There is no relationship recovery class after divorce

1. You should understand that when the divorce occurs, both parties have a certain responsibility for the dissolution of the marriage, when you examine your own responsibility on this issue, your blame will be reduced, and when your blame is reduced, you will be more able to coordinate and adapt to life.

2. Divorce will inevitably make your mood fluctuate violently, and you feel that your world is spinning. It is recommended that before you start to meet your friends of the opposite sex, it is best to calm down your violently fluctuating emotions, just like a person who has undergone major surgery, he cannot carry out strenuous activities immediately, so a new marriage is not a good medicine to save you from depression, first try to calm down your emotions, and then take on a new intimate relationship and start a new passionate relationship.

3. The separation of two people usually changes the original social circle of two people, some friends will have to choose to support one of them, and some relatives of the ex-spouse will also have a drastic change in attitude because of the abolition of the marriage relationship. Therefore, divorced friends need to start to establish a new social circle, others are often the support force of a person's soul, we have to look to the outside world for support.

4. Failure to face the facts is the reason for the dissolution of most marriages. We must have a time to see the truth clearly, and we must not blindly treat things with our own wishes and expectations, we should necessarily cut off the last thread of fragility and insignificance, and completely give up unrealistic hopes.

5. After two people divorce, it is best to let the child know this fact as soon as possible, and repeatedly inform the child that both parents attach importance to them, and the divorce is a matter between parents and has nothing to do with the child. And, be honest with your children that if their parents can be happy, they will be stronger and more capable of providing happiness to their children, and that if adults are not satisfied with life, no one will be happy.

6. It is very important to establish honest, calm and warm relationships with others after divorce. You should also be able to devote more energy and time to connecting with others, such as parents, siblings, relatives, your relatives will be directly involved in your family change, and the more support they give you, the faster you will recover. Of course, if there is condemnation in these relationships, then you need to cut that connection.

7. It is not correct for someone to hide in a quiet corner and heal slowly alone. Because the pain suppressed in the heart after divorce will gradually be transformed.

In psychology, unexpressed anger can turn into depression; Unexpressed hurt is transformed into permanent sadness; Unexpressed fear can be transformed into avoidance; The helplessness that is not expressed will be transformed into a hippie smiley face and cynicism.

You need to get in touch with a counsellor and express your deep feelings, which is a necessary step, but don't share your feelings with your children, relatives and friends.

Sometimes, after a divorce, it is inevitable that people will be a little uncomfortable, which is also normal. They can take the following methods to spice up their mood:

1. Adjust your own living status, or living environment, transfer the things used by both parties when they are together, and prevent seeing things and thinking about others.

2. Actively participate in social recreational activities, give yourself a complete vacation, and let yourself forget everything in front of you.

3. Every person after divorce has the right to find a spouse again, so the parties should actively make friends with the opposite sex and do not fall in love.