Should children learn to read people s faces at a very young age?

I think that when children are young, they should learn to observe words and colors, not only so that children can learn to behave in the world, but also let children understand the truth of survival.

In fact, it is not a bad thing to look at people's faces, but in my opinion it is a good thing, because the complexity of human nature is very difficult to confirm, and only by learning to observe words and colors can we make judgments in our favor. Many parents tend to ignore this when educating their children, believing that as long as their children learn well, their children will be successful in the future.

But in fact, such thinking is one-sided, if you let the child have achievements, not only let the child learn well, but most importantly, let the child learn to observe words and colors, which is also an indispensable skill for stepping into the workplace in the future.

I remember when I just joined the work, I went to a logistics company, at that time this logistics company can be said to have achieved the top three in the country, the strength is very strong, the internal management rules and regulations are also very strict, not only to have a morning meeting every day, but also to punch in and write ** after work, the daily work is full, because I was a newcomer at the time, I don't know the truth of survival in the workplace at all, but I know how to observe words and looks.

Every time I go to the office, I will clean up in advance, and then use a rag to wipe the dust off the desk, and try to do some difficult work that others are unwilling to do. Because at that time, I knew that I didn't have any experience and foundation now, and I had to take this path, and if I didn't work hard, it would be very difficult for me to open up the situation.

Later, I encountered a problem in my business, and there was a customer who wanted to send to Hong Kong, and I would not handle it at allSo I asked the old employees for help, and the old employees saw that they were usually more diligent and willing to help themselves, and quickly solved the problem.

On the contrary, my other colleague is in a much more awkward position. Colleagues have a high level of education, are generally reluctant to communicate with the people around them, have some introverted personalities, often only do their own work, and generally choose to refuse the help of other team members, or the division of labor, so the whole team is more exclusive to colleagues.

At the beginning, I thought that as long as I did my job well, it was okay to be indifferent to the affairs of other teams, but after I joined the company, I found that this was not the case. When you enter a company yourself,Not only do your job well, but also help others as much as possibleBecause you can't always stop asking for help, you may need help one day. Therefore,Learning to read words and emotions in the workplace will help you in the future, and even open up a good situation for yourself.

Hello, I don't think it should be.

1.Learn to look at the face, and it is easy to lose your opinion.

When children often look at people's faces and act, they lose their own opinions. When organizing activities at school, others enthusiastically expressed their opinions, but he did not dare to express them, for fear that one of them would offend people if he did not say it well. Every day, he is cautious and cautious between classmates and teachers, and he will only follow others when others say anything, so that the teacher can not see the child's strengths and weaknesses, and will ignore his existence, which is very detrimental to the child's learning.

When he enters the workplace as an adult, he has no assertiveness at work, and his leadership skills are poor and he can only be an executor. When you work hard every day and finally have room to rise, you will run away because of a word from others.

2.Learn to look at your face, and it is easy to become a people-pleasing personality.

We teach children to look at faces, and children only learn to look at faces and act on the surface. I think that if his face is not good, I should not do it, and over time, other people's faces seem to become a kind of instruction, which is the so-called pleasing personality. And the pleasing personality is easy to become a wallgrass, **need** to pour.

Without one's own opinions, he will eventually become a laughing stock in the mouths of others and a chess piece in his hands.

In life, we often meet the kind of people who "grass on the wall, falling on both sides", and the evaluation of them is very ugly, and this kind of person has no true friends around him. To put it nicely, this person is eight-faced, but in fact, he is the rudder of the wind.

<> don't teach your child this when they're very young.

On the one hand, children are young, and their understanding may not be so good, and they may not be able to learn well.

On the other hand, it is the time for children to shape the three views, and if they are taught directly from an early age, it is easy to grow crooked. It is tantamount to pulling seedlings to grow.

In fact, even if you don't teach, children will naturally understand it in the process of growing up. As long as the age grows a little, it will naturally observe words and feelings, but the natural character determines the degree of the child in this regard.

The growth of people is taught by words and deeds. Not everything has to be passed on by words, there are many things that children need to observe, comprehend, and master by themselves.

This issue is somewhat controversial. My opinion is:

Learning to observe and understand the emotions and reactions of others to a certain extent is part of social skills and can be helpful for children's development. But there should be no overemphasis on "looking at people's faces" or pandering to others. Here's why:

1.A child's self-awareness and independent thinking skills are still developing, and teaching children to "look at people's faces" too early may affect the development of these skills.

2.Children may develop a habit of "pandering to others" and grow up with difficulty presenting themselves or holding on to their true opinions.

3.Children are not yet able to accurately recognize the reasons behind people's reactions in different contexts and may make inappropriate judgments about people's reactions.

Therefore, it is okay to cultivate children's ability to observe others moderately and carefully, but it is more important to cultivate their independent thinking and self-awareness. Parents should help their children understand the complexity of different environments and groups of people through companionship and communication, rather than blindly emphasizing "looking at people's faces". Parents themselves should also set an example and show their true and natural side.

To sum up, learning to "look at people's faces" moderately is part of social interaction, but it should not be the main direction or concept of children's early education. Cultivating children's healthy interpersonal skills requires the balanced development of independent self and understanding of others.

