How to overcome the negative drawbacks of dodging difficulties?

Negative pessimistic psychological factors are mainly no confidence in self, no hope for society and life, followed by a pessimistic state, in order to overcome this shortcoming, the first thing is to carry out a psychological dredging for yourself, psychological **, think more about the beautiful things we are exposed to, spend more time with family and children, and gradually get rid of the dilemma of the shadow of thought, so that the mind can open up.

For this kind of depressed negative pessimistic thoughts, there is another important factor, that is, the lack of interpersonal communication, this kind of psychological emotion can easily cause self-isolation, so in daily life, we should strengthen more heart-to-heart exchanges with people, open up our own communication circle, improve our own interest circle, participate in more parties, have more friends, carry out more spiritual communication, improve the relationship between you and others, and overcome negative pessimistic thoughts.

Through exercise can relax their own thoughts, but also strengthen physical fitness, so that you can build confidence for yourself, but also good for physical health, while exercising, you may wish to participate in more outdoor sports, participate in more collective exercise, so that fitness and psychological communication have played a positive role, will gradually improve the adverse symptoms of psychology.

When you have troubles, unhappiness, or sadness in your heart, don't keep it in your heart and talk to the person concerned, your friends or relatives. Even if they don't necessarily come up with a good solution, speaking up for themselves is a release that is good for the body and mind. Long-term forced suppression of emotions can make the inner experience more intense, which may lead to mental illness.

There is a famous saying in Russia: when one joy is shared by two people, the joy becomes two; When two people share the pain, the pain becomes half. Crying is also a way to release concentrated energy and adjust the balance of the body, so when you are sad and troubled, even if you cry a lot.

Self-soothing is also known as sour grapes and sweet lemon effects. The effect of sour grapes comes from Aesop's Fables, which says that the hungry fox comforts himself by saying that the grapes are sour and cannot be eaten because he cannot eat the grapes on the tree. It is the practice of people devaluing something by not getting it or not being able to get it.

Some people, because of their average appearance, comfort themselves and say, "What's the use of being beautiful, and you can't improve your grades or go on to higher education." ”。

The sweet lemon effect is the opposite of the sour grape effect, and it is the practice of praising the things that you are not happy with and counting their merits. If you are admitted to an ordinary university, you will talk about its benefits. The self-comfort method seems negative, stupid, and even ridiculous, like Lu Xun's Ah Q, but it can carry out psychological self-defense when it is psychologically uneasy and distressed, in order to achieve psychological balance.

When encountering setbacks and distress, you may wish to carry out some self-comfort, which has a certain positive effect on the mental health of individuals.

There is no love for no reason and no harm for no reason, Chen Ran has countless ways to make you fall into negativity, but its main manifestations are as follows, so the first point is to focus on mistakes.

Negative people tend to pay more attention to mistakes, such as quarrels that occur in contracts, missing page numbers in reports, buying stale fruits, etc., they turn a blind eye to good things and do not actively celebrate, but like moths to a fire, they always think about what they missed, what they lacked, what they messed up, so as to constantly fan the flames of negativity.

Then the second point is to compare with others, the so-called comparison is more than enough, but negative people, only remember the first half of the sentence, they will always see the strengths of others in the process of comparing themselves with others, and then deny themselves, so their hearts will always be similar to not good enough, not rich enough, not beautiful enough, and other words to fill up the self-esteem and motivation.

The third point is the lack of focus, because they can't find the meaning of life, they can't give a fulcrum to action, so the heart of the negative person has no place to belong, and there is always a strong sense of wandering. Even if we fall into negativity in so many ways, but behind them are reflected in the communication with the outside world and discordant interpersonal relationships, that is, the biggest ** of negativity, learning how not to be kidnapped by interpersonal relationships in life, is a compulsory course kidnapping, including loyalty, trust, humility, contrast and competition, these factors are looming behind the negativity, to the extreme, some people are purely out of jealousy or worry, they are afraid that you progress too fast, become too good, can not keep up with your pace. So how to defeat this negative trick, first of all, you must plan your re-education, don't wait for others to tell you how to do, you have to take the initiative to arrange your own learning plan, and constantly improve your awareness of the difficulties and dilemmas of work, most of which are unfamiliar, but adhere to professional systematic learning, which can allow you to look at work from a more comprehensive perspective, find an easier way to deal with problems, and want to overcome difficulties with time accumulation, then you are no different from the company's master.

Another point is to go out, don't feel that it is difficult to manage interpersonal relationships and give up, social self-isolation can also make people fall into a negative state, the freshness of interpersonal relationships often stimulates new vitality, and the frustration of old age and ignoring things outside the window has long been out of line with this era.

A person's life cannot be at a low point forever, and when it is at a low point, we must learn to adjust our mentality and face difficulties positively. Everyone experiences a bad mood time, and here are some ways to alleviate the pessimistic mood:

1. To maintain a good sense of self, no matter what happens, you feel that you are actually very good in your heart, so that you can be confident, so that the bad mood will gradually disappear.

2. Talk to others, holding it in your heart will make you more painful, talk to friends or family members, open your heart and pour out your pain, so maybe you will feel better.

3. Find a place where no one is, yell or cry loudly for a while, and vent your bad emotions to feel better.

4. Distract yourself. If you are really sad in your heart, you will find something to do, such as playing games, or working hard, and then you will find that slowly, you are not so in such a bad mood.

