What is the best way to love someone?

<>Love is an art" is a book about love written by writer Erich Fromm, which talks about love is actually a compulsory course, which needs to be studied in depth by everyone. So I have to say that in fact, we all don't know how to really love someone, and we all need to learn how to love your lover well. I read this book, my boyfriend bought it for me, and he told me that we have to learn how to love.

Of course, this is not to say that we should follow the script, but we all hope that we will all become better for each other.

To love someone is not to take him for yourself, but to attract both people to each other as an independent individual. So I think the best way to love someone is to let them go and hold on to them. Maybe you may think I'm contradictory when you first see this sentence, but in fact, the so-called laissez-faire is that you have to give him freedom.

What is freedom, freedom is an indispensable part of us as human beings, freedom is a necessary condition for our survival and growth, and life without freedom is broken. So what right do you have to deprive a person of their freedom? If there is no freedom, where can the good mood come from?

If you don't have a good mood, how can you maintain the run-in period after falling in love? Freedom is not only given to the other person, but also to oneself. Life is a good year, why bother to catch him every day every minute and every second to make yourself exhausted, but also to give yourself a comfort, make yourself better, isn't it sublimation for both parties.

The other point grabs him, grabs his heart. Loving someone is not hard to open, you have to learn to express your love, and it is easy to be depressed if you don't get a reciprocated love. If you love him, why are you afraid that he knows, be brave, loving someone is not an obscure self-thought.

Think about it, do you want your boyfriend to tell you often that he loves you, so why not empathize and express your love to him, maybe there will be unexpected gains

The other two of them do more meaningful things, so that they are both impressed and deepen their relationship, isn't this also a way of love. There is also a lot of communication, through communication to know each other's thoughts, so as to save the trouble of guessing every day, guessing is the biggest enemy in love, the sense of security is not necessarily given to you by the other party, sometimes the sense of security is given to you by yourself.

So if you love someone, you should love with your heart and learn how to love. The book "Love is an Art" may be a little obscure at first, but after reading it twice, you will find some very practical things. It's not good to live and learn all the time, and it is not good to master one more skill, not to mention that it can teach you how to love each other correctly.

Finally, I would like to say that while loving someone, you must also love yourself.

The best way to love each other is to be there for them in the way they need to be there.

I once had a personal feeling that the other party's love for me was a burden, but the other party was moved by my own act of love. I like to "eat apples", but the other party brings me a "pear" every day and tells me that "pear" moistens the lungs and relieves cough has many benefits. I told him:

I love apples." He thinks: I gave you the only "pear" I have, why are you not moved by the "wolf heart and dog lungs", but ask me for "apples"?

What's wrong with saying that people who love apples want to eat apples? But think about it, a person who only has pears gives the only thing he has to the other party, a sincere heart to the other party, and the other party ignores it indifferently, it will be more or less lost. I don't want to tell between right and wrong in this relationship.

I just want to show that love is really a very wonderful thing that requires two people to have the same aura. I love apples, and you happen to have them.

What I'm really trying to show is that the way to love someone is exactly the way that the loved one enjoys the most, then that way is the best. If I want to drink water and you just have a cup of water close to me, that's the right fit. If I want to find someone to accompany me when I am lost, you can accompany me even if I just sit quietly, I will not feel lonely, this is staying together.

If, when my mind is impulsive and moths to the fire, you will be the first to support me through the long torment, this is companionship. Love, a person's way is to express one's emotions in the way that a person needs most, enjoys the most, and desires the most, rather than burning each other with fierce enthusiasm, nor is it a bed dream of "not speculating for more than half a sentence".

Love someone, I want you to have it, and you handed it to me with a smile.

Loving someone is not just a casual talk, only by restraining oneself mentally and behaviorally can you say that you love each other.

1.To love him, you must take the initiative to stay away from those of the opposite sex who approach you with a purpose. All of us can distinguish what the purpose of the people around us is approaching us, and many times we don't refuse just because the other party is very active and we probably won't suffer anything.

If you really love someone, you must reject those people of the opposite sex who have a purpose around you, so that you can become a qualified other half.

2.To love him, you have to let him be able to contact him anytime and anywhere, and let him be able to find him at any time when he wants to find himself, instead of not answering ** and not replying to messages, so that he can speculate and be frightened on the side.

3.Love Him and be there for Him in His Time of Need. You weren't there when he needed you, and you never needed to exist after that.

4.Love him, no matter how busy and tired he is, you can't forget him, you have to take the time to say a few words to him, not too much, tell the other party that you miss him, let him understand his mind, it's okay.

5.To love him, you must boldly announce your relationship to the people around you, so that the other person can feel safe and know that you are serious about the relationship.

6.If you love him, you can't lie to him, this is the most basic attitude matter of feelings.

7.If you love him and promise him, you must do it, and don't promise what you can't do easily, otherwise it will only make the other party feel disappointed and sad, and feel that you are lying to him.

8.To love him, you have to try to pay attention to him, understand his thoughts and emotions, know when he is happy and when he is sad, know what he likes and dislikes, know what he needs and what he doesn't need, and understand his habits and preferences.

I think that's the best way to love someone.

Loving and being loved is a basic human need in this society, but unfortunately, most people are not good at dealing with these relationships, so relationships that should bring happiness and sweet aftertaste often bring disappointment, pain and even resentment. People often ask what love is and what is the best way to love someone?

