What is the most tiring part of a relationship?

When there is a quarrel, the other party feels tired when he is cold and violent with himself. If you can't figure it out and quarrel, you will speak out your dissatisfaction loudly, and then reconcile, but you have to be cold and violent.

All whereabouts must be reported, all friends of the opposite sex should be cut off, and dressed according to each other's preferences...Caring too much about a person, without ego, the longer the time passes, the more tired I feel.

I can't find a sense of security, and I keep asking for confirmation whether the other party loves you, and whether I love you or not, and the longer I think about it, the more tired I become.

On Children's Day, she threw ice cream directly in my face because I didn't play the roller coaster with her. I know that girls have a little temper, and there will be a little bit of unreasonableness, most of the time, I don't care about my girlfriend, I don't reason with her, I just spoil and coax.

The most tiring thing in the process of falling in love is that my boyfriend often can't get my points, no matter what I say, he is not interested, this may be the science and engineering man.

The two have been together for a long time, and gradually they have no interest in each other. It's not that there is no emotion, but looking at the other person as if they are looking at themselves, and the other party will feel the same way.

I was really tired of being in a long-distance relationship, because what I needed was someone who could stand up and protect me when I was vulnerable and when I needed it.

Seeing that the person I like is ambiguous with other girls, my boyfriend belongs to the kind of better one, Ban Cao, the main force of the basketball team, and his height is 188. There are often some girls, like flies, who turn around their little sister boyfriends at home.

When our three views are not on the same channel. There is a very classic description on the Internet about the disagreement of the three views: I said that the sea is beautiful, but you said that many people have drowned.

When he saw my message, but he didn't reply for a long time. At this time, I feel very tired, which was not the case before.

1. There is a huge gap between input and harvest.

Because there is a huge gap between your input and gain, you can't clearly know the meaning of his every word, and you always guess or misunderstand. I don't know if my various actions are correct, and I have to think twice about everything I do.

2. The tiredness of talking is the hard work of communication.

Behind the way of communication, it is difficult to correctly identify and meet the needs of both parties. When I need apples, you give me a cart of pears, and you have to subjectively think that you understand me, and you have to impose it on me, so I don't know what to say. Tiredness is inevitable.

I paid too much to reciprocate, or the two of them didn't have the right personalities.

Generally, when you first fall in love, you think about each other in everything, you care about each other's feelings all the time, and when you put too much energy into this relationship, you will feel very tired. Especially when the other party still doesn't understand, there are fewer and fewer topics to chat about, and it feels not as sweet as before.

After the two get along for a while, they will see the strengths and weaknesses in each other. At first, it was okay to tolerate some shortcomings, but as time went on, it became more and more magnified by this shortcoming, and sometimes it was targeted. At this time, you should think from a different angle, everyone is not perfect, they all have shortcomings, when you care about his shortcomings, it is better to think more about the shining points of the other party, and divert your own attention.

Maybe it's because I'm too tired of love, and I will instantly feel that it's good to be single, and it's also a beautiful thing to not fall in love or not to fall in love. It's not because I don't love it, but some of the behaviors made by the other party are really chilling.

Many times it is like this, after you fall in love with him, you slowly lose yourself and become another person, and you don't know yourself anymore. On my boyfriend's birthday, I cooked a meal, set up the room, wanted to surprise him, waited for him all night, and when he came, he had already gone out with his friends to celebrate his birthday. I took him to heart and treated him with all my heart, but he didn't take me seriously.

After falling in love, of course, I want to be with my girlfriend for my birthday, and I don't want him to spend it with me. But he also had to at least tell me that he had decided to go out with his friends for his birthday early, that I didn't have anything to prepare for him, and that he wasn't stupid to wait at home.

When I was sick, it was really uncomfortable, he was close to me, but he didn't want to come and see me, and chose to hang out with friends. If he cared about me and heard the news that I was sick, he should rush to my house desperately to take care of me. Instead of coldly asking me to buy medicine on my own, drink more hot water.