5. Time will always dilute everything, grit your teeth and push through, everything will be fine.

1.Make yourself optimistic, maintain a good attitude, learn to appreciate yourself, spend more time enriching yourself with knowledge, arrange more rich programs and arrange spare time, and be less self-closed and self-pitying.

4. Do more positive things and read some positive books.

Job. With a job, it will be overcome. Ha ha...

The main reason for having too much negative emotions is because you have too much time.

Suggestion 1: Wake up half an hour early every day to run and run in the park, you can shout and vent it out super comfortable.

2 When you have time in the evening, you can go to the gym for about 1 hour, or read a book at home for half an hour to 1 hour.

3 If you have time, you can learn a foreign language or learn a new skill, such as writing, guitar, piano, etc.

4 The first thing you do when you wake up in the morning and smile in the mirror may not be used to it at first, but it will be fine after a long time.

5 Do some outdoor activities on Saturdays and Sundays, get together with friends, climb mountains, visit parks, and watch a movie.

6 Look less at negative things, listen less to negative voices, and make less negative friends

Talking well can help you control your emotions!

Negative emotions exist in everyone's life, and although the causes of negative emotions may vary, the consequences are all bad or even very serious. Everyone will encounter difficulties and unhappiness, negative emotions are inevitable, what we can do is to eliminate negative emotions in time and maintain a positive attitude to face life. Based on my own experience, I have summarized several methods, I hope it can be helpful to you.

1. Look at the problem from a different perspective.

In fact, there are two sides to everything, when we are faced with a thing, we should not only see its dark side, but should actively look for its positive side. Difficulties can have a bad consequence, but we can learn from them and gain experience. When you receive friendly help from others, you may also get a sincere friendship or love.

If you can look at a problem from a different angle, you will get something more positive.

2. Reasonable venting of emotions.

If negative emotions arise, they should be vented in time, but the venting method should be reasonable and not held in your heart. Being surrounded by negative emotions for a long time may lead to a faster heartbeat, increased blood pressure, anorexia and other conditions, which can pose a threat to your physical health. Not only that, long-term unrelieved negative emotions will also cause psychological disorders, and in severe cases, depression will occur.

The most common way to vent negative emotions is exercise, but it should be properly controlled, and you can also refer to it.

3. Divert attention.

If you're feeling negative about something, do something else to temporarily distract yourself and force yourself to stop thinking about it. Over time, your negative emotions will be greatly relieved. There are many ways to divert your attention, such as going for a walk, going on a trip, doing laundry, etc.

4. Watch comedy. For people with strong regulatory ability, it is not difficult to eliminate slight negative emotions, and they can solve this problem by watching comedy movies, TV series, watching emotional themes, watching entertainment programs, etc. On the one hand, these things will send you a positive message and infect you with a joyful atmosphere, and on the other hand, they can also serve as a distraction.

5Confide in others.

When you really can't rely on your own ability to relieve the depression in your heart, you can find a friend to confide in your troubles. But remember, the person you confide in must be someone you trust, otherwise you will have all kinds of doubts afterwards about whether he will leak it to you and whether he will secretly laugh at you. The ultimate goal of talking to others is not necessarily to ask them to help us solve the problem, but to completely relieve the depression in your heart.

6. Seek help from others.

If your condition is more severe, you may want to seek advice and help from a specialist. If you're in a bad mood because you're having a hard time, look for someone who can help you through it. If you don't know what caused you, you can choose to consult a psychologist and have them do specialized counseling.

Everyone has very obvious qualities, especially in terms of personality.

Overcome the law of cowardice.

One. Walk straight up to someone else as if he owes you money.

Two. Train yourself to stare at the bridge of the other person's nose to make it feel like you're looking him in the eye.

Three. The voice is loud when it opens, and it is also powerful at the end; On the contrary, if you start to be weak, then you will also be weak when you shut up.

Four. Sometimes, in order to be heard in the midst of the noise, it is necessary to speak softly.

Five. Learn to be silent at the right time to force the other person to speak.

Six. Before meeting a stranger, make a list of topics.

Seven. Memorize the beginning and end of your speech, and you'll be in a good position from beginning to end.

Eight. Find ways to reach out to great people. Socialize with people who are older and stronger than you. In this way, you will learn knowledge; At the same time, it is also possible to observe the weaknesses and shortcomings of the strong, so as to increase confidence.

Nine. Keep giving yourself problems and keep practicing ways to overcome cowardice.

Ten. Note that these are just tips and tricks. First of all, you need to be proficient in your own work, and only when you have the ability can you have confidence, and only then can you have the value of being a person in society.

There are many ways to overcome psychological weaknesses, but that is only for those who are self-motivated, such as encountering something, in the eyes of different people have different views and ideas, self-motivated people will find a way to solve it, and unmotivated people will only run away or give up, if you want to prove that you are that kind of person, you should insist from now on to see how long you can last.

Do what you can and what you have to do. Don't care what other people do.

Able to tolerate other people's small faults. After all, you can't expect everyone else to be like you. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.

Be more concerned about others. There is a saying: Give people roses, and there is a lingering fragrance in your hands.

You will also feel happy when you give.

Many times this is the case, it is not that you can forget it if you want to, the key is whether you have established your own outlook on life and values, which is very important. I used to be such a person, and I suggest you read less philosophical books, it will help.

The outlook on life and values are very important.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that, not to mention that this is your character, so you can change it, and it doesn't seem to be a shortcoming! Hehe.