you can say it bluntly, we can be friends, and I don't want to fall in love yet

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    1. Indicates that the ability is insufficient.

    When someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, or asks you to help, just smile and tell the other party that you want to help too, but your ability is really not good, so don't make trouble.

    2. I really don't have time.

    You don't have time, how can others force you so shamelessly? When you want to say no, it's too much of a coincidence to express your regret directly, because you have to do something else at that time.

    3. Keep yourself busy immediately If someone asks me to help do something, and that thing I particularly don't like, I will immediately keep myself busy, busy, and then say apologetically: I'm sorry, you see I'm really too busy.

    4. Help each other "find a way".

    There is also a tactful way to refuse others I also often use, when the other party asks me to do something or asks me to help, I just find a reason to fool the past, but I will help the other party find a way, of course, those methods are mentioned by the other party.

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