Why are the two people in the current marriage more and more indifferent, and more and more insensit

The sweetness of love, the quarrel after marriage, the helplessness after giving birth, especially some trivial things in life, will make the relationship between two people weaker and weaker, and I feel that life is not interesting at all. It seems that there has been a change from love to affection between two people, just like each other's relatives, you can lose your temper because you know that the other person will not leave, but such a day does not seem to be what we want.

One: Slowly all the shortcomings are exposed.

When you want to be with this person and go hand in hand, there must be something in him that attracts you, and at this time you see his shortcomings, and your eyes are full of advantages. But when the two of them are really together, slowly all his shortcomings will be exposed, and at this time, the two will quarrel, they will have conflicts, and no one will let anyone, because the two are already together. It's because of the endless quarrels that the hearts of the two people are getting more and more tired, and the more they pass, the more they feel nothing.

Two: There is no wave.

There are many ways to keep love fresh, but in the eyes of many people, after getting married, you just live your life, you don't need to think about some formalistic things, and living a good life is better than anything else. It's this kind of thinking that makes life more and more boring. As everyone knows, life also needs a sense of ritual, and sometimes a little surprise you prepare can make you feel the sweetness of love again.

Three: Huge life pressure.

In today's society, young people are under a lot of pressure, and they are still burdened with a lot of loans, thinking about how to repay the loans and how to live every day, and they have no time to think about other things, so every day is so plain and uneventful. <>

In fact, marriage also needs to be managed, love is love, two people are people who have walked through their lives hand in hand, and they can add a little spice to the boring life from time to time to make life more interesting.

<> "The once youthful and beautiful men and women, from acquaintance-love-love-talk about marriage!" Seeing them all happy makes everyone envious! Until the two live in a two-person world! And yet now the men and women of the marriage heaven! Is it really the same after a long time?

Time flies, so many years have passed.

Sometimes I suddenly find out why the two of them are getting colder and colder?

When you get used to the tiredness of running around outside, you may not be able to eat a bite of hot food and soup when you come home!

Accustomed to his hard work and difficulty outside! She never knew how to encourage!

You always say that someone else earns more money out there than he does. As everyone knows, he worked hard outside to earn money for the sake of it.

You have a better life with your children, it's just that money isn't as easy to get as you think!

Your encouragement and support are the motivation for him to work hard outside.

Did you say you would eat when he got home? Tired? It's just holding the phone and having fun.

He's your husband, not your wallet. Leaving more money behind, he is gone, maybe he is really happy?

In fact, it's not that the feelings have faded, but because they are used to it.

They are used to each other's efforts but do not know how to be grateful and give back.

Both sides are accustomed to taking but forgetting to give.

The two habitually choose to enjoy but ignore each other's reciprocation and encouragement!

People are always accustomed to nature, especially between loved ones.

Everyone feels aggrieved and sad! When you get used to her busy at home, she does the laundry and cooks after the busy home. You give a smile to a stranger, but a bad temper to the person you love the most.

The best relationship between husband and wife is: you know how hard and difficult it is for me to earn money outside, I understand the difficulty and hardship of your children at home, good couples and good partners know how to pretend to be stupid to each other, husband and wife are not enemies, don't think about conquering and suppressing each other, don't blindly accuse each other of who is right and who is wrong, love has no one who is right and who is wrong, no one is superior, no one is better than whom, no one is not worthy of whom, the division of labor is different, the responsibilities are different, both of them are equal, what kind of person you are worthy of, The most astute husband and wife relationship is precisely not careful, and only by not caring about life can we respect and love each other! Husbands and wives are not afraid of quarrels and quarrels are afraid of not understanding each other, do not know how to communicate and exchange, the best marriage relationship is to understand each other, encourage each other, support each other, so many years of ups and downs, ups and downs have come over, women know how to stay together, men know how to be grateful, this is a lifetime this is life, this life can be together is fate, this life will support each other to go on, I wish the world's lovers will eventually become married!

Wait until the last moment of your life to say, "It's good to have you in this life."

Why are the two of them getting colder and colder and more and more insensitive.

It's not that your feelings have become weaker, but your hearts have become colder.

Why do couples get colder and colder?

It can't be helped, that's all.

