How to make friends is the best way to grasp the distance

As long as you have sincerity, there are no friends you can't make. Only insincere people will divide friends into three-six-nine. Why, everyone likes ignorant young children because they are very simple.

Friendship without mixed interests can last forever! Even if it's a couple!

The relationship between yourself and your friends should be intimate, but in the process of interacting with friends, some of your friends will compare themselves with themselves without any care, or belittle themselves from time to time. Specifically, when you encounter a friend who compares with you and deliberately belittles yourself, you can take three situations: understanding, tolerance, laughing at it, seeing the essence of the other party, keeping a distance from the other party, and carefully choosing a real friend to break off friends with people who are not suitable to be friends.

1. For the ridicule between friends, you should understand and tolerate it, and laugh it off.

Friends are very close to each other, so when they interact with each other, they tend to be more casual in their speech and behavior. Sometimes some words of friends will cause some harm to yourself, and you should understand and tolerate this situation, choose to treat it generously, and laugh it off, so as to maintain a good relationship between friends. So that the friendship between them can be maintained.

2. You should see the essence of your friends and keep an appropriate distance from ordinary friends.

Everyone has friends, these friends and their own relationship will exist near and far imitative, for those intimate friends, they should carefully maintain the relationship with each other, and for those ordinary friends, they should maintain an appropriate way of communication with them, those who compare with themselves or belittle themselves in the conversation, are often those ordinary friends with the general relationship. You should take care to keep an appropriate distance from them.

3. You should carefully choose real friends, and you should cut off friends with people who are not suitable to be friends.

Some of our friends have been friends for a long time, but as their relationship develops, at some point, they are no longer suitable to be friends. At this time, the relationship between yourself and the former friend will become very poor, and the other party may compare with you or deliberately belittle your own words and deeds, at this time, you should learn to choose the right real friends, for those who are not suitable to be your friends. You should make a decision and break off your friendship with them, so that you can find a true friend and get a real friendship, so that you can really benefit from your own wisdom.

The better the friend, the more likely it is to have contradictions, that is because after getting along for a long time, the shortcomings and deficiencies between each other will be more exposed, and it is precisely because of the good relationship that they will speak out, but it hurts the feelings and produces contradictions.

When you first meet a person, you don't know each other, of course, there will be a lot to say, and you can't finish talking, sometimes you will feel that some of the other party's views are very fresh and attractive, and after being together for a long time, you will gradually start to find faults, which is a normal process.

At this time, you don't have to feel very strange, let alone wonder if the other party doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, think about it, two unfamiliar people walking together without saying anything will be very embarrassing, but you and your mother walk on the road without saying anything you never feel embarrassed, the same is true with good friends, people who don't know seem to think that two people don't get used to each other, in fact, you already have a heart.

And a very important point, everything is like this, you get along with a person for a certain time, just like now you feel that there are fewer and fewer words, and there are small contradictions, this is the problem of distance, you have been too close to her, girls are easy to make this kind of mistake.

Why do you see some people around you mention that their good friends have been together for many years, it is because they will get along, they will not stick together all day long, usually not always contact, after a period of time everyone is coming together to play or something, talk about the current situation, Wu Biru so that there will be no words, this is the way to get along for a long time.

As for the people in the dormitory and the classmates, it may be necessary to be together a lot for a few years, and that's okay, even so, you don't have to get too close, you can feel that when you are too close to you personally, you will also have a burden on your own psyche.

There is a philosophy called "porcupine philosophy" that says that there is a kind of porcupine, and they are covered with sharp thorns. Every winter, the porcupines lean close to each other to keep warm, but if they get too close, they will be stabbed by their companions, and if they are too far away, they will not play a role in heating, so they finally keep a just right distance after repeated attempts, so that they will not be stabbed by their companions, but they can also keep warm.

People should know how to maintain this appropriate distance in the process of getting along, which is a kind of golden mean.

Clause. 1. Grasp the frequency of communication with friends.

Everyone will have differences in culture, morality, character, attitude, work potential, and family situation, etc., the size of the difference between the lead species, sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent and dense the communication, the greater the difference, the interaction between friends, whether it is the number of times they get along, distance, etc., must be kept separated, in order to achieve the artistic conception of "unfinished, unfinished", will be happy because of the arrival of friends, and miss because of the departure of friends.

Second, respect friends.

