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Rationally, I still have to change it back.
The adopted children around me basically go to look for their biological parents without exception when they grow up, and some of them shrink back when they see that their biological parents are in poor condition and then have no contact. So I have always insisted that raising children must be biological, and if I can't give birth, I'd rather die alone than be raised. Blood ties are too important.
If you change it, it will only hurt for a while, and if you don't change it, it will hurt for a lifetime.
1. First of all, you just give back the children who don't belong to you to others, which is not a loss.
2. Raise your own children, be justified, feel at ease, and conform to human ethics. Your children are in the hands of others all day long, and it is estimated that you have to sleep and eat, think about it day and night, this knot is not easy for ordinary people.
3. The child has no blood relationship with you, and after the child knows, the estrangement in the future is far greater than the so-called family affection. <>
4. Legally, if you make a mistake, it is a mistake, and if the hospital is responsible, it will be infringed, and if you want civil compensation, if you don't correct the mistake, you are continuing to perpetuate the mistake. 4. Those who say that they don't change and move around more in the two families are actually not conducive to educating children, because the comparison between children and the use of your delicate relationship will make adults fall into a difficult situation, referring to the performance of children in the family of divorced parents after divorce.
Therefore, in terms of blood, humanity, legal relations, and children's growth, they all have to be replaced. I was emotionally selfish for a while and couldn't accept it, because I didn't think clearly about the pros and cons. If you change it or not, it's like a blue life and death love, the other party's conditions are very poor, and if you change it back, it means that you can raise two children?
And this so-called raising, it's not that the child has been at your house, the child will definitely have to go back to his biological parents' house, but the conditions for the child to go back will be relatively poor, such as not being able to go to a good school, having no money to buy clothes, etc., as long as you are willing to take the child to raise, I think the other party should be fine.
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Don't talk about this, we had a matter before, a couple divorced, the child belonged to the man, but by chance the child was not born to the man, but the woman and someone else, the child was ten years old at the time, the man chose to continue to raise the child to grow up, when the biological one, at that time the female colleagues in our office were particularly incomprehensible, but a few male colleagues said that if it was them, it would be like this. <>
When I went home, I asked my husband, if it was him, what would happen to him, my husband said that he had been raised for more than ten years, watching him grow up little by little, not biological but also biological, he was definitely reluctant to let go, his mother did something wrong, and it had nothing to do with the child. I think that men are not pregnant in October, and the relationship with the child is cultivated in the slow and day by day raising, so I choose it this way.
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Definitely not, blood doesn't mean everything.
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After giving birth to a child for 6 years, I was told that the child was held in the hospital by mistake, and whether I chose to change it back or continue to make mistakes.
The Japanese movie "Like a Father, Like a Son" tells such a story.
Ordinary office worker Nonomiya Ryota and his wife Nonomiya Midori have been married for many years, and the relationship is very good, and the two raise their smart and well-behaved son Nonomiya Keita together, and their lives are quiet and happy. What the three people who thought that a peaceful life would last forever did not expect was that a ** from the hospital where Keeda was born swept this small family into the storm.
It turns out that Keita is not the son of Ryota and Midori, but the crystallization of the love of Yuta Saiki and Eucalyptus. Is the relationship between day and night precious, or is the bond of blood connection important? Faced with the consequences of a small misunderstanding many years ago, Liangduo and Midori don't know where to go.
And for Yuda, Eucalyptus and their non-biological child Ryuharu Saiki, they also stand before the crossroads of life.
When encountering this kind of thing, I believe everyone is very conflicted and entangled.
It is even more cruel for small children, and it is physically and mentally difficult to accept to leave their parents who have relied on them since childhood and start living with complete strangers.
In the film, many fathers support the exchange of their children, and he believes that blood is more important. Midori's mother, on the other hand, supported her in maintaining the status quo, believing that parenting was more important.
The four adults are very conflicted, they all have a deep relationship with the current children, and none of them are willing to give up. The two families get together and try to get along with each other's children and develop a relationship. Liangduo's economic conditions are relatively good, but he is busy with work every day, rarely plays with his children, is more strict in front of his children, and usually his mother accompanies his children alone.
Saiki runs an electrical appliance store, the economic conditions are not too good, and there are three children at home, but Saiki often plays with the children, bathes together, and is closer to the children.
