I don t know how to treat the unborn child calmly, to stay or not to stay?

It's a little long but it's too depressing not to say it, the landlord's daughter is 30 years old this year, married for a year, and now 5 months pregnant! My husband is 9 years older than me, he was divorced when I married him, and he had 2 children, 1 boy and 1 girl with his ex-wife, the boy lived with his ex-wife, and the girl lived with him. The background is explained!

Although he already has 2 children, after all, he and I don't have children in common, so I still look forward to this baby, but he doesn't seem to care too much about <>

I asked him if he would give birth, and he said that it was up to me, and I would be born if I wanted to be born, and if I didn't want to be born, I would not be born. Economic conditions: A single-family building built on the outskirts of my husband's house, the kind with a large yard, my husband and I go to work, he is 6,7 thousand, and I am 5,000. The landlord's parents are also in business, and even if he doesn't pay a penny, I can support my parents' house independently!

Now the problem is that my husband and the female boss he used to work for are getting better again, and I plan to go to other places to join the female boss's husband, on the grounds that I will have 3 children soon, and now I am working at work, this salary is not enough to support, and I must follow the female boss to do some business to earn money to support the family, he said that I don't understand him, he has so many children, and the pressure from his parents is too great. I can't get by with such a dead salary in January!

Why do I think that he is not making good money, there are several reasons, first: my husband divorced his ex-wife 3 years ago, it is said that it is because of this female boss, when my husband used to live with his ex-wife, he was good at work, and suddenly said that he wanted to do something by himself, my husband and ex-wife are both from Shanxi, in the same county, I am from Yunnan, after I met my husband, my husband was working in Yunnan at the time, and after I got married last year, I also lived with me in Yunnan, and my daughter was in Shanxi's hometown with <> from her husband's parents

At that time, my husband insisted on doing business, and I didn't know how to meet the female boss, so he took out about 300,000 yuan of his family's savings and followed the female boss to Shanghai to open a store and invest, and the products sold were the female boss's company. The female boss is about 45 years old as the chairman of the company, and the boss's husband is the general manager. The female boss has two children, an eldest daughter is married, and when I got married last year, my husband flew to Shanghai to attend the wedding, and he didn't take me alone.

The air ticket money is still the female boss to her husband's WeChat transfer, I was still curious to ask my husband why you went to the wedding and someone reimbursed the air ticket, my husband said that the world of rich people you know what. The female boss also has a young son in kindergarten, who is said to look very similar to my husband, and his ex-wife divorced because of this.

First of all: whether the man you choose is really suitable for living with you for a lifetime, and whether a person is suitable or not is not judged by simple appearance and money! You know this best!

Second, are you financially fit to have a child in all aspects?

Seriously, if your parents are just for comparison or face problems, I think you can keep this child, after all, it is a life, and it is not easy to come to this world! People's hearts are flesh and blood, and your parents' current opposition is very painful for you, so don't talk to them about this matter yet, after all, they are angry, let it go first, (provided that you really decide to have this child).

Parents all over the world, they only hope that you will live well, as long as the two of you work hard, in the days to come, it is not too late to take the baby home and tell your parents!

Sit down and talk to your parents calmly. I believe that the boy who is so perfect in your heart can give you advice. Let him convince your parents that is the best ending.

Parents don't have the right to deprive you of your happiness, as long as it's true happiness, go for it.

Calm down first and eliminate the influence of irrelevant people on you. Don't listen to someone's temptation. And don't be vindictive because of the bad words of others. Be clear about where you stand.

For you personally, being a single mother is a very difficult thing, carrying the shackles of morality, bearing the pressure of life, and mental distress, it is by no means an easy task, and this has also become the biggest obstacle for you to start a family.

For an unborn child, it is your gift and choice to give life, but you should give him a normal environment to grow up in. If he grows up, he learns that he grew up in this situation. He will have low self-esteem, his growth trajectory will deviate far away, and in the future, maybe his unhappiness will be passed on to you.

For him who broke up with you, whether it was for him or his family, there was also a possibility that a time bomb had been planted, and naturally for his family who had nothing to do with you, it was reasonable that you would not be treated well by them.

In addition, regarding surgery, if it is dealt with early, it is simple that you will not feel that it is an operation, so don't go alone.

