Fear of men, what should I do, what should I do if I am afraid of my boyfriend?

Because when you don't talk about marriage, you have to face him alone, and you don't have to care about other people or things, but once you decide to marry him, you have to face his family, his friends, and everything about him, these are all problems that you don't have to think about, there are many problems, you will be afraid that it is certain, this is called premarital phobia, but as long as you love each other, you will definitely overcome all the problems.

I wish you happiness and happiness forever.

Take your time and trust men little by little.

The main thing is to divide people, some people don't need to trust at all, and some people will let you trust them slowly in your heart even if you don't trust them.

Everything was fantastic,

It will pass.

If you have ever been injured, then the wound will always be good, and you will always meet a good man.

If you haven't been injured, you don't have to worry.

I don't have the words anymore...Are men nowadays as scary as you say? Do you survive in primitive tribes? Casually beating and scolding people is legally responsible, why should people hit you without anything, unless he has a brain disease.

You're going to see a psychiatrist

Maybe only that

You can be relieved

Open your heart and socialize with men

You're so cute, I'm a man, I have a chance to get to know you, maybe I can help you solve your problems.

You go to see a psychiatrist!! This kid is not lightly ill!

Dizzy, what's wrong with the man, it's also a person, why are you afraid of him

It's definitely a disease, aren't all men scary.

There are also a lot of innocent boys.

Because you love your boyfriend very much and care about your boyfriend, and your boyfriend is more irritable when he is angry, so you are very nervous, and he will be angry, so you are very scared, and you are also very nervous, afraid that something bad will happen. So you are very afraid that your boyfriend will be angry, so you yourself should be considerate of your boyfriend, and you should also enlighten your boyfriend, tell him that you are very afraid of him being angry, and tell him to restrain his temper Boyfriend loses his temper for no reason, I analyze whether it is the following situations: (1) He has encountered some difficult problems, and he can't solve them for a while, he is upset, and he doesn't want to tell you, maybe you can't help or anything, so he is angry every day.

Pretty big. (2) Maybe you have an opinion on something, but you can't say it clearly, and you feel aggrieved. (3) Maybe I'm going to list you as a spare tire.

Now, there is a comparison in my heart, I see that you are not pleasing to the eye, the left is not, the right is not. As for the specific reason, you can communicate with him before making a plan. Starting from the above situation, the long-distance relationship and the two families may have some trivial matters that have not reached a consensus, and there are quarrels for this, panic and anxiety because of the boyfriend's inappropriate words, personal analysis is a stress-related disorder, and if necessary, it is necessary to consider accepting family psychology**This problem must be solved by two people, so the two parties must talk about communication, this problem will be said what everyone needs to think, and then how to meet the requirements of everyone to talk about reaching a consensus, You can't be willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer, so it won't be too stable for your married life, so you must communicate in a timely manner.

It shows that you have disliked him from the bottom of your heart, women are sensual, and they will feel disgusted by people she doesn't like or strangers who stand closer, and skin-to-skin kisses can best reflect a woman's true inner feelings. And once this disgust occurs, it is basically irreversible, and 90% of it is impossible to return to the original intimacy.

I have a very strange habit, that is, if you are my ordinary friend or even a stranger, we can hook up and make an appointment by chance, but if it is my boyfriend, I can't accept it, I have changed several boyfriends, and finally broke up because of this problem, and I myself feel very strange.

Now I don't think he can last long with this boyfriend, and recently I obviously feel that he has a short temper and often loses his temper with me. The two of us met in a bar, I felt okay, I had nothing to do and have a good time, and then one day he suddenly confessed to me and said that I should be his girlfriend.

I also said it in advance at the time, I said that I might be more demanding of my boyfriend than others, and he said it was okay, he could stand the test. I didn't expect it to be blown before it was three months old.

After being together, he often wanted to stay overnight, but I didn't agree, and I refused fiercely when he made excuses or something, and then he scolded me for being neurotic, saying that I was cheap, and I could touch a man, but I couldn't have a boyfriend.

I myself think I'm sick, obviously he's still him, and he hasn't become anyone else, but my identity has changed, and my feelings are different, I didn't think it's anything when he touched me before, but now he's just closer to me, even if it's just holding hands, I will get goosebumps all over my body, especially uncomfortable. If he kisses me, I feel like I'm going to vomit.

I tried restraint myself, even wearing a blindfold, thinking that this would imply to myself, but it didn't work at all, I knew that person was him, and then the thought that he was my boyfriend and was going to do this with me, I had a bad stomach, the feeling of motion sickness, dizziness, wanting to vomit, and not being able to vomit.

From my first boyfriend to now, this problem has persisted, and I don't know why. Now I'm 21 years old, and I'm going to get old soon, so I won't have any boyfriend phobia, so ask for help.

Lemon's message: Your problem is not so much boyfriend phobia, but the rejection and resistance to intimacy, the establishment of our intimate relationship with our lover will be greatly affected by the family, such as your relationship with your parents, your relationship with your parents, etc., it is recommended that you can review your own growth experience and find the thing you are afraid of.

Category: Annoyances >> in love.

Problem description: I have had two boyfriends before, but both have failed in their relationships. Later, a man chased me and chased me to the hospital, because he was too exaggerated, and chased me to the point that I didn't dare to go to school Later, I didn't dare to contact boys anymore I look good, and there is a boy who has been caring about me and loving me for three years, but I haven't been touched at all In the end, people won't contact me, maybe I'll be too cold to him And now I see those men and I'm scared to run, I'm almost 22, what to do, I'm afraid I won't be able to fall in love in the future As long as someone who has a crush on me approaches me, I refuse, and it's very instinctive No matter what it is, even if I have a crush on someone, I just think of saying no. Is there anyone like me? How can I get rid of my mental pressure?