Now that communication technology is developed, two people don't need to go out, and they can do face-to-face, but this kind of face-to-face is still not as real as meeting each other, just like saying that couples in a long-distance relationship, even if they call, send messages, and even chat, they are not as good as couples who can meet every day, and they are more real. Therefore, this kind of communication method also shortens the distance between the two people, making the two people become strangers in the unconscious awakening.

After getting married, there are too many people who can't help themselves, and because they are already married, they will put more feelings and energy on the family. Before we got married, we were relatively free in terms of time, and when we had nothing to do, some friends could just call out and get together. But once Ran Kai gets married and has a family, there is a kind of bondage, especially after having children, there are more entanglements, and they can't go out if they can't say it, and two friends, if you have time, she may not have time, when she needs you, you may not have time, in short, the intersection is getting less and less, and because of this reason, the contact between the two people is also less, very naturally, and slowly become unfamiliar.

There is another very important reason, in fact, it is the same as falling in love, the interaction between friends, but also pay attention to the right person, like-minded, when they are not married, the two people can be said to be equal in strength, but once married, I think there may be a gradual gap in the economy, especially after a few years of marriage, after more than ten years, the gap has gradually opened. Because there is a certain gap in the economic level of the two colors, it has also led to a psychological gap between the two people, or it is said that the two people sit together, and there may be no common language, which leads to the fact that the two friends are becoming more and more estranged.

Although many people don't want to admit it, it has to be said that it is difficult to get together with friends once you get married. Especially after having a child, after being busy every day, I first have to go back to the house to take care of the child. In this regard, couples have to pay for the same experience, especially now that most families are dual-income families.

There is very little time to be able to give to the house, and it is impossible to arrange it for friends.

1. Get along for many years and know each other too well.

Husband and wife have lived together for many years from knowing each other to falling in love with each other, and they have long known each other's details and thoughts. However, because he knows the other party too well, the wife or husband knows what the other party is going to do when he makes a move. This kind of understanding is too suffocating, making the other party feel that there is no private space, and they are overwhelmed.

Gradually, the two became dissatisfied with each other, and even quarrels became commonplace.

Second, magnify the shortcomings of the other party and fail to see the advantages.

When a husband and wife have been together for a long time, they will know each other's shortcomings. It's not like the beginning of the love period, where the lover's eyes are shih hsi. Instead, they criticize each other and magnify each other's shortcomings.

Never find a way to work together to change each other's shortcomings. Such repeated amplification and forbearance will sooner or later explode one day, causing the two to fall apart.

3. The cruelty of the reality of life.

Love needs a material foundation. After marriage, the man worked hard in order to answer the orange family, and the woman was miserable in housework. Over time, women complain that men are useless and do not make money.

Men think that their wives don't understand him, and they don't have a sense of gain and happiness. The two have a grudge against each other!

It will be like this, because after being married for a long time, it will return to real life, that is, tea, rice, oil and salt, and then it is to work hard for survival, in fact, love is still there but not reflected.

This is very normal first, divided into the second love period, divided into the third love period, divided into the marriage period fourth, divided into mixed late stage The emotions of each stage are different.

Because they have been married for a long time, the husband and wife have been worn out of patience by the trivial things of life, and slowly expose their bad temper in front of each other, and the relationship will be worn out after a long time.

Because any relationship, after the baptism of time, will return to the plain, so the relationship that can stand the test of time is the true relationship.

The most fearful thing is coldness, so I think we should learn to communicate.

In fact, if you stay together for a long time, the feelings of people who like each other more will fade.

Before marriage, each other showed each other the best side, the shortcomings were hidden or disguised, and what was seen was each other's strengths. After the marriage, they stayed together day and night, and all kinds of shortcomings and bad habits were exposed, and they began to become speechless, or cold, or quarrelsome. The relationship also cooled down before the scum.

Everything has an expiration date, and so are feelings! Over time, aesthetic fatigue can occur. If you want to keep the freshness of marriage before love, you must give both parties enough private space, understand each other, support each other, and <>

Because they don't understand each other, they quarrel constantly.

I admire two kinds of people, the first is a woman who accompanies a man to live a hard life when she is young. The second is that the man who accompanies the woman to live a good life when he is rich, so many years have passed, and the relationship between husband and wife has changed from the love of his youth to more family affection. Sometimes I suddenly find out why the two of them are getting colder and colder, but it's not that the relationship has become weaker.