Some things are predestined?

To believe is to believe, and not to believe is not.

When my husband and I met in a middle school in 1993, he thought to himself: her eyes are so beautiful. (I haven't spoken, and it's as if I haven't seen this person in three years).

In 1997 we went to the same grade and the same class at the same school. (He doesn't talk much, I'll bump into him occasionally).

When we came to Beijing in 2000, we actually met in such a big Beijing. (rarely contacted).

In 2002, he divorced his fiancée, who was introduced by his family. (often looking for me, waiting for me outside my company, like a normal friend).

On December 25, 2003, we got married.

If it seems like it was destined to be good, right?

But I'll tell you a secret:

At the end of December 2002, when I was buying shoes, he was busy helping me find them, and he took a lot of shoes for me to try, and he took me off my shoes, and I fell in love with his gentleness the moment I put them on.

I don't think it's destined, it's the result of hard work by yourself, if you meet it's just a coincidence, if it's destined for a long time, then just do it and wait for the pie to fall from the sky, come on, use your own hands to create your beautiful future!

It seems to be accidental, but sometimes it is an inevitable result, so it is necessary to lay the cause of things in order to get the result you want, and only in this way may you be able to change the inevitability in the dark a little.

Yes, I've always felt that my wife and I were destined to be in the dark.

In short, if two people are in love, don't give up on each other easily.

Sooner or later, things will come to light, and the fate of the two people is already doomed, so face it bravely!

The phrase "there is a fixed number in the underworld" originally came from Taoism, but the fixed number of the self-luck in the underworld has something in common with everything in Buddhism because of karma, and the self-definite number in the underworld does not mean that no matter what heaven has arranged, but it means that everything is caused by karma, because it has been quietly arranged.

In a lot of the time. There will be a lot of tacit understanding between us and the people we love the most, and we will have a lot of hearts and minds with each other. This will make you feel that two people are destined to be together.

Whether this tacit understanding really represents the destining in the dark needs to be analyzed by Zheng Sen from three aspects: accidental factors, his own active choice, and the interaction between them.

1. Two people can be together, and the accidental factor plays a very big role.

In real life, the encounter between two people is actually very accidental. ......Different people have different living conditions, they don't have much contact with each other, they can come together from different places and meet each other, and they can meet and fall in love, all of which is completely accidental. If it is said that two people are destined to be together, this kind of chance may be the most unsatisfactory factor.

2. Who you are with has a very big relationship with your own active choice.

Who a person is with seems to be accidental, but in fact, there is also an inevitable component. ......Specifically, one's own active choice has a very important impact on who he is with. ......Among the people I meet, I only want to associate with people I like.

In this way, the person who is with him is not destined in the dark, but the result of his own active choice.

3. The mutual influence between each other is an important part of the tacit understanding between two people.

For the situation that there is a lot of tacit understanding between two people, some people interpret it as predestined in the dark. ......But it is often more reasonable to interpret them as the result of their interaction with each other. ......In daily life, two people who are together have an understanding of each other's interests and hobbies, and will fully consider each other's preferences when doing some things, so two people may make the same choice......This explanation of the tacit understanding between two people is obviously more reasonable than the explanation that is destined in the dark.

Because of shouting and arguing, who you are with and the tacit understanding between each other, in addition to the destining in the dark, your own active choice is actually a more important factor.

First of all, even if two people are together, they need to have a certain amount of wisdom to deal with some problems encountered between two people, so that the feelings between two people can be more harmonious, so that two people can be together for a long time, for example, in the process of getting along with two people, one and chong must achieve mutual understanding, mutual respect and mutual tolerance, and the two couples also need frequent communication in the process of getting along, so as to enhance the feelings between each other. Eliminate the estrangement between each other, bump and fight with spears and annihilation shields, and the destined feelings in the dark are more of our expectations and desires for a beautiful love.

In fact, for many young people, when they have their other half, they often think that the relationship between themselves and the other half is predestined, and it is inevitable for two people to be together, but I don't think so, although there is a certain element of chance in love, but real love still needs us to strive for and work hard.

On the other hand, the kind of love that is destined in the dark is more manifested in some film and television works, or in some ** and other literary works, in real life, this situation is difficult to encounter, when we meet someone who really makes us fall in love, if we want to be with each other, we must need our own efforts, strive to dare to express to each other, and even change ourselves, to the extent that the other party is satisfied, in order to be truly with each other.

To sum up, my point of view is: I don't believe in who to be with, it is predestined for a long time.