How to get along with strong people, is it only blindly obedient?

There are always unsatisfactory things in life, we must learn to be a person and do things, and learn how to get along with others. No matter what kind of person we are, if we can get along well with them, then maybe we can say that our way of doing things is very mature. No matter who is around you in life, there will always be some people who are very strong, so how we should get along with these people who are very strong has become a very important issue.

Of course, for such a person, what we have to do is not to be obedient, if we just blindly obey the other party, then it will only make the other party worse, and there will be no improvement, and what you want in your heart will not happen at all.

So I think that if we get along with such a strong person, then we have to show the momentum we should have, we don't have to be domineering and get along with others, but we don't let others feel that we are always inferior to others. To get along with each other on an equal footing is the right way to get along, no matter what kind of person we get along with, if we can do this, then I believe that there is no kind of person we can't do.

If we put on such a posture, it will only make the other party feel that we are comparing with him, and in the end it may make the other party's heart have a certain misunderstanding of us, which will have a certain bad impact. So the best way for us to get along with each other is to get along with the kind of strong people on an equal footing. Regardless of all material conditions and social status, no one is born inferior, we are all equal.

So sometimes we don't have to worry too much, we just need to get along with everyone in an equal way, and I believe that most people can accept this way of getting along. People like to get along with people who are equals, and no one likes to be with people who are always on top, and that kind of person gives us the feeling of being domineering. So even if we get along with strong people, we should also treat it with an equal attitude, and only in this way can we really get along.

Personally, I don't think you can just be obedient when getting along with strong people, that will only make strong people stronger. Instead, we should draw a good line, do not touch each other's bottom line, and respect each other to get along for a long time.

You can't just be obedient, so you don't have the right to speak, even if you have your own thoughts, he will nip you in the bud, you have to be stronger than him.

No way. Strong people can also be reasonable. I think we can communicate well. Find out what the other party thinks, why they are strong, and they can't blindly obey. Otherwise, it will explode sooner or later.

I think when you get along with a strong person, if he doesn't do well, you have to give him a blow at a time and let him learn a lesson thoroughly.

Let's take a look at the characteristics of strong people in the eyes of most people:

1. It is irrefutable to say one thing or another. The decision he makes, whatever you want to negotiate with him or bargain with, he just has three words"Don't want to hear it", often think radically, always think that they are right, and insist on going their own way to the end.

2. Acting domineering and not considering others. This kind of person is self-centered, does what he wants, does not consider the feelings of others at all, and takes care of him first in everything, as if the world revolves around him.

3. The aura is strong and frightening. Strong people have an aura that makes the people around them fearful. They speak loudly, walk with their heads held high, and their eyes reveal firmness and momentum, which naturally creates a sense of distance in their interactions with others.

How do you associate with powerful people? If you are not willing to deal with such a person, you can try to avoid it, and if you have to face such a person at work and in life, then the following points can be used for reference.

First of all, don't try to change him, it's hard.

Strength is a psychological defense mechanism that gradually arises in the growth and development of individuals to cope with life, interpersonal relationships, etc., which is naturally developed, and this defense has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, reaching the inner coordination of the self, and becoming a person's style of acting"tags"。

In interpersonal communication, we often stand in our own position and always want to change the other party first, which not only does not work for strong people, but also often causes greater contradictions. If you want to change him, it's like an egg hitting a stone.

Secondly, overcome rigidity with softness, from obedience to trust.

Since ancient times, it is not as good as overcoming rigidity with softness. Maybe you don't want to obey him, but when you think that things are going to be reversed, you have the motivation to give it a try. Strong people have weaknesses deep in their hearts, and wrapping them in a strong cloak is to cover up that fragile heart.

When you understand the truth,"Be obedient to Him"It's not that hard to do. Obedience is to gain his trust, and with trust you will become his dependence at some point, gaining his attention and appreciation. For example, in the workplace, you work according to his ideas and gain his trust.

He always has a time when he can go wrong and a problem that can't be solved, so it's time for you to play a role and fill in the gaps.

Third, appreciation and inclusion are always the main themes.

Being strong can affect a person's relationships. He may not have many good friends, and he may be lonely inside.

People need to be affirmed in their whole lives, and strong people are often not fully affirmed by their parents when they were young, and they are not deeply loved by their parents (doting is not love), and this unfinished plot prompts them to constantly want to pass themselves through in adulthood"One of a kind"to get affirmation. Then your appreciation and tolerance are precisely his warmest and most considerate medicine, **his unfinished plot.

In the workplace, there are not a few people who change jobs because they can't get along with strong colleagues. After knowing the strong person's strong **, it is not difficult to prescribe the right medicine and use communication to resolve the problem. Here are some commonly used methods:

The most important skill in empathy and workplace communication is empathy. Whether it is a colleague relationship or a superior-subordinate relationship, if you can think from the other party's point of view, you may be able to understand more and have less disputes. For example, in the face of a domineering colleague, think about it, maybe he is this kind of character, and there is no malice, then he will not be hurt and angry because of trivial things.

