I can t hold on anymore, what should I do in the future?

The best thing to do is this!

I feel the same way sometimes. It's as if the world has forgotten about itself, and everyone doesn't care about themselves. I feel dispensable.

In fact, you can try to tell your friends and family members what you think in your heart, and they will be concerned about your feelings and will understand you when they know about it. Really, there are some things that I don't feel comfortable holding in my heart. If you really can't figure it out, add me and I'll chat with you.

I think I should understand you, I felt the same way, I'm 16 years old, girl.

The circle is small and I didn't meet the right people. Your peers are still young and don't know how to be considerate of other people's feelings, and if you understand this feeling, it means that you will think about others. Learn to regulate your mood and control your emotions.

Read posts that can improve your emotional intelligence, and as you grow up, you will meet all kinds of people, and there will always be someone who understands you!

I have nothing to say to my friends... said that I was sincere, I didn't deserve it, and I said that I acted as if I knew it, and I failed her.

Either way, you have to have a good relationship with your parents.

Otherwise, nothing else will be good.

Really, you must listen to me and not lie to you.

Judging from what you said, it should be a chain reaction, talk less and you are easy to think, and then you yourself think that others reject you, deliberately distance yourself from others, so who is willing to have nothing to do and risk being ignored to communicate with you, I guess it was not like this at the beginning, you chat with others others may not be perfunctory to you, everyone has their own business, and not everyone is a good listener. There are also parents who do not hate their children, you talk less and less at home, and you are getting farther and farther away from your parents' expectations, and it is normal for parents to be easy to nag and even blame. I guess it's hard for you to change now, so it's better for you to find a random field that you're good at to make some achievements, find some self-confidence, and find a circle that you can talk to yourself by the way It's okay to take it slowly My personal experience depends on yourself.

First, we have to think about whether this makes sense. If it is something meaningful, we can't use persistence in our mentality, but what we "should" do.

Secondly, since we should do it, it has nothing to do with whether things are difficult or not, and we don't have to choose.

Finally, if it's true that things are difficult for us, then we have to think about whether it's a problem of our mentality, or a problem of our operational technology.

Mentality issues, as above, turn "persistence" into "should".

Operational problems depend on whether you have to do it alone, or you can turn to mentors and friends, or you can find a way or tool to solve the problem by learning and improving. 1. Set goals and implement them effectively.

If you want to get up at six o'clock every day, and after a week, go out to dinner with friends, drink, and play late, but when it comes time to get up at six o'clock the next day, give yourself this idea, play late yesterday, you're already tired, just be lazy today, so you don't get up. It was this kind of self-comfort that interrupted his persistence.

2. Find a reliable guide.

If you want to learn English, you are very diligent and hard to memorize words every day, but there is no professional teacher and teaching environment, it is difficult for you to speak so fluently, so you repeat this kind of thing every day.

3. Don't make excuses about things.

In the process of doing anything, if you always leave yourself a way out, then it will be difficult for you to persevere, just like you are memorizing words, this week you memorized 30 and it feels good that you can. Stick with it, but by the next week, you think 30 is a lot, and you turn it up to ten. If it's the next week, if you think 10 is too much, you might turn it to 5, and you won't be able to make it up.

There are many things in college life that are difficult to do and persevere, but you have to stick to them and do them. It's very difficult every day, and there are a lot of problems that are difficult to solve. For example, it is difficult to persevere in studying, and there is perseverance in exercising every day.

So, it's a very rewarding thing to stick to doing something that's hard.

Then we must establish a belief in our hearts, adjust our mentality, and do things seriously. Every time we encounter difficulties and feel down, we should encourage ourselves. Encourage yourself to try and persevere, and solve all the difficulties.

When it's hard for us to persevere, then we have to think about it, and there are even many things that can be more persistent than this.

In the face of my university studies, it was difficult for me to persevere. Therefore, in college, many students are unable to persevere in their studies. Very few students are able to make the most of their college career.

In addition to attending classes, many people just play online games or go out to eat, drink and have fun with their classmates. Even when I studied hard, it was two days of fishing and three days of drying nets.

So I think it's very difficult for people to keep learning, because it's a very difficult and meaningful thing to keep learning. Of course, in addition to being able to keep studying, we also need to keep exercising. There are very few people who can keep exercising for four years of college life, and some people have not persevered in exercising for a month or two, for example, it is too hot in summer and too cold in winter, so it is difficult to persevere.

I think that in addition to studying, there are also exercises in life, which I think are very difficult to adhere to, but also very meaningful.

on 2017-09-17

Jiao Yanxiao. Note 5

Speaker: Zhang Hongmei.

What I learned: Can I let myself go?

I can't hold on anymore, what should I do?

1. Notes. 1.Look at the problem from the child's point of view and feel the child's feelings.

2.In order to better grow yourself, you should link with your parents. When you can't connect with your parents, you will feel self-blame.

Link this matter with your parents, don't force yourself, open your heart, let your love come out, let love in, and have a good flow of love. Allow yourself to be flawed, allow yourself to be unique, understand and respect to give yourself love. Don't blame yourself, let yourself go, accept your past self, and have the courage to admit that you are not good enough.

Be aware of the harm done to your child.

3.Reasons why I can't hold on:

Small progress is too far from our goal aspirations; It is very frustrating, and it is not good to use it after learning, which makes us lose confidence; We don't want to see the child make mistakes and give the child little experience, and his heart is uneasy without experiencing it; Blows from relatives and friends, thinking that we are not doing the right thing; The anxiety in my heart makes me unable to study with peace of mind, and I always want to find a quick way; Forget about your own slow onset and your child's slow onset.

4.What to do?

Our parents can't afford to lose, and want to rescue the child quickly, but they push the child to the bottom of the cliff, adjust themselves, and keep pace with the child.

Give your child the opportunity to experience trial and error.

5.The misconceptions about developing intelligence are as follows:

Don't understand the laws of the brain. Children with an incomplete right brain are disturbed by emotions. 3-7 years old is the critical period of development of the right brain, which needs to be developed with image language, the best is to fully contact nature, and 7-11 years old is the period of common development of the left and right brains!

Children's self-concept is limited, and self-concept is input to children by parents' usual speech and behavior.

The best way is to teach children the infinite possibilities of the brain with the concept of limited knowledge, and the best way is to teach with knowledge at 1 4 times, and leave 3 4 times to nature to teach.

Parents ask too much, try to minimize the requirements, let the child calm down and take the initiative to do it, and fully experience.

Destructive criticism is because destructive criticism causes our internal injuries, and we have been treated in this way, so children are not allowed to have this shortcoming.

2. Life practice and application.

After studying for a period of time at the beginning, I didn't see the results in myself and my children, and I was particularly entangled and painful, and I gave up learning for a while, but it was even more painful not to study, because I couldn't go back to the previous track of indulgence and ignorance. In desperation, I began to study again, clarified the direction, and constantly adjusted the method, stumbling and strengthening my confidence.

The mentality of not being able to lose, come to attack from time to time, to shake and test yourself, you can't help but be nervous, worried, anxious, and afraid, and then your behavior will change, and you really have to constantly be aware of yourself and remind yourself, examine the deviation of your thoughts and behaviors, and pull back to the channel of love.

3. Perception. Learning is a process of self-improvement and growth.

Make a little progress every day and achieve a better version of yourself!