Can you avoid toasting in interpersonal interactions?

In China, the wine table culture is a particularly magical existence, no matter what the occasion, the wine table has always been indispensable to toast. I think it is a matter of circumstance.

The first is a toast between particularly good friends, such as good friends who have not seen each other for a long time, or because they have recently had a drink with each other, we call it a toast of peers, this is basically because of a good relationship, everyone is not trying to pour you wine for the purpose of this, this link between good friends is purely to warm up the feelings, everyone is happy together, if you are unwell at this time, or make up your mind to quit drinking, you can bring it up, basically good friends will sigh at you, But the body will still honestly snatch your glass and fill you with tea. <>

The second type is a toast between friends who don't know each other very well, or a toast when a friend brings a new friend to meet you. I don't know if you've ever encountered that kind of situation, at the wine table, there is always someone who is not very familiar with the wine to you, you say that I have a special situation today and I can't drink, and he will also say, if you don't drink, you look down on me and so on. I'm a very straight person, I don't know how to beat around the bush, but I won't wronged myself, I once had a period and couldn't drink, but I was still toasted, and said that if I don't drink, I don't give face, I still didn't drink, and I blocked this person.

We all say that wine depends on character, for a girl, remember not to toast you to drink it, especially the unfamiliar person, because you don't know what kind of purpose he is for.

Let's talk about the toast in the company or work unit and the toast between relatives and friends at home. For this situation, if you want to not drink, you have to come up with some methods, such as "I came by car today, I'm afraid of the traffic police uncle", "I'm not feeling well today, I can't drink", for girls, the excuse of menstruation has been tried and tested many times on occasions with girls. So for this kind of toast, you need to prepare a reason not to drink that makes others feel reasonable and at the same time does not hurt people's face.

Finally, I want to say to all the girls, even if you drink a lot of alcohol and you can drink well, don't show it when you first join a company group or a new circle of friends.

I don't think you can avoid this, unless you don't go to the wine table.

The habit of the Chinese is that when talking about things, they must be at the dinner table, and wine is inseparable from the dinner table. So as long as you go to a dinner, as long as you touch a wine glass, you can't avoid a toast.

If you don't toast, others will think that you are rude and look down on others. I will also think that you are a special person who will not come to trouble, and you will leave a bad impression on the leader. This is probably China's unique wine table culture.

Actually, when I first started working, I was very resistant to toasting. I always feel very embarrassed, but I can't help it, everyone else toasts, but I don't toast myself, that's too out of place. It will also cause disgust among the people at the entire wine table.

I went to toast one by one, and I participated in more dinners, so I didn't resist so much.

So, a word of advice for you. Either you don't go to the table, or you just go to the bar honestly. Attend more meals and get used to it.

The first strike is strong, change the passive to the active, and shuttle through the wine table with your own three-inch tongue.

Yes, take a few more subordinates to drink together, if you don't want to drink, find an excuse to leave, ask your subordinates to drink, subordinates don't want to, and call another....

I'm speaking from the perspective of a college student.

When I first went to college, my dad told me not to drink alcohol when I went out to eat, and if I was forced to drink, you would say that you were allergic to alcohol, so that you could avoid drinking, because people don't make it difficult for others. I've always followed this pattern.

When I was a freshman, I went to a dinner organized by the hospital. I thought about the scene where there might be a toast, and I also thought about the principles and do's and don'ts that my dad had told me. Later, halfway through the meal, a table next to us began to come to our table to toast.

A few boys came over with a bottle of wine and wanted to drink with me, and I was embarrassed to excuse myself and said that I was allergic to alcohol and couldn't drink.

Unexpectedly, several boys and girls at the same table said that they were fine, so they took a small sip and nothing happened. I'd rather die than give in. Later, the minister came over and wanted to drink with me. I have always said very sincerely that I am allergic to alcohol and can't drink it, and he said that if I don't drink it, I won't give face!

Later, I went to a dinner in the school organization, and I originally planned not to drink, because I didn't want to break the precept of not drinking. But I found that I couldn't push it back to death. I drank about three bottles after that big meal, and the whole person was dizzy.

