If you get bold in front of relatives and friends

Say a few words

What's going on? To put it bluntly, it's actually a social barrier: a matter of timidity.

What to do? To put it simply, one word: Lian! Also, there are no silver bullets and shortcuts.

Courage is slowly refined. This requires you to take the first step bravely! Take the first crucial step, which is the beginning of your success.

No one is born with a red heart. We are laymen, and we have also had the experience of refining courage. It's not that we are boasting, now it is not a problem to walk at night and say a few words on stage. At the root of it, there is still one word: refining!

For example, you don't dare to walk at night, for fear of gods and ghosts. You might as well try to walk a short distance or twice at night, and your courage will gradually become bigger;

For example, if you blush when you see a boy, you try to have more contact with the boy, or even talk to the boy intentionally or unintentionally. A few more times, and you'll be able to talk and laugh with girls;

For example, if you have stage fright, you should participate in more social activities, strive for the opportunity to speak in a small area, show your eloquence, and slowly expand to a larger occasion or stage to show your style. After a few times, no matter what the occasion, you can talk like a river, talk endlessly, and be calm. You might even become an orator.

Personal experience, landlord try?

Happy landlord!

It's a personality issue, and it's hard to pretend.

To put it simply, your instinctive self-protection mechanism has played a role, and you are cautious because of the experience you have with the person you are dealing with in the past and your perception of him, so that you instinctively choose to be cautious in order to avoid some bad situations that you don't like. For the other relative, you have a sense of closeness to him, because he is more easy-going, and he is more gentle with you, and he does not let you feel pressured, so he is casual.

Let you be cautious relatives you have a general relationship with him since childhood, indicating that this feeling comes from an unpleasant experience when you were a child, or some negative cognition, for example, you see a fierce strong man, since the lead hand will be instinctively cautious, and if you see a kind grandmother, you will be very relaxed, you will avoid further contact with the strong man, but the grandmother can easily get closer to you, you feel good about some relatives, It's because they're like a kind grandmother, cautious about another part of their relatives, it's the kind of negative feeling he makes you have a fierce and vicious strong man, which is an emotional cognition, not a rational cognition, if you have in-depth contact and understanding with the relatives who make you cautious, maybe you will be relaxed and get along with him, and of course you may become more cautious.

I hope the answer to the old summer solstice can help you.