I don't have to find a boyfriend when I think of this, and there is no difference between being single and being in love. Anyway, when I suffer, he won't share it for me. Also, on Valentine's Day, I wanted to receive the flowers he gave me, but he didn't give me any surprises and said that a holiday is not important.

I was walking alone on the street, watching my loving couple walk by me, and I instantly felt that it was really good to be single.

1.When there is nothing to say, when they look at each other.

The most fearful thing is not to quarrel every day, but to face to face, but not knowing what to say.

2.It's always me taking the initiative, I don't look for him, and he won't look for me.

During the day, he said that his phone was out of battery and that he would come back to me. I was thinking about the time when he would go back, it was almost late at night, and his phone might have exploded.

3.A long-distance relationship can only be done when there is a quarrel on the mobile phone.

The hardest thing is a long-distance relationship, you can't quarrel face to face when you quarrel, if you face to face, a hug can solve all problems.

4.When you don't trust each other.

The feeling of distrust is very uncomfortable, and the two get along in suspicion and suspicion, so it's better not to talk about this kind of love.

5.When the two couldn't talk at all.

When talking to him about one thing very seriously, his hippie smile and not taking it seriously really made me very angry.

6.The two have contradictions, and the other party begins to be cold and violent.

When quarreling, it is not coaxing, but cooling down and ignoring people. "Calm down", who wants to calm down with you, I want to have a good talk about solving problems, not a cold war whenever there is a contradiction.

7.I was thinking about our future, but he was thinking about how to leave.

There is no commitment, no love words, and no clear future for me, he should be ready to leave.

8.When I found that I was less and less like Sun Yin himself.

When you find yourself becoming petty, irritable, loss-making, and suspicious in the relationship, you start to think about whether the relationship should continue.

Life is not as good as poetry, and love will not be as sweet as in TV series and **. In fact, falling in love is tiring, everyone is tired, not you alone.

Because falling in love itself is a particularly troublesome thing, many people feel that the love they want will always exist in the plot, because love life will make you understand through one blow after another that falling in love is a very troublesome thing.

1.The freshness wears off.

Is love eternal? Of course, love is eternal, but the enthusiasm will fade, the freshness will be replaced by the blandness, the sense of security will be impacted by the trivial things in life, and the two will never talk about the future of each other, and even wonder why they were with each other in the first place.

You know, before falling in love, you are alone, you want to do this today, you want to do that tomorrow, you can do whatever you want, but love, after all, is a matter of two people, you need to consider the feelings of others, because of the original family and personal growth experience, there will definitely be differences in the way of thinking between the two of you.

And nothing in life is easy, we all grow up in stumbles, and the logic of falling in love is the same, we all have to learn and grow slowly. Welcoming, fresh. None of these are easy, and they require two people to work hard.

2.I don't want to persevere, I feel tired.

Most people fall in love and break up because they are tired and don't want to persevere. "I'm so tired, I can't hold on anymore, I don't know if I'm going to be together anymore. Some people will think that being tired is just an excuse to break up, but in fact, being tired is a normal thing in love, and it happens more or less to every couple in every trouser Honglu.

No one is born a master of love, and he can completely get the other party's point, but in real love, many people quarrel because of some trivial things.

In fact, we still don't have a calm mentality, often a small thing wants to fight on the basis of reason, but don't feed those trivial things tangled and arguing, except for the principled big things such as marriage and personal future, everything else is just a small thing.

3.Companionship is the most romantic confession.

In the relationship, the freshness will disappear one day, and there must be a run-in period and a dull period when two people are together, and companionship is the longest confession. Don't always think that after the novelty, there will be no difference between you. The truth is, you are still you, and the feelings between you are still genuine and warm.

True love is the kind of love that has passed the freshness and the kind of passionate love, the kind of love that two people will not disappear when they are together, and naturally there will be no anxiety that the freshness fades. What's more, freshness is to experience new things with old people, never to do old things with new people. Otherwise, you'll be stuck in a cycle of novelty forever.

When you fall in love, you know that the object is sent by God to anger you. When you are in love, you know that as long as you pay sincerely, you will be rewarded.