So you can't gamble with a life that you can't take responsibility for and your own future.

Of course, don't let it all end because a child has fantasies about that man.

I wish you to come out of the gloom and start your own life.

Of course, you are definitely unwilling to give up this child, and I can understand this! After all, it's a small statement in your belly! But you have to think about it from a different perspective, you've broken up, what does the guy say, if he wants you to be together, that's the best outcome!

If he doesn't agree, then what if the child is born in the future! If you want me to raise it myself, then you are too naïve! Give it up!

Since you don't want them to be restless every day, it means that you are a good-hearted girl. I suggest that you get rid of him, and instead of letting him suffer in this world, it is better to end him sooner. You can also get rid of this painful experience and start a new life again.

Have you ever wondered how much responsibility it takes to be a single mother?

- You adults are not qualified to kill this child's life, and you shouldn't have done this in the first place if you didn't want to, and since it's already like this, you can only take responsibility. Don't be cowardly, ask him if he really didn't love you, if so, you leave, leave with the child, of course, he also has to bear a certain amount of material responsibility, don't feel that mentioning money hurts feelings, since he said he didn't love you. Even if he says he loved you, please leave him, because, if you really love you, you won't be left alone, you won't want to be a dad.

He's just a small part of your life, treat yourself well and treat your children well.

Child, there is really nothing wrong with you, you made him, you should feel that he is in your body, one with you, and as a woman, you should fulfill this motherly responsibility. Come on!

Girl who asks the question, I think you can consider a question, the life problems that the child faces when he is born, do you have the ability to support him, do you have the ability to make him feel the warmth of home, do you have the ability to make him feel the warmth of home? If not, then please make up your mind, have you ever thought that once you give birth to him, your boyfriend still won't want it, so how will you live in the future and what will happen to your children?

But upstairs, you said that you didn't kill the child, just to get revenge on the man.

Haven't you thought that if she gives birth to a child, but the child does not have a biological father, and she is a girl with a child without a biological father, it will be beneficial to her future life and the development of the child?

Don't be fooled by revenge!

Treat the whole thing sensibly, if the woman just likes to have children very much, and has the financial ability to raise the child well, and not just to give the man what they call "drag the oil bottle" and torture your future life, then, give birth to a child and live well!

I wish you happiness, you can't be easily fooled by men in the future, women must know how to love themselves!

If you beat the child, their family will be very happy and marry someone else safely, if you don't beat him, it will hinder him, if it were me, I would definitely not beat him and torture him.

The child is innocent, he was born without a father, can you bear to be named an illegitimate child? Since the child has his blood, it will naturally cause trouble for his family, and his current happiness may be shattered, and it will be unfair to another girl. I suggest you put yourself in your shoes.

Let's go! It's hard to sustain without leaving! Let the little one take away!

Hurry up and dissolve the marriage, it will be good for you and your eldest son.

A child's rebellion should be related to the child's brain development. Some people say that the rebellious period is caused by hormonal secretion that makes the child's thinking in the hyperactive stage, let's believe it, anyway, the child at this stage, he suddenly realizes himself, he wants to try to realize his imaginary self, he does not want to be arranged to be obeyed - so many parents will wonder, the child was a good child in elementary school, but obedient, why is it like a different person now? Parents' evaluation of children's "well-behaved" and "obedient" is often based on the parents' self-centered requirements, and the child is trying to achieve the parents' requirements to obtain the parents' approval.

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1. First of all, as a parent, you must learn to be calm and rational. During the rebellion period, parents should not fight with their children, think more from the child's point of view, respect the child, carry forward family democracy, listen to the opinions of all parties, give the child the opportunity to defend and the time to correct the mistake, and do not suppress the child with the "majesty" of the parent and force the child to submit.

2. Secondly, we must learn to understand children and often give them appropriate rewards and encouragement. We must learn to understand, appreciate, and affirm children. In the appreciative eyes of parents, education can be full of hope.

With the appreciation of parents, children are happy, confident, full of happiness, more receptive to parents' opinions, and overcome their own small problems. If parents just blindly count, reprimand, blame or even beat and scold their children, it will not only affect their own emotions, but also easily make their children fall into the quagmire of inferiority.