Therefore, if you are a student, I advise you that when you eat a meal or a large meal like this, it will not hurt if you can not push, because I find that generally speaking, the consequences of pushing or not pushing are the same. The amount of alcohol I drank was forced out in this situation.

But if you go out to eat for class or eat with people in the dormitory, or go out to eat with friends, you can't drink if you can, after all, drinking hurts your body, so drink less.

In fact, many people in society do not advocate drinking at the wine table, especially now many people who drive, many people do not drink, so if for these people who do not drink, in order to avoid an embarrassing situation at the wine table, then you can use this mineral water to drink water in your cup, mineral water, etc., to respect these friends.

<> dinner, people who don't drink are vulnerable to being "attacked" by alcoholics, who will shout invitations in front of everyone or come up to you with a glass of wine to convince you. The other side prepares all sorts of arguments, and those who are often told "have a drink, have a drink, or it's too embarrassing" ridicule some friends who, in the face of this group pressure (pressure from the majority on the individual or pressure from a minority of group members), are unable to resist and start drinking in small amounts. Therefore, it is best to find an "ally" before the dinner starts, and let them speak for you in your "crisis moment", usually if you are in the same class or superiors to be effective!

This method is more suitable for people who can create an atmosphere. I used to have a colleague who volunteered to serve everyone at the table every time. He would pour a glass of wine for the toasters of his colleagues and then help convince them to drink by saying a few words to stir up the whole atmosphere.

Also, if you see who is drinking more at the wine table, you can take the initiative to pour a cup of tea to the other party, especially when the leader drinks more, your action will give you extra points. Sometimes the leader takes you out to socialize, and it doesn't have to invite you to drink, the most important thing about drinking is the atmosphere, so if you can chat, you can talk about what you know, take the table and say, it's best to make the leader laugh, so even if you don't drink, you're a big hero.

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1.If you really want to refuse to drink, you must not drink at all: for many people who don't want to drink, there is a misconception that "I drink less" can be used as a reason to refuse to drink.

So, during the meal, you either don't drink at all, or you drink to your heart's content. There is no in-between option. "Can't drink" is a question of "can't drink", and "drink less" means that you can drink, but if you compare "don't want to drink", you will find that not wanting to drink is obviously more likely to offend people than "not drinking".

2.Learn to find the most prestigious person at the table and become your ally: if you don't want to drink, but you have to attend a dinner that happens to be attended by outsiders. Then just in case, you can find your allies before dinner.

3.If you don't want to drink, then learn to chat and serve well: many times, the purpose of the leader of the various dinners you participate in is, on the one hand, to hope that you will accompany the wine, and on the other hand, to hope that there will be someone who can talk, can find topics to talk to, and will serve the leaders and important guests well.

You can take the initiative to take a drink instead, and then you should say some very good words, followed by you should always be humble and often thank each other, so that you can avoid embarrassment, and you should make it clear in advance.

I would pour some drinks into the cup, and when others toasted, I would say some words of gratitude and some words of explanation, and then drink a little less so that I could avoid embarrassment.

At this time, you should refuse tactfully, you can use tea instead of wine, or you can say that you are coming by car, so you can't drink, don't let the other party can't get off the stage.

Belch... Whenever I eat in the department, I am the most embarrassed, because I don't know how to drink, and to put it bluntly, I don't like the atmosphere where you have to drink when you eat, you have to get drunk when you drink, and you have to shout when you are drunk.

I've also done this thing, and I've been charged with "no team spirit, out of the team", and it's true, it's okay to push it off once or twice, and every time you push it off, people will have opinions.

I've done it like this.,It's very dirty to be caught like this.,The toaster said that you are not honest,:

Liquor: Two actions: one is to pour a small glass of liquor from beginning to end, when others drink, raise a glass, purse your lips, and then put it down. Second, if you have the opportunity, replace the liquor with cold boiled water (boiled water is still relatively easy to get at the dinner table).

Beer: The glass of beer is relatively large, generally ninety percent tea (be careful not to steaming tea), one percent beer.

Red wine: Generally, red wine can still be drunk, if not, ninety percent Sprite, one percent red wine.

