What can I do to be less mindful of my boyfriend s past?

In fact, this question is not difficult, the difficult thing is how to erase the memory.

How do you erase your memories? Let's take an example – I don't really like my job, and a lot of the time, I'm always staring at the countdown of the quartz clock in my unit from the beginning of work, and I'm very distressed. Later, I tried to adjust myself slowly, at least I didn't look at the clock, and sometimes I read the newspaper, deliberately asked someone to talk to, even if it was a game, and the time passed slowly.

When I found out about this change, although I was still concerned about time sometimes, at least I had planted a way to ward off boredom in my heart. I'm sure we'll find other ways to do it later.

Back to business - if you really want to get along with him, you have to find a way to get out of that state, but worrying about it won't help. There are many ways to do it, depending on which one suits you best, but those so-called methods are all based on forgetting and distracting attention, and if you just focus on how to forget, it will only backfire, so the first thing you need to do is to try not to look at it, or divert your attention and think more about the good times you have together. One more point - if the method of ignoring subjective consciousness does not work, you might as well try to face it head-on, tell yourself those things clearly, don't hide them, concentrate on thinking about those problems, and keep thinking that the memory is just one thing, that is, the sky will not fall, the universe will not be destroyed, which is happier than African refugees?

To sum it up – Method 1 – ignore. Method 2 – Face.

There is also the best way, that is, to be open-minded, don't always be difficult for yourself and others, happiness is very precious, how can it be so bad.

Really love him. Let your days together be happy and happy.

Let his memories be filled with beautiful moments of you together.

Actually, you don't have much to do.

Mainly him. He wants to make you feel safe.

In short, don't forget it.

This would be counterproductive.

Do you think he loves you? If love, do you think you love him? If love, then why do you care about his past?

That's the past, it didn't happen after you got to know each other, that's inevitable, you think, if it's you, you have a past, do you like your current half of the mind? Definitely wouldn't like it, would it? In the same way, you don't need to care, because that's the past, I'm dizzy, and I can't stop it, as long as he doesn't really treat you really now, it's your happiness.

Got it? Also, tell you, he loves you, sincere to you, a person can only talk about everything if he treats each other sincerely, including the past, if he doesn't talk about the past, he tells you, it is a kind of honesty to you, a kind of true love, understand? I wish you happiness,

Most lovers care about each other's past, and what you have to solve now is how to accept his past.

My husband and I also mention each other's exes when we are in a relationship, and I also have some minds about his first love. Because when he mentions his first love, he always shows a kind of regret. Maybe it's a pity that I wasn't brave enough at the time, so I lost this lover.

But I myself know that the past is the past, and if you meet this person at a very late hour, you can't mind that he has a past, because the past has made him who he is now. Because I have experienced regrets, I know how to cherish them more. And I'm trying to make myself less mindfulWill try to avoid talking about his past.

In fact, sometimes some things are in the past, but if you always dwell on these things of these people, it will make these people stay in his heart and his life for a longer time. You might as well treat it as an ordinary past, where you don't mention him and the other person doesn't mention him anymore.

Of course, if you really can't adjust yourself to such emotions, then you must tell the other person that you mind. Maybe it's because you love each other too much, or because you feel that you've suffered a loss, so there's no way not to care. But it's not your girlfriend's fault.

The best way to do things in the past is to forget him. If you really can't forget, separate yourself, otherwise there will always be a knot between you.