Why do some parents beat their children and always say it s for your own good?

Some children are so stubborn that parents are afraid that if they don't teach them a lesson, the children will not remember, so they will beat them.

Because of a bad temper, the child still doesn't know the mistake, and hitting the child has become an excuse for your good.

Parents look at what their child has done from their own point of view, thinking that it is wrong to do so, and only by hitting him can he remember.

Because there is a problem with the educational philosophy of these parents, it is their own personality that is problematic.

Parents are hurting their children when they say they are doing what they are doing from the child's point of view and for the child. Some parents are very controlling, and they want their children to be able to do things the way they want. At the same time, they also hope that their children can follow the path they have arranged for them, and the parents' long-term control over the children will lead to unacceptable to the children, and family conflicts will be imminent.

After this happens, the relationship between the child and the parents will also get worse and worse.

In fact, to be good for you is to be your own right, and what parents call for your good is actually to say to their children, you should listen to me. Some children have no ability to resist, so they passively accept the control of their parents. Parents are very controlling and can't control others, so they can only do it to their own children.

They want their children to obey themselves, and then put all their expectations and ideas on them, so that they can realize their rights and sense of accomplishment through control.

When the child is young, he decides how to dress and eat, and when he grows up, he decides the child's examination and hobbies. Parental interference in children has a great impact on the child's life path. They only need to use a short sentence of "I'm doing good for you" to break all the child's psychological defenses.

And some parents are not able to maintain their dignity, so they will add control over their children, and then make their children obedient. But I didn't find that such children lost their own ideas, and they had to consult their parents for everything, and they became giant babies and mothers in everyone's mouths.

Some parents think that they have experienced a lot and seen a lot of things, and while they have a wide range of experiences, they think they understand the laws of the world. Therefore, it denies the opportunity for the child to choose by himself, and also denies the child's own ideas. They think it's important to let the child follow the path they think is safe, but in fact, what they do is to bring harm to the child and prevent the child from entering their own life.

This is because parents don't want their children to be at the starting line, and they don't want to be despised by others, so they will hurt their children like this.

Because many parents will always kidnap their children morally with love, thinking that this is for the good of their children, but they are hurting their children, parents will always educate their children with their own ideas.

Because some parents think that they have been in the society for a long time and have strong comprehension skills, while their children have not entered the society and have poor comprehension skills, they do not want their children to go astray.

1. It's not that you don't have psychological problems, but you don't know that you have psychological problems.

At that time, it was very good to be able to ensure good health, who would care if you had psychological problems? Moreover, psychological problems are often not easy to detect unless they are particularly severe. It is not like a physical problem that can be seen by the naked eye or an instrument, as long as it has no appearance, or the person himself does not admit it, it will not cause people to notice it at all.

In addition, people who are often beaten and scolded and treated roughly, it is very likely that they will also become perpetrators of violence. When he was weak, he was bullied, but once he had absolute power, he bullied others in the same way. So of course he doesn't feel that he has a problem, and the problem is someone else.

Refer to the case of Sun Xiaoguo).

This is true from generation to generation, but it does not mean that the previous education was correct or fine.

Second, it is true that there are no psychological problems, but this does not mean that there is no problem with rough beating and scolding education.

It is undeniable that each child has different characteristics. There may indeed be children who are more solid, thick-skinned, and have bigger hearts. Often beaten and scolded and still alive, mentally healthy, positive.

However, this is only a part of the children, and it is possible that they have not been negatively affected by the scolding. This does not mean that scolding education will not have a negative impact on all children, and it does not mean that scolding education is correct. And even if this part of the healthy child only sees him being beaten and scolded, we don't see that in addition to beating and scolding, he may also have been educated in other ways (such as gentle and encouraging) from the members of the parenting.

For example, the care from grandparents and grandmothers, such as the influence and support from the external environment.

When such children grow up, they generally do not easily use beating and scolding education. Because his heart is positive, sunny, gentle and powerful. There are more ways and means for them to educate their children than just scolding.

3. I have suffered from psychological problems, but after self-regulation and good education, I reconciled with my past parents and successfully got out of my psychological problems.

This kind of person who has stepped out of the psychological shadow will definitely not implement beating and scolding education on the issue of children's education. Because they themselves know best how damaging it can be.

There are many reasons why parents hit their children, such as being wronged by someone they can't afford to provoke, and they have nowhere to vent on their children. Seeing your child behave like someone you hate, you may not be able to help but feel angry.

In short, parents beating their children is always "a crime that you want to add, and there is no excuse for it", and don't believe what they say "for your good". How can there be any reason to beat you for your good? But back to the subject's question, parents often hit their children just to vent, and after venting, they achieve their goals.

What do you think they have for a higher reason?

Of course, parents are also human beings, and the evil side of human nature is often revealed uncontrollably, and there are many people who do it, and the law does not blame the public, so no one seriously investigates the good or bad of this matter.

It is common sense that it is illegal to hit someone. But if even many people who are parents such as policemen, judges, teachers, etc., beat their children, who will come to seek justice for their children?

Finally, I would like to advise all parents, when you can talk well, you should persuade your children well, unless you are particularly ignorant, I really can't help it. Most of the children in our generation are only children, and they are also very rebellious, and being beaten will not necessarily have any effect, but will make the children hate you from the heart.

All men are created equal. But the vast majority of children do not have the courage and strength to defend this equality. Therefore, some parents beat their children, but also to curb their children's resistance and distort their children's three views. Helpless and sad.

This social phenomenon is actually very common. But I want to say to parents all over the world: Now that your children are ignorant, you rely on your own strength and height to commit violence against your children, and when you are old and can't hold the bowl and scatter the rice all over the ground, should the children be violent to you?

First of all, no matter who it is, it is not right to hit someone, even illegal. Therefore, parents can't fight, he has to fight, and there is no way, in the same way, it is not right for children to hit their parents, but if children have to beat, there is no way. It's like it's wrong to kill someone, but if you have to kill, you can pay for your life.

If you do something wrong, you will always be punished, and the result of your parents beating people is that they are getting farther and farther away from their children, and they will gain a violent child.

Of course, it is useless to hit children, children are very obedient nowadays, as long as they reason with children, they will be able to listen, and hitting children is easy to cause children's rebellious psychology.

It is useful a little, but do not beat too often, and you can't beat too hard, corporal punishment is only a special means of education, but it cannot be a main method of educating children.

Spanking a child is useful to a certain extent, and it will make the child understand that the parent is very angry, that he has really done something wrong in this matter, and that he should be restrained in this regard in the future.

Many people think that children can't be talented if they don't fight, and the old saying also says that filial piety comes out under the stick. Therefore, many parents will think that hitting their children is for the good of their children, better education of their children, and making them more productive in the future. In fact, this is a wrong education method, and children who are often beaten and scolded may have two extremes in their personalities in the future, some often hit others, and some may be timid and cowardly.

Therefore, when educating children, do not use the method of beating.

Parents think that this way is better and can make the baby more obedient, so they always say that it is for your own good.

In our country, since ancient times, there has been a saying that filial piety comes out under the stick. But after years of practice, this method is unscientific. For children's education, it is still necessary to teach by word and deed.