Position: Don't sit next to the leader, don't sit next to a colleague who is in charge, don't sit down with someone who is drinking.

Other: Talk less and eat more. When you have to, try to change the subject and turn your attention to the person who is drinking. As a result of the above, the whole meal may be the person who talks the least and eats the most, and others will feel that you are the most boring.

Is it necessary to learn the toasting etiquette in a social banquet? Personally, I think it is necessary to learn the etiquette culture of the wine market, you can not drink but you must understand it. Xu Xi is a child who has just graduated from work, this day the department leader invited him to dinner, he went late and the position was full of three positions, one was facing the door, one was close to the door, one was close to the toilet, he didn't want to sit at the front door, the manager saw it and quickly pulled him and said that this is the position where the leader sits.

Xu Xi was a little embarrassed, and he was afraid that he would make another mistake and make people laugh at the whole meal, and he would follow what others were doing when he saw it, and he didn't dare to move at all, and this meal was very uncomfortable. In contrast, Wang Qiang was calm and generous, and when he toasted and drank, he coaxed the leader to be happy, and praised him in person for being a clever young man who knew how to count etiquette.

If you don't understand the rules and etiquette of the wine venue, it is easy to make jokes, and you will offend people unconsciously, you may feel that a small act is disrespectful to him in the eyes of others, so whether you can drink or not, whether you like to drink or not, it is necessary to know the etiquette of the wine venue. The rules and rules of the wine field, the etiquette and culture of the culture, do a good job not to offend people, do not do a good ** offend people do not know, if it is a work in the wine field, do a good job to ensure that you are not allowed to be promoted and make a fortune. The seating arrangement, toasting etiquette, drinking and empty rhetoric, or dressing up the number of dishes, wine, etc. are all laughing groups are very knowledgeable, if you say that it doesn't matter if you eat at home, but if there is an outsider in these etiquette details to be thoughtful, even if you don't drink, you won't make jokes.

Drinking etiquette is also etiquette, as the saying goes, many people are not strange. If the etiquette is in place, you can not only make no mistakes, but also attract the appreciation of others, and earn more opportunities for yourself. Details reflect character, have enough respect for others, and others will have enough respect for you.

Let others recognize you and let others remember you, so that there are more opportunities and more contacts. With the development of their own social interactions, learning more dinner table etiquette, including wine table etiquette, is good for their own progress, and will also improve the pattern, which can promote the achievement of the purpose of participating in dinner activities.

Look out for the timing of the toast. Wait until the leaders and elders have finished drinking each other before you can toast.

At the wine table, we generally have to let the leaders and elders drink each other before the juniors can start toasting, and we can't toast the leaders and elders at the beginning.

Look at things and do things, observe words and looks, Huai Qi took the initiative to help add wine.

At the wine table, you can't just take care of yourself eating, when the leaders, elders and grandchildren eat and drink, you should pay attention to whether they need to add wine and pour tea. Do the eyes to see the four elephants, the ears to hear the eight directions.

You can't respect multiple leaders and elders by yourself.

Leaders and elders can respect many people, but not as juniors. When it's time to toast, you can only toast one by one. It is very rude for the younger generation to respect more than one, and you can't be clever and think that you can respect all the leaders and elders with a drink.

When toasting, look at the other person to show respect.

When toasting, it is rude not to look at the other person. And when you want to lead and elders to toast, you must stand up, raise your glass with both hands, and the elders can't interject or interrupt when they speak, let alone eat or drink by yourself.

When toasting, one's own glass is lower than that of others.

This one is also very basic and very important common sense, and your own wine glass is lower than that of leaders and elders, which is a sign of respect. Don't make a mistake by holding your glass high above the other person.

Be sure to prepare the right toast for the toast.

When toasting to leaders and elders, the salutation must be decent, and the toast is not only drinking, but also verbal expression and communication, not only to listen to the other party, after listening, we must also be able to say a good and appropriate toast, which is very important, and will also make the leaders and elders add points to your impression. Usually, you should pay attention to accumulating toasting words, so that you don't know what to say when toasting, so as to avoid embarrassment.