How to express your anger? How do you express your anger?

How to express your anger?

1. I sadly opened a box, took out a ring and threw it out.

2. I sadly took the test paper sent by the teacher, pinched myself with my hand, and tears kept falling, I don't know if it hurts, or let myself taste the memory!

3. I sadly picked up the snack, tore it open, and ate it in a big gulp!

4. My mother was washing the dishes, I was doing my homework, I went to the kitchen and helped my mother wash the dishes, but I was very sad.

5. I walked to the bedroom, sat on the chair, and said sadly, "Why don't you understand me every time?" ”

Cold treatment, interacting with people is not dewy.

If it's someone who makes me angry, I'll choose to give him a gold star and get a 14-day package.

'Four steps to express anger:1Stop, don't do anything but breathe.

2.Think about what makes us angry. 3.

Understand the needs you want to meet. 4.Speak out our anger.

When we are angry, the adrenal glands are pumping, our emotions will suddenly become very intense, and the part of the brain that controls our reason will lose the ability to work, and the words spoken at this time are often insincere, and the words at this time are the most lethal. So when we feel our heart beating faster and our breathing is short, we should realize that we are a little out of control and need to stop the conversation immediately and take a deep breath. Focus on our own feelings at this time, which are rooted in our own needs, not the words and actions of others.

With this in mind, our brains are able to rationally analyze what our unmet needs are. Eventually, we will realize that the reason we are angry and angry is not what the other person has done, but how we perceive the other person and their behavior.

This morning, a boy didn't do his summer vacation homework during the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday, and asked him why. He smiled and said, "I don't think it's necessary to memorize, because if you memorize or forget, I'll just follow your daily words to memorize."

Looking at his indifferent attitude and listening to his nonchalant words, I suddenly thought that the tone of his mother's ** was almost exactly the same as that of the child, and my voice improved significantly, "A word needs to be repeated and memorized 7 times before it can be completely memorized." No one memorizes a word and remembers it forever. You can think about your other subjects, do you learn them all and master them completely?

He said no. At this time, the class representative of my temporary substitute class came, and I said to the boy, "I don't accept the reason you gave for your silence, you can think about how to solve it."

Today, the boy did not come to me until the end of school to solve the problem, and I also took a hold measure. In the morning I was angry because he didn't meet my need to make up my summer homework within the month promised at the beginning of the school year, and his mother didn't do her duty. I was disappointed and angry at the parents' laissez-faire and suggested that she read two books, "Parents Change Children" and "Nonviolent Communication", but she didn't hear back.

It seems that this child and her parents do not realize the necessity and importance of self-change, I need to be patient, patient and patient, anger will not solve the problem.

Teacher Zhang Wenzhen said: "A lot of people are born with things that education can not change, some children are born with deficiencies, not through our teaching and research, by improving the level of teachers, through teachers working overtime can be improved, we need to treat it as human nature, nature, human innate, with a strong destiny characteristics to treat, all this needs us to accept, to respect, to treat kindly." ’

Accept, accept each child's differences, respect him, treat him well.