What if I m not popular? Why are you not popular?

Being liked and popular is a comprehensive manifestation of a person's personality charm, which is determined by a variety of factors: first of all, you have to accept and accept your appearance. Love beauty, human nature, but good looks don't always make you liked by others.

Maybe out of jealousy, or maybe beautiful people forget to groom their hearts and become arrogant and conceited, so beautiful girls and handsome boys are often not so popular. So, if God does not pay you for your natural beauty, you must not blame God for injustice, because most people in life have defects in their appearance, and most popular people have only average appearances, perhaps because people are generally more accepting of flawed people than perfect people, or because people with poor looks are more self-respecting and self-loving, and their connotations make up for the defects of appearance. Therefore, no matter what you look like, you have to pay attention to both the external and the internal aspects of construction.

In addition, good words are warm in three springs, and good words make you infinitely graceful. A bold person, whose language is agitated but not vulgar; A chic person, whose speech is elegant but not casual; The humble man is subtle and not obscene; The learned man is knowledgeable and not vain; Generous words are rewarded, giving people confidence and courage. On the contrary, mean people have many derogatory words, which make people intimidating to hear; People who are jealous of others often speak disrespectfully and hurt others with secret arrows; arrogant, arrogant and aggressive in language; People who lack faith have weak language and find it difficult to attract the attention of others.

In short, people rely on language for communication, and language is the embodiment of a person's spiritual outlook. Finally, if you want to be popular, you first have to make people feel that they are being welcomed by you.

First of all, you can't give up on yourself, you can't feel inferior. Relax your mindset and try to include yourself in the class. Don't care too much about other people's opinions, because you may kill your budding heart to contact the world and accept others because of others.

Friendship is not something that comes just by saying good things, and that kind of friendship is also hypocritical. Verbal problems can be learned, and reading more communication books will change it. Participate in more activities, and you will find a world that belongs to you in a long time.

Participate a lot. Class groups and leisure activities in school!

Caring for the collective.

Treat everyone with a sincere attitude.

Strive to make others accept you, of course, you must learn to respect others, treat others sincerely, empathize, etc.

The first is being too picky. Some people are too picky and demanding of the object they like, even to the point of being harsh. As a result, their options become narrow, and it is difficult to find objects that meet their criteria.

Some people may pay too much attention to the other party's height, income, education and other conditions, and ignore other important aspects such as the other party's personality, hobbies, and personality. On the other hand, people who are too critical may also mask their insecurities by holding themselves too high standards due to their own inferiority complex. Therefore, it is suggested that people who are too critical should let go of the "standards" and "prejudices" in their hearts, learn more about different types of people, and give themselves and others some opportunities.

The second is poor social skills. In fact, not everyone with good conditions is a "social cow". Some people are in good condition, but they lack good social skills.

They are not good at socializing with people and are not good at expressing their emotions, which can make them have a lot of difficulties in love. These people may need to practice more social skills, be socially active, and try to make more friends. At the same time, learn to take the initiative to express your emotions and needs, so that you can build a healthier and honest relationship.

The third is that he has a strong sense of dedication, and he puts a lot of time and energy into his work, and it is difficult to have time to manage a romantic relationship. For such people, it is still necessary to learn to balance work and life, not to spend all their time at work, but also to spend time managing romantic relationships, so that they can live a fulfilling and happy life. Because, at the end of the day, work is just a part of life.

When choosing a partner, choose those who can understand and support your career and work together to achieve the value of life.

Finally, because of psychological disorders. Today, there are more and more young people who may have psychological disorders, such as anxiety, depression, etc., which can affect their relationships and romantic relationships. I once knew a friend who chose to run away from marriage because of psychological anxiety, and ended up causing great harm to his family and partner.

For such people, it is best to seek professional psychological counseling and ** in time to help yourself overcome psychological obstacles and restore a healthy mental state. At the same time, you can also gradually overcome social barriers and establish healthy interpersonal and romantic relationships by participating in social activities and making friends.

