How to Redeem a Relationship 10, How to Redeem a Relationship

And experiencing loss can be broken down into three steps:

1. Reduce emotional resistance;

2. Show letting go and reduce emotional resistance;

3. Create the image of a third party and let the other party experience loss.

The above three steps, that is, the push in the process of pushing and pulling, for the recovery, there is also a pull, we will have a detailed introduction later, we will first start with the most basic three steps of the recovery for a detailed analysis.

After understanding the basic principles of recovery, we conduct a detailed analysis of the emotional state of both parties at the beginning of the breakup.

Emotional state and emotional state at the beginning of the breakup.

1. Emotional state.

There will be many reasons for breaking up, such as a weak relationship, an inappropriate personality, opposition from parents, and a long distance that leads to the inability to maintain the emotion ......But no matter what the reason for the breakup is, it will be more or less inevitably accompanied by a certain degree of emotional resistance.

What is emotional resistance? It is to hate you, not to see you, not to listen to you, in a word: as long as you sit next to him, it is a kind of offense, in the situation at that time, you have not done anything wrong, but the other party just hates you.

We have all experienced similar complexes, such as when there are some times in life that make us feel very angry, do we just want to find a place to be quiet, and we don't want to pay attention to the world and don't want to communicate with others! So at the beginning of the breakup, what the other party wants most is to be quiet.

Many people say that the so-called love is not the other half of the other party, in order for the relationship between the two parties to develop more healthily, what to say, what problems to solve as soon as possible. But you also have to know, can some facts be clearly stated, and can the problem be solved all at once? The other party also needs space to sort out the emotional state of both parties!

And to love someone, you must first learn to respect each other, respect each other's space, your disrespect will only increase the friction between the two parties, and the emotions of both parties will be harmless and not beneficial!

You don't have the ability to wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep, and you don't have the ability to communicate with someone who refuses to communicate with you!

It will take him a while to sort out the emotional state of both parties, and how long this period is depends on the intensity of the other party's emotional resistance to you, depending on the emotional cycle, it will take as little as five days.

2. Emotional state.

In terms of emotional resistance, emotional resistance is not something you can solve with three or five days of a little cold, because it is not an emotional reaction, and the other party's resistance to you is an emotional defense! He just wants to stay away from you, he wants to break up with you, he wants to keep his distance from you, he doesn't want anything to happen to you, so the more you try to explain something, the more he will put himself on the shelf.

There will be a lot of similar phenomena at this time:

1. You told him, is there anything wrong with getting off work? He'll tell you, I'm going to work overtime. You asked him again, do you have time to get off work tomorrow, and he said that he will work overtime tomorrow, and there will be no time the day after tomorrow;

2. You told him that the weather is cold, so you should pay attention to wearing more clothes! He will tell you that I am an adult and that I will take care of myself and not bother you;

Using the wrong method to redeem it will only be counterproductive.

It is recommended that you inquire about his current situation first, and if he is very sick, it is recommended that you think about it. Feelings are not child's play, if you know what his physical condition is, you can still be brave to save your feelings, and you can bear it with him, and then you can save him!

The world is full of women who like to make cheap, if you don't see yourself as a person, or you think that you love him to the point where you can not care about your self-esteem, then you will try to redeem it, but wait, you will suffer after being together.

You have to learn to cherish what you lose before you lose it, why do you have to use regret as a price to learn such a simple truth?

When you're sick, it's the best time....Take care of him with your heart.

Then try to redeem it, and suggest that you do something that touches him and is romantic to show your heart! You can try logging in"The Hearts of the Tower"Participate in their"True love test", because in participating in this seemingly game"The test of online love"In the process, you can prove how deep your love for him is, and you can get a gorgeous prize - "True Love Appraisal Certificate" after 7 days of testing, and you can apply to the Heart Tower to mail the certificate directly to him. This novel, romantic and subtle way of confession can not only give him a romantic surprise without showing up, but also prove to your lover how much you have given to him, how deep and true your love for him is, and let him see those words you have said to him; It will definitely move him to tears (my successful experience), and it is a great gift to show love on an important day.

How to let go of a relationship?

In the relationship between couples, there will occasionally be small frictions, and there is friction that cannot be broken, and what is terrible is the cold treatment between each other. If you still want to save this relationship, you have to learn these six tricks. Let's introduce you to six ways to recover.

Speak for yourself.

Everything should be based on facts, and the facts should be put in front of you. Give yourself a fresh life. Face your own heart, don't deceive yourself, and solve problems with the most sincere attitude. If the other party still cares about you and still has love in your heart, then happy days can come again.

