Why teens are insecure

1.The family atmosphere is not harmonious.

Recently, a news of "the child was lost, and the police found it back after the parents called the police" has attracted the attention of many netizens, and the fundamental reason for the child to run away from home is that the parents often quarrel, in this case, the child will feel a special fear, and they will choose to leave in order to get rid of the fear in their hearts. If the family atmosphere is not harmonious, the child will easily become insecure.

2.Frequent changes of dependents.

Nowadays, many families will always leave their children to the care of grandparents due to the busy work of parents, although this method reduces the pressure on parents, but it will give children a false impression.

This delusion is that the parents don't want themselves, and when this happens, they will feel a special fear in their hearts, and thus they will feel insecure.

3.When the child is young, there are fewer caressing movements from the parents.

Many people think that it is very embarrassing to make particularly intimate gestures to their children, but in fact, doing so can make them feel that their parents care for them, so that they can become more stable and feel safer.

If parents rarely make similar actions when their children are young, such as kissing their children and hugging their children, then they will feel stranger and indifferent to their parents, and their inner insecurities will arise spontaneously.

If a child is insecure, it is very harmful to them, so parents must try to help their children create a sense of inner security, but it is very important to use the right methods in this process.

The essence of security comes from the fact that the boundaries of the self's mental space are broken or threatened. When human beings are faced with something unknown and unable to control and control, they will feel fear and panic, and their safety will feel threatened.

Adolescent insecurity comes from their ignorance and unfamiliarity with the world, and they often have to face things that they have not experienced. At the same time, due to their weak physical strength and ability, they are extremely prone to feeling threatened, and then show a lack of security. In general, teenagers are insecure.

The solution to this situation is to improve the self-identity and self-confidence of young people. It can be obtained in 2 ways:

1. External forces: When a teenager has someone to rely on and who can protect him, he usually feels safe. Generally, parents are capable and care for many children, and children in such families have a strong sense of security.

And if the parents are not around, or there is a lack of care and relationship, it often leads to a lack of security in the child.

In addition, if the parents are very powerful and have abundant capital, often the child can subconsciously feel relied on, and can also use his own external forces to gain a sense of security.

2. Self-internal strength: The real sense of security comes from a strong self-identity, teenagers often lack self-identity, parents and teachers often through criticism and education, indirectly deny them, which will damage their self-identity, and then lack a sense of security.

The best way is to encourage and guide, when children feel that their words and deeds are recognized by the outside world, self-identity will be slowly established, self-confidence will be restored, and the sense of security will be improved.

1 Lack of communication and trust.

Children always have a wish to be able to be with their parents all the time, and have a lot of happy times, but many times, this little wish of the child cannot be fulfilled. Parents always have endless work to do, and this desire is out of reach.

Parents sometimes worry about whether their children will lose confidence because of a trivial matter, unable to overcome various challenges, worried that their children will go astray, and always do not believe in their children, and over time, children will lose their sense of trust and security. Therefore, parents should believe in their children and give them happy times.

2 The goal is too far away.

If parents are always overly concerned with their children's affairs, it will cause disproportionate pressure on their children, and if parents set goals for their children too far away, then children will be subjected to unnecessary pressure, which will make them unbearable, and then children will have no sense of security.

3 There is a problem with the way of education.

When educating children, some parents always treat their children too leniently, thinking that they are good friends with their children, but the parents' education is not proportionate, and they do not know how to educate their children correctly. Therefore, parents should give their children some dignity and make them more responsible.

4 The influence of parental emotions.

For children before the age of 3, if parents are emotionally unstable due to "personality factors" or marital conflicts, or have too many negative emotions such as anxiety, irritability, and fear, it will directly lead to the child's lack of security.

This is because almost all children have a strong sense of helplessness and fear when facing their parents' bad emotions and family conflicts. Therefore, parents should try their best to avoid conflicts in front of their children in order to create a safe and peaceful emotional space for their children.

Basic definitions. A sense of security is a premonition of possible physical or psychological danger or risk, as well as an individual's sense of powerlessness in coping with things, which is mainly manifested as a sense of certainty and control.

Detailed explanation. First of all, a sense of security is a feeling, a psychology; It is the feeling that comes from the performance of one party to the other; It is a kind of reassuring and comfortable people. Speech and demeanor that can be relied on and can be trusted.

Second, whether or not we can produce a sense of security comes from many factors, both subjective and objective. Here we will mainly talk about the subjective aspect. The first thing to do to make the other person feel safe is to make the other person believe in themselves.

It is not easy to make the other party believe in yourself, you must be able to reflect it in terms of speech and behavior, such as: speak to count, say can do, if you can't do it, don't make promises; Tell him often what he thinks, and often greet and care about his life; No matter how busy you are, don't ignore them and often surprise them; Don't be too nice to them (the opposite sex), talk and act the same; Be willing to break your bad habits for them ...