The two families went from getting together at the beginning, to exchanging children to each other's house for the night on weekends, and finally to the exchange children living in each other's homes, and I think they decided to exchange back their children at this time. They didn't explain the truth to the children, and the two children obediently obeyed, and the children should have sensed some clues in their hearts, and they tried to adapt to each other's homes, but they still thought about their original homes and their parents.
If it is kept that way, everything will pass over time. Solving this kind of thing is better when the child is younger, and the older he gets, the longer he gets along, and the more difficult it is to let go of the family affection that he nurtures. Adults also need to be ruthless, if they hesitate and drag mud and water, everyone is very painful, and it is better to have a long pain than a short pain.
But Liangduo saw the photos that Keita took him in the camera, and finally couldn't control his feelings and ran to find the child. When Keida saw his father, he chose to hide, and he probably felt that his parents had abandoned him. The two of them told each other's feelings one after the other, and finally returned to Saiki's house together, and I think Keita should have forgiven his father.
The film does not tell us the answer at the end, how the two families finally resolved.
Reality is cruel after all, I think everyone will have their own choice, if it was what you would do?
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This provision shows that once a legal adoptive relationship is established, the adoptive parents and the adoptive children have the same rights and obligations as the biological parents and the children.
Clause. 2. China's "Civil Code of the People's Republic of China" clearly stipulates that children among legal heirs include adopted children. An adoptive relationship is a legal act between people whereby an adopter adopts a child of the adopter as his own child.
After the adoptive relationship is formed, the relationship of rights and obligations between the adoptee and the biological parents is extinguished. In the case of a de facto adoptive relationship, it should be noted that the following conditions must be met at the same time:
1) Although the parties have not gone through the legal formalities for adoption, there is a fact of upbringing, education, support and support.
2) The two parties are commensurate with their parents and children, and their relatives and friends know that they are adoptive parents and children.
3) The rights and obligations of adopted children and their biological parents have been eliminated. Only those who meet the above conditions can inherit each other.
Legal basis: "Interpretation of the Supreme People's Court on Several Issues Concerning the Determination of Liability for Moral Damages in Civil Torts" Article 2: Where a ward is illegally removed from guardianship, causing serious harm to the parent-child relationship or the kinship between close relatives, and the guardian files a lawsuit with the people's court requesting compensation for moral damages, the people's court shall accept it in accordance with law.
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After raising a child for 10 years, he found that he was holding the wrong child, in fact, the best way is for the two families to become good friends and treat each other's children as relatives, so that there are two parents who love him.
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Will change. If others are not willing to change, forget it, if others are also willing to change, it would be better, they are all parents who love their children, and they are reluctant for ten years.
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I definitely want to meet my biological children, but whether to change or not depends on the wishes of the two children, and I can't make my own unilateral decision. I would ask the wishes of the two children to see if the biological children were doing well, and if they had ideas, I would respect them.
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I won't, because holding the wrong child 9 shows that this is a kind of fate, and it is something that God has arranged a long time ago, not to mention that the child has already had feelings after ten years.
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Probably not, even if you know that there will be one more at most, but it will definitely not be replaced, and it will cause harm to each other. Just recognize it.
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Absolutely. Most Chinese care about blood tradition, and if the children they raise are not their own, most families will naturally not continue to raise them.
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Maybe some people say that I have raised so much and have feelings, and I can't bear it! In fact, this is harming yourself and your children! Raising is never as good as being a parent!
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No. Because he has been raised as a biological child for ten years, he is already very emotional, and his biological child may not necessarily recognize his mother.
If you buy a new house, use 100w, and find something bad and want to get rid of it, but can only get 50w, will you sell it? After using it, it's discounted, it's not really unbearable, just educate and change it, not to mention that you're still a woman, and it's not good for you to get married again after divorce. Think about it.
Talk to your wife about whether it is necessary to continue the marriage. Will he be able to return to the family.
Personally, I think that the times are different, then life will be different, and I can't compare my current life with my future life, because this is an unknown, so what kind of life my children will have in the future just go with the flow.
What should I do if my child doesn't complete his homework? If you are afraid of being criticized by the teacher and do not let your parents be criticized, you should hurry up and finish your homework, and you can give you half an hour of play time after the homework is completed.
Pretend not to know! Many people will recall their first love, so don't mind so much if you don't do something sorry! She can't completely let go of her first love, which shows that she is a hard-working person! It must be good for you, too.