Get rid of your own faults.

Everyone has a problem, two people together, will become each other's dependence, to redeem, you have to change your own bad problems, you must want to ensure that you have changed, the changed problems, not allowed to appear, change your own bad problems will make that person happy, see their own sensible, hard work.

Give yourself some time to buffer and transform.

Rest, in order to walk further. Under such emotional entanglement, his nerve clockwork was also broken too tightly. Relax your mood appropriately, then adjust your state, and correct your own problems.

It also allows the other party, who is still in high emotional pressure, to feel the balance after you have diluted all of a sudden, so as to create a gap and increase the sense of demand.

Let the other person know their mood and changes.

The best cold treatment is not to treat the other party as a stranger, but to position the other party as an ordinary friend who does not take the initiative to contact, but indirectly in the intersection of the two sides, such as QQ space, circle of friends, Weibo to show their own life breath, so that the other party indirectly knows and feels their mood and changes.

Boost your appeal.

If there is a crack in the relationship between two people, it is undoubtedly that the other party's patience with you has reached the limit, thinking that you are not the person he or she is looking for, which suggests that you should make changes, and what are the shortcomings that cannot be forgiven by the other half. That's right, the most important thing you need to do at this time is to try to improve your attractiveness, and on the premise that both parties can get a cool time, do your best, remove your shortcomings, and make yourself appear in front of each other again with a new image, which will make the other party's eyes light up and re-examine their good impression of you.

Relive the past. Revisiting old things is also a good way to save it. In front of the other party, try to tell him (her) your previous loving past, so that the other party can recall your past, there are so many beautiful, and there are so many things worth recalling, I believe that even if the heart is hard, thinking of these, the heart will soften a little, at this time you know the reason, move with affection, and redeem the lover, it is not a difficult thing.

1.Calm analysis: First of all, you need to calmly analyze the reasons for the problems between you, find out the root cause of the problems, as well as the contradictions and disagreements between you. Only by understanding the essence of the problem can we solve the problem in a targeted manner.

2.Communication and understanding: On the basis of analyzing the problem, you need to communicate with the other person, express your thoughts and feelings, and also listen to the other person's opinions and ideas. Understanding the other person's thoughts and feelings is the key to solving the problem.

3.Change yourself: Sometimes, the root of the problem may be your own problem, and you need to reflect on your behavior and attitude, or see if you need to change something. Changing yourself can show the other party your hard work and sincerity.

4.Action and commitment: On the basis of communication and understanding, you need to take action to solve the problem, but also promise the other person that you can see your determination and sincerity.

5.Time and patience: It takes time and patience to redeem love, don't rush it, give the other person enough time and space, and also be patient and confident.

In short, redeeming love requires your efforts and sincerity, as well as communication and understanding between you.

Here's how to save a relationship:

First, firm faith.

Have a firm belief that as long as you persevere, the relationship can be saved. We're only temporarily separated from each other.

Second, understand the other person's heart.

Find out why the other person broke up with us. In fact, many people break up with just excuses. We have to understand the real reason why the other person broke up with us. If you take the reason for the breakup that the other person said to be true, then it is difficult to undo it.

Third, be confident.

Don't think: Ah, I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy of him. You can't have this kind of inferiority complex. Of course, it can't be too high. In fact, a good relationship should be evenly matched. If you always feel that you are not worthy of him, it will be difficult to gain the respect of the other person.

Fourth, the desire to capture the old desire.

In order to salvage a relationship, don't rush it. Don't let the other person feel like you're in a hurry to redeem that feeling. If you really want to save this relationship, what we have to do at this time is to try to get away with it.

Don't pay too much attention to each other. Even, give the other party the illusion that we don't want to save the relationship. Appropriately cold the other party for a while, maybe the other party will find your good.

To save a relationship, the most taboo is to stalk. Not only is stalking meaningless, but it can also undo your efforts. Also, girls should be careful not to keep nagging, crying and asking boys why.

Boys hate stalking girls the most. If a person doesn't like you, and you ask again, the other person will be more annoying. Constantly asking questions will put pressure on the other party and cause the other party to be disgusted, so let's not be a stalker.

Fifth, face reality.

We should face up to each other's departure. Seeing that the other person doesn't love us anymore, don't think about your past with the other person. Otherwise, thinking about these past will make you sadder even more.

Nothing to cheer you up. If the other person leaves us, we should treat him as an ordinary friend, and not as willful as our former lovers. Also, don't ask who the other person has been playing with recently.

At this time, the other person plays with others, that is freedom, and we have no right to interfere.