Third, a sense of material security. If you want to really reassure them, you must also have a specific sense of material security, that is, you must make them feel that they do not have to worry about what they need to live, and they do not have to worry about living without money, which is actually a very important factor.

Home is arguably the most secure place to be.

Women need security, and men need security as well.

The sense of security is mainly reflected in two aspects:

1.Spiritual level:

When a person does not have enough emotional security from the other person, he or she will pursue material security to resist the lack of spiritual and emotional security.

2.Material Level:

When a person pursues material enjoyment, then his material requirements are not fully satisfied, and his sense of security is relatively declining, then he will satisfy his lack of material security by pursuing new substitutes in the spiritual aspect.

It is difficult for a person to have emotional and material security at the same time, and marriage is the way that most people are most happy to feel safe.

Signs of insecurity.

Anxiety, unnecessary excessive worry about things, lack of self-confidence, too much concern about what others think of you, always want to rely on others at critical moments, hope that others can help you, at the same time, deep down in your heart you don't trust yourself and others enough, and always have a skeptical attitude towards the people and things around you.

If you are extremely insecure, you should actively self-adjust or psychologically**, which can also be done with medication**. In terms of self-adjustment, you must do more things that interest you, such as shopping, reading, reading world classics, dressing up, etc., these activities can effectively relieve negative emotions such as tension, anxiety, and insecurity. When you are very anxious and feel insecure, you must not immerse yourself in it, but divert your energy to things that interest you and are more valuable, so that you can forget your fears, fears, and insecurity, and thus achieve happiness and joy.

In terms of psychology, you can choose cognitive behavior, psychoanalysis, Morita, etc., especially if your insecurity comes from a bad experience in childhood, or because the subconscious represses a lot of contradictions and conflicts, the psychoanalytic method is recommended.

Some people have not been cared for by their parents since childhood, and their hearts may become inferior because of this. When they are young, they also crave to be loved, and when they grow up, they may want to ask for attention from others in various ways, such as the person they are looking for may be much older than them. A child who grows up in a loveless family can do things to make his life full and secure when he grows up.

1. How to love others?

Friends who lacked love when they were young may be less afraid to fall in love when they grow up because they are afraid that they may not be worthy of others. And I am also very afraid that when I fall in love with others, I will cause myself to be hurt, so every time I fall in love, it ends in failure. I have long hoped that everyone can know that everyone may fail when they fall in love, and failure is not terrible, what is terrible is that we dare not try to love again.

We must know that in the whole process of falling in love, the most important thing for ourselves is to calm down our mentality and not be affected by it when we were young. We can choose to think seriously before falling in love, and if the other person is good to us, we can also choose to treat others in this way. 2. The influence of the family of origin on the child.

If the child does not receive love in the family of origin, then when the child grows up and may receive the love given to him by others, he will always feel that he is very unworthy of this love. And when others are loving themselves, do we really feel that we can really afford this love?

Summary: But I want to tell you that everyone is very good, and everyone is worthy of being loved by others, so you must not deny yourself like this, when a person can love us seriously, it proves that we are very worthy. So don't you belittle yourself anymore, and stop wondering if you can withstand the love of others?

When I was young, my parents were busy with work and lacked care for their children. Because children do not receive attention, they will lack needs in their hearts and will be insecure when they grow up.

First, unsatisfactory work. Because when you encounter something unpleasant at work, you will get bored with your work, which will cause you to feel restless and unstable at work, which will lead to insecurity.

2.Second, family pressure. Not all homes are warm and beautiful, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and many people are because of the pressure of that "scripture", so that the sense of security comes and goes.

3.Thirdly, there are no lovers. Some people say: If you have a boyfriend, you have to find a person with a sense of security, so that you can see that your boyfriend is a sign of security, so people who don't have a lover generally lack a sense of security.

4.Fourth, the mind is confused. There is no plan for your future at all, you don't have a clear idea of your thoughts, and you are very confused and have no direction for the path you want to take, which will lead to a lack of security.

5.Fifth, low self-esteem and no self-confidence. Some people are affected by some environmental factors and other factors, so that some people have an inferiority complex, and they have no self-confidence in doing things, and such things will also lack a sense of security.

It may be that the family is not very harmonious, which makes you insecure since childhood.

When you have a family to run well, and you take your time to have a sense of belonging, this feeling will disappear.

This has something to do with the education of the original family.

Although this world is not beautiful everywhere, it is not ruthless everywhere, be yourself and love yourself. You will definitely be able to find someone who is willing to accompany you to eat, sleep and watch movies, and who is willing to accompany you to face the ups and downs of this world, believe me.

The most direct manifestation of a person's lack of security is that he is very lonely, uncomfortable with crowded occasions, and not good at communicating with others. Feeling anxious and suspicious of your surroundings.

Insecurity can be manifested in double confirmation before going out, the habit of sleeping with a doll, walking behind others, taking a taxi in the back seat, and changing passwords frequently.

What are the signs of insecurity? Such people lack a sense of safety leakage.