It seems that there are more and more people who don't want to fall in love now. The people around me who have returned to singleness have also remained single for a long time and have no thoughts of falling in love.

There must be a reason behind this.

In fact, if you think about it, the biggest reason why we don't do something is that the return of that thing is not enough to offset the cost we pay.

Or to put it simply, it's that falling in love doesn't make us feel happy. This is the apparent reason, but what is the specific reason?

1. When it comes to falling in love, you have to worry too much and are tired.

Anyone who has been in love will know that when you are in love, you have to consider the other party's thoughts, worry about the other party's upset, and worry that the other party will be angry.

As soon as there are some places that are not taken into account, there will be quarrels.

It doesn't matter if it's arguing around, whether it's a cold war, it's okay once or twice, but if it's too many times, it will make people feel tired.

Many people break up not because they don't like it anymore, but because they are too tired to get along, and they are not happy to be together.

Second, you can't get a reciprocal return.

Falling in love requires a lot of things, but it may not be possible to get a reciprocal return.

Imagine that you are very kind to your subject, taking care of it, serving it carefully, but the object does not appreciate it, but thinks that it is what you should do. The subject enjoys your efforts, but does not think of anything in return.

This kind of unequal relationship is the easiest for people to doubt themselves and feel that they are not worthy.

These efforts are exchanged for raising a cat, and cats know that they want to reciprocate, and they will snuggle up to themselves when they are sad. Sometimes, it is better to pay for a person than for a cat.

3. Having been hurt in a relationship.

Being hurt in a relationship will also make people less and less want to fall in love.

The person who is split will probably have a certain shadow on the feelings. You like someone so much, and you are the best in the world to that person, but the other party betrays you and finds someone else.

Although I don't necessarily don't believe in love, I will be inexplicably afraid of the arrival of love. Because I was afraid, I chose to refuse. I still think it's better to stay single so that you can avoid injury.

Fourth, a person can also live well.

Why do we fall in love? Because falling in love is beautiful and can make us feel the beauty of life.

So if we can live well on our own, then do we still need to be in love?

In ordinary life, there is nothing that one person cannot accomplish, and if there is, then pay someone to help. In this way, there is less emotional entanglement and more emotional stability, why not?

It's not a sin to be unwilling to fall in love, as long as you can live a good life, one day, if that person is good enough, it's not too late to fall in love at that time.

And now, there is really no need to have a casual relationship in order to solve loneliness.

This is probably the true inner thoughts of many people who don't want to fall in love.

Sometimes there is a contradiction, and the two people should constantly suffer from it, this is, the more you pay attention to him, the more he feels that he deserves it, and he doesn't know how to cherish you, so tired words mean that the two of you are not suitable. Tired in love because you are too used to each other, after a long time, she has a sense of dependence, and there is a sense of freshness when you first fall in love, each other knows that I like her, she likes you, and neither really understands each other.

Falling in love is a matter of two people, don't always think that it is your own responsibility, especially if you want to be separated so far, it is estimated that there is no play, you can feel it, but this is not enough, whether two people can be together or not depends on the character, and one party must know how to endure.

Tired because you pay more, and the result of this kind of giving is not what you want, so you will be very tired. It's like the other person doesn't understand you, and asking too much will make people more and more tired. Maybe it's because they've been together for a long time, slowly indulged, slowly felt annoyed with each other, and slowly got tired of it.

It may also be that they don't know each other well enough, and they don't want to take the time to understand each other, and they don't explain anything clearly.

Sometimes both men and women don't get the results they want, and in the process, they often feel that the other party doesn't care about you, and he is disgusted by what you do, and he may hate you. Often, after experiencing a few things like this, it makes you feel a lot of pressure and sadness.

Some people, after feeling tired about the other person, will choose to avoid the solution. They are afraid that if they talk to each other, they will provoke the dissatisfaction of their lovers, and deep down, they don't want to break up. So they will self-convince themselves that it is just a temporary problem and make a lot of excuses for their tiredness, such as schoolwork, work pressure, etc.

But if you blindly avoid the problems between you, it will also make your relationship enter a vicious circle, which will make the other party reject you even more.