Although your friend and you have similar temperament, similar interests, and similar sexuality, your friend is a living person after all, and there will always be some differences from you, there will always be such and such shortcomings, and there will always be secrets that you don't want others to know. Therefore, when socializing with friends, do not idealize friends too much, tolerate their shortcomings, and choose the right time and method to help them overcome their shortcomings in good faith; Let your friends keep their "self", friends have their own hobbies, their own personality, you can't be subjective and arbitrary, arbitrarily ask your friends to have the same hobbies as you; Respect your friend's privacy, don't let your friend report everything to you, it seems that if your friend doesn't talk to you about something, he is unfaithful to you, and he is not enough friends.

Clause. 3. Correctly grasp the scale of friendship and love.

In addition to love, there should be a place for friendship between friends, even if it is between boyfriend and girlfriend, as long as you pay attention to grasping the ruler, you can also establish a healthy, elegant and pure friendship relationship. Both friends should recognize the difference between friendship and love, friendship is just a friendly exchange between friends, and love has to bear certain responsibilities to each other, such as family marriage, etc., it has a certain degree of specificity and constraints.

Clause. 4. Learn to say "no" to your friends.

It is legitimate for friends to ask for things from each other, and some people often ask for things that go beyond the scope of principles and objective reality. For example, some friends ask you to do things that are beyond your master's ability to bear, or some friends entrust you with things that are against your subjective will, etc., as a friend, you should decisively say "no".

Summary. If your best friend is a friend of the opposite sex and you have a boyfriend, I believe that friends should have a sense of proportion, and when he knows that you have a boyfriend, he will selectively keep a certain safety distance from you, so as not to misunderstand your boyfriend. For friends with such a sense of boundary, we actually just need to communicate normally, and we don't need to deliberately avoid it.

If your best friend is a friend of the opposite sex, and you have a boyfriend, I believe that friends should have a sense of proportion, and when he knows that you have a boyfriend, he will definitely keep a certain safety distance from you selectively, so as not to misunderstand your boyfriend. For friends with such a sense of boundary, we actually just need to communicate normally, and we don't need to deliberately avoid it.

If your good friend is a friend of the same sex, then you keep your distance from Zhou Luju, is it because of some reason? You can talk to the teacher about why you need to keep a certain distance from him. This will help the teacher to analyze for you in a more targeted manner.

When men and women get along, it is easy to have different feelings, and it is easy to cross the dividing line of friendship, so it is wisest to keep a certain distance between the two people if the friendship does not deteriorate.

1. Do not have intimate physical contact and ambiguous relationships with girls.

In the friendship of the opposite sex, if a man and a woman want to maintain a real friendship, then, do not have intimate physical contact with each other, because, once there is intimate physical contact, the relationship between the two people becomes impure, if two people really want to be real friends with each other, then, there is no difference in the heart of each other, therefore, between the opposite sex, if you want to maintain a real friendship, you must keep a certain distance from each other and put an end to intimate physical contact.

2. Keep the frequency of meetings and keep your distance.

If you want to maintain a good relationship with good friends for a long time, first of all, you can't go too close. It's not a big problem to make an appointment for a dinner party, but the frequency of this meeting should not be too high. Some things that are only done between couples, such as watching movies, are best avoided between ordinary friends.

When your friend of the opposite sex has a partner, then you need to automatically and spontaneously keep your distance from this friend of the opposite sex. Especially some daily cares, these things no longer need you to do, people have their own objects to do these things. You should retreat to the position of a friend, even if it is just a general person who nods the head, and don't interfere in the daily life between other couples.

3. Be careful not to be sentimental and think that your friends like you.

When playing with friends of the opposite sex, I should be careful not to think that the praise and encouragement of friends of the opposite sex, or feelings such as comfort, are that friends of the opposite sex like me. It is necessary to put the feelings of praise from friends of the opposite sex in the same place as the praise of friends of the same sex. Self-inflicted affection often leads to self-conscious distance from friends.

Fourth, mutual respect, mutual trust, and clear boundaries.

The two sides of the exchange must trust each other and respect each other. Because there are great differences between men and women in terms of temperament, personality, body, hobbies, etc., the interaction between the opposite sex is very sensitive, which requires the opposite sex students in the process of communication, so that the sincere friendship of male and female students can be guaranteed.

As a man, you should be more cautious and restrained, so that nothing unexpected happens. Maintain a certain distance, grasp the distance is not the distance of the distance, it is the distance of the relationship between the two.