In the face of a colleague with strong self-esteem, as long as it does not affect the work, you might as well follow him, he likes to hide his ignorance, then he might as well pretend not to see, he likes to show that he is praised, then you might as well give him a few thumbs.

Master the skills and turn enemies into friends. The strong are strong when they are strong, and weak when they are weak. Without-for-tat, the strength of the strong will not be able to be exerted.

Second, do things reasonably. Xiao Wang did not blindly please the strong colleague and tried not to quarrel with him head-on, but chose to prove himself with facts and discuss with the results. And it is not to directly prove that you are right or wrong, but to put forward "I have different views, I don't know right and wrong", which not only gives the right side enough, but also proves that he is right, even if the other party is not convinced, he begins to admire Xiao Wang in his heart.

It is reasonable not to care about the pitch, communicate with the strong, and do not be hard-hitting. Since he has a good face, then give him enough face at the right time, and he will stop in moderation. He likes to be reasonable, so use reason to persuade him, even if he is not convinced, he will give in in his heart.

Again, let go of self-esteem in order to reap self-esteem.

Improve your abilities. The most important thing in the workplace is the ability to work, and what can prove yourself is always work performance. Many people don't understand why they have such a good relationship with their colleagues and their leaders, and as a result, they are the first to suffer from the company's layoffs.

And why are those strong, annoying people so much that they can get mixed up like a fish in water? It is important to understand that the strong capital of most strong people is their ability, and such a person can continue to stay in the company because he is more valuable to the company. Therefore, for many newcomers in the workplace, instead of thinking about how to endure the strong, it is better to think about how to improve yourself, and when you become strong, the strength of the strong will be ineffective in front of you.

In short, for newcomers in the workplace, emptying themselves and lowering themselves is an effective way to communicate with strong colleagues. But in the long run, the most fundamental way to get rid of the pressure brought to you by the strong person is to improve yourself, and when you stand in the same dimension as him, his strength will automatically fail in front of you.

When dealing with strong people, you can't blindly obey, because over time, strong people will get stronger and stronger, and you will get weaker and weaker.

If you want to know how to get along with strong people, you must first understand the characteristics of strong people and the role of strong people.

The characteristics of a strong person are as follows:

Right and wrong are based on one's own point of view, and it is impossible to accommodate other people's opinions that are different from one's own.

Aggressive, does not allow others to deny themselves, and does not allow the weaker party to express their feelings.

If you don't comply with their wishes, they will use various methods to force you to comply, including using sarcasm, attacks, and snubbing.

Often use "I am for your good" as an excuse to morally kidnap others.

The role of strength:

I want to feel safe by controlling others.

Showing one's abilities makes people agree with the importance of the ta, thus masking the inferiority.

There are two ways to get along with powerful people: peaceful coexistence and coercion.

1. Peaceful coexistence.

Submissive. But it is not unprincipled obedience, only if the ta's strength does not harm your interests and does not infringe on you, do you obey the ta, do not refute it.

Avoid. Avoidance is not fear, but not direct questions and topics. Playing Tai Chi with him, pretending to be deaf and dumb, pretending to be crazy and stupid, pretending to be distracted, pretending not to understand what he is saying, and changing the topic as if nothing happened.

Compliments and thanks.

Praise and thank them for knowing how much and giving more, but tell them that you don't need to worry about your own affairs.

Communicate head-to-face. Listen attentively to what he or she says, point out the bad feelings that his words and deeds bring to you, and make specific requests to him, for example, please don't judge and demand you according to his standards in everything.

Second, to force strong.

Ignore him. In order to control you, powerful people may use sarcasm, attack, snub and other means against you, and you respond with silence instead of currying favor with him. This must be done with a strong mental capacity.

Learn to fight back appropriately.

If the other party is very excessive, and damages your interests and has a significant impact on you, and you do not hesitate to tear your face with him, then you directly fight back against him: "You have no right to interfere in my affairs, you don't have to worry about my affairs, you can do what I want, it has nothing to do with you, you just need to take care of yourself." ”

If you want to be fearless in front of powerful people, here are a few things to keep in mind:

People who really have strength in their hearts usually don't need to appear superior in appearance, words and deeds, and people who show that they are stronger than others everywhere are often people who lack self-confidence and a sense of completeness in their hearts, and are actually a "paper tiger".

In many cases, your words and actions teach others how others treat you, so always be aware of your tendency to please others.

There is no need to feel guilty and upset about not being submissive to others, and your value does not need to be reflected by the approval of the powerful person, and the strong person will not affirm you for being submissive.