In short, if we want to find a suitable partner, we need to try to break out of our comfort zone, be brave enough to reach out to more people, improve our social skills, and also learn to let go of high standards and give ourselves and others some opportunities. Falling in love is a process of mutual understanding, appreciation, and support for each other, and we hope that everyone can find their own happiness.

I think there's a reason for this:

1.Disrespectful or rude to me.

2.Always express biased or unjust opinions.

3.Lack of basic interpersonal skills makes it difficult to get along with.

4.Frequent negative or complaining remarks that make people feel tired or tired.

5.Lack of integrity or often exaggerated, making it difficult to trust.

6.Indifference or lack of empathy for the feelings of others, making others feel disrespected.

7.A lack of responsibility or a lack of creditworthiness makes it difficult to rely on.

8.Always trying to control or manipulate the situation and unwilling to work with others.

9.Have an unhealthy addiction or addiction that makes people feel uncomfortable or worried.

10.Often lies or cheats, making people feel distrustful.

11.Always grabbing topics or being too self-centered, not caring about the feelings of others.

12.Lack of empathy or empathy, difficulty understanding the feelings and needs of others.

13.Feeling jealous or dissatisfied with the achievements or progress of others, and not good at encouraging and supporting.

14.Often find fault with or complain about the behavior of others, and do not respect the differences of others.

15.There is no real friendship or mutual understanding for me, and it is difficult to build deep friendships.

This shows that you are an optimistic and confident person, but also avoid becoming self-righteous, it is good to have someone like and welcome. But you must also keep cultivating and improving yourself and making yourself better!

Wouldn't that be great? Just be yourself and don't be too inflated.

You won't feel that way if I beat you up.

1. You should learn to "be a low-key person".

In daily life, each of us has a different style of doing things due to the difference in the living environment. For example, some people are more proud and complacent by nature, and always look down on others; For example, some people are more humble and low-minded by nature, and they also treat others with a gentle, kind and friendly attitude.

Obviously, the second type of person will be especially popular with others, so it is recommended that you should learn to be kind and care for others in life, whether you are popular or not.

2. You should learn to be "grateful to your friends".

Most of the so-called friends are strangers who meet in Pingshui. Or a smile in the years of ignorance, or a word of comfort when you are in pain of loss, or a hand stretched out when you are in danger, or a reminder when crossing the street, etc., these can turn "me into us" and "the individual into the whole".

Therefore, it is recommended that you should learn to treat your friends with a grateful heart in life, after all, it is because of them that your life will become so colorful.

3. You should learn to "connect with feelings".

In modern society, due to the pressure of life and work, more and more people are forced to work all day long for their livelihood. Or staying up late all day long, or going on a business trip for three days, not only is it not conducive to physical health, but also because of this busyness, the friendship between friends will be weakened, and the distance between friends will become farther away.

Therefore, it is recommended that you should take time out of your life to meet these friends for a small get-together, which can not only understand each other's recent situation, but also enhance the distance and affection between each other.

4. You should learn to "improve yourself".

In daily life, some people will become depressed because of unsatisfactory work, and some people will seek death and life because of the blow of broken love, which will not only cause damage to their own body, but also make family and friends lose confidence in you.

Therefore, it is advisable to remember to take heart in life, whether you are in the highs or lows, because you have behind you the fervent anticipation from your family and friends, with their deep blessings for you.

5. You should learn to "empathize".

In the front, there were Liu Guan and Zhang Taoyuan to form a righteousness, and there were 108 Liangshan heroes in the back. All are enough to witness the importance of friends, and they are enough to witness the importance of friendship. If you only think about your own feelings and your own interests when you get along with your friends, you will not only make your friends feel disgusted with you, but you may also destroy your friendship because of this.

Therefore, it is recommended that you should learn to think from the perspective of friends in your life, and understand the importance of "mutuality".