It s the New Year, how to deal with the various discussions of the seven aunts and eight aunts?

<>Before I knew it, I had reached the grade where I was going to be urged to get married, and I was still a student, okay? I will go on to graduate school in September. But in fact, it really makes people feel that I am very old, and it seems that I have reached the age of starting a family.

My mother said, I already have your sister at your age, if you put it in the past, the child can go to make soy sauce. I just smiled and didn't speak, and I was hehehehehe.

Now that the Chinese New Year is really super reluctant to leave relatives, because they will definitely ask me a question, have you found a partner, I will say no, they said you should hurry up, I said okay. In the past, I was asked about my grades, but now when I am asked about my relationship, it seems that he cares about me so much, and I am also indifferent.

But if you really encounter this situation, it is to strike first and take the initiative, which will be better, it is really tried and tested, and I have experienced it myself. Of course, when asking questions, you must be close to reality, and don't talk awkwardly there.

You can ask him where his children work, how much they earn a month, whether they have bought a house, whether they are married, whether they have children after marriage, and whether they have a second child after they have children. If you don't, you have to hold on.

You just ask one question after another, and don't let him have a chance to ask you. I felt that the time was almost up, and then said that I would go to the toilet first. Then you slipped away to another place, so that you could meet and greet you, and at the same time you were very polite, so that they wouldn't say that you were not polite, and that you didn't talk after seeing your relatives.

After noticing the essentials, don't use too much force, it's not good to ask your relatives if you are annoyed.

A little fun story about life: I finally know how to deal with the seven aunts and eight aunts during the Chinese New Year!

First of all, when you return home, smile, uphold the good quality of obedience, well-behaved, hard-working, and kind, and meet the concern of relatives and friends to the principle of "Buddhist answer", such as: "Uh-huh", "yes, yes", "okay, okay", "follow fate", "is working hard" and other overlapping words to show respect. Be mentally prepared, you won't be confused, you must stay calm, know how to be polite, and all problems can be solved

1. Is there a target? Why don't you look for it?

A1: Not yet, my parents made me like this, people don't look down on me, and I can't help it, hehe;

A2: I don't dare to find a partner with this little pocket money every month;

A3: Hey, I chose this major at that time, but now I'm as busy as a dog, and I don't have time to find a partner;

A4: Hehe, I don't have time, I haven't encountered emotional things, everything is fate;

A5: I haven't planned it yet, thank you for your concern;

A6: Let it be, and then consider it when you meet the right one, and if there is one, I will definitely tell you;

A7: No, no, I'm still studying, don't worry, study hard first, enrich myself, anyway, I'm still young, I haven't met the right one, and I can spend more time with my parents;

This kid is so sensible.

Summary: Personal experience tells me that your relatives will soon find it impossible to talk, and then they will turn the conversation on to other siblings, and you will be liberated at this time.

Here are a few examples:

Q: This year's boss is not small, when will I buy a house?

can't afford it" will usher in a new round of life guidance.

So how to deal with it.

Response suggestion: There is still a gap of 6 million in the down payment, and you want to lend me money? ”

Subtly turn your problem into the other person's problem.

Come on! Be embarrassed together!

Ask, "Are you still single?" Don't be so picky, it's almost there. ”

If you are single, whether it is the Spring Festival or usual.

will be asked such a question.

In the eyes of the older generation, they are older and single.

Not a glorious thing in itself.

Suggestions:1Wait for Song Joong Ki (Song Hye Kyo) to get divorced.

I will marry

2.I don't pick, when will you get divorced.

I will marry

In an exaggerated and boastful way, shift the focus.

Kick the ball to the opponent.

Asked, "Why did you two break up and divorce when you came back alone?" ”

It's good to put an end to the problem as soon as possible.

Response advice: "Because I'm ugly." ”

Analysis: Use self-deprecating and self-deprecating techniques.

But by belittling yourself, calling yourself ugly.

It skillfully defuses the embarrassment.