The influence of the family of origin on a person's personality and personality is becoming more and more important, and I think this is a particularly good thing, because I myself am deeply aware of it, especially children who grow up looking at their parents' eyes from an early age, and it is easy to form a pleasing personality.

My best friend's father was a man of mania, temperament, and often hit his children, and every time he was beaten, he would hide in my house. It is really not easy to grow up in such a depressing environment, he has been very good at looking at eyes since he was a child, and he will first think about whether others will hate him when he does anything, and whether he will hate others if he does something. himAlways think about others first, and be particularly sensitive to other people's feelings and emotional changes, as if forgetting that you are the one who should be prioritized by yourself.

The most impressive thing is that he once wronged himself to accompany me to eat a flavor snack that he couldn't accept, I saw his painful look, and then said that I don't like it, I don't have to force it, I can eat it myself. After all, everyone's tastes are different, so I don't think there's anything wrong with that. And he nervously asked me if I was angry.

I was stunned, and then I sensed his caution. He said I was his best friend and he was afraid that I would be angry because of himI feel bad insideIt feels like one day our friends will abandon him because he is useless. Then I talked to him, and he was always thereElevate others, with itDevalue yourself

That's when I became aware of himInner inferiority, and extreme insecurity, I used to think that he was simply good-tempered, but I didn't expect him to be a people-pleasing personality.

Later I found out in my observation that he was alsoPrinciples are often lost。He is a technical boss at work, but he will be manipulated by Xiaobai. What shocked me the most was that he often helped them do their work because of the new whites.

As a senior, although it is a workplace virtue to help juniors, but you can't do it like this, and later he told me that he didn't really want to do it, but he just couldn't say no, which was breathtaking.

The current situation is that after his mother divorced his father and then completely cut off contact, he gradually realized his own problems, and assisted psychological counseling, which has greatly improved, and now it can be said that he is a relatively kind technical nerd. He was still telling me two days ago that this is the problem of looking at his father's face every day when he was a child, and he had to be careful every word he said.

The influence of the original family really needs to be used for a lifetime, and I hope that parents all over the world can raise their children scientifically, especially beating and scolding education is a big mistake, and every child deserves to be taken seriously.

In addition, I recommend a psychological book "Beyond the Family of Origin" that I think is very helpful, which is very helpful in parenting or self-knowledge, and is worth reading.

Children are supposed to be the simplest and simplest people in the world, and a writer once described the nature of children in this way"It's like a snowy field that hasn't been trampled"Clean and simple. But in our lives, we will always find a type of children, although they are very young, but they know how to observe the words and emotions of others, which is what we adults often say"Have the eyesight to see"Regardless of whether it is to their parents or outsiders, these children are always very alert and often act in the eyes of adults. And often such children are most likely to lead to character defects and form a people-pleasing personality.

What is a people-pleasing personality.

People-pleasing personality"To explain it in easy-to-understand terms, it is to care about other people's evaluation of themselves, so in daily life, they often do some compromises, and would rather wronged themselves than reject others, and even fear of conflict with others. That's what we often say"Rotten good guys", blindly helping others while ignoring their own actual situation and real thoughts.

What are the specific manifestations of the people-pleasing personality.

will look at the faces of adults and act, and will observe words and looks.

The most typical example of the people-pleasing personality is that he likes to look at other people's faces and acts, and he always cares about the joys and sorrows of others in life, and his mind is very sensitive and suspicious. Therefore, children who look at the faces of adults when they are young are also the most likely to form a pleasing personality.

Blindly obedient, insecure in the heart.

You must know that in the process of children's growth, no child can absolutely guarantee that from childhood to adulthood, they are 100% obedient to the requirements of their parents. Children grow up to go through a period of adolescent rebellion.

Even children who are not obvious in the rebellious period will never blindly just obey, and will have some decisions and ideas of their own.

Therefore, for children who have not made any decisions since they were young, have no ideas and plans for their own lives, and are always waiting to obey their parents' arrangements, although the appearance seems to be what we often say"Someone else's child", but in fact, the child's personality has been distorted and needs timely guidance from parents.

Therefore, when parents educate their children, they must pay attention to ways and methods, and cannot always express something to their children"Conditional love", for example, to the child"If you don't obey, your mother won't love you"This kind of words will make the child extremely insecure, and over time the child will form a cautious personality in the personality, as long as the mother can love herself, she will do what the mother wants.

Children who are very young and blind will look at people's faces and act like children, and when they grow up, they may become a pleasing personality, but it is not necessarily, this mainly depends on the development of the child's lack of personality in the process of growing up, if it develops in the direction of stubbornness, it will not become a pleasing personality, if the character is weak, it will definitely develop a pleasing personality, and people with a pleasing personality are often like a fish in water.

Children who can read people's faces at a very young age will definitely become a good type of person in the future, because they are particularly good at observing words and feelings, and it should be a bad omen for some people with strong social skills.

Yes, family environment factors still have a great impact on a person, and children are easily misled when they form a good character and establish values.

Children who look at people's faces at a very young age are easy to form a pleasing personality.

Well, yes, I'll be able to observe words and emotions very early, or maybe my personality is weak.