Analysis: Don't worry, don't be afraid, it may be that you haven't met your true soulmate yet. In fact, men and women are the same, almost never fell in love, and in my place, there are guys who are afraid of falling in love.

Do you think it's easy for two different individuals to come together in a coordinated way? It is not an easy thing to do, and only through contact and understanding can we truly achieve harmony. You don't see, there are a lot of fights after marriage.

There is nothing to be afraid of, as long as you talk with your heart and love with your heart, as a girl, you must carefully observe the quality of your boyfriend's morality, only the kind of man with a good heart and sincerity is the best lifelong partner, and plain is true. You will meet your sweetheart as soon as possible!!

2.Don't blindly refuse to be in love.

There may not be many people who can go to the end in love, but this does not mean that there is no good result, of course, it is good to be able to come together, even if you can't go together, it is much better than a person's blindness, so you can try to fall in love, don't blindly refuse.

3.If you have a problem, ask a friend for help.

If you feel that your family can also have a certain influence on you when you are in love, then ask a friend for help, as a third party, it may be easier for a friend to judge the whole thing from a good point of view, and if necessary, he will also give advice, and he may live a more fulfilling life than if he is alone.

4.Assert yourself.

Many people have a phobia of love because of their own conditions, they always feel that they are not good enough, they always feel that the god of luck will not find him, the more they think about it, the less confident they are, the more they are afraid of falling in love, in fact, these are the troubles they find for themselves, there is no need to make themselves inferior, no one is perfect, and they have to accept themselves.

5.Be tolerant of people and things.

No matter what it is, you must tolerate men with a tolerant heart, if you always think that men are untrustworthy, or even think that men should be like this and that, it can only make your love phobia more and more serious, you only tolerate him, he will give you a sense of security, blindly asking for doomed failure.

6.Change your own careful eye.

How is it possible for small-minded people to suffer from gains and losses, and to develop according to their own pre-designs, no matter what it is? Wouldn't there be a three-way crossing? Why do you have to force it?

7.Don't worry about giving and getting.

When you are in love, you will not get as much as you give, many things may just have to pay but not gain, but this is not the root of love phobia, you must know that you pay more is relatively speaking, others have been paying, how can you erase what others do.

If you overcome the fear of falling in love, then you will naturally want to live with him for the rest of your life when you fall in love to a certain extent. I hope you will overcome your fears as soon as possible and go down with your beloved.

First, many men often have the fear of being abandoned. After middle age, men will be especially afraid of being despised or abandoned by their wives or children. So, when family members don't respect themselves, they react very sensitively.

Second, worry about your child's failure. Men tend to crave their children's desire to succeed more than women. Middle-aged men are often afraid that their children will not meet their expectations, resulting in a constant mental burden.

Third, because men make up a large proportion of the family's economic resources, coupled with the influence of the traditional concept of "earning money to support the family", men's greatest fears lie in career and economics.

4.Fear of losing health. Another thing that men fear the most is losing their ability to be independent and having to rely on others to take care of them. Usually, this can easily happen when you are sick.

5.Men are more worried than women about their declining physique and weakened sexual performance. For the psychological phenomenon of various appeals, the psychologists call it gray mental illness.

Gray mental illness generally occurs in middle-aged men, mainly manifested as: listlessness, depression, anxiety, but denies any psychological variation.

The occurrence of gray mental illness is related to a variety of factors. In terms of physical function, middle-aged people's agility has begun to decline from their peak state, and they often feel that they can't do things. In terms of mental function, most middle-aged people's learning and memory ability begins to decline, and the lack of change in the living environment makes them prone to boredom.

From the perspective of family burdens, middle-aged people often have parents and children, and all kinds of trivial entertainment consume a lot of time and energy, which often makes them feel too stressed and difficult to cope.

So how to overcome the above psychological fears and prevent Gray's mental illness? First of all, men should pay special attention to their physical health and maintain a normal and regular life. Second, don't take unnecessary risks and keep your mind in a relatively stable state.

In addition, you have to learn to deal with pressure, face the huge pressure from your family and society, learn to resolve it, and cope with it. In this way, you can lighten your mental burden.

Let's break up. What are you and your husband doing? Isn't it enough to just give work orders?

Your husband is the one who will accompany you until your old age. You have to love each other for the rest of your life. Therefore, you have to have a better attitude towards them.

Be strong, people feel a lot of pressure. It's not easy, it's not right to say anything, not to say anything, not to do anything. The family atmosphere must be particularly tense.

If you stay for more than a minute, you'll be suffocated. Do you like this marriage?

Since you don't like it, put your merits aside. Some of the drawbacks aren't because you're really bad. On the contrary, I am willing to make reasonable concessions for the sake of this family and this husband.

<> don't think it's too complicated, love and marriage should be lived in life. Strive to improve their abilities so that they have the strength and ability to love and marry. Communicate more with people, change your personality and be a cheerful, generous, and dare to love and hate person.

Men are afraid of love and marriage. First of all, you should trust him – trust that he will not regret it when you are together for a long time. I think you'll be happier than you are now.

You should be patient with him. The psychology of a man does not appear for a moment, so your incitement to marriage will definitely backfire, so you have to be patient with him, his fear, it is natural and normal for men and women to get married. The concept of love must conform to the trend of the times.

Are you still waiting for your parents to introduce you? Do you still blush when you see a woman talking? Even if you're not good at free love, you can speak naturally and realistically when someone introduces you.

It feels like the other person is strong, you don't like it, and it's good to break up together. Let's talk about it again. Feelings are fate, but they can't wait.

Feelings must be discussed with the heart, and in the face of these demands, we must not cower and fear marriage. We should ensure that through mutual communication, we achieve a mutually acceptable way of life.