First of all, learn to love yourself better. A writer once said, "The best way to love someone is to manage yourself well and give them a good self, instead of trying to be good to each other and fantasize that the other person will also be desperately good to you." I deeply believe that only after learning to love yourself better, can you unlock more skills to love others, the early stage of love between the two is very simple, you are good to each other, the other party will be good to you, but after the relationship is deeper, it is not only you who are good to him, he will be good to you, it's so simple, otherwise there won't be so many cases of relationship failure, right.

Therefore, we need to learn to manage ourselves well, make ourselves better, and make ourselves able to match each other in life and emotionally. A high-quality self is enough to make the other party cherish you more, instead of trying to please yourself and make yourself cheap.

Secondly, it is to respect each other. The word "respect" is simple to say, but it is really difficult to start, loving a person will make you want to give each other all the good things you can do, but sometimes you tend to ignore whether the other party accepts, the world, all living beings, each person is a unique individual, each person's experience and living environment is also unique, so their way of life, attitude, and even the way of getting along with people is also unique, if you love each other and want to give each other the best, please recognize each other's good, Respect and accept what is bad about the other person, and remember to impose your own ideas on the other person. Isn't there a report that a talented man from Peking University complained about his parents' improper upbringing and did not go home for the Spring Festival for 12 years, in fact, the emotional world of the two people is also similar.

Finally, I personally believe that there are thousands of ways to love someone, to respect each other, appreciate each other, encourage each other, be relaxed and happy together, and need each other, in short, the best way is to do whatever you do, two people feel that it is okay, and it is good to be happy.

Everyone has a different heart and character, so they also need different love. No matter who you fall in love with, you have to carefully understand and taste this person, and love them in a way that belongs to them. Some people love sweet and greasy, some people need their own space, and some things are not absolutely good or bad.

But we can talk about loving someone, preferably not in what way.

Don't impose your own values and ideas on the other person. This is an easy pit to jump on, because two people will feel "we are two people" after being together, our lives and fates will affect each other, and we may have to live a life together. As a result, many times, couples in a love relationship are unaware that they are unknowingly restricting each other's freedom.

In fact, it is very simple to distinguish this, two people will influence each other to a certain extent, but whatever the other party takes the initiative to do and is willing to do under your suggestion, that is influence; And what you repeatedly ask for, and need to make the means to get them to agree, is imposed.

Don't get caught up in the vortex of complicated family relationships. It is better to maintain an independent and simple relationship as a couple, and not to get involved in each other's family affairs. Although adults have okay problem-handling skills, you don't know what rules and ways of getting along with each other have accumulated over a long period of time in the other party's family, and you don't know the status and relationship of various characters in the other party's family.

Don't force the other person with love that they don't need. Many of what we think is good for ourselves do not necessarily feel good for the other person. A sentence of "I am for your good" brings too much grievance and the pain of indebtedness, and it is important to be able to live comfortably and love each other.

It is very common not to be wronged when certain "you are good to each other" is denied by the other person, and you can also tell the other person which ways of love you don't like, just adjust to each other to be comfortable.

It's about feeling with your heart. Love is a responsibility, a responsibility between two people, a responsibility that cannot be avoided and that men must face and be brave enough to bear. If a man really has love, then a man should be brave and strong to take on the responsibility that a man should bear, because when a man loves each other, I also have to protect her, when a man accepts her, the man not only accepts her good, but also accepts her bad, don't give up the hard-won love because of her bad, have true love, but also know how to cherish, don't know her good until you lose, so that the man will regret it for life.

To love her is to tolerate her, to tolerate everything about her. Let love fill the whole world! Don't let those things that should not appear in this beautiful world fill the space between me and her, let those beautiful things stay between you, me, and him forever, and let us live in the ocean of love.

Now the progression is super good and the best, the world level is nothing more than this, the highest realm, the soul dances together, not inferior to Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang. Keep fresh and keep it at a constant temperature.

In life, each of us will meet the person we love, and when we meet the person we love, we also need to give each other some space, rather than blindly possessing each other, because there are many people, their understanding of love is also very extreme, because there are some people, they also have certain problems in their personalities, so for us to meet the person we love, we also have to respect each other, so that the other party can feel the happiness of being loved.

1. To love someone first is to respect her.

In life, if we meet someone we love, we have to think about him, think about him, as long as it is good for her, we must vigorously support him.

2. Silently pay for each other.

For loving someone, we also have to express it with practical actions, not to put love on our lips every day, and then do something unrealistic every day, since we love someone, we have to silently do what we can for each other.

3. Work hard to improve yourself.

We love someone and want to give that person the best life, so at this time, we also need to work hard to improve ourselves, only when we become better, can we make the other person love ourselves more.

So in life, if we love someone, we also need to respect that person's opinion, first of all, we also need to understand her feelings for herself, if the other party does not have that kind of meaning for herself, we also need to give each other some freedom, and we must not force it.

So in life, if we can meet someone we love, this is also very lucky, so if we love someone, we must also start from the beginning, and we must not just talk about it, so if we love someone, we also need to do something for each other, so that we can truly love someone. Two people also need to be happy with each other when they are together, so that they can be happy.