Ask, "I've been working for several years, how much do you earn a month?" It must be quite a lot, right? ”

This issue involves personal privacy.

Response suggestion: OK, the annual salary is less than one million, and the monthly salary is less than 100,000".

Analysis: Use humor to defuse embarrassment.

At the same time, it also shifts the problem away.

Ask, "You're making a lot of money out there, aren't you?" Can you lend me a little? ”

This question, even if not in the New Year.

It's inevitable that you'll encounter it.

But if you refuse outright, it will cause dissatisfaction among the other party.

So clever transfer and can also express their own meaning.

Response suggestion: Okay, do you want one piece or two".

Analysis: First of all, the borrower said "a little" and did not say much.

So you can just take it literally and resolve the embarrassment.

At the same time, in this way, the other party generally understands the meaning.

I seldom continue to ask questions.

Ask, "You work in a big city, when will you pick up your parents and your parents?" ”

This problem can be said to be a "hidden killing machine".

Parents are reluctant to go over, which can make people feel that you can't face the problem head-on.

Response suggestions: Wait for the air in xx city".

Ask: "You haven't had any money out there for so many years?" ”

This question is inherently "aggressive".

It will be considered that the ability is not good, and it is easy to be ridiculed by the other party.

Advice: Yes, pat your belly, this is all my savings".

Not only does it cleverly resolve embarrassment, but it also puts an end to the problem.

Ask, "Can you lend me your car to drive?" ”

Go home for the Chinese New Year, especially in the restricted area.

It will be less convenient to get around.

But once you refuse, you will appear to be stingy.

Response suggestion: Yes, it's just that this handlebar is a little less flexible".

Analysis: The other party asked about the car, but did not say anything about the car.

Usually the other party will know what you mean.

So in the face of the routines of relatives and friends.

We have to go back to the box.

How to face the questions of the seven aunts and eight aunts with high emotional intelligence?

First, preemptively.

In the face of checking the household registration type, we can first open our mouths and ask the other party about the situation. For example: What exactly are you busy with right now?

How is your son? Is the daughter married? When we ask about the situation, we can show our understanding and then throw some questions to the other person, such as:

Your son's job hasn't been decided yet, so what can you do? Your daughter is also getting old, how to solve the problem of marriage?

If you ask about relationships, you can say, "My fate hasn't arrived yet, and this thing really can't come back." "Be sure to answer them with something very vain, and when they ask you what to do after you die, you say something festive, such as: "It's all the New Year, the cotton twist will be transferred, and everything will be fine."

Third, self-blackening, raising the bar.

When relatives and friends give you a lot of advice to do a lot of things, you can respond with self-core and a bar

Business is so difficult these days, and I'm not as good as my uncle; Your son is really good, he was admitted to the civil service at a young age, how can it be that I have not studied well since I was a child.

For the older generation, because of the differences in the times, the values they are exposed to are different from ours, and they can be said to be much more single. So when the two sides are together, this difference in values will manifest itself in the form of conflict, but in fact, these are the ways they care about us, and their "fingers" are also the ways they think they care about people from the bottom of their hearts. But we can't stop expressing ourselves because we are afraid of conflict, and only by constantly expressing ourselves can we pass on our consciousness to the other party.

It all depends on whether you want to extend the front and enjoy the fun, or the hassle of a quick solution.

If you want to extend the front, there are many ways, but I think the main ones are: arguing with reason, developing the topic vertically and horizontally, and scolding back are all very effective ways to deal with it. It not only allows you to enjoy the impact of communication between relatives due to different levels of education, but also allows you to discover what other people will do when they can't communicate.

You can also use your brain more and think about how to respond so that you don't tear your face and the topic can continue, which will have a great impact on your future career in society.

If you meet a relative with a wide range of knowledge and life experience, then I recommend that you communicate with him more, try to guide the topic vertically and horizontally, and soon you will find that there are still many things in this world that you don't know or don't know deeply enough, and he will soon find that you are not an ordinary junior, and even you will become a friend in addition to the relationship between relatives - but this requires a premise, that is, you have understood: different views do not mean that you can't get along. In addition, you must remember that asking you to guide vertically and horizontally is not asking you to open the topic, don't forget that the purpose of extending the front line is to enjoy the fun, it's all off topic, is it still a full score essay?

As for going back, it is an endless battle, the front can be said to be long and inspiring, if you have a lot of thoughts about the loved ones in your heart and have to vent your friends, you can do this, but you have to think clearly whether you want to stop interacting with these relatives, just be a familiar stranger. But if you don't have any legitimate grievances against the loved one, then don't use this skill to hurt yourself and others.

If you make a quick decision, I don't think there's much more to talk about, get dressed up, smooth your mouth, thicken your skin, prepare 100 topics, and there is nothing that can't be solved in 1 minute. Don't tell me that this kind of character is not your style, you already want to solve it quickly, which means that you don't want to hear what they think of you at all, so what do you need to talk about or not to be yourself?

The so-called interrogation of the seven aunts and eight aunts may only have the following two.

Have you continued your education? Looking for a partner? A series of *** problems, in fact, they don't really care at all, and they don't seem to care about you without asking for the New Year, so they do their best and use their greatest cognition to ask you these questions, just to avoid embarrassment.

If you're expecting someone to ask you questions like, "Which do you think Ofo or Mobike will win the market in the end?", I don't think it's that they're annoying, it's that you have a problem with your IQ. They express their concern, and what you answer doesn't matter to them, so what do you have to stress about?

This category. In fact, in the bottom of their hearts, there is a cognition. For example, how much money you can earn in prefecture-level cities, how much money you can earn in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, how much civil servants can earn, and how much programmers can earn, there is a price.

If you're not talking about his pricing, then he'll think you're lying. For example, if you are a civil servant, the answer he expects is definitely that the salary is not high, three or four thousand yuan, but the benefits are good, everything is paid, and there are a lot of bonuses for the New Year; If you are a programmer in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, the answer he expects must be more than 10,000 yuan, working overtime until late at night every night, exchanging his body for money, and spending a lot. To put it bluntly, they don't expect your answer either, but rather to validate their own.

For this category, there are standard answers, and the pressure is not too great

If you don't want to listen to them ask questions every time, then seize the initiative and put some pressure on them. For example, I am planning to buy a house, but the house is too expensive, and I am thinking about borrowing money; The job is not going well, I am planning to change, do you have any friends who can help introduce you to a new job, etc., I promise they will not continue to pester you

Introduction: There are many young people who are afraid of the New Year, so if you don't know how to deal with your relatives, you shouldn't let yourself always go to the New Year. Usually, if relatives are difficult to get along with, it will also lead to exhaustion, it will consume a lot of Li Pai's time, and you will not have a way to take care of yourself, so you must solve the problems between you before communicating.

If you come to pay your respects during the Chinese New Year, you must calm yourself down. 1. Don't be angry that many people will introduce themselves to their partners after they return home, even if you are very annoying, you must know how to deal with them. Everyone's thoughts are different, if relatives have a good relationship with your family, and you use this attitude, then they will not be able to get along with your parents, so for some relatives who must be seen, you have to stop in moderation, if you can, you can't go, no matter what the situation, as long as you meet someone you don't like, don't force yourself.

Many people can't get along with their parents, let alone relatives, so you have to stay by yourself when relatives get together. 2. Show them what you thinkMany relatives want to introduce you to someone because they think you don't have it, and if you don't want to, you can also share your thoughts with everyone. Don't allow yourself to tolerate it all the time when you feel that your relatives are nagging, because it may also cause them to feel that you agree, so there must be a barrier between parents.

3. Summarize the smile or smile during the New Year, if you always have a straight face, then others don't want to come to your house to pay New Year's greetings. For example, some relatives like to take advantage of it, so you have to lock your door during the Chinese New Year, otherwise they will want to take everything they see, and it will make you feel very painful. Don't show it on your face if you hate it, it will also make your